Good morning everyone.


This is Gold.

Kindly assist to guide me in making an informed decision here.

There's this girl I met at the tail end of December 2019. She's a beautiful nice girl. And somewhat a virgin and a Christian. She is a shy girl and very reserved.she is from a rich background (she did graduate from a private school)
She has a job that pays her a certain small amount. Monthly even with the fact that she closes daily at 9pm.
And she has always been telling of how frustrating the job is and the need of she getting a new job or proceed for her masters. Which unfortunately she applied to my undergraduate school oau and couldn't get admitted.
Ever since I have met her she's been a very nice person to me. For example when I just got my apartment she gave me some kitchen utensils and when I did celebrate my birthday earlier in the year she got me a cloth. And i have heard stories from her of how she assisted a colleague(who is married btw) of mine to pay a certain expense when he was after her to chop and clean mouth which she was aware of.

Here's the thing I like this girl and she knows I do. But she doesn't want people to think we are dating. I don't understand why this is.

There a was time I didn't contact for 3 straight days she was claiming I have changed. And asking questions like why I have stopped talking to her.

I work with a big company in Lagos vi as an analyst. Perhaps what she wants is to connect with me to get to this place.

Anytime I am discussing with her on my family issues or things about myself she looks/get uninterested. It's then she feels she wants to sleep if we are on call or said she's leaving etc.

I know she's a good girl and I can vouch for her. My question is. Is it a bad idea if I stopped contacting her and snub her? Knowing all this


Apologies for the long post and errors if any

Friendship that's all she wants...find ur level and leave u and her as she want it

You LIKE her and she is making it stay that way because after its just friendship and she is just there for the benefits it brings.

If she doesn't want people to know you guys are dating then she doesn't want you to hear that she is not a Virgin, She is hiding something in her closet.... Let your head lead you man. #Peace

Adekunlegold9ja:



Apologies for the long post and errors if any

u really need to work on ur typing skills, there are lot of errors in ur write up. Most people would even avoid reading because of the errors made. Always try to cross check before submitting the topic. U can still keep trying. but if u are not the patient type, u can quit and find another person

NO

I thought you are married to Simi. What friendship are you quitting again

She is clearly looking for a husband,and I believe she considers you as just a friend.My brother,welcome to the friendzone club.

VickyRotex:
I thought you are married to Simi. What friendship are you quitting again

This not the artiste

Friendlyjoe:
NO

Pls can you tell the reason you said NO

Friendzone

Adekunlegold9ja:
Good morning everyone.


This is Gold.

Kindly assist to guide me in making an informed decision here.

There's this girl I met at the tail end of December 2019. She's a beautiful nice girl. And somewhat a virgin and a Christian. She is a shy girl and very reserved.she is from a rich background (she did graduate from a private school)
She has a job that pays her a certain small amount. Monthly even with the fact that she closes daily at 9pm.
And she has always been telling of how frustrating the job is and the need of she getting a new job or proceed for her masters. Which unfortunately she applied to my undergraduate school oau and couldn't get admitted.
Ever since I have met her she's been a very nice person to me. For example when I just got my apartment she gave me some kitchen utensils and when I did celebrate my birthday earlier in the year she got me a cloth. And i have heard stories from her of how she assisted a colleague(who is married btw) of mine to pay a certain expense when he was after her to chop and clean mouth which she was aware of.

Here's the thing I like this girl and she knows I do. But she doesn't want people to think we are dating. I don't understand why this is.

There a was time I didn't contact for 3 straight days she was claiming I have changed. And asking questions like why I have stopped talking to her.

I work with a big company in Lagos vi as an analyst. Perhaps what she wants is to connect with me to get to this place.

Anytime I am discussing with her on my family issues or things about myself she looks/get uninterested. It's then she feels she wants to sleep if we are on call or said she's leaving etc.

I know she's a good girl and I can vouch for her. My question is. Is it a bad idea if I stopped contacting her and snub her? Knowing all this


Apologies for the long post and errors if any

She only needs u for a job.... Not even frnd ship, after u help her get a job, she will shun u sef..

Moreover, if she is not interested in dating u, why are u bothering ursef? Find another girl na

As you clearly stated, it seems she's only keeping communication because she wants a way into your job. She doesn't see you as someone she can date but just a means to get by.

tuzle:
u really need to work on ur typing skills, there are lot of errors in ur write up. Most people would even avoid reading because of the errors made. Always try to cross check before submitting the topic. U can still keep trying. but if u are not the patient type, u can quit and find another person

This nonsense you wrote here is it the one without errors? Which sick slowpoke is too lazy to write "you" but uses "u and ur" instead, but is quick to point out the errors in another's write up?

MedicH:


This nonsense you wrote here is it the one without errors? Which sick slowpoke is too lazy to write "you" but uses "u and ur" instead, but is quick to point out the errors in another's write up?

guy I am not writing an official letter, and if u are going to abuse me please don't quote me. The reason I pointed out the error is against next time, not because I think I am better at typing than he his. If you are going to make a topic, atleast try to reduce the error and please if u are going to be abusive don't quote me again. That is my opinion, and if you don't like it, you have the option of ignoring.

Hahha...exactly wat was on my mind

VickyRotex:
I thought you are married to Simi. What friendship are you quitting again

tuzle:
u really need to work on ur typing skills, there are lot of errors in ur write up. Most people would even avoid reading because of the errors made. Always try to cross check before submitting the topic. U can still keep trying. but if u are not the patient type, u can quit and find another person

brother, go and read a book titled "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie. it might help

She is also friends with you or you are not telling us what is in your mind Friendship !!!! I need friendship too

Bola146:
She is also friends with you or you are not telling us what is in your mind Friendship !!!! I need friendship too

I don't understand can you be more explicit?

sori..i dnt do friendship stuff wit opp sex

tuzle:
guy I am not writing an official letter, and if u are going to abuse me please don't quote me. The reason I pointed out the error is against next time, not because I think I am better at typing than he his. If you are going to make a topic, atleast try to reduce the error and please if u are going to be abusive don't quote me again. That is my opinion, and if you don't like it, you have the option of ignoring.

i guess the OP was writing anofficial letter? Something is wrong with you

O.p what do you really want from her? that will guide me to answer you

You're dealing with a malignant narcissist.

She's feeding off the likeness you have got for her. To her, you are a tool. Study more about this and thank me later.

Remember to thank me.

MedicH:


i guess the OP was writing anofficial letter? Something is wrong with you

a topic meant for front page is supposed to have less errors, and if u can't do without insults, please don't mention me. I never meant to correct him because I wanted to mock him, i pointed that out against next time and if he was my friend, sister or brother, I would have point their errors out the same way I did.

tuzle:
a topic meant for front page is supposed to have less errors, and if u can't do without insults, please don't mention me. I never meant to correct him because I wanted to mock him, i pointed that out against next time and if he was my friend, sister or brother, I would have point their errors out the same way I did.

What you just wrote is not void of errors too. Thank you. I will make amends next time

sanemind2:
O.p what do you really want from her? that will guide me to answer you

She knows I want a relationship that will lead to marriage. She is quite young tho. She clocked 23 years early this year. And I am 26

Akukaliaa:
You're dealing with a malignant narcissist.

She's feeding off the likeness you have got for her. To her, you are a tool. Study more about this and thank me later.

Remember to thank me.

So what do you advice I do

Adekunlegold9ja:


She knows I want a relationship that will lead to marriage. She is quite young tho. She clocked 23 years early this year. And I am 26

but the truth is you cant date everyone that comes your way,so if she is not dancing to your relationship tone,let is go but dont cut her off,she may come in hardy sometimes

sanemind2:
but the truth is you cant date everyone that comes your way,so if she is not dancing to your relationship tone,let is go but dont cut her off,she may come in hardy sometimes

Thanks. I call this lady almost every night. Spending not less 20min on each call. And like I said earlier there a time I didn't call her for just 3 days she was complaining and saying I have changed etc.
Now I know we can be friend but if we are just friend I don't think I am required to spend that much time on calls with her. And I don't want to look snubbish either

Adekunlegold9ja:


So what do you advice I do

Run. And don't look back. That way you will be fine.