Confusedgirl869:
Hmmm bae, what about my parents? Especially mum after all the home trainings she gave, wouldn't she think I disgraced her? Being the first daughter, you know how our parents think na.

Tadeknkeepcalm:

You're one of those redpiller guys abi. You're the one who should change that mentality. Because you don't want to be a simp doesn't mean you should be an incel.

Thisnut:
marriage is just a paperwork, You can be married and be unhappy in it. I have a friend who dated for about 18 years before getting married, in between they had 3 kids together .

Marriage was instituted in the bible days because women couldn't consent, the were not counted, they were regarded as properties hence, their fathers had to consent for them.

now everything has changed, women can now speak for themselves. They have same right as men. Your parents don't need to consent for you anymore. If you like a guy you can now move in with him without outside interference.

If you like the guy, you don't have to marry him to live with him and also create a personal space for one another. The guy in question is not bad because he doesn't want marriage, he sounds more like someone who knows what he wants and not being moved by the bandwagons.

A lots of people are married today, not because they know why they are married but because others are doing it. That's why you see people unhappy even from the alter.

You should be happy that you have a modern and civilized man, who isn't sniffing and bossing you around, seeing you as part of his possessions, he sees another stong woman.


If na marriage dey hungry you so bad, leave him and meet someone else who buys same idea, regardless of his personal attributes but if you'd like to stay happy like you're now, be with him and have a family with, maybe somewhere along the line you two will have a reason to marry, even for free, at your children expense.

Choose what you want and not the society chosen for you.

Confusedgirl869:
Hmmm bae, what about my parents? Especially mum after all the home trainings she gave, wouldn't she think I disgraced her? Being the first daughter, you know how our parents think na.

EVILFOREST:

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Why do you think UNMARRIED MEN now live longer.
Before it used to be MARRIED POLYGAMOUS MEN getting to 100years but now monogamous men barely get to 50years.

Confusedgirl869:
You are a very silly man sir, you go about insulting Nigerian women on every thread, you think marriage is all about sharing bills? What of giving your husband peace of mind? I work and can easily share bills with my husband. Should I burst your stupid bubbles? My man is afraid of marriage because he was once in it, with a WHITE lady, she made his life a living hell, he nearly died. That fear is still in him.

I have decided to let him go though. He is a very good man reason I am finding it hard to let go.

Just stop generalizing.

funmisticqueen2:
Don't compromise na.

This is what you should do. Block his number. Simple

Confusedgirl869:
Thank you all so much for your contributions. Let me make a few things clear

I said he is a good man because he doesn't womanise which is very important to me because I so much hate cheating, he is hardworking, he lives a simple life just like me, he is very peaceful.

He was once married and the lady (a white girl) made life very difficult for him, he almost killed himself. But then, I'm not the lady abi

I have decided to ask him one last time today, if he still maintain that, I move.

Confusedgirl869:
It's going to be hard. Thanks dear

olumide4christ:
Some people are just a disgrace to us as men. Imagine a 35 year old man not thinking of getting married, but planning for baby mama. At his age, I had been married for 5 years and up till now, still enjoying my home - wife and children - after 9 years of marriage.
Some men will just be growing age-wise, but still be reasoning like a 21 year old!

What a pity!

Confusedgirl869:
Thank you all so much for your contributions. Let me make a few things clear

I said he is a good man because he doesn't womanise which is very important to me because I so much hate cheating, he is hardworking, he lives a simple life just like me, he is very peaceful.

He was once married and the lady (a white girl) made life very difficult for him, he almost killed himself. But then, I'm not the lady abi

I have decided to ask him one last time today, if he still maintain that, I move.

funmisticqueen2:
there's no need to ask him again na. His answer will not change.stop setting yourself up like this.

I still maintain. He's not a good man, he's just a basic man.

johnkey:
i don't do redpill or any pill I don't roll like that, i love the idea of a beautiful marraige too. I'm just speaking on behalf of those who just wants to live life without any extra baggage, they're all over America and Europe living happily so it should be normal here too.

Dicktion:
Naija men are now afraid of Naija ladies hence, the fear for marriage

Imagine someone unknowingly and unfortunately gets tied forever to a lady like millenniumlady or sweetcunt97
Even your village people will pray for your soul

tonieguy:
I'm a man and happily married.
The Bible says - two cannot walk together unless they agree.

Marriage is a lifelong commitment until death and not always a bed of roses, but it is worth it.

It might be painful, but I think you should start handing off the relationship.
What makes you think he is the only one? Infact, I see him as not fully matured for the next stage of marriage with his stance.

Just concentrate on being you, improving yourself and getting better everyday.
As a man thinketh in his heart, so is He. At least he was truthful and gave you a heads-up. It would have been double jeopardy if you found yourself pregnant, and he starts giving you all these stories and reasons and you automatically become a baby mama. You would not be happy and would hate yourself and him for a long time.

Also, change the way you think and start affirming that there are lots of wonderful guys out there and he is just 1 of them. That you would definitely meet others that are even better.
Cos the train of your thoughts subconsciously attracts what you believe.

Stay cool lady.

Place a high premium on yourself, and don't settle for less.

Remember, you only live once. So make the best of it.

Confusedgirl869:

funmisticqueen2:
he knows what he wants, but it seems you want to eliminate and diminish what you want to satisfy him.

It will end in your delicious tears.

Dicktion:
Naija men are now afraid of Naija ladies hence, the fear for marriage

Imagine someone unknowingly and unfortunately gets tied forever to a lady like millennlady or swet97
Even your village people will pray for your soul

Boss13:


I want MEN to read this comment. This is what a WOMAN is writing. Pick out the deceit in this comment - Guess what, many women are like this.

tonieguy:
I'm a man and happily married.
The Bible says - two cannot walk together unless they agree.

Marriage is a lifelong commitment until death and not always a bed of roses, but it is worth it.

It might be painful, but I think you should start handing off the relationship.
What makes you think he is the only one? Infact, I see him as not fully matured for the next stage of marriage with his stance.

Just concentrate on being you, improving yourself and getting better everyday.
As a man thinketh in his heart, so is He. At least he was truthful and gave you a heads-up. It would have been double jeopardy if you found yourself pregnant, and he starts giving you all these stories and reasons and you automatically become a baby mama. You would not be happy and would hate yourself and him for a long time.

Also, change the way you think and start affirming that there are lots of wonderful guys out there and he is just 1 of them. That you would definitely meet others that are even better.
Cos the train of your thoughts subconsciously attracts what you believe.

Stay cool lady.

Place a high premium on yourself, and don't settle for less.

Remember, you only live once. So make the best of it.

Boredasf:
this one is already tripping because of her dp
the juice isn't worth the squeeze bro.
All these subtle simping won't do you any good.
these thots you see on nairaland put their pictures on there to lure in fools.
Be wise make you no go fall mugu.

Shormiey:

And this other one onyi22....

iyke926:

Just reassure him that you won't become a nuisance to him when you both get married.

Let's wait for the married elders.

SweetCunt97:
Lol... Una dey deceive una selves

Confusedgirl869:
Nooo. No way I will subscribe to being a baby mama.

funmisticqueen2:
Don't compromise na.

This is what you should do. Block his number. Simple