Nooil:


If you marry a good wife, you'll gain legitimate children, peace of mind, constant gist partner, constant sex mate, a foresighted being, a real estate agent, a real estate investor, a stock investor, a backup plan, a supporter and helper, a cuddle partner, a doctor, a pastor, a spiritual guide, a teacher to your kids, a Sunday school teacher to your kids, career planner for your kids, a business development officer.... Should I continue? Just pray to God to give you a wife. It won't always be rosy, but when two work together in harmony, the world will be under their feet.

Nooil:


If you marry a good wife, you'll gain legitimate children, peace of mind, constant gist partner, constant sex mate, a foresighted being, a real estate agent, a real estate investor, a stock investor, a backup plan, a supporter and helper, a cuddle partner, a doctor, a pastor, a spiritual guide, a teacher to your kids, a Sunday school teacher to your kids, career planner for your kids, a business development officer.... Should I continue? Just pray to God to give you a wife. It won't always be rosy, but when two work together in harmony, the world will be under their feet.

Skepticus:


Same old bull shît.

All these can be gotten outside the confines of marriage. The "illegitimate child" thing is nonsense, used to goad men into carrying the responsibilities of women (who never take responsibility) for anything.

Homo Sapiens started settling down into the union called marriages barely 10000 years ago. Up till 50 years ago, marriage made sense but with the rise of feminism, abolition of gender roles and an extremely high economic pressure on men to level up, marriage has become outdated and men all over the world are dumping it all together.

Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.

I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.

Skepticus:


Same old bull shît.

All these can be gotten outside the confines of marriage. The "illegitimate child" thing is nonsense, used to goad men into carrying the responsibilities of women (who never take responsibility) for anything.

Homo Sapiens started settling down into the union called marriages barely 10000 years ago. Up till 50 years ago, marriage made sense but with the rise of feminism, abolition of gender roles and an extremely high economic pressure on men to level up, marriage has become outdated and men all over the world are dumping it all together.

Confusedgirl869:
It's going to be hard. Thanks dear

TheRedpillguy:

Lol this guy is on the redpill. Try as she may. The manosphere saved another one. Success!

DrayZee:

I absolutely agree with this...especially your beginning “If you marry a good wife”.

With the way the majority of Nigerian girls are these days, I was already looking for how to rule out marriage. Someone can’t even just love another person entirely...your eyes must always be observing
I’ll give my absolute best to whomever I choose though. May God help me.

Ishilove:

You do know that kids born outside wedlock are bastards? However, we live in an age of political correctness where such words are considered offensive; it isn't the innocent kids fault that their parents chose to be senseless.

You haven't met your man, when you do, your goals will align and you will have peace of mind. Right now you're more confused than a cockroach confronted by the dazzling beam of a flashlight. Take a break from this guy. He is not yours.

Jeferious:
If the institution of marriage fails and is invalid, definitely something else will operate in its place. Nature does not leave a vacuum in the grand scheme of things.

Check marriage, check babymamaism. The only notable difference is commitment. Now two individuals(a baby-mama and a baby-papa) that really love each other and can make sacrifices unconditionally for each other can work towards more forms of commitment. It's that simple. They can also decide within themselves to make their relationship exclusive to themselves.

And in such situations, they can make wills that ensures their offsprings are entitled to their property and wealth.

MedicH:


Lol olumide na ur type a veteran ashawo with over 1000 body counts and multiple abortions go hook down with a born again game play coupled with no sex till marriage and a host of other shenanigans and u wife her up. Be careful out there, love is lost.

oshaosha2014:
Did you even reason that your own definition of a man is quite different from his

knowhowk:
. Its the most non sensible ,wrong and zig- zag to the point on this thread so far .Marriage does not make one responsible ,Accepting What could be avoided is not Responsibility .Life itself Generally without a woman living with you is full of it's most responsibility why creating an additional and unnecessary Responsibility so save yourself of the Trash of responsibilities ,Better go check what Goodies are .If anyone want Marriage go for it ,If you don't want leave it .

LadyHeaven:
Sorry to burst your bubble OP but the man isn't feeling you, wanna bet? He would eventually find someone that ticks ALL his boxes and dump you like hot coal, his excuse is a polite way of telling you he doesn't want you. Be smart

EMMAUGOH:
u call a man a disgrace for saying what he wants.. U think everyone will be lucky like u..

Metaphysical27:




My question here is then why dont the guy marry her. Since there is no different. To the Christian., no matter how you sugar quote a thing cause of modernism. Or to suit what you like in Gods eye it's still fornication cause there is nothing binding the two individuals. If you say leave christianity in our traditional custom if the man should decide to leave the woman then woman can call a case. If the woman should go to court the court can't do anything. The main idea is what will cause a guy to want to stay with a woman and don't want to marry her since it's the same. Why is he so scared getting married. Marriage is important it has been and will be. Dont let the new style deceive you. Cause at the end you owe it to your children. To set example to your children it's not just all about the couple. Why do you think our mothers stay in a loveless marriage. It's not cause they cant leave. Its because of their children. If we know what is right we should do it.

Skepticus:


I was surprised at the responses of most of the males (who one would mostly consider as thirsty simps) on this thread. Most are going MGTOW without even knowing it.

Boredasf:
So not desiring marriage at 35 means a man is irresponsible
Women are one illogical bunch I swear!
Must every man be your slave

Jeferious:
You're beating a dead horse. Marriage is not a palatable idea to me as a man. I prefer that stuff you call "fornication". And I know that there are girls that want the same arrangement too...or will eventually accept the same arrangement. So stop disturbing yourself. I don't have anything to achieve when I justify my personal convictions to a stranger on the internet.

And about my children, I will take care of them as a father would. Worry about taking care of yours

Boss13:


Are you willing to give him a prenup? Will you run to the courts and seek protection when he says he is no longer interested again?

Since you know his fear - tell him you would sign a prenup to reassure him. If you are not willing to do a prenup, then let the man be.

Confusedgirl869:
How do you intend to take good care of your kids who are 80% of the time with their mum? Or you think its all about buying them things?

ZooOga:
" I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy"

NL sages clap for yourselves. y'all always say some of these females wanna run up the mileage and body counts then wanna settle down with a good guy! Salute!

funmisticqueen2:
This statement has nothing to do with op's topic.

LedRock:
Out of everything you typed only having kids is what makes sense and a man can get that without getting married.

Igbojihadist:
whats funny here

LaJoe2:


I get your point now, when I said 'the Bible now supports it', I don't mean the Bible just started supporting it, I mean in addition the Bible also supports singlehood, u digg?

Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.

I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.

PoliteActivist:


No I don't digg. U should have just left out the "now"

TheRedpillguy:

If he has a phone and its connected to the internet, he has been Redpilled.

PoliteActivist:


She had forgotten she was selling sex dolls, and the way u reminded her - just made me LAUGH