Stargurl20:
How do one control one's mouth or better still one's anger as well as ignore unpleasants things being said to one without voicing out, even when one is very angry? I need urgent response please...

flyingpig:


I have anger management issues too

Best I did was walk out from the scene

Righteousness89:
Silence!!

Stargurl20:

How do I achieve that?

Stargurl20:




Won't it look rude? Especially when it's about an elder.

Stargurl20:




Won't it look rude? Especially when it's about an elder.

flyingpig:


Yeah, I thought of that too.

I scold my gf when I shout at her and she walks out on me. So scrap out the former advise.

If you have temper issues, and being shouted at by an elder, try your best not to say anything please, the words will come out the wrong way, and will flare things up in a worse way.

Don't step out either, it is equal to disrespect.

Best thing is to apologise, it will calm his voice down, affording you some silence from him which eats you up. He will also appreciate that you apologised and accord you more respect.

sassysure:

Better to say sorry for walking away than sorry after vomiting nonsense. The person will understand that u were trying to control the situation from escalating further and exercising self control. It's not even easy to walk away. Have saved me on numerous ocassions.

If it's an elder like mum or dad, I will tell you I'm walking away, we will talk when tempers have cooled down.

Stargurl20:

Thanks for this piece

flyingpig:


Yeah, I thought of that too.

I scold my gf when I shout at her and she walks out on me. So scrap out the former advise.

If you have temper issues, and being shouted at by an elder, try your best not to say anything please, the words will come out the wrong way, and will flare things up in a worse way.

Don't step out either, it is equal to disrespect.

Best thing is to apologise, it will calm his voice down, affording you some silence from him which eats you up. He will also appreciate that you apologised and accord you more respect.

Stargurl20:
How do one control one's mouth or better still one's anger as well as ignore unpleasants things being said to one without voicing out, even when one is very angry? I need urgent response please...

Stargurl20:


I understand you. Thanks.

But, all our Yoruba elders take everything seriously and wouldn't understand one left just to suppress one's anger.

Munzy14:

Walk away simple....

For me, I become extremely quiet when I am boiling... if I talk, my next action will be one hell of evil... At that point I can pull down what took years to fix.

So my own control is being quiet... Any lady av met in reality knows this, because It's among initial things abt me I Will tell her nor colleagues/friends. So in an argument if I become quiet just know area don red, na to burst remain.

ibkayee:

If you mean apologizing just for the sake of keeping the peace, even if you genuinely aren't in the wrong, is this healthy? Do you think there are other healthier ways to pacify the situation?

Mariangeles:

For your inner mind...

ibkayee:
Sometimes I compare whatever's happened to the grand scheme of life and things that are worse, and then suddenly I can't be bothered to 'flare-up' lol

It's not necessarily a perfect method and it's also very situation-dependent but I've found it useful at times

Munzy14:

I am sorry is a deep statement that can water down a seriously boiling adrenaline.

Apology saves a lot and it's healthier.

Munzy14:


let me ask, can hot temper stuff be a trait passed on?

ibkayee:

Can't see myself giving an apology that isn't warranted just to keep peace

Mariangeles:

Yes na

Munzy14:

Okay, I see some families that tends to be hot tempered.

Mariangeles:

In some families, it can be really extreme, while others are mild