BobbyHammar:
Anybody who still believe in the scam of no sex till marriage needs to get their head checked. If only you know how many marriages have been destroyed or are still suffering because of this, you will never think of falling for such a scam.

What baffles me is those who keep going to church but yet don't know anything about bible and will keep deceiving themselves that sex before marriage is a sin (WHICH YEYE SIN).

Many will say it's formication but they don't even know the true meaning of fornication as referred to in the bible. Take for example when Joseph was dating Mary, yes we agree she was still a virgin because it was their own decision not to have sex yet but how many people realized that there were other young women that existed then as well. Many had boyfriends too and some had sex with their boyfriends while some didn't because Mary wasn't the only virgin.

The bible never condemned those that had sex with their boyfriends before marriage but it was just the divine choice of the Father to select a virgin rather than a lady that had sex already.

Let's stop all these brohaha low African mentality of calling sex before marriage a sin. God only sees a clean and a pure heart, not who had sex when or how. You all should better respect yourself and save the doctrine of marriage by testing the waters to ensure you are ready to sail on that water for the rest of your life. Not after marriage you start looking for divorce because penis is too big or too small or maybe Virgina is too tight or too wide or its always one minute sex.

Haba.

Femeto:
OP just posted crap. That's why they say marriage is for better for worse,for richer for poorer, for bigger for smaller.Marriage is not all about sex.

iceking4:
proverb 6:30-32
30 Men do not despise a thief, if he steal to satisfy his soul when he is hungry
31 But if he be found, he shall restore sevenfold; he shall give all the substance of his house.
32. whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.

there's no justification to sin....Life is full of choices and everyone has the right to make their own choice.

if u can't beat them leave them!

Scot1255:
A new and better forum strictly for relationships. Let's relocate
https://romanceland.com.ng

InvertedHammer:
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"No Sex Before Marriage" is an agreement between the two partners not to have sex with each other until the marriage rites are concluded. How do we define naivety?
It doesn't guarantee abstinence especially on the third partner who is not part of the deal. It is total bullshit.

2020 and beyond should be "No Pregnancy No Marriage". Nigerian girls too waka . Trust at your own peril. Trust but Verify.
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Freestainworld:
Mr op, your write up is as sweet as horney, pleasant to the ear but misleading, no matter how you want to view sex, the truth is that, it is meant for married couples, not even for courtship people, don't justify a sin out of ignorance, if everyone should get married as a virgin, believe me, the sexual relationship in marriages will last, and the marriage sustained, but because we have tasted every dick and Tom, and every pussycat, that is why it becomes a problem, rethink again.

BobbyHammar:


You can try and it can work for you. But whereby it doesn't work for you if you function with the "Normal" and your partner does not, then be ready to carry your cross. Prevention they say is better than cure. My point is ensure you go for sex before marriage to be sure of the sexual aspect of your marriage. Every other major ingredients of marriage might be very good and rosy but trust me, if they are but only the sexual aspect is terrible, the wall is already cracked and it must surely fall apart sooner or later.

If you have watched the movie "kingdom of heaven" there was a part before the way when the dying king and his sister the princess wanted a young man to marry the princess so he could become king and they will kill her husband because they knew he will bring war upon them if he is crowned king. The young man refused because he didn't want the princess's husbands blood on his hands. Then the queen told him something very simple "one day you will wish you did a little evil just to ensure a greater good".

What am I trying to say, it is better you test the water before marriage (do a little evil if you call it sin or bad) in other to strive for a life long marriage (to ensure a greater good).

drehdinho:
As funny as this line may sound, but it's the pure truth.

I met a lady some years back. We started dating. We loved each other like bread and butter.

We had so many things in common. At the heat of the relationship strong feeling and all, she announced to me one day that she wouldn't want to have sex before marriage. That the decison was her resolution from childhood. That she would really want me to respect it.

I simply told her no problem.

We proceeded with the relationship. And everything appeared to be going on smoothly until one day.

Note: I'm a very romantic guy. It's inborn. Lol.

We found each other in the private ( in my room) as usual. We were gisting and all. So, I told her to tell me why she disliked sex.

Her reaction at that moment was a big pointer to the fact that something was wrong with her.

So, I told her I want to still do it. I was able to convince her.

We got to Anfield and she started responding. Okay. As I was about to enter the promise land, she picked a strange panicking shout, more of a shouting that came out of so much pain.

Immediately, all the excitement and curiosity i had gone flat (negative 1000). Lol.

That was when she started crying, explaining to me she's only covering up her deficiency with the "no sex before marriage" line.

She couldn't of course take it, not even the soft version, let alone the hard one.

I felt so much pitty for her. But the relationship ended up hitting the rock...


Take home: not everyone, particularly ladies that chews the line so easily in their mouth " no sex before marriage" is actually normal. There may be more to it just like the one in my story.

A popular axiom says," would the mother put a lump of honey in her baby's mouth, and the babe splits it away?"

BobbyHammar:
Anybody who still believe in the scam of no sex till marriage needs to get their head checked. If only you know how many marriages have been destroyed or are still suffering because of this, you will never think of falling for such a scam.

What baffles me is those who keep going to church but yet don't know anything about bible and will keep deceiving themselves that sex before marriage is a sin (WHICH YEYE SIN).

Many will say it's formication but they don't even know the true meaning of fornication as referred to in the bible. Take for example when Joseph was dating Mary, yes we agree she was still a virgin because it was their own decision not to have sex yet but how many people realized that there were other young women that existed then as well. Many had boyfriends too and some had sex with their boyfriends while some didn't because Mary wasn't the only virgin.

The bible never condemned those that had sex with their boyfriends before marriage but it was just the divine choice of the Father to select a virgin rather than a lady that had sex already.

Let's stop all these brohaha low African mentality of calling sex before marriage a sin. God only sees a clean and a pure heart, not who had sex when or how. You all should better respect yourself and save the doctrine of marriage by testing the waters to ensure you are ready to sail on that water for the rest of your life. Not after marriage you start looking for divorce because penis is too big or too small or maybe Virgina is too tight or too wide or its always one minute sex.

Haba.

don89:
That is how they said one man ,one wife, now see how unmarried women full everywhere while there are few men to match the number. Some of these teachings are outdated and cannot correspond with today's realities.

VickyRotex:
Mr. English Dictionary, welldone! So what is the definition of fornication?

I stopped reading at this point: "Many will say its fornication but they don't even know the true meaning of fornication as referred to in the bible"

Like are you for real? please scholar, what's the "true" meaning of fornication in the bible?

The fact that we go against some set rules/moral standards (and I'm talking in general here) doesn't justify our acts, neither does it change what is right.
It's even funny how you reference the other people living in the time of Mary. And so what? Because they engaged in pre-marital sex automatically means its not a sin? It's like saying because "sinners" existed in the time of Jesus and some even became His disciples, so believers should also keep sinning that Grace may abound.

I'm so happy you're ranting. you know why? its because you're being convicted for something you've done or planning to do. You just dont know it. There are different phases in conviction, so dont worry, you're getting there.


And it's so funny you say African mentality? really? is that what you were told? because a lot of foreign churches actually preach marriage and purity. maybe you should make more research on that and expand your knowledge.

I understand if I'm having this conversation with an atheist, but if as a "believer" like you claimed you are, you dont see fornication in the bible the way it is clearly defined, then I dont know what to say to you.

And please don't bring up the "let he who is without sin" card. There's a difference between admitting/acknowledging one's sin vs being ignorant about it and defending it at all cost.

Btw, please dont quote me. Cos even if you do, I wont be responding to any quote on this thread.

Selah!

VickyRotex:
Mr. English Dictionary, welldone! So what is the definition of fornication?

I stopped reading at this point: "Many will say its fornication but they don't even know the true meaning of fornication as referred to in the bible"

Like are you for real? please scholar, what's the "true" meaning of fornication in the bible?

The fact that we go against some set rules/moral standards (and I'm talking in general here) doesn't justify our acts, neither does it change what is right.
It's even funny how you reference the other people living in the time of Mary. And so what? Because they engaged in pre-marital sex automatically means its not a sin? It's like saying because "sinners" existed in the time of Jesus and some even became His disciples, so believers should also keep sinning that Grace may abound.

I'm so happy you're ranting. you know why? its because you're being convicted for something you've done or planning to do. You just dont know it. There are different phases in conviction, so dont worry, you're getting there.


And it's so funny you say African mentality? really? is that what you were told? because a lot of foreign churches actually preach marriage and purity. maybe you should make more research on that and expand your knowledge.

I understand if I'm having this conversation with an atheist, but if as a "believer" like you claimed you are, you dont see fornication in the bible the way it is clearly defined, then I dont know what to say to you.

And please don't bring up the "let he who is without sin" card. There's a difference between admitting/acknowledging one's sin vs being ignorant about it and defending it at all cost.

Btw, please dont quote me. Cos even if you do, I wont be responding to any quote on this thread.

Selah!

Michhy123:
My own take on this, if a man want to marry you my dear , whether u have sex or not he will, it's just God. How many people can practice and strictly stick to what is written in the Bible.

Our generation is not like that of our parent. Infact, how many guys will agree to stay in a relationship without sex? If you even bring such suggestions to me as a lady I will have to checked you well oh...

t00dugged:
Waka Waka with who? Aliens? considering that men shooting blanks and having limb rods is now on the rise. You should not be quick to tilt this towards one side bro.