ernieboy:
according to the us census bureau, black are about 13 percent of the population, except u have conducted your on census it have another reliable source of information, I think I would go with that.

Crispels:


Lol. What did they do to you? Quite a number of them looked down on me when I first arrived here but I still see them as my sisters regardless of their initial childish behavior.

InvertedHammer:
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The toxic ones are the American wannabes who migrated from Nigeria. Like a kid in a candy store, she still fails to separate reality from fantasy. The ones that once they get their first paycheck will start claiming "miss Independence" without fully understanding what it entails. 6 months in US, she will draw tattoos and get weird piercings in weird places. They take solace in knowing that when everything else fails, nursing is there for all comers.

Real talk bro, you say it as it is without minding whose ox is gored.

You are a real one, bless up.

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osazuwa23:
The kand mass of the usa is why white people sre more but reaslistically speaking i dont belive we are minortity

luminouz:


His name is rotimi....he sings,raps and is an actor. He bought his first house some months ago.

lefulefu:
yeaaa Rotimi ...the guy was really a backstabber in POWER ..his death in the movie was horrible though

ucham:


You said it all my brother. When the OP said you must up your game, it is clear that anyone married to that kind person is sitting on a gun powder. This one go push person go carry drugs or do Yahoo because you wan meet up.

Who wants to married someone that would kill you with anxiety? Someone who would demand that you get PhD or higher when all you wanna do is sip your glass of beer knowing that life is short.

Lamanii22:





They are living in London though... They've perfected the art of speaking cockney... I know the cockney accent when I hear it....

HeavenlyCherub:


Do you really think black people are a minority group? Keep believing what you’re brainwashed by white people to believe

1Sharon:


Aren't they a minority in the west?

ogbonti:



my brother - pressure no good ooo. a little pressure is ok but when you live your life always trying to meet up other people’s standards then - then you living on the edge. There is nothing in this life than peace of mind and I won’t advise anyone to use their own hands to give themselves hypertension

compared to East African ladies - especially Kenyan chics in America - naija girls are terrible - if you ever dated a professional Kenyan girl in America- if a naija girl greets you, you won’t answer her

I say Kenyan because someone may say I just dislike African chics, I don’t - just that the misbehavior of naija girls in America stinks to high heavens

yassinattah:

They can go do Invitro fertilization,Artificial insemnition or Surrogacy

Crispels:


I understand your perspective. I have some Kenyan American friends and they act more cool than Nigerian American girls. They also appear to be ”less competitive” and they do not relentlessly pursue success/money/wealth/fame like most Nigerians here. They are always okay with whatever they achieve and stuff like that.

But there will definitely be some cultural differences. Can she join you in cooking the food you love? Will she eat it with you? Can you eat her Chapati? And some other cultural differences like that.

bigdammyj:
Get me one first. lol

1Sharon:


Lol sis, black ppl hardly speak Cockney

Lamanii22:



Even if you were brought up there? It's like living in Lagos and not knowing how to speak Yoruba.... These ones can ooo... They speak cockney well like very well....

osazuwa23:
bro if obly naija was devlop loads of africans men will claim being nigerians

dragunov:


You think its all about child bearing? The loneliness is mind bending. They want a man. Period. You don't know what i know. And the artificial stuff you just referred to is freaking expensive. And its a last resort. Because plenty men de wey no dey look their side anymore and they want those men to now start looking. They want husband.

MOnkeyBabe:
oya! 2 sa sa kolo for una

White007:


Callotti de harlloti, Militia, Gambrosia, Jellita, Blazay, callotti, Kanwulia, KanwuliaExtra.

Wow! You made Nairaland fun back in the days.


Never knew you are still on Nairaland. Great to see you back again.

ogbonti:




well a few naija guys I have seen from close quarters dating and even marrying Kenyan chics always have great stories to tell about their homeliness, and drama free attitude - and I have worked with some of them too - there is that calm and peace that radiates around them and this brings about the great point of cultural influence that you mentioned. People; either males or females are products of their society!

This begs the question - how did we get here as a society where our females are becoming hostile in relationships, unsupportive, uncommitted in marriage and just tagging as long as you have the means. And when things go south they back off.

Those days and even in the recent past, our fathers or grand fathers use to marry 2 to 4 wives and we all lived in peace under the same roof and though there were minor misunderstandings here and there when the father was away, but he is able to control the home because all wives “respected him and knew the consequences of being seen as the aggressor”. This is evident as soon as the sound of his car engine is heard at the gate, normalcy returns in a flash!


Today-the average Nigerian man has become a sissy that he can not even 2 female friends without chaos?

He apologizes to a girl he is dating because he may have cheated by sending a romantic whatsapp message to another female? He kneels down to propose to a girl in public so he can get instagram likes and positive facebook comments? Nigerian men now beg their wife for sex; enticing them with gifts as if they are negotiating bazaar sales in church harvest ceremony?

I mean this was not how it was in the 70’s 80’s and 90’s and before anyone tells me it is the signs of the times - India and Pakistan for example still manage to keep their culture of marriage and social influence despite the advent of modern technologies and incursion of western civilization which our females have latched to create mayhem in relationships and marriage

before you say “hi” to most Nigerian girls in naija or in the diaspora - they make demands like buy me this, give me that, when are you taking me for shopping ? bla bla bla - and even those that don’t openly demand anything from you are expecting you “to use your church mind” to start spending or else you may not see her again after the first 2 visits. If one has to spend money a lot to have and sustain a relationship- is that not same as prostitution? Naija females are making careers out of dating and marriage and this behavior seems ok to many Nigerians.

There is something fundamentally wrong with our value system in modern day Nigerian relationships that we need to overhaul fast. A female sees every prospective date as an ATM and if they can keep 3 to 4 of such males who meet their needs everyday, then there is nothing absolutely wrong about it- they just consider it being smart or living the dream!

It took an American to tell me about 10 years ago when we watched a nollywood film together and some campus girls were collecting money from males who sought relationships with them by playing “hide and seek” - this dude asked quietly - “why are these girls whoring?” - that question sent chills down my spine!

For once I realized what it really is - prostitution, and this is the norm in our supposed citadels of learning.



Now, don’t get me wrong - these girls were not standing at Allen Avenue waving motorists to pick them up like regular whores will do- NO. They were girls who came from regular naija homes who kept multiple boyfriends for some weird reasons like “my class assignment boyfriend” my school fees and handout purchase and blocking/sorting money boyfriend” and “my sexual satisfaction boyfriend” and “my boyfriend who will marry me after graduation”


Meanwhile, all 4 categories of males are sleeping with one girl and she sees nothing wrong with that behavior.


Where did we get it wrong that our females have not only become liabilities in love relationships but agents of confusion, extortion, division and focal diversion after marriage?

Anyways let me leave it there and thanks for your response - good morning!

luminouz:


You spoke my mind.

ogbonti:



Thank you, good morning

ZINIBANKS:
But crispels wait O am in Nigeria now and am also dating a Nigerian girl I'll now leave this country and go and still date a Nigerian over there again den use Nigeria do me when my brain is intact and not packed out I will atleast try to date those whites now
In fact if I enter USA this night Nigerian girls will be the last I'll ever think of is maybe when am ready for marriage OOO that's when I'll date them

Crispels:


Lol. Dating white girls is not as easy as many people think. It takes two to tangle. And it takes an emotional connection to build a relationship. Due to cultural differences, it’s not always easy to build emotional connections with white girls. It takes efforts, sacrifices and time to date white girls. It’s not as straightforward as most Naija guys think.

HeavenlyCherub:


If we are minority then Jesus Christ was truly white. This is why we are feared we possess a lot of power. For example when a black person and a white person procreate automatically in Western society half cast/mixed race is black. The world as we know it today is an explanation of white people.