Alexaonfleek:

Looks are quite receiving,you know!
It's not even as fine as it looks in pic.

Confusedgirl869:
You are a very silly man sir, you go about insulting Nigerian women on every thread, you think marriage is all about sharing bills? What of giving your husband peace of mind? I work and can easily share bills with my husband. Should I burst your stupid bubbles? My man is afraid of marriage because he was once in it, with a WHITE lady, she made his life a living hell, he nearly died. That fear is still in him.

I have decided to let him go though. He is a very good man reason I am finding it hard to let go.

Just stop generalizing.

Confusedgirl869:
You are a very silly man sir, you go about insulting Nigerian women on every thread, you think marriage is all about sharing bills? What of giving your husband peace of mind? I work and can easily share bills with my husband. Should I burst your stupid bubbles? My man is afraid of marriage because he was once in it, with a WHITE lady, she made his life a living hell, he nearly died. That fear is still in him.

I have decided to let him go though. He is a very good man reason I am finding it hard to let go.

Just stop generalizing.

EVILFOREST:

Thank you for addressing me as SIR but won't insult u like u did to me because u are pained by his decision.
I always attack misconception
The TRUTH is bitter.
I didn't ask anyone to marry a white Lady in this Topic but if a man sees a responsible WHITE LADY, then good.
White Ladies can also be frustrating.
We know what MEN go through in diaspora.
I detest a Lazy Man.
.... and I also detest any LADY who never appreciates a hardworking man rather she turns out to frustrate the man with burdens and insults yet does no work but sit at home.
You find such LADIES in Nigeria in enormous numbers.
...And I know you wouldn't advise your BROTHER to settle for such. The Good thing is that you have a JOB, but he is afraid because LADIES are killing their MEN now....so you have to put more effort to convince him.

Dicktion:
Naija men are now afraid of Naija ladies hence, the fear for marriage

Imagine someone unknowingly and unfortunately gets tied forever to a lady like millenniumlady or sweetcunt97
Even your village people will pray for your soul

EVILFOREST:

REAL BULLSHIT my BROTHER
since I married my WIFE, my Brothers In Law and Sisters In Law do not know my Apartment.
We Live in the US.
Everyone minds his or her business.
If you squat a relative here, he or she contributes to Upkeep. Nothing like BURDEN...

WAKE UP GUYS....
Don't marry a BURDEN that will eventually threaten you with DEATH...

ladyGKilaBCrueD:
very stupid girl that wants to useless her life

dingbang:
Uyaiincomparabl my love, come and advise this young lady.

Pavillon:


Be like say two of una get bad blood before.

Confusedgirl vs Evilforest
.

All on top marriage matter....

Millenniumlady:
Please don't ruin my reputation on this forum who knows if my soul mate is here becareful of the things you say about me.

Tadeknkeepcalm:
Lose your good man?

In all honesty, he's not as good as you make him out to be.


No responsible person will opt in for babymamaism.


So paddle your boat elsewhere.



Current generation are so scared of commitment. They want all the goodies of a thing but not the baggage that comes with it

Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.

I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.

EVILFOREST:

Thank you for addressing me as SIR but won't insult u like u did to me because u are pained by his decision.
I always attack misconception
The TRUTH is bitter.
I didn't ask anyone to marry a white Lady in this Topic but if a man sees a responsible WHITE LADY, then good.
White Ladies can also be frustrating.
We know what MEN go through in diaspora.
I detest a Lazy Man.
.... and I also detest any LADY who never appreciates a hardworking man rather she turns out to frustrate the man with burdens and insults yet does no work but sit at home.
You find such LADIES in Nigeria in enormous numbers.
...And I know you wouldn't advise your BROTHER to settle for such. The Good thing is that you have a JOB, but he is afraid because LADIES are killing their MEN now....so you have to put more effort to convince him.

Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.

I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.

olaniyilukman:
Marriage nowadays is nothing but a modern prison where most of our guys are confined with the responsibility of doing everything. Our lawmakers are failing us woefully, there should be a law that will backup the issue of baby mama and establish it as one of the society norms.. Marriage, prison in disguise, avoid it if you are dreaming of a better future

BABY MAMA does not signify BAD OMEN.
NIGERIAN LAW does not frown at it in its entirety.
However, It can only be regarded as a Failed entity when you fail to meet up your responsibility of taking care of the kid involved.
The LADY is not your responsibility in a BABY MAMA relationship neither are her relatives.

But in the NIGERIA MARRIAGE SYSTEM, the Lady and her siblings apparently appears to be your entire responsibility.
Yet such a Lady wouldn't give you Peace of Mind.
That's MADNESS...!
Really Crazy...
In DIASPORA, most LADIES are BABY MAMAS because of the HEAD ACHE they give men too.
It's difficult to get a MODERN LADY under control and expect peace of mind from her.
PEACE of MIND can only be gotten in the Grave now. .

Why do you think UNMARRIED MEN now live longer.
Before it used to be MARRIED POLYGAMOUS MEN getting to 100years but now monogamous men barely get to 50years.

slashthroat:


You dey mastubate because she call you "sir"?
Nothing whey i no go hear. You are a very very useless boy boy

Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

I need your opinions please.

EVILFOREST:


U don show....!
Where u dey since naaaa...?
I get package for you ooo

LilMissFavvy:
You may not believe me, buy that is not a good man. A man who loves you genuinely would want to spend his life beside you at all times in the confines of marriage. You love him more than he loves you, accept the bitter truth. Don't withdraw from him slowly, rather cut off from him asap, do not limit yourself and drag yourself so much to the mud by accepting to be a baby mama. 26yrs is damned too young for baby mama rubbish. Look around you ladies far older than you are getting married daily.

Alternatively, if you feel you can't live without him, get another relationship, and double date, as you you double date, never ever allow anything intimacy with him, no matter what, don't let him sleep with you, you will be able to love another man, it's a matter of time and patience. If he is looking for a baby mama, let him go for a woman in her in her 40-50s. You are too young for such rubbish talk. Another suitor will come, open your heart and be ready to move on.

EVILFOREST:

BABY MAMA does not signify BAD OMEN.
NIGERIAN LAW does not frown at it in its entirety.
However, It can only be regarded as a Failed entity when you fail to meet up your responsibility of taking care of the kid involved.
The LADY is not your responsibility in a BABY MAMA relationship neither are her relatives.

But in the NIGERIA MARRIAGE SYSTEM, the Lady and her siblings apparently appears to be your entire responsibility.
Yet such a Lady wouldn't give you Peace of Mind.
That's MADNESS...!
Really Crazy...
In DIASPORA, most LADIES are BABY MAMAS because of the HEAD ACHE they give men too.
It's difficult to get a MODERN LADY under control and expect peace of mind from her.
PEACE of MIND can only be gotten in the Grave now. .

Why do you think UNMARRIED MEN now live longer.
Before it used to be MARRIED POLYGAMOUS MEN getting to 100years but now monogamous men barely get to 50years.

Johnnico1:
You don't want to be a baby mama and at the same time, you don't want to lose your man

You really don't know what you want. You're indecisive.

Wisdom is profitable only to the wise. You're 26 years of age. Tick tock

slashthroat:


This guy can never make a comment without mentioning "diaspora" lol wake up joor abi coro dey cause hallucination ni?