Yes, and it was difficult to know her true character
I just got tired and bored and ended the whole thing

Just look at me begging a girl of 30years to date me and she is doing yanga imagine ��

What I'm reading here make it look like ladies are the only desperate ones.


Have u ever seen a desperate guy who want to marry a lady by fire by force?
He is that lady's everyday nightmare.
Sometimes, u have to involve the elders to stop him from harassing you.

The worst is that they are very manipulative.

If they happen to be from the same village with you, all worst.

They will try to manipulate your parents through their family and friends, when they see that your family is the struggling type, they will introduce money.
Some are so arrogant they will go straight to your people with their elders without consulting you or even proposing first not to talk of u accepting their proposal.

As a young maiden, I saw it all. Some came to my school, sometimes especially during Christmas when u go home, u will wonder if father Christmas visited your house.
Is it gifts, they don't take rejection easily.

I had lots of suitors. If they were 10( trust me, I got more than that), 7 were very shocked I said no, then 5 started aggressive wooing using all manner of manipulations.

Most babes around me experience the same thing. It's worst when you enter higher institution. Get admission to study medicine, pharmacy or nursing and they will break your father's gate. U will get call from abroad( both genuine and fake abroaders )tire.

Most well to do men from my tribe don't accept rejection easily. It is a knockout on his image and they have this huge ego. And if you are wooing a girl for marriage, most times, your peers and family are aware of that.
So its a kind of challange and a hurdle they must cross by any means possible. What ladies dont know is that when such men finally nail you, you are simply a trophy at that particular moment to be discarded for another one.
When you say no,mean it and move on.

Lols...would have loved to share mine...but while we were dating I introduced her to nairaland...so I won't....b4 someone calls me now and starts to abuse me...but if she is reading this...u are a very nice girl and u need Patience in your life....


Breaking up with u was the best thing I did for myself...the pressure was too much...and lemme advice u...I don't think u will get married any time soon with that attitude.


I feel relieve a bit saying all this...because I don't think I can say it to her face...peace out

sassysure:
What I'm reading here make it look like ladies are the only desperate ones.


Have u ever seen a desperate guy who want to marry a lady by fire by force?
He is that lady's everyday nightmare.
Sometimes, u have to involve the elders to stop him from harassing you.

The worst is that they are very manipulative.

If they happen to be from the same village with you, all worst.

They will try to manipulate your parents through their family and friends, when they see that your family is the struggling type, they will introduce money.
Some are so arrogant they will go straight to your people with their elders without consulting you or even proposing first not to talk of u accepting their proposal.

As a young maiden, I saw it all. Some came to my school, sometimes especially during Christmas when u go home, u will wonder if father Christmas visited your house.
Is it gifts, they don't take rejection easily.

how about a thread on these events,ma'am

Carchoice:
im from edo state

..
LOL.. What u said above was not true Sha..
I'm also from edo..

adewumiopeyemi:
Just look at me begging a girl of 30years to date me and she is doing yanga imagine ��

Maybe she get another bobo

sassysure:
What I'm reading here make it look like ladies are the only desperate ones.


Have u ever seen a desperate guy who want to marry a lady by fire by force?
He is that lady's everyday nightmare.
Sometimes, u have to involve the elders to stop him from harassing you.

The worst is that they are very manipulative.

If they happen to be from the same village with you, all worst.

They will try to manipulate your parents through their family and friends, when they see that your family is the struggling type, they will introduce money.
Some are so arrogant they will go straight to your people with their elders without consulting you or even proposing first not to talk of u accepting their proposal.

As a young maiden, I saw it all. Some came to my school, sometimes especially during Christmas when u go home, u will wonder if father Christmas visited your house.
Is it gifts, they don't take rejection easily.

I had lots of suitors. If they were 10( trust me, I got more than that), 7 were very shocked I said no, then 5 started aggressive wooing using all manner of manipulations.

Most babes around me experience the same thing. It's worst when you enter higher institution. Get admission to study medicine, pharmacy or nursing and they will break your father's gate. U will get call from abroad( both genuine and fake abroaders )tire.

Most well to do men from my tribe don't accept rejection easily. It is a knockout on his image and they have this huge ego. And if you are wooing a girl for marriage, most times, your peers and family are aware of that.
So its a kind of challange and a hurdle they must cross by any means possible. What ladies dont know is that when such men finally nail you, you are simply a trophy at that particular moment to be discarded for another one.
When you say no,mean it and move on.

So are you married now?

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
Isoright
Me nor dey do dating and love plus mumu romance

Once i bang you i dey discharge you shaperly before you start to dey build bungalow for my heart

But some way don reach to marry still dey try hold me down for sometime.

Them go begin display zombie character. But girls dey mumu follow boys sha once them don reach to marry but them never see husband
First of all them go dey pet you. Check on you.
Even if you nor get one naira them nor go demand from you. Them go do everything to make you happy. I remember when one of our plasma TV spoil. I broke that period. No money to repair am. Na so this girl carry my tv by herself go repair with her own ten thousand naira..

If na you dey wrong them go apologize! If na them dey wrong them go still apologize
Any small issue. Na them first dey beg make the relationship nor go end or make you nor discharge them
But still me as a real niggarrr dey discharge them anyday anytime twice on Saturday

But the thing be say that experience na bad experience for females. Nor be wetin women supposed dey wish for because boys dey use them well well especially when them Notice say the woman dey in a hurry to marry.
Boys go make shakara for such woman ehnn
That is why me dey advise girl to quick marry to avoid such experience.

you no wan marry dem and you still dey advice make dem marry.
Abeg if you no marry them, who will?

southniyikaye:
you no wan marry dem and you still dey advice make dem marry.
Abeg if you no marry them, who will?

You na!

Well,I try as much as possible to be 100% straight with women older than 30. That way none will say I deceived them

Started dating these pretty lady 2017(big ass and boobs).Always telling me about mariage,having her own kids and that.But these babe was dam selfish even in the issue of sex(once she cums the sex is over).She was dam lazy,all these spoilt last born child with so many sisters.if i talk everytin i saw while dating her na novel i go write.
Had to run away for my life,babe later got married six months after we broke up.But guess what guys!she is happyly divorced now.Her marraige dint last up to a year,i really dodged a bullet.These babe even called me last year and was asking me if am now ready to settle down with her.she even denied ever getting married.Funny right?always look before you leap guys.

Started last year as a white man. Met this damsel on my visit to Lagos through a civilian arty. Na so we start, I saw the red flags of are unending call even when I told her not to, so I won't get into trouble but damn it she have one mission at hand and she must achieve it. After I turned gold last year, that was 4months into the relationship, lady intensified the calls even when I was doing course in yobe nd begging her to take a step at a time. I was so choked up by her until of recent where she started mounting pressure on me talking of marriage. Funny thing is shes 19 and am in my early 20s close to mid. Charming told me she can't date a guy who doesn't have plan when I told her a step at a time. Well I told her I can't marry earlier than 4 years time when I will be 28. Na so she open dash and told me she no get time for time wasters. I didnt input the fact that she tried forcing me into sex. But hv made a covenant with God already so I told her it won't work.


Perhaps there were lots of stuffs I didnt know about her

" [b]My only problem with this lady is that she and her family are so poor to the extent that they see me as their meal ticket, [/b]as if as am the best thing that ever happens to them."

This part really touch me.

zuby4real10:
She was so desperate to the extent that even if she wants to give or collect something from me she has to kneel small. Always calling me her husband. She is more than 100% nice and submissive.she is the only lady that I have ever see that didn't wait for her man to introduce her to his family. I don't even know how she got my mum's number nd start communicating with her. I single handed sponsored her 3 years NCE education. From the comments I am seen here on nairaland is as if as I am the only man that sponsored a lady's education with out regrets uptil date. My only problem with this lady is that she and her family are so poor to the extent that they see me as their meal ticket, as if as am the best thing that ever happens to them. I thinked about the liability of marrying this girl and her family own I run. Uptil now the lady is still waiting and begging for me to come back. She is always asking what she did wrong. I beg I no fit kill myself, love and loyalty alone can not sustain a marriage cos they can't pay bills.

Tell him if i catch him i go bite him ear.

fatymore:
So the guy was over ready and eager to settle down as young blood I am....
I ran cos I can't stay with a jealous partner

musa234:
So are you married now?

U want to marry me
I am a married woman of course.

Just wanted to let you guys know it ain't easy on babes too. In dormitory, I was nicknamed one guys name because he couldn't give up. Till I went to uni.

He is one of my cousin's friend. Took my picture( don't know if its with his permission) from his house and enlarged. Hung in his sitting room.
When he finally got the message that I don't want to marry him, he went for another person. It was around Easter break and I came home from school, was jisting with a nebor when I saw a convoy of cars,asked and was told it's the guy. This guy still stopped, walked up to where me and the elderly woman were. Thank goodness for that woman. She deflected what would have hung me finally. I saw this guy with the wife drove pass me the next day, he stopped and came out to greet me. I have to involve the head of his family. I sneak in to my village towards late evening, use apiam way and enter my house through the backyard. Stay with my mum without coming out till I leave. All because of men. They will be at the compound with the elders and I will jump fence from the back and disappear straight to my mum's hometown.

Girls get it worst. They will ruin your reputation. They will go to beer parlour and make u the topic of discussion.
A babe almost blinded me with very long cane simply because her so called boyfriend wanted to marry me. His dad mandated him to marry me. Have never met the guy. Actually bypassed him on his way to my house to see me
He don't know me either. It wasn't easy for me at all. Some babes get guys who want to befriend them, I get suitors. Had few,very few guys who want to befriend me and all were outside my state.

Some will stalk you.

So when u guys are busy making it look like babes are all over you, know that your brothers are killing themselves over other women. They spent money, they can go to any length.

The way men aggressively pursued me actually had a very negative effect on me toward men cos it was suffocating and too clingy. Yeah, at a point my mummy got worried cos I never responded positively to any.

You want to know about what women pass through in the hands of men, u will never find it here, go to hair salon or campus and you will be shocked to see the level men( not boys) with money and class will go to have a babe answer his name.

Blackmoran:
Yea my ex..... She came all the way from benue to leave with me, every day she keeps bombarding me with pictures of people wedding, fantasising on babies and us having kid together... Though this girl was cool she is homely can cook clean and kind of intelligent to spice it up my family loves her so much especially my dad, she has this free spirit personality.. But my instinct wasn't good with the idea it was too good to be true.. And secondly I wasn't ready financially to take on the burden of marriage but this girl never mind.... During December she travelled with my junior sister to his home town, to cut the story short I followed my instinct and today am a surviver of what would have given me heart attack....... During the thick of the moment she started showing are true colour, that homely girl started showing arrogant trait, the change was fast that I thought this can't be true... I did the right thing I broke up with her... Though my dad was sad about it but I let him know I know her more Than Them and what she portray is not who she is... A week after we brokeup my junior sister gave me the shocking news of my life.... That my ex was pregnant. . I didn't believe her cause We haven't had sex up to 4 months meaning when she was with me she was banging another dick... I waited till eight month later to find out she gave birth to a baby boy...and here let me burst your brain the father of the baby was my best friend who I trust so much...na that one pain me pass ... Lesson when a girl is trying to rush you into marraige run for your life.... If you want to get married do it at your convenient time... All girls would be at there good behavior during courtship, this one even take it to the extreme she even dey cut grass for compound... Na after marriage woman go show you are real colour....

You don't know a girl until you marry her

sassysure:

U want to marry me
I am a married woman of course.

Just wanted to let you guys know it ain't easy on babes too. In dormitory, I was nicknamed one guys name because he couldn't give up. Till I went to uni.

He is one of my cousin's friend. Took my picture( don't know if its with his permission) from his house and enlarged. Hung in his sitting room.
When he finally got the message that I don't want to marry him, he went for another person. It was around Easter break and I came home from school, was jisting with a nebor when I saw a convoy of cars,asked and was told it's the guy. This guy still stopped, walked up to where me and the elderly woman were. Thank goodness for that woman. She deflected what would have hung me finally. I saw this guy with the wife drove pass me the next day, he stopped and came out to greet me. I have to involve the head of his family. I sneak in to my village towards late evening, use apiam way and enter my house through the backyard. Stay with my mum without coming out till I leave. All because of men. They will be at the compound with the elders and I will jump fence from the back and disappear straight to my mum's hometown.

Girls get it worst. They will ruin your reputation. They will go to beer parlour and make u the topic of discussion.
A babe almost blinded me with very long cane simply because her so called boyfriend wanted to marry me. His dad mandated him to marry me. Have never met the guy. Actually bypassed him on his way to my house to see me
He don't know me either. It wasn't easy for me at all. Some babes get guys who want to befriend them, I get suitors. Had few,very few guys who want to befriend me and all were outside my state.

Some will stalk you.

So when u guys are busy making it look like babes are all over you, know that your brothers are killing themselves over other women. They spent money, they can go to any length.

The way men aggressively pursued me actually had a very negative effect on me toward men cos it was suffocating and too clingy. Yeah, at a point my mummy got worried cos I never responded positively to any.

You want to know about what women pass through in the hands of men, u will never find it here, go to hair salon or campus and you will be shocked to see the level men( not boys) with money and class will go to have a babe answer his name.

You went through all these in the hands of not just one man but men. You must be really beautiful with the right attributes Everyman would craved for. Now, you said you are married, did your hubby also go through what others went through before a change of mind by you?

adewumiopeyemi:
Just look at me begging a girl of 30years to date me and she is doing yanga imagine ��

if she no do yanga, you'll call her desperate. You just want to date her and she wants something serious.

elpochas:
Started dating these pretty lady 2017(big ass and boobs).Always telling me about mariage,having her own kids and that.But these babe was dam selfish even in the issue of sex(once she cums the sex is over).She was dam lazy,all these spoilt last born child with so many sisters.if i talk everytin i saw while dating her na novel i go write.
Had to run away for my life,babe later got married six months after we broke up.But guess what guys!she is happyly divorced now.Her marraige dint last up to a year,i really dodged a bullet.These babe even called me last year and was asking me if am now ready to settle down with her.she even denied ever getting married.Funny right?always look before you leap guys.

My own story is somehow similar to yours, she will always disturb me with marriage stories, how her friends are successfully married bla bla, as a hustling guy I no send her, our problem started when i adviced her not to bow to the pressure of my mates are getting married, my mates now have kids and she was just 24 then. She broke up with me around November 2017 with the reason that I'm still a hustling guy, I'm from Ebonyi State while she is from Anambra State and she can't marry far from home. I moved on with my life, around March 2018 she got married to one guy that's from Rivers State, the marriage didn't last up to 6 months and they divorced. She's back to Anambra single to stupor seeking my face... Sometime in April she came to my house without giving me a prior notice she was coming, after scolding her never to try it again, I still walked her out, because I know what she wants now. Make we date and probably I fit marry her but that one no go work out..

sassysure:
What I'm reading here make it look like ladies are the only desperate ones.


Have u ever seen a desperate guy who want to marry a lady by fire by force?
He is that lady's everyday nightmare.
Sometimes, u have to involve the elders to stop him from harassing you.

The worst is that they are very manipulative.

If they happen to be from the same village with you, all worst.

They will try to manipulate your parents through their family and friends, when they see that your family is the struggling type, they will introduce money.
Some are so arrogant they will go straight to your people with their elders without consulting you or even proposing first not to talk of u accepting their proposal.

As a young maiden, I saw it all. Some came to my school, sometimes especially during Christmas when u go home, u will wonder if father Christmas visited your house.
Is it gifts, they don't take rejection easily.

I had lots of suitors. If they were 10( trust me, I got more than that), 7 were very shocked I said no, then 5 started aggressive wooing using all manner of manipulations.

Most babes around me experience the same thing. It's worst when you enter higher institution. Get admission to study medicine, pharmacy or nursing and they will break your father's gate. U will get call from abroad( both genuine and fake abroaders )tire.

Most well to do men from my tribe don't accept rejection easily. It is a knockout on his image and they have this huge ego. And if you are wooing a girl for marriage, most times, your peers and family are aware of that.
So its a kind of challange and a hurdle they must cross by any means possible. What ladies dont know is that when such men finally nail you, you are simply a trophy at that particular moment to be discarded for another one.
When you say no,mean it and move on.

one was so desperate that after some years he got married and i was still single, he was like shebi you see, you're still single, you should have married me. I told him, presntly i am still single, even if you still ask me to marry you, i will still say 'no'. He is still avoiding me, after many years.

sassysure:
What I'm reading here make it look like ladies are the only desperate ones.


As a young maiden, I saw it all. Some came to my school, sometimes especially during Christmas when u go home, u will wonder if father Christmas visited your house.
Is it gifts, they don't take rejection easily.

I had lots of suitors. If they were 10( trust me, I got more than that), 7 were very shocked I said no, then 5 started aggressive wooing using all manner of manipulations.

Most babes around me experience the same thing. It's worst when you enter higher institution. Get admission to study medicine, pharmacy or nursing and they will break your father's gate. U will get call from abroad( both genuine and fake abroaders )tire.

It's not unusual for young ladies (20s) to have multiple suitors because that's when they are at the peak of their sexual market value (SMV). The issue here is that women's hypergamous nature gets the better of them. They think these interests are gonna last a life time and they keep holding out for the best option.

A decade later, in their 30s with low SMV, the interests drastically nose dive and they'll probably only get approaches from low value males hence the desperation they show when they meet any man that's half decent. You'll find most of the guys that post on this thread were actually involved with older women.

It's not uncommon.

Dicktion:
Especially when they clock 30
There's nothing a lady loathes in the entire universe like clocking 30 without a husband.

They can even visit babalawo to get you trapped in marriage. Beware!

You mean niaja ladies..? Cuz oyinbo no send

adedayoa2:
one was so desperate that after some years he got married and i was still single, he was like shebi you see, you're still single, you should have married me. I told him, presntly i am still single, even if you still ask me to marry you, i will still say 'no'. He is still avoiding me, after many years.

What's wrong with that? Do you expect him to keep pestering you or something? Do you crave his attention to fuel your ego?.
Dude is simply avoiding you 'cause he has got a family and a purpose to concentrate on. My guts
also tells me he's forgotten and gotten over you.

Blackmoran:
Yea my ex..... She came all the way from benue to leave with me, every day she keeps bombarding me with pictures of people wedding, fantasising on babies and us having kid together... Though this girl was cool she is homely can cook clean and kind of intelligent to spice it up my family loves her so much especially my dad, she has this free spirit personality.. But my instinct wasn't good with the idea it was too good to be true.. And secondly I wasn't ready financially to take on the burden of marriage but this girl never mind.... During December she travelled with my junior sister to his home town, to cut the story short I followed my instinct and today am a surviver of what would have given me heart attack....... During the thick of the moment she started showing are true colour, that homely girl started showing arrogant trait, the change was fast that I thought this can't be true... I did the right thing I broke up with her... Though my dad was sad about it but I let him know I know her more Than Them and what she portray is not who she is... A week after we brokeup my junior sister gave me the shocking news of my life.... That my ex was pregnant. . I didn't believe her cause We haven't had sex up to 4 months meaning when she was with me she was banging another dick... I waited till eight month later to find out she gave birth to a baby boy...and here let me burst your brain the father of the baby was my best friend who I trust so much...na that one pain me pass ... Lesson when a girl is trying to rush you into marraige run for your life.... If you want to get married do it at your convenient time... All girls would be at there good behavior during courtship, this one even take it to the extreme she even dey cut grass for compound... Na after marriage woman go show you are real colour....

She dey cut grass for compound . Just to look marriageable lolzzz. Wetin S03 no go see for CB........

As per she was a labourer in her former life.. Truth is most ladies potray a different trait before and after marriage

KevinDein:

What's wrong with that? Do you expect him to keep pestering you or something? Do you crave his attention to fuel your ego?.
Dude is simply avoiding you 'cause he has got a family and a purpose to concentrate on. My guts
also tells me he's forgotten and gotten over you.

read my comment well, i am also married biko. Who is talking about pestering, after saying i'll rather stay single, he stopped talking to me totally. Don't misunderstsnd me abeg . I am so happy he has forgotten about me, cuz i have never sat down to think about him, you think its every lady that likes being pestered?

divorced. She's back to Anambra single to stupor seeking my face... Some gals are really funny.imagine you correcting your Girl and her reply will be,do you know am a fine babe.my guy not all that glitters is gold.the most annoying thing is these gal made me leave my good girl then.Had to go back to my ex,just tank God my ex was still single and she acepted me back.

adedayoa2:
read my comment well, i am also married biko. Who is talking about pestering, after saying i'll rather stay single, he stopped talking to me totally. Don't misunderstsnd me abeg . I am so happy he has forgotten about me, cuz i have never sat down to think about him, you think its every lady that likes being pestered?

He did the right thing. You rather stay single than be with him. Not everyone will like us, you included, he understands that, he avoids you, I don't see any issue here.

My immediate ex.She was one of the bridesmaids at her secondary schools friend's wedding 6 months prior and her best friend was getting married during the period we were dating before the tragic untimely passing of her father in-law which untimately delayed things.

So she was always like where are we going to be in 2yrs,even told her mother about me, suggesting marriage and all that. She was also like no sex before marriage trying to make me commit to her and still not fvck other people. Even though,we still fvcked sha but the whole trying to make me bend to her will was never going to fly with me and she knew it.I did like her tho,but was never getting ready to get married and certainly not to her,will never be in a relationship where someone is telling me no sex before marriage when there are so many women willing to do that without even any kind of formal relationship. All this didny make sense at the end of the day,so she broke things up

Mine is different ooo... Just to date her, sh took me to a lab for HIV, hypatitis, blood sugar, genotype and other STDs....

Guyz line up for this lady door all kneeling for her attention. Instead of shakara wey I dey read here by the guy, I am being hopeful sh says yes sef...... Sh dates me alone ooo... But rivals of docs, pharmacist, working abroad, etc full road....

Na me dey even remind her of us and settling down, sh is 26 ND very pricy cuz sh did her own job on time.. Intelligent, beutiful, tall, speaks fine, works hard both domestically and at work place. Earns enough.

Na God hand we dey for her matter!

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
Isoright
Me nor dey do dating and love plus mumu romance

Once i bang you i dey discharge you shaperly before you start to dey build bungalow for my heart

But some way don reach to marry still dey try hold me down for sometime.

Them go begin display zombie character. But girls dey mumu follow boys sha once them don reach to marry but them never see husband
First of all them go dey pet you. Check on you.
Even if you nor get one naira them nor go demand from you. Them go do everything to make you happy. I remember when one of our plasma TV spoil. I broke that period. No money to repair am. Na so this girl carry my tv by herself go repair with her own ten thousand naira..

If na you dey wrong them go apologize! If na them dey wrong them go still apologize
Any small issue. Na them first dey beg make the relationship nor go end or make you nor discharge them
But still me as a real niggarrr dey discharge them anyday anytime twice on Saturday

But the thing be say that experience na bad experience for females. Nor be wetin women supposed dey wish for because boys dey use them well well especially when them Notice say the woman dey in a hurry to marry.
Boys go make shakara for such woman ehnn
That is why me dey advise girl to quick marry to avoid such experience.

Bross, u no go kill me with laughter.
You and "Twice on Saturday" na 5&6..

Honestly, when I read one-sided write ups like these, I feel appalled. Ain't there two sides to a coin any more? The so-called 'desperation' from ladies may not always be what you think. It could be a way of saying their own mind is made up. They have no more time to waste.

Now, let me shock you with my own story. When I met the lady I'm married to today, she told me straight up that she's not in for any long term relationship. She's almost done with school and that if the relationship won't lead to marriage, I should jejely excuse her. Me being the 'guyman' that I was then, I wanted to chop and clean mouth. I sha played along with the intent to chop until I'm full. Now, therein lies my confusion; the said lady in question was everything I wanted in a woman (beautiful, educated, well behaved, God-fearing and highly industrious). But I have just one problem; I wasn't ready for marriage. Money no dey, even the job I was doing then, salary was around 70K.


She sha encouraged me that we should pull our resources together and that we'll survive. Long story cut short, I decided to give it a shot. After all, person wey dey ground no get anywhere to fall to. We got married in less than 4 months of dating. When I mean married, I mean a proper and elaborate wedding. Brethrens, today we're still together. Yes, she's not perfect just like I'm not as well, but we are still happily married.

It was later I understood the reason for her 'desperation'. She had wasted too much time dating some Bleep boys, hence, she felt she has no more time to waste. To her, if it's not going to lead to marriage, then, she shouldn't even venture into it. What we guys see as 'desperation' to some ladies, it's called making up their mind.