It is the mumu people who are not married that will be outraged

I did research even on U. S law and though each state has its own laws, the generally law marriage gives implied consent so there can never be marital rape. The only time it may even be given some consideration is if there was domestic violence involved. Also, it's possible to l because you're not getting as much sex sas you want

prowest:


Yes u can't get rape by ur husband.. He owns ur body

Yeah only in Nigeria,better dnt try that in western countries except you want to sleep in jail.

bloomstar:
That tweet where that lady was calling anita a fool is too outrageous, all i see in the tweet is hatred. So much hatred.

We put more concern and so much energy on some less meaningless things...

Wife should be submissive to the husband. It's simple as abc, if you know you cant, why say i do in the first place?

I mean we should be more concern that Nigeria is heading to doom. Imagine tinubu and atiku contesting again for presidency?

Lmao
Na that dey important bah?

bloomstar:


you are the only fool wey quote me. no wonder your name.

LMAO didirin you don born billionaire before?

Petyprincess:
[s]
Yeah only in Nigeria,better dnt try that in western countries except you want to sleep in jail.

[/s]


Trash...... Notin like rape

lalasticlala:
"....but If it is your husband, wetin you go there go do...?" - Anita Joseph

Curvy actress, Anita Joseph-Olagunju and her younger husband, MC Fish have sparked controversy after their video talking about marital rape went viral.

Anita Joseph shared the controversial video on her Instagram Page, where she and her husband discussed the sensitive subject.

She said a friend of hers told her that she was raped by her husband and she wants to report him to the police or other agencies that handle such matters. She wanted to seek Anita's opinion and advice.

Anita Joseph's response suggests that there is nothing like 'marital rape' or rape in marriage.

This has sparked outrage online as many are dragging the couple on social media while others are supporting the actress.

Watch the video below


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8DvQqzXzC1A

But what if the woman is tired or not in the mood for sex and the husband forces himself on her by taking it by force?

I might agree to her affirmation, because there's nothing like "marital rape" in Marriage it is term as " wickness and most molestation " because sex in marriage is not any out law, IT is required, just that if the man do it forcedly then if she want to arrest him she should divorce him and if he do such again then it's term as sexual assault or rape of the higest order

Eulalia:



No one is talking about using the dictionary to govern the country. Only explaining the simple meaning of the word "rape". besides without the dictionary the govt will not understand what it means and be able to include in the constitution governing us.

Rape is a crime and the last I checked, a crime attracts punishment.

Nobody ever deny that rape is not a crime.
It contexts will be highly difficult to extend to married couples.

dangotesmummy:
LMAO didirin you don born billionaire before?

Your picture says how many billionaire you have given birth to, dicken

Nothing like rape in marriage biko, you both should be ready or prepare to be ready or fix another time to be ready. Just that some partners want it that time, that moment and they would get it even at the detriment of the other not been ready making them selfish and self centered.

Marital rape is known as intimate partner violence.. She should stop saying what she doesn't know. It's a form of gender based violence. For the fact that women mostimes are ashamed to report it doesn't mean it's right or it doesn't exist.. Rape is rape...

You see, the FOOLS here are those Feminnist who have their own agenda and the few spineless and thoughtless Men who follow them just to validate themselevs and get rid of their inferiorrity complex, as a Men.

RAPE is a Crime but every Crime has DEFINITION and BOUNDARIES.
For example, as bad as Stealing or Robbery is, there is a clear boundary and definition!

- If you steal, (Take what does not belong to you) you would end up in jail ............That is the DEFINITION of Stealing
- If you are dying from Hunger and you steal food say from a Store, just what yo need to eat to survive, in most 'sane places', you are warned and then assisted with more food to eat and survive[/b].
You are not sent to Jail, like someone who went to a Store and Stole Jewelry! [b]That is BOUNDARY.

Women generally see Rape Charges as a WEAPON against Men because PUBLIC Rape allegations are against Men, (even though we know that Women also Rape men but as man, all the society would do is ask you if you did not enjoy the rape or did you not have a hard on ).
So, Feminists are hell-bent on ensuring that there is NO BOUDARY to this rape of a thing so that they can have the Flexibility to use it to punish men.......extending it into the institutionof marriage is a a coup, for them.

I dont care too much about the level of punishment that is given out to Rapist, as long as it is a GUILTY PERSON that is being punished and ot some innocent Man roped into a rape allegation. Burn a Rapist, Slaughter the person like Boko Haram, Castrate them, bury them alive, l am happy with all those punishment but just dont do them to an innocent Man.
It has to be PROVEN BEYOND DOUBT, which is the legal standard for all Criminal Convictions and Crimes that carry Capital Punishment.

So, let me touch on the marriage angle.
A marriage is a Union between two individual adults who CONSCIOUSLY and WILLINGLY decide to come together to LIVE TOGETHER, under SAME ROOF, as HUSBAND and WIFE.
In doing so, they have decided to EXCHANGE their INDIVIDUAL RIGHTS for 'JOINT RIGHTS'.
For example, instead of filing INDIVIDUAL TAX at say 41%, they JOINTLY TAX them at a cheaper 21%! That is one of the ADVANTAGES of being in a marriage.

-In doing so (being married), they have decided BY MAKING A VOW before GOD (CHURCH/MOSQUE/TRADITIONAL or whatever religion) and MAN (REGISTRY/LAW COURT) that:
* TWO have become ONE.
*MY BODY is no longer just my BODY but YOUR BODY
*YOUR BODY is no longer just YOUR BODY but MY BODY
* IN LIFE and DEATH
*Till DEATH DO US APART!

These are VOWS BINDING on both partys because you SWORE to them.
So, whatever is from your body, including Sexual Parts, BELONG TO YOUR SPOUSE. FINITO!
By Right, a Wife has the authority to DEMAND and GET SEX from her Husband and by the same token, a Husband has the authority to DEMAND and GET SEX from his WIFE ebacuse each persons body belongs to the other, as indicated by THE VOW they took under GOD and MAN.

Your Body is no longer yours, if you decide to get married, but belongs to YOUR SPOUSE.
Some people dont like this and they have decided they wont get married, which is fine.
Even the Property of your Husband (something women have openly fought for!) belongs to you when he dies, irrespective whether he was the one who paid for such property out of his personal sweat/money...and not his family, because the Husband and WIfe has become just one Body.
Women insist on sharing the property of their Husband INTO HALF when the marriage breaks up, relying on the same concept of marriage where everything BELONGS TO ONE ANOTHER (they never say 'it is his property, he can go with it).

So, whenit comes to his J.T or her Kpekus, it belongs to the Other and he is AUTHORISED BY VOWS OF MARRIAGE, to demand and use it as he/she deems fit.
YOU CANNOT SUE YOUR HUSBAND FOR RAPE BECAUSE HE DEMANDED AND TOOK SEX WITH YOU, EVEN IF YOU DONT FEEL LIKE HAVING SEX THAT DAY. IT BELONGED TO HIM AND HE TOOK WHAT BELONGED TO HIM.
If you dont like that arrangement, please BY ALL MEANS, DONT GET MARRIED! THAT DECISON IS ODNE ON FREEWILL AND YOU CAN REFUSE TO PARTAKE IN SUCH 'STUPID' VOWS/ARRANGEMENT.
BUT YOU CANT EAT YOUR CAKE AND STILL WANT TO HAVE IT.

Now, to the ISSUE of where one of the PARTNERS in a MARRIAGE, for genuine reasons (as opposed to trying to use sex as a weapon of blackmail or entrapment in a marriage), cannot engage is sex with their LAWFUL SEX PARTNER, it calls for for ENGAGEMENT, DISCUSSION and UNDERSTANDING!

ENGAGEMENT - You cannot just say "No is No", to your Spouse, just like you cant say 'No" to the owner of a Car, for whatever reason, when he or she wants to drive it. You will have to engage in a discussion with them.

DISCUSSION: As the owner of your body, including the sexual part of it, (you are just the physical custodian of it), you must have an OPEN, CANDID, CONVINCING and HONEST discussion with "the owner" as to why you want them to deny themselves of the use of what belongs to them.
It is not only Men/Husband that demand for Sex in a marriage and the Wife is unwilling/unable to give it.
Many Wives also demand for Sex when the Husband is DOG-TIRED, unwilling to give it, does not consent to it but the Wives still insist on having it.and still have their way, anyway

We have heard stories of women who 'assualt' their Husband because he would not get a hard-on, when they demand to have sex!
Its not strange! if you are not married, you may not know what goes on in a marriage.
Some Wives would Climb the Husband forcefully , suck his JT, roll it around it until it begins to respond and gets hard and they will climb him like Okada and have their way, no matter his protestations (dont think just because a Husband has a hard-on, he must be enjoying the sex, NO!
He is just participating in the act with his physical body because IT BELONGS TO HIS WIFE who is using what belongs to her.
But Husbands dont shout Rape on such things because they know the person involves is the owner of the J.T...their wives!
I wonder what will be the reaction of Women, if such act is termed as Rape and all a man needs to do, to send his wife to the gallows, castration or death penalty is to say:"My Wife climed me yesterday night against my Will" and that is it!
His word is enough and she is killed? Nice uhh?

So, both spouses are expected to have this honest and candid DISCUSSION about how they feel, why they dont want to have sex at that moment, why they want to deny the owner his conjugal RIGHTS, in the most convincing manner such that the owner can say, okay, l will not drive my car today but will walk to work or take public transport! I will make this sacrifice, this time.

But we all know how ((most) women see and use sex in a marriage!
It is seen a s a reward for doing something they want or as bait to do what they want or a trap to snag the Husband.

Yet the same Husband would be accused of infidelity, if he decide to get his sexual satisfaction outside.
Let us be honest, one of the reasons for putting one's self in that thing called marriage, whether yo uare male or Female, is because you dont want to have sex with any other person or strangers, you want exclusive sex with your spouse.
Sex is part of adult life, it is a necessity of married life.

UNDERSTANDING:
Marriages should be governed by love, not threats, Violence or Conflicts. Where there is conflict, the "approach" should be CONFLICT RESOLUTION, MOT CRIMINALISATION.
If your Spouse is genuinely unable to give you what belongs to you (having sex with him or her) at that moment, as long as it does not become "a pattern of behaviour" OR BEING USED AS BLACKMAIL/PUNISHMENT", it is expected that such Spouse should show UNDERSTANDING.
The key element here is that you are convinced that your spouse is not just acting-up or trying to bait you or punish you or entrap you.
The convincing is to be done by the spouse that is doing the denial and the onus falls on such partner to convince the other spouse to the point of understanding.
If you love your spouse, you would understand that one night of denial of sex will not kill you, "Tomorrow" is always there.
As a married man, my wife at some time, had an Operation and we could not have sex for five good Months! Even when she was 'pitying me' and says 'honey come and try it gently', l will say 'Dont worry dear, let we still wait, your health is more important tome than this sex, when you are okay, we will make up for it (And l never strayed to another woman).
I could do that because l knew that 'the body l was protecting, belongs to me' and sensible people will normally protect their own body!

Where issues arise in when the spouse makes it a pattern of regular denial and the other spouse feels his/her right is been denied.
Under such situation, the Spouse has the RIGHT to take what belongs to her or him. You MUST surrender his/her body to him/her for sexual pleasure.
Its not your body because "Two have become ONE". In Health and even in Sickness! That is what the Vows you took says, right?

So, dont take that Vow, if you are the "My Body, My decision" type!
You have FULL RIGHT over your body and yoru DECISION of what to do with it.
Dont WILLINGLY throw away that RIGHT to use your body as you desire and decide, just for marriage or the benefits of marriage.
marriage is a SERIOUS CONTRACT and it is enforceable in Court as we all know.

What we must NOT ALLOW to happen is Women taking advantage of Marriage while at the same time, trying to not fulfill their Role in the marriage, according tio the Vows they took.
Nobody has the RIGHT over another's body (Woman or Man), until they WILLINGLY and CONCIOSLY GIVE UP that RIGHT by entering into a Marriage Contract.
Marriage has a lot of benefits as we all know but it also has a few SURRENDER OF RIGHTS, most important is the Right over my Body.
There is NOTHING LIKE RAPE IN A MARRIAGE, going by the DEFINITION and BOUNDARIES of Rape[/b].

"Feminist and Angry Wives" want to use Rape to cow Husbands (Men is general) and hang it as a threat on their neck in the Marriage but l am also certain that [b]they will not want it coded in law that once your Husband says "he did not consent to the sex you had last night, you the Wife is guilty of Rape and should be sentenced to death, castrated or buried alive.
If they allow such coding for Husbands as well, in the law, then we are good to go!
Source the Geese, Source the Gander.

Common Sense is not Common.

sassysure:
All these Lagos Abuja people that don't go home.

In some part of anambra to be specific, your wife can divorce you traditionally because of constant marital rape. It's frowned upon. The ùmùada will descend on you if they knew u rape your wife.

Yes, if a man constantly complain that her husband forces himself on her and after several warnings by the elders, if the wife want to end that marriage, nobody can stop her. She has the sole right to end it.

sis you've spoken well, I don't like to force my will on people and I greatly respect their decisions, but I've got some questions to ask you. You and I know that women use sex as a weapon, a wife might deny her husband sex under the guise that she is tired or any numerous excuses she can come up with. What is a man to do then?
Is it ethically wrong for him to cheat on his wife at this point?

Davash222:
But what if the woman is not in the mood for sex or tired and the husband forces himself on her by taking it by force, is it not marital rape?



Yes it's rape, we know, but going to report to police or other agencies is what I don't understand.

Imagine the scenario you walk into any Nigeria police station and you start telling the officer in charge, I was not in the mood, was weak and tired yet my husband had sex with me. The officer will first ask you, what happened to your mood?

If your wife start sucking your dickk while you are asleep is it rape? Fool men always defend women in everything.

Hat hor5:


Why wouldn't women tolerate it or even respect it? I can tell if he is in the mood before he tells me. This is what mutual understanding in marriage is about, being sensitive to one another.

i didnt make an exceptions,right !! buh we all know women are emotionally being ... a wife can misinterprete one night of not in the mood into 101tinz, because every hate rejection hence why women/wives hardly make the move
I quiet understand your point of view, which is why i said, understanding & fairness will sort such situation. But with all sense of fairness men are highly @ disadvantage because women are raised to weaponize sex, a woman will only ask 4 sex when its a means to an end love dey one side.

ibkayee:

Not what I asked. If your male child was raped, would you personally brush it off and/or say it wasn’t rape because the law doesn’t recognise it as rape?

Your question is out of context becuase The Law recognises Sex with a Minor (Male or Female) as DEFILEMENT, another and even worse category of Rape.
Its there in our Constitution.
Rape of one's Spouse is UNKNOWN to Nigerian Law...and rightly so.

ajbf:

Nobody ever deny that rape is not a crime.
It contexts will be highly difficult to extend to married couples.

Why?

Like you men don't know how it feels when you force yourself on a woman . its more like a domestic violence cause as a result of the force, you inflict pain and muscle sprain on the weaker sex. Then again, because the woman's body is not ready to receive you, you give her bruises on her VJ. Is that not enough to extend it to married couples?

Sometimes, all these kind of wrong justifications make me scared of men. Like seriously... can't they control their sexual urge and respect the woman's feelings when she's not in the mood? That she's your wife doesn't mean she should be treated like a slave!

Davash222:
But what if the woman is not in the mood for sex or tired and the husband forces himself on her by taking it by force, is it not marital rape?



Yes it's rape, we know, but going to report to police or other agencies is what I don't understand.

Imagine the scenario you walk into any Nigeria police station and you start telling the officer in charge, I was not in the mood, was weak and tired yet my husband had sex with me. The officer will first ask you, what happened to your mood?

it becomes moody ni.
kaimona!!!

bloomstar:
That tweet where that lady was calling anita a fool is too outrageous, all i see in the tweet is hatred. So much hatred.

We put more concern and so much energy on some less meaningless things...

Wife should be submissive to the husband. It's simple as abc, if you know you cant, why say i do in the first place?

I mean we should be more concern that Nigeria is heading to doom. Imagine tinubu and atiku contesting again for presidency?

Wahala ma wa de bayii ooo!!

Flows001:
Legally, there is nothing like marital rape. The only time a man can be guilty of raping his wife within the context of Nigerian law is while they re on Judicial Separation (which might or might not lead to divorce) and the man goes ahead to sleep with her without her consent. Apart from that, no man can legally be accused of raping his lawfully married wife. The consent given by the wife on the wedding day flows all the way throughout the marriage, any refusal on d part of the wife should be settled by the both of them(in za oza room), the court has no business with that. As a matter of fact, consistent refusal to consumate the marriage (have sex) by any of the parties is a lawful ground for divorce.

Implicit in the bolded fact, is the recognition by the Court that it is an Offence to deny your Spouse, (Male or Female) Sex.
Also by Implication of that, is the fact that a Spouse has a RIGHT to Sex, from their spouse thus, you cannot be accused of rape, if all you did was take what belongs to you as a matter of LEGAL RIGHT.

MoodyQueen:


Look, you're trying so hard to twist and justify what you've already acknowledge as a crime.

Sex is not a duty in marriage.

If you say it's a duty, that means she has no right or control over her body. It means her free will is taken.

Sex is a very vital part of marriage and once its taken away, there willl be problem...

A woman getting married shld know this and shld never deny her husband access to her whenever he needs to...

So many women have this same mindset of yours and end up arguing with the man rather than calmly explaining to the man and making him see reasons why shes unable to have sex at that moment ...

Yes, a normal man will reason with her wife if the wife denies sex once in a while with calm and proper explanation ...

But these set of women shouting rape in marriage are the types that will start arguing and shouting with their husband as if the husband has no right to the sex hes requesting ...

This same women will start the mantra "MenAreScums" when he starts cheating...

Not surprised to see Nigerians in support of rape..not surprised at all..the soul of this nation is gone

Na dem.

One4me:


Your question is out of context becuase The Law recognises Sex with a Minor (Male or Female) as DEFILEMENT, another and even worse category of Rape.
Its there in our Constitution.
Rape of one's Spouse is UNKNOWN to Nigerian Law...and rightly so.

I believe he knew what I was getting at, I gave a hypothetical situation where I asked him to imagine if his son was raped, then he beat around an entire forest to avoid acknowledging that just because a law doesn't recognize something, it doesn't necessarily make it right. Male child over the age of consent then..rape of males isn't recognized as rape either but that doesn't justify it.

Marital rape isn't recognized under Nigerian law but it doesn't make the act itself any less rape.

cococandy:
Na dem.

Dem dem. A very anyhow type of people.

Eulalia:


Why?

Like you men don't know how it feels when you force yourself on a woman . its more like a domestic violence cause as a result of the force, you inflict pain and muscle sprain on the weaker sex. Then again, because the woman's body is not ready to receive you, you give her bruises on her VJ. Is that not enough to extend it to married couples?

Sometimes, all these kind of wrong justifications make me scared of men. Like seriously... can't they control their sexual urge and respect the woman's feelings when she's not in the mood? That she's your wife doesn't mean she should be treated like a slave!

No good husband will forcefully have sex with his wife. No good wife will continually (except on health ground) deny his husband sex.
You are saying that they should sentence such husband to life imprisonment, because this is punishment for rape.

Hathor5:


Dem dem. A very anyhow type of people.

I’ve given up on certain people and their weird mindsets. Had no idea she was on that boat but then I can’t say I’m surprised

MoodyQueen:


Look, you're trying so hard to twist and justify what you've already acknowledge as a crime.

Sex is not a duty in marriage.

If you say it's a duty, that means she has no right or control over her body. It means her free will is taken.

is provision for the family a duty?? I dont condone rape, but abeg don't tell me sex isn't a duty.

Apart from the Legality jargons, ladies should know that he paid that dowry which is first and foremost Sexually Oriented.

Abi is it not that you want him to pay before he start spoon away your stew?

Now he paid you now start to say stories. Who does that?

People have carried their foly too far,if it is not written in the Bible that a husband raped his wife ,I better don't subscribe to this fake and baseless argitation ..God bless Anita

ibkayee:

Ok let’s try again, what if your son is over the age of consent?

That person i sno longer a Child, he is an Adult with the power to give or withdraw consent.
When forceful sexual knowledge of that person is taken, the law calls it RAPE.
But it is not, if they are in a marriage because each spouse's body, belong to the other.
Stop asking childish questions, please.

Ariza:
First of all, I'm sorry to inform you that you made no sense. I asked a simple question and you went on with this garbage.

However I will like to inform you that there are Men whom in their scale of priorities Sex isn't the most important. It isn't a do or die thing that you should commit crime for. These men have values,self worth and dignity, they love and respect their women and I will be choosing from them. So direct your trantrums to another person.

My question remains: will you rape your wife if she says No?

Sex in marriage has almost all necessary laws & religion support, your answerable cos rape doesnt exist within the context of marriage .. from laws & religion there are no provisions that can justify rape applies in marriage.
The fact that husbands/boyfriends must alway make the move for sex aint helping matters .... marriage is all about sacrifices not when convenient ... it forcing my wife does not violate any laws or religion then it shuldnt be discussed as like a crime or sin.
On what grounds are you judging rape in marriage ??