Mypeople2:
Babe you better delete his number now.and move on.You are still young and so many guys will want you as a wife.So forget the so called "perfect "man .There is always light at the end of the tunnel .

It's going to be hard. Thanks dear

SweetCunt97:
Well, this is your life and happiness, take charge. If you not okay with the arrangement, simply move on. Unless you can convince him to marry

Ok dear, thanks.

Chummynoni:
tho, there are so many shallow minded and crazy people on nairaland but this forum has taught me a lot in all sphere of life especially maritally, which i know i wont have problems if eventually i settle down. kudos to the intellgent and sensible ones here.
Back to you @ Op. if you know what is good for you, leave that guy ASAP. because if you coerce and convince him into marrying you which i doubt, the marriage may be unbearable to you, then you would be surprised how your acclaimed perfect man turns demon overnight. the guy has his mind made up.

Hmmm, thanks sir.

one thing i always say to people is DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY. Emotional trauma is one that even medicine cant cure but time ....

While the best advice would have been to find someone else... truth is your man aint going to change his mind except another woman makes him feel the need to and that woman probably aint you.( this may have hurt forgive me )

weigh your options and shoot for your happiness . Remember no one will cry with you or share that pain if you choose to leave him for someone who doesnt see marriage as an issue.

But if you simply cant , am sure the tickets are left open for you.... It may just be his way of indirectly telling you he has no intention of marrying you knowing fully well most woman will not settle for that his option .....just so you prepare yourself ontime

vickydankal:
I wonder why you are still with him. He claims to love you but not enough to kill his fears and marry you. Sweet sister , your boy friend is afraid of one thing and it is called “commitment and responsibility “. Leave him as soon as you can and wait for the right man to come. Any baby daddy is free to mingle with as many women as he wants besides no vow or laws binding him to you. He wants to eat his cake and still have it.

Thank you sis.

Dicktion:
Naija men are now afraid of Naija ladies hence, the fear for marriage

Imagine someone unknowingly and unfortunately gets tied forever to a lady like millenniumlady or sweetcunt97
Even your village people will pray for your soul

Please don't ruin my reputation on this forum who knows if my soul mate is here becareful of the things you say about me.

Millenniumlady:
Please don't ruin my reputation on this forum who knows if my soul mate is here becareful of the things you say about me.

�Lolzz.. Reputation kor,reputation ni
..

dingbang:
Uyaiincomparabl my love, come and advise this young lady.

This is a fake post.

I will not waste my time trying to advise an attention-seeking, imaginary, advice seeker.

UyaiIncomparabl:


This is a fake post.

I will not waste my time trying to advise an attention-seeking, imaginary, advice seeker.

It's not uyail. My main is quite popular, I don't want this nairaland boys trolling me with my problem, you know how they are.

UyaiIncomparabl:


This is a fake post.

I will not waste my time trying to advise an attention-seeking, imaginary, advice seeker.

lmao...okay wise one

Millenniumlady:
Please don't ruin my reputation on this forum who knows if my soul mate is here becareful of the things you say about me.

taa gbafuo

Dicktion:
Naija men are now afraid of Naija ladies hence, the fear for marriage

Imagine someone unknowingly and unfortunately gets tied forever to a lady like millenniumlady or sweetcunt97
Even your village people will pray for your soul

I'm never falling into that shit. If you don't wanna be my baby mama, you bounce.

hmm @op...switch to ur brain now solely for this situation... no continue only with ur heart wey ur feelings sit for the guy. He doesn't seem really 'okay' like u have been thinking. Since u know what u want, stand by it na...even if u beg him.. persuade...et al, and he eventually marries u, that no gurantee ur happiness in the union because he fit change when the real 'syndrome' ( the commitment required, responsibilities, sacrifices et al) of marriage dey surface little by little nd don't forget he no want am b4, that fit make him just lose interest and the marriage is no longer enjoyable for u...u start regretting ur action. Do wetin u want sa but don't be myopic.

Millenniumlady:
Please don't ruin my reputation on this forum who knows if my soul mate is here becareful of the things you say about me.

Be careful of the trashes you spill daily on a forum that may be hoarding your soul mate

Confusedgirl869:
It's not uyail. My main is quite popular, I don't want this nairaland boys trolling me with my problem, you know how they are.

That's exactly what you people say. Your main monikers are usually popular, why?

The trend of opening countless threads these days is unbecoming, astounding, and relentless!
Don't worry, we know you people's plot, to garner traffic of course. Please, entertain us whilst the offer lasts. I repeat I shall not waste my time trying to advise you ceaseless trolls. If truly you need advice and are in such a precarious situation, you should have, as a matter of necessity, unraveled the fact that you are being played by your bobo. But no, you're here to read what a bunch of unknown people will tell you. Please, have at it while at it. Au revoir.

Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue have been bothering me alot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.

I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.


Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please. Lalasticlala

Post this under the family section. You'd get more mature reviews. All the best to you!

... a girl heard a boys mind speak ...
... a girl must learn to give a boy space ...

Who wants to do a bet on whether or not this topic will make fp?
As for the topic and op.
I know it's most likely to gain traffic,but they're probably other girls in similar situation here.

I'm not an elder,I'm still learning.
But I cannot stay with any guy that sees me as just a baby mama at that your age,and with the length of time you guys dated.

Alexaonfleek:
Who wants to do a bet on whether or not this topic will make fp?
As for the topic and op.
I know it's most likely to gain traffic,but they're probably other girls in similar situation here.

I'm not an elder,I'm still learning.
But I cannot stay with any guy that sees me as just a baby mama at that your age,and with the length of time you guys dated.

My sister, I tire o. To think that he is the first man I fell hopelessly for. I have always been cautious of this love thing not getting to my head. It was just different with him and worst is I'm not sure I can move on with someone else.

UyaiIncomparabl:




That's exactly what you people say. Your main monikers are usually popular, why?

The trend of opening countless threads these days is unbecoming, astounding, and relentless!
Don't worry, we know you people's plot, to garner traffic of course. Please, entertain us whilst the offer lasts. I repeat I shall not waste my time trying to advise you ceaseless trolls. If truly you need advice and are in such a precarious situation, you should have, as a matter of necessity, unraveled the fact that you are being played by your bobo. But no, you're here to read what a bunch of unknown people will tell you. Please, have at it while at it. Au revoir.

I wonder what you are feeling like, keep quiet.

Drfernandez:


I wonder what you are feeling like, keep quiet.

. Of course, I will, and with an immediate willingness.

Naija guys don dey get sense small small

Marriage is a complete NO-NO for me

Bachelor for life

Confused 869

Babe, you don't need marriage, what you need is to upgrade your self esteem and self-worth. You rated yourself so low to even consider being a baby mama.
A man that offers you to be his unwed children producing machine has no iota of respect for you and your family and you are proud to call him your man? He must have seen through your selfworthlessness.
What will you tell your kids?
What assurance do you have that he won't one day abandon you and marry someone else?

Nuff said.

Let him go and adopt or do surrogacy thing and become lone single dad rather than dragging innocent girl into his wahala. He be K1 de ultimate brother abi Oprah Winfrey cousin abi he is planning to go U.K or U.S. and dey fear their divorce laws

Thastie:


Another simp from an irresponsible family where his father had little regard for his mommy.

What's all these insults for

He said he's not getting married??
How does that affect you

Nigerian girls sef

Entitlement mentality

Thastie:
Confused 869

Babe, you don't need marriage, what you need is to upgrade your self esteem and self-worth. You rated yourself so low to even consider being a baby mama.
A man that offers you to be his unwed children producing machine has no iota of respect for you and your family and you are proud to call him your man? He must have seen through your selfworthlessness.
What will you tell your kids?
What assurance do you have that he won't one day abandon you and marry someone else?

Nuff said.

Ha, see as you whip me. Thanks dear, truth is hard. I appreciate.

Macnnoli4:
Let him go and adopt or do surrogacy thing and become lone single dad rather than dragging innocent girl into his wahala. He be K1 de ultimate brother abi Oprah Winfrey cousin abi he is planning to go U.K or U.S. and dey fear their divorce laws

I tire o.

Is either your man visits nairaland to read vicious ploy of women in marriages or he takes in the red pill OT he reads from somewhere else. Hence he disparage marriages even though he bonds with you but not willingly to bond in marriage.

This popular mantra "Marriage is a long aged scam that favour the women and disfavour the men" is really taking whirl effect in reconditioning the minds of men!!
Wow..

It will end in premium tears, don't try it.See as dem wan take bend your life for you.

Okay then, creative writer of the week.