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Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by MJBOLT: 5:37pm On May 28, 2020 |
that lady is a perfect example of your money is our money but my money is my money,evil creature CAPSLOCKED: 7 Likes |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by Positivechick: 5:44pm On May 28, 2020 |
LOl there is a difference between, instagram men , Facebook men , Twitter men and nairaland men . Ladies pick wisely . Broke girls will keep marrying rich billionaires, na only mouth nairaland men get ,in the real world , they are ashamed of themselves. Just imagine someone saying I am a red piller in real life , or can they boldly condemn men who actually take good care of their women ? Only on nairaland will u see a guy trying to abuse a man who publicly say , I take care of my woman like a queen , But u dare not in real life !! Shame No go let you . Most Men will continue to be the provider for their women . They can’t change nothing 1 Like |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by CAPSLOCKED: 5:45pm On May 28, 2020 |
MJBOLT: THE WORST PART IS THAT THESE THIEVES ARE NEVER SATISFIED. THEY BRING NOTHING ON BOARD AND WOULD CONSTANTLY THREATEN TO LEAVE YOU AND GO LOOK FOR SOMEONE ELSE TO BE PARASITES TO. THIS MAKES MANY MEN SLAVE TO DEATH TRYING TO SATISFY SUCH WOMEN AND PREVENT THEM FROM LEAVING, BUT IT NEVER WORKS. GIVE HER YOUR KIDNEYS AND LUNGS TODAY AND SHE GOES OFF WITH THE MAN WHO BUYS HER MEATPIE TOMORROW. 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by MJBOLT: 5:46pm On May 28, 2020 |
painful truth CAPSLOCKED: 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by HeavenlyCherub(f): 6:01pm On May 28, 2020 |
CAPSLOCKED: Ok if you say so. Just remember no woman can respect a man who doesn’t make an effort to provide no matter how small. You are very wrong about me I’ve actually dated 2 poor guys before but I won’t ever again as they usually want to be saved, blame you for their state then say you’re controlling. No reasonable man will be comfortable with their wife being the breadwinner. Honestly I wouldn’t want my husband to have less money than me, guys like that tend to be insecure 2 Likes |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by HeavenlyCherub(f): 6:04pm On May 28, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1: I didn’t say that’s all I will do. This 50/50 you men want to do just won’t work. It all comes down to the way you were raised. I will assist my man within reason but I refuse to be the bread winner of my home. The man of the household must be able to make me secure. If I lost my job would he still be able to sustain us? |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by CAPSLOCKED: 6:08pm On May 28, 2020 |
HeavenlyCherub: ALL THESE IS NOT MY BUSINESS. I'VE NEVER BEEN WITH A WOMAN WHO DOESN'T WANT TO PUT IN EFFORTS NO MATTER HOW SMALL. ONCE WE START TO ROLL AND I NOTICE STUPID TENDENCIES I BACK DOWN. I'VE MET REALLY GREAT WOMEN WHO PAY FOR DATES AND DON'T MIND SPENDING THEIR MONEY ONCE THEY HAVE IT. WAY BACK I USED TO GET CREDIT ALERT FROM PARTNERS AS GIFTS.. IF SHE'S STIFF WITH MONEY I DISAPPEAR. IF SHE'S ENTITLED I DISAPPEAR. IF SHE DEMANDS FOR STUPID THINGS I DISAPPEAR. I KNOW MY RESPONSIBILITIES AND NEVER SLACK ON MY ROLES BUT YOU HAVE TO PLAY SEVERAL ROLES TOO, OTHERWISE I'LL DISAPPEAR... AND I RUN FASTER THAN USAIN BOLT. 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by MrBrownJay1(m): 6:18pm On May 28, 2020 |
HeavenlyCherub: there is a huge difference between feeling secure in your family (which everyone desire, men included) AND be the breadwinner of the family. now, any smart person would focus their energy/money on "the family" (which is what is the most important here), while you are here focusing on YOURSELF. the breadwinner is the person who puts up most of the money for the family, because they have the means to do so, but it certainly does not discredit you from bringing your share to the table. let me guess?! you make 10K monthly, your husband makes 50K, suddenly you get a new job and now make 100K monthly, you would still expect husband to foot all the family bills (while you use your own money for Brazilian wigs and new shoes/handbags), abi?!?! if the so called breadwinner loses his job, will you now reject the family because you dont want to use your own money for "the family"? if you believe "your" money should not contribute to the wellbeing of the family, then i suggest you stay single, since you think and act like a single person 12 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by MrBrownJay1(m): 6:25pm On May 28, 2020 |
HeavenlyCherub: yes many African men have misplaced ego but should that change the issue at hand? if these men treated you like that then solely blame THESE MEN and certainly dont change your state of mind. whats next? i dated two babes that turned out to be oloshos so now i should treat all women like oloshos?! 3 Likes |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by CAPSLOCKED: 6:41pm On May 28, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1: THIS IS THE DEAD MENTALITY THAT MAKES NO SENSE TO ME. I HAVE RECEIVED COMPLAINTS FROM MALE NYSC MEMBERS ABOUT THEIR RELATIONSHIPS WITH THEIR COLLEAGUES. THE PROBLEM ALWAYS CENTER AROUND MONEY.. AND IT GOES LIKE THIS. 2 PEOPLE EARN 19,800 MONTHLY. FROM THAT SUM, "HE" GIVES "HER" MONEY FOR FOOD. MONEY FOR HAIR AND UPKEEP. AND ALSO TAKES HER OUT ONCE IN A WHILE. WHENEVER HE RELENTS ON ANY OF THESE "RESPONSIBILITIES" HE FACES PROTESTS AND IS NAMED THE GUY WHO IS FAILING TO CARTER FOR HIS GIRLFRIEND. HE SPENDS ALL HIS MONEY ON HER. HE HAS JUST TWO JEANS AND TWO SHIRTS OUTSIDE HIS NYSC UNIFORM. SHE USES HER OWN MONEY PLUS HIS TO DRESS WELL AND SECURE MORE ATTENTION FROM RANDOM MEN ONLINE. THIS IS USUALLY A CASE THAT MANY FORMER AND SERVING CORPS MEMBERS CAN TESTIFY TO. EVEN WHEN SHE'S COLLECTING 100K MONTHLY AS SALARY THE MAN EARNING 10K HAS TO PROVIDE FOR HER. MEN JUST IMPOSE CERTAIN RESPONSIBILITIES ON THEMSELVES. I'M NOT AGAINST ANYBODY LIVING HOW THEY WANT, BUT IF YOU'RE BROKE AND YOU'RE TRYING TO PLAY DAVIDO TO YOUR CHIOMA THEN I'M SORRY FOR YOU. IF YOU DON'T ESTABLISH YOURSELF... AN ESTABLISHED MAN WILL FALL FOR THE PRETTY DRESSES AND HAIR YOU PAID FOR, AND COLLECT YOUR GIRL FROM YOU. END OF STORY. 16 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by DanDeeBoss(m): 6:45pm On May 28, 2020 |
Positivechick:Stop lying to yourself ..... 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by HeavenlyCherub(f): 6:48pm On May 28, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1: No that’s not what I’m saying. I’m just not ever going to date a poor man ever again. It’s just not for me. When I dated them it was for love, but honestly I don’t believe in love anymore. When I date now I look out for compatibility first and someone who withholds my same values on marriage. Should I pick a spouse I will pick one who stays in the marriage not necessarily for love but one who honors the commitment we made before God and wants to fulfil the promise. Love and lust fade but common understanding in God and your vows withhold the test of time. |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by HeavenlyCherub(f): 6:54pm On May 28, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1: I’m not saying I won’t contribute. I will contribute only 30% to our household and help if there’s emergency. I will let the man be a man. I just don’t want to a man who wants to be a man in the bedroom, a man when it comes to showing authority when he can’t be a man in our finances. To each his own. God gave us all free will to choose. Just like I won’t criticize your opinion because only you will live your life I don’t expect you to criticize mine. I will assist my husband within reason. Nothing more and nothing less |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by MrBrownJay1(m): 6:58pm On May 28, 2020 |
CAPSLOCKED: i believe that the reason why "some" women CAN even do the above is because we men allow them to do so, due to our misplaced egos. MEN should not be afraid to say NO, MEN should not be afraid to be called stingy, MEN should not be afraid to tell a woman to bring her own share to the table. some brothas out there are so desperate in finding a good woman, they will accept just about any nonsense thrown at them, in order for peace to reign, while they should instead kick that deluded woman to the curb. this is why today we have so many young men willingly going into yahoo-yahoo, this is why today so many will gladly do ritual killing... in order to attain what they dont deserve and impress some deluded woman who believes a man's duty is to pay for everything, while she sits down all day and become and expert in telenovelas on telemundo. ***spit on floor*** 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by MrBrownJay1(m): 7:20pm On May 28, 2020 |
HeavenlyCherub: shouldnt the above be based on each and every individual? or are you saying that regardless of how much he/you make AND how much the family bills are, you will never put up more than 30% of your salary for the family upkeep?! what intelligent reason will you even give that man when he asks you to spend 80% of your salary on the family? you are looking at this like its a POWER STRUGGLE instead of looking at it like anyone should: A FAMILY'S WELLBEING. its like you want to punish a man for being assigned the "head of family" title. sadly, you are describing exactly what i talked about earlier... women who are treated like slaves (who never take charge in anything at home but cooking and cleaning) because of money. you automatically link money with authority/man of the house. women like you have no respect for men (or lose it) the minute a man loses his job. a man is just a tool to you to achieve whatever means you are seeking, he is not your other half, he is not daddy, he isnt even dear to you, that man is just the man who pays the bills and give you the comfortable surroundings that you desire while HE sets the rules that you must obey. ok sis, i guess to each their own desires in life. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by MrBrownJay1(m): 7:26pm On May 28, 2020 |
HeavenlyCherub: i am 110% sure that the values that "god" put upon marriages never stated that you should only marry a rich man... brotha jesus was poor, are you saying that you love jesus but wouldnt marry jesus because he had no money? strange type of love, if you ask me. dont use the demons you dated in the past to dictate your future... 2 Likes |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by arthorjnr(m): 7:33pm On May 28, 2020 |
CAPSLOCKED: Wiser words has never been said. 2 Likes |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by CAPSLOCKED: 7:37pm On May 28, 2020 |
HeavenlyCherub: MADAM GO AND SIT DOWN. ANY SANE WOMAN WHO WANTS GOOD THINGS FOR HER FAMILY WILL NOT TALK ALL THIS RUBBISH. IF YOUR HUSBAND'S PUTTING IN 100% YOU PUT IN 100%. IF HE'S TAKING THE KIDS TO MONACO THIS YEAR YOU TAKE THEM TO NEW YORK NEXT YEAR. IF YOU LIVE LIKE THIS WILL YOU DIE? IF YOU'RE NOT A COMPLETE HOUSEWIFE THEN WHAT ARE YOU USING YOUR MONEY FOR? IS IT NOT BETTER YOU RESIGN AND STOP WORKING INSTEAD OF SAVING YOUR CASH TO.... MAYBE BUY PROPERTIES IN FUTURE AND OPPRESS YOUR PARTNER? IF YOU'RE BOTH EARNING 10K MONTHLY AND HE'S SPENDING ALL HIS 10K ON THE FAMILY, INCLUDING YOU. AFTER 10 YEARS HE HAS ZERO SAVINGS WHILE YOU'RE A MILLIONAIRE SINCE HE'S BEEN THE ONE CARRYING THE WHOLE FAMILY INCLUDING YOUR RELATIVES. GOD FORBID. AS A YOUNG GUY MAN IF SHE'S NOT COMPETING WITH YOU ON CERTAIN LEVELS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP, YOU BETTER DISEMBARK. ELSE, YOU'LL END UP MARRYING THIS KIND OF WOMAN. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by emmaodet: 7:37pm On May 28, 2020 |
CAPSLOCKED: hmmmmmmmmmmm |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by emmaodet: 7:47pm On May 28, 2020 |
CAPSLOCKED: Gbam!!! Bro, i dated a girl 8 years ago, Dammy. One of the few i still remember till date. You spend, she spends. She even challenges me by taking me out, eateries e.t.c and i reciprocate the next time. Though a short relationship but i really enjoyed it to the fullest. 1 Like |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by emmaodet: 7:54pm On May 28, 2020 |
CAPSLOCKED: I think this mentality is from the popular saying that "your wealth or money will/should reflect in your woman and/or children" Men are being seen as workhorse that are meant to till until they drop dead for their women and kids without taking care of themselves. God forbid bad thing. 4 Likes |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by emmaodet: 7:58pm On May 28, 2020 |
CAPSLOCKED: Yen yen yen yen .... if a man doesn't take care of his woman, no woman will respect him. And do they actually think any man will respect a woman that doesn't bring anything to the table? Nobody says a man will relax while the woman is doing everything, all we ask for is to bring as much as the man and if you believe that is not fair, PLEASE stay single and manage yourself alone. E no dey kill 2 Likes |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by emmaodet: 8:09pm On May 28, 2020 |
SweetCunt97: I think this advise goes both ways. You should channel it more to ladies. The previous women were very hardworking despite living in a society far more harsh to women with virtually no opportunity, education for women than now but funny enough, the present ladies are more liabilities than the olden days women. Then, a woman will fry akara e.t.c at road side to sell to support the home, hawk, sell clothes or goods in the market to support etc Even for the present hard working women, in the absence of their certificates, they are mostly liabilities to the family and that doesn't even stop them from sleeping around for more. We have far more prostitutes now than then despite the opportunities that avail everywhere. 2 Likes |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by emmaodet: 8:23pm On May 28, 2020 |
Positivechick: If this statement is true, then we can also safely say most women who believes and wish men should take care of them and be the provider will always be seen as lower humans whose contributions to the family won't be taken into recognition and they will be more or less slave to men - They also can't change this. 1 Like |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by Nobody: 8:27pm On May 28, 2020 |
HeavenlyCherub: Do you see how you have been desperately trying to explain what you meant? Next time, think very well before posting. It will save you a lot of energy. 3 Likes |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by Karleb(m): 8:32pm On May 28, 2020 |
CAPSLOCKED: I so much love this part. 1 Like |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by HeavenlyCherub(f): 8:43pm On May 28, 2020 |
CAPSLOCKED: You have misunderstood but I won’t try to defend my statement to someone so closed minded. |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by HeavenlyCherub(f): 8:47pm On May 28, 2020 |
scaramucci: To each his own. Don’t try force your values on me as I won’t try force mine on you. That’s why you got your life and I got mine. The fact that you believe someone has to agree with your perspective is very immature. Life is a balance all I can say is I respect your perspective but I don’t have to agree with it just like I’m not forcing you to take on my perspectives. It’s my opinion and I’m entitled to it as you are |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by HeavenlyCherub(f): 8:50pm On May 28, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1: God gave us free will. Everyone is able to choose how they live they life they were given. I choose not to date poor men anymore because I have observed a pattern and can’t keep making the same mistakes |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by Nobody: 8:59pm On May 28, 2020 |
HeavenlyCherub: Okay, ma. |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by HeavenlyCherub(f): 9:01pm On May 28, 2020 |
MJBOLT: When you don’t know someone all you do is criticize. This will be my last response on this topic. No matter how you men scream on Nairaland many women want a provider. A woman is not a provider a woman is a supporter. I can’t contribute more than my man for my household, this is where a lot of women lose respect. A man should stand on his feet and cater to his family. I will contribute but never 50/50. It’s only men without money that go about making noise on this issue. No need for name calling. This is exactly the reason why you are where you are financially. You have a mean spirit and it’s reflecting on your life. Change your ways and change your life. You can communicate your point without having to insult or label people. Good day |
Re: So Who Will Date The Broke Lady? by BigJoe19: 9:17pm On May 28, 2020 |
HeavenlyCherub:The way some of you talk nonsense is baffling, do you know there are people on Nairaland that can feed you for 20years and still have enough money? Any little argument you start broke-shaming. 4 Likes |
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