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Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by ybady4real: 10:07pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
this is so more of my last relationship, I swear I tried my best to make things workout because she is good girl, not until gradually I started loosing interest in her |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Expresswriter: 10:08pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
You're not asking for too much o. Communication, frankly, is THE MOST IMPORTANT part of any relationship. Never negotiate that. Buy him books on how to converse with the opposite sex (and humans generally). Tell him politely that poor conversation is a deal breaker in every relationship. He can learn if he doesn't allow his pride to blur his sense of reasoning. If he gets angry and avoids you for correcting him, then he was never meant for you. Even in the bible it's written, he who the Father loves he chastiseth. If someone who claims to love you sees you doing wrong and doesn't point it out to you, then he never loved you in the first place. Q.E.D. 3 Likes |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by deavicky(m): 10:09pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
cynosuree:the truth is that most people only read what concerns them and never bother about anything else. And that is why he was able to make a good grade in school. If u like him so much get him some adventure novels get him to read them and u people discuss the characters in the book I'm sure if u can get him to read as much as possible, there would be a change. |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Sadteen: 10:14pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Spiff20:Is it everyone that can learn or assimilate the information on the internet? I don't think the dumb people I have met were determined to be dumb. They are just frustrated that they struggle to learn virtually everything that comes easy to people like us. They want to learn but they can't so they stop trying. Nobody sets out to be dumb as the word "dumb" carries a lot of negative connotations and stigma. So why would a right thinking person want to be associated with such a word? As for my sexuality, it isn't any different. I have tried to change it but I see that I can't and that is why I get sad when people say I chose to be gay. Sexuality and being dumb aren't too different in the sense that both are biological and can't be changed 1 Like |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by deavicky(m): 10:15pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
jansonn:u be yeye person oh see how u make laugh uncontrollable. 1 Like |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Maliqcious: 10:18pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
I can tell You the Bleep in this fuckery tale... Your yeye ranting just explain how quick and are. You love the guy base on is cuteness after the whole sex escapade You find out that is communication style is too relax and i don't care much . Making You feel used. Simple, it really hurting You. |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Scottnedu1(m): 10:21pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Aunty, lets just be truthful. You've been together for 6 years and you are reporting this now? Does it mean you have not directly or indirectly tried to let him know about his flaws It's unfair. The truth is; someone else is around and you are looking for an excuse to justify your conscience.. He loves u, and all that,, but..... conversation bla bla bla. Leave him and he will find a better replacement that will appreciate him for who he is. STOP COMPARING JARE; nothing kills a relationship like that. Thank you. 2 Likes |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by mickelkingz(m): 10:21pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Snipespeter: No be small thing bro.. the matter tire person |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by jansonn(m): 10:22pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
deavicky:Lol, how person go do naa |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by javijabor: 10:24pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Sweeetheart: Is your father any smarter? |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by IamHonourable1: 10:24pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Coming on the internet to ask for opinions on such a minor thing as poor communication with your supposed boyfriend means you don't even know what relationship is all about. 1 Like |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Sweeetheart(m): 10:31pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
javijabor: you think all Fathers is like your dumb father ? you this naive kid that jump like monkey on post that transcend your common sense |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by MedicH: 10:32pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
SweetCunt97: i do not take drugs, i give... maybe u need tricyclic antidepressants 1 Like |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by HarunaWest(m): 10:33pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
athaliya:Nah you tried..The witchcraft part got me laughing 2 Likes |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Benwallt(m): 10:39pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
GOOOGLE504:sometimes when you answer them with great logic, they suddenly go quiet n defensive. Then you start hearing things like, you think I am dumb abi, I am just trying to be reasonable here here. They will make you apologize. The best thing is just to give them the floor n follow them with style but the will conclude that one has nothing to offer. |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by bukatyne(f): 10:40pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
madjune: @bold: Hahahahahahaha |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Candyness(f): 10:44pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
cynosuree: Boo don't worry. Men are dumb: dumb dumb dumb 1 Like |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by archdon: 10:46pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
I perfectly understand what you are going through. In any relationship conversation occurs happens more than all other activities put together. Simply means you will spend more time conversing with this guy dan any other thing. Lots of things "everything you want in a man" in your relationship with this guy will change over time but conversation will always remain. There is only one qst to ask yourself "can I do this(not have meaningful conversations) for the rest of my life?" 3 Likes |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by chidiebere123(m): 10:46pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Imagine if he uses ur own bad attributes against u because I Kno u are not 100% perfect. U Kno get talk at all . |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Taiwo20(m): 10:50pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
What do women really want? I sha know that taking care of the bills is more importanter than holdinga conversation |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by kikelomojessy(f): 10:53pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Now babe, I think you are part of the reason why guys think women are hard to understand. How can u mention so many good qualities a man possess and still fault in for just one, babe no one is perfect, learn ways on how to help him. If u bring a topic and he doesn't know what to say, please narrate it all to him that's your own way of showing that you love and care for him also and you are willing to help him grow. What about meeting a guy that cannot speak not good English but manageable English and he has all these good qualities will u leave him just for that small faults. Please let leave all these small talks. Ladies will be the one to say he is handsome, polite, hardworking, good in bed and take good care of me then same ladies will spoil it with he can't speak English he calls wrapper, lapper or he snores heavily I can't stand it or he doesn't socialize, please just remember you too have your own faults just because he is not saying it doesn't mean you are perfect. 2 Likes |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by NoLimit47: 10:58pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
cynosuree: Since he loves you and you love him too, I think letting him know his flaws will be a good way to go. Sounds harsh but it’s not. You might be helping him and the relationship at the same time. Find a time he’s in a good mood and chip in what’s bothering you. Possibly the way you ask him will unlock some explanations you don’t know about. Or maybe he’s still trying to understand you and your interest so as not to bore you with lengthy talk you won’t be interested in.[color=#770077][/color] 1 Like |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by SweetCunt97(f): 11:03pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
MedicH:Just waybill it |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Olakunleyakub(m): 11:07pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
You are right. frozen70: |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by samsof1: 11:07pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
You can not have everything in relationship, unless you want to remain single.pick the good side of him and ignore the rest. |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Kokaine(m): 11:10pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Ishilove:No I can't. Whites have girls like this. |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by nma30(f): 11:11pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
This just sounds like the guy I'm with. Very handsome, nice, kind, church guy, very caring, communicates very well. He's only flaw is that he's not intelligent. He can't hold a conversation at all. His other good qualities outweigh the fact that he's not smart. Op, if you were in Elelenwo, Ph i would have said you're describing exactly the person I'm seeing 1 Like |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Brumeee: 11:12pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
I understand how you feel, i have dated someone like tht and for me it was a major turnoff, As time went on i had to quit. |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Oyiboman69: 11:12pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
cynosuree:I'll advise you leave him that way...if you finally mould him to your social likeness, I believe it will come back to hunt you cos both of you will not be on the same page when the arguments arise. He will put more of his time in those things you mentioned above and there will be less or no time for you: at this stage, you will no longer feel comfortable with him because of the changes. Let me tell you my own story as a football lover. When I was dating my first girlfriend...she is very loving and caring and beauty is her other name,but she is so quite and can't engage me in any social or personal conversation and that makes her presence very boring. I tried changing her to my type of person. I took her along whenever I want to go and watch football match just to socialize and familiarize herself with different things. What broke my heart was when she chose to support other football club from my own,who introduced her to football match...yeah; I didn't see that coming. My sister, the arguments wen we begin get no be hereoo...because, we com become opponents and gradually, reality began to set in. Whatever you decide to do...remember that;there is always a reaction for every action. My kobo 1 Like |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by athaliya(f): 11:18pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
HarunaWest: It wasn't funny back then, I felt torn between what I want and what I should want |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by nathpope(m): 11:19pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
cynosuree: Simply reading all you wrote here, one can easily decipher that you are the talkie-talkie type of person. D most suitable dude for you is a good listener. Dont expect d dude to be a talker overnight. Help him to be a good listener instead. Give him time. Have you not heard that Opposites attract? |
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