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Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Alwaysachick: 9:16pm On Jun 26, 2020
Good evening ladies in the house,

I have a friend he is every good thing but overbearing. He kept that part till we started dating. I don't have issues with a man wanting to be a man but when he does it to the extent your opinions don't count again and if you do otherwise even when you are right, it gets him angry. Shouldn't it be a thing of concern?

I've been feeding his ego but I think its getting out of hand. The relationship is getting serious but my fears have started building and im beginning to ask myself if I can cope??

Please help a sister, what can I do to stop this? Married women in the house with husbands with such traits how do you cope?

Should have have learnt from my parents but my father is the exact opposite and with my observations, his dad is also overbearing his sisters at always complaining.

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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Barristter07: 9:18pm On Jun 26, 2020
Alwaysachick:
Good evening ladies in the house,

I have a friend he is every good thing but overbearing. He kept that part till we started dating. I don't have issues with a man wanting to be a man but when he does it to the extent your opinions don't count again and if you do otherwise even when you are right, it gets him angry. Shouldn't it be a thing of concern?

I've been feeding his ego but I think its getting out of hand. The relationship is getting serious but my fears have started building and im beginning to ask myself if I can cope??

Please help a sister, what can I do to stop this?

Is he too possessive ?

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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Nobody: 9:21pm On Jun 26, 2020
better u run now before he stabs u out of petty jealousy and possesiveness like some dude did to his wife some weeks ago

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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Alwaysachick: 9:22pm On Jun 26, 2020
Barristter07:


Is he too possessive ?

Not really, but he always wants me to do as he says. Even when he wants me to come over and I give a reason why I can't come, he gets pissed like I'm disobedient.

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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Nobody: 9:26pm On Jun 26, 2020
He is not an "overbearing" male. He is a man.

Any creature who isn't female and can't dominate female folks is a simp.

One is either a man or a simp. Your man is the former.

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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Nobody: 9:26pm On Jun 26, 2020
Please we have a lot of Issues to settle, this your matter can be discussed by the Elders, my Bible tells me that any 2 people that joined themselves together that I should not comment on their matters

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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by sacajawea(m): 9:30pm On Jun 26, 2020
One Woman wants to Change the Status Quo, that's Good.
Nigerian women have terrible taste in men. No need too ask them

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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by bottlewater1(m): 9:36pm On Jun 26, 2020
hmmm


so overbearing is another quality ladies watch out for

nawa o

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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by LordKO(m): 9:37pm On Jun 26, 2020
It's obvious that he's a domineering/egomaniac man - not a possessive man. One thing people who possess these two different personalities share in common is their penchant for subjugation - a domineering person is as toxic as a possessive person.

If you value your liberty above other things, and abhor thuggery, walk away from the relationship. However, if you don't mind taking to thuggery or kowtowing, stay put with him.

Don't mistake a domineering/egomaniac (overbearing) man for a dominant man - the former personifies toxicity while the latter personifies stability.

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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Alwaysachick: 9:42pm On Jun 26, 2020
ethicallyright:
He is not an "overbearing" male. He is a man.

Any creature who isn't female and can't dominate female folks is a simp.

One is either a man or a simp. Your man is the former.


Even when its obvious he is being in considerate. What happened today? He told me to go change my laptop battery today. He wanted me to leave my house by 4pm to Ikeja. My house to Ikeja is like 2hrs journey. I tried to pacify him that I will go first thing in the morning but he insisted and started bringing up other talks.

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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Juliusmomoh: 9:43pm On Jun 26, 2020
lefulefu:
better u run now before he stabs u out of petty jealousy and possesiveness like some dude did to his wife some weeks ago
Run go where. . Relationship wey the man suffer toast am ? Or which one ? . They die there

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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by zyzxx(m): 9:44pm On Jun 26, 2020
Communication is always the key

Sit him down and talk about it

He might say no to things you say due to your presentations or so

commucate first then check if you can cope or not

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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by victorian(f): 9:47pm On Jun 26, 2020
Better free yourself. You guys are not married yet and you are getting all. Worked up over a bf who is overbearing.

Newsflash, there are good guys out there who are easygoing about life and their relationship.

Cut off from him and give yourself Correct breathing space.

He's not the end of the world.

Just free yourself jare.

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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Nobody: 9:50pm On Jun 26, 2020
Alwaysachick:



Even when its obvious he is being in considerate. What happened today? He told me to go change my laptop battery today. He wanted me to leave my house by 4pm to Ikeja. My house to Ikeja is like 2hrs journey. I tried to pacify him that I will go first thing in the morning but he insisted and started bringing up other talks.
kneel and beg him. Pacify his damn ego if you love him. Submit to him.

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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Alwaysachick: 9:57pm On Jun 26, 2020
ethicallyright:

kneel and beg him. Pacify his damn ego if you love him. Submit to him.

If i keep pacifying him and he has no control again, won't it lead to physical or public abuse one day? What If he raises his voice at me in public one day?

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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Nobody: 10:03pm On Jun 26, 2020
Alwaysachick:


If i keep pacifying him and he has no control again, won't it lead to physical or public abuse one day? What If he raises his voice at me in public one day?

Has he raised his hands on you before?

If he hasn't , he won't. Bleep the hell outta that man.

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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Munzy14(m): 10:05pm On Jun 26, 2020
Alwaysachick:



Even when its obvious he is being in considerate. What happened today? He told me to go change my laptop battery today. He wanted me to leave my house by 4pm to Ikeja. My house to Ikeja is like 2hrs journey. I tried to pacify him that I will go first thing in the morning but he insisted and started bringing up other talks.
For a man to be overbearing in a relationship, it speaks volume of how the lady assumes/takes things seriously. From this narrative he seems to be one of the few who really believe their is time for everything.


As far as he isn't possessive you've got yourself who can push you if you are lackadaisical towards serious issues.

You also have someone who can push u to achieve beyond.


Now what you need is to understand each other very well by firstly; Check his DOB and Yours Trace your zodiacs, read up very well to understand your compatibility.

Take advantage of your Lovy-dovy moments and have a heart to heart talk with him.

Also, find way to let him study your zodiacs and understand you as well.

It is not easy, but u rather be with that man that pushes/encourages you. Rather than the one that swallows all your excesses hook, line and sinker(simp).

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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Alwaysachick: 10:07pm On Jun 26, 2020
ethicallyright:


Has he raised his hands on you before?

If he hasn't , he won't. Bleep the hell outta that man.


He won't or will? Bleep the hell out ta?


He hasn't raise his hands though, and he apologized the first time he raised his voice. But I don't know how today's own will go because I sent him a chat and called him overbearing., no reply yet.

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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Nobody: 10:12pm On Jun 26, 2020
Alwaysachick:



He won't or will? Bleep the hell out ta?


He hasn't raise his hands though, and he apologized the first time he raised his voice. But I don't know how today's own will go because I sent him a chat and called him overbearing., no reply yet.

Is he well to do?

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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Alwaysachick: 10:22pm On Jun 26, 2020
Munzy14:

For a man to be overbearing in a relationship, it speaks volume of how the lady assumes/takes things seriously. From this narrative he seems to be one of the few who really believe their is time for everything.


As far as he isn't possessive you've got yourself who can push you if you are lackadaisical towards serious issues.

You also have someone who can push u to achieve beyond.


Now what you need is to understand each other very well by firstly; Check his DOB and Yours Trace your zodiacs, read up very well to understand your compatibility.

Take advantage of your Lovy-dovy moments and have a heart to heart talk with him.

Also, find way to let him study your zodiacs and understand you as well.

It is not easy, but u rather be with that man that pushes/encourages you. Rather than the one that swallows all your excesses hook, line and sinker(simp).

I'm a very sensible person and appreciate his care for me, but how do I deal with someone who doesn't want you to contest his opinions even when they are harsh or wrong.

Ain't doing zodiacs again sorry, lol

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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Alwaysachick: 10:24pm On Jun 26, 2020
ethicallyright:


Is he well to do?

He is okay, can carter for himself.
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Nobody: 10:28pm On Jun 26, 2020
Juliusmomoh:

Run go where. . Relationship wey the man suffer toast am ? Or which one ? . They die there
dem never even the real relationship d guy don dey act like this..wen dem don start to dey fully date na another thing go occur

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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Nobody: 10:29pm On Jun 26, 2020
Alwaysachick:

He is okay, can carter for himself.
Is he handsome , with ambition? Pardon if I'm asking a bit more than I should.

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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Alwaysachick: 10:32pm On Jun 26, 2020
ethicallyright:


Is he handsome , with ambition? Pardon if I'm asking a bit more than I should.

He is good looking, quite ambitious. I have no issues with his capacities or attributes, its just this. Anytime it happens, it spoils my mood because we seem perfect.

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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Nobody: 10:34pm On Jun 26, 2020
Alwaysachick:

He is good looking, quite ambitious.
You can tame him the alpha dude.

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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Nobody: 10:35pm On Jun 26, 2020
Alwaysachick:


He is good looking, quite ambitious.

You can tame him the alpha dude. I can teach you how to. Have you seen 50 shades of Grey?

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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Alwaysachick: 10:39pm On Jun 26, 2020
ethicallyright:


You can tame him the alpha dude. I can teach you how to. Have you seen 50 shades of Grey?

Yes
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Alwaysachick: 10:39pm On Jun 26, 2020
ethicallyright:


You can tame him the alpha dude. I can teach you how to. Have you seen 50 shades of Grey?

Yes, read the books years ago
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Nobody: 10:41pm On Jun 26, 2020
Alwaysachick:

Yes, read the books years ago
Don't reply him then. If he doesn't search for you , let him go.

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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Juliusmomoh: 10:46pm On Jun 26, 2020
lefulefu:
dem never even the real relationship d guy don dey act like this..wen dem don start to dey fully date na another thing go occur
Who tell u , no be the girl only de talk .. U don ear the man story

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Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Alwaysachick: 10:46pm On Jun 26, 2020
ethicallyright:

Don't reply him then. If he doesn't search for you , let him go.

Okay, I will revisit the story. Thank you so much
Re: Ladies How Do You Cope With An Overbearing Man??? by Nobody: 10:47pm On Jun 26, 2020
This world isn't designed for women... Y'all don't know! Always reactin', men this, men that...

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