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Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by adetayoonas(m): 12:08am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Mvici: Brother you have done well bringing this here. Don't you ever marry that Jezebel or Delilah Pls don't look at beauty in marriage That girl will betray you smartly when you are abroad or if anything goes berserk. You will surely live long but sincerely I love your thoughts and wisdom. I m giving u an elderly advice. Run away from that girl stylishly Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaketh!! You are lucky she spoke out 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by sfinkzslot(m): 12:09am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Don't get it twisted she only wants a distraction for your moms so she won't be interfering in your affair |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by EncoreTrades(m): 12:10am On Jul 05, 2020 |
My people are just wayward...like you are becoming a university graduate and you are still seeing a woman remarrying after her spouse passed as a taboo...or uncultured... It is pitiful and absurd...and make me to wonder what is the difference people living in this culture knighted Africa and people living in Stone Age... That your girl friend is very wise and has her brain intact...thanks to education...and whether you will marry her or not...doesn’t make a different but her advice is not bad... It is by choice...if your mother choose to remarry fine...if she decide to stay single great...but there is nothing wrong with it... The Bible said...two is better than one...you think about loneliness...economy hardship and other thing...which you at your age won’t understand...and you will surely appreciate the advice...is either you like the advice or dislike it but don’t make the bearer or paint her evil... 6 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by freemandela4(m): 12:13am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Thank you jare, don't mind the OP. His ex is lucky not to end up with him. Bahamas95: 4 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by Goalnaldo(m): 12:21am On Jul 05, 2020 |
apatheticme:true. Over sense dey worry the guy. I wonder why I didn't give him a like. Quick check; I gave him a share 2 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by bukatyne(f): 12:23am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Mvici: The age the Bible considered for widows to be considered for welfare aka (not getting married again) is 60 years. Your GF raised a valid point, does your mother have activities to keep her engaged? It seems you both don't think on the same plane or maybe you haven't achieved the intimacy necessary to discuss certain topics. The moment a spouse dies, the living partner is as free as a bird to re-marry if they wish. Marriage vows is 'still death do us part.' I hope you have such lofty ideals for when the husband is the widower. 4 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by bukatyne(f): 12:25am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Mvici: Which religion or culture stops a widow from re-marrying if they desire? I am only aware some cultures might have 'compulsory' mourning periods. 4 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by Goalnaldo(m): 12:25am On Jul 05, 2020 |
graciousolo:too many of them in this forum. They need to emancipate themselves from their supremacist and egocentric mentality. 4 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by bukatyne(f): 12:28am On Jul 05, 2020 |
graciousolo: |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by Nobody: 12:29am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Seun, you need to consider kid's section in this forum. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by Nobody: 12:30am On Jul 05, 2020 |
I personally opened Facebook account for my mum 12 years after my father died so she can have a companion, for where? She kept turning down all the men, saying no man can be like her husband, so I let her be. But I really do wish she got another man in her life, so she won't be lonely, because we her children are always busy with work. So, nothing wrong with your girlfriend's suggestion 5 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by bukatyne(f): 12:33am On Jul 05, 2020 |
excanny: What do you mean by the bold? |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by stonecoldcafe: 12:33am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Mvici: Life is not that deep. Breathe in and out slowly and repeat after me, "life is not that deep " 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by Correcto: 12:44am On Jul 05, 2020 |
I understand your feeling towards what your GF said about your mum remarrying. Note she isn't wrong about it but the point is that there are many factors to be considered. I see no reason why she should offer such an advice when she has not known for sure if your Mum is need of companion. Remarrying is not as easy as it sounds, especially for women, because they will have to leave their dead husband's house to that of the new husband. Your mum is the only one to decide if she wants to remarry. If she chooses to remarry kindly allow her. Mvici: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by Correcto: 12:45am On Jul 05, 2020 |
The bolded is a fact. bukatyne: |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by bukatyne(f): 12:48am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Correcto: I asked the poster meaning of something, you said it is fact. Did I dispute the 'correctness' or lack of? In this instance, what does 'we don't have women like our mothers' mean since you want to answer on his behalf? 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by ahahnow: 12:49am On Jul 05, 2020 |
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Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by Correcto: 12:57am On Jul 05, 2020 |
His mother deserves companion when she needs one. Sometimes it is best to mind our business. She offered an innocent advice but could be sensitive to even the mother. The mother may wish for something else rather remarrying. Most women born in 70s and older, especially from the Eastern part of Nigeria don't like the idea of remarrying. I feel the GF should find out more how his mother lives when the son is in school, than giving a quick advice. Her advice should come when she is sure the mother is needing it. Dreyton36: |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by Correcto: 12:58am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Wait patiently the poster will answer you bukatyne: |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by TruthinAction: 1:02am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Marriage is not all about sex. Besides, marriage contract ends when one party is dead. Though it is sometimes not easy to remarry especially when the love bond was very strong between you and your late partner. The bottom line is that your mum needs a companion. 52 is not really an old age. Your girlfriend gave you the best advice. Five years is more than enough to mourn her late husband. 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by codeKart(m): 1:02am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Oga, even marital vows are "Till death do us part" If your Mom doesn't want to re-marry, that is absolutely fine. But there's nothing wrong with remarrying o. See ehn, adult life can be incredibly lonely for a single person. All your friends and siblings have their own jobs and families and nobody has time for anybody else. If you see your friends once a month, you are lucky sef. Even you, OP, once you finish school, start working and start a family, you'll realize that you dont have as much time for your mum as you used to. There's nothing wrong with what your girl said. It actually shows she cares about your mum 2 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by chigoizie7(m): 1:03am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Mvici: You should be thanking your God for giving you a girl that is open minded. Even though such practices are not common in our society. That doesn’t mean that your girl doesn’t care. Your mom knew that you meant well for her. Please your girlfriend didn’t do anything wrong. 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by unibenakpos(m): 1:05am On Jul 05, 2020 |
the mum got married at 17, the girl friend is right, for the mum to cry it means the words touched her, only that she has made some decisions, maybe 2 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by Igetmyown247: 1:11am On Jul 05, 2020 |
If your mother decides not to remarry that’s her choice to make. Your gf did nothing wrong by saying what she said. You’re just being dramatic. 2 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by Lovinghauwa: 1:13am On Jul 05, 2020 |
You said you are giving elderly advise when you just showed us you lack wisdom, like is this what is in your head, you need to scrub your head, it's very filthy. adetayoonas: 4 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by fieldinsight: 1:13am On Jul 05, 2020 |
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Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by sannioladapo92(m): 1:15am On Jul 05, 2020 |
gunners160: Avi 2 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by Mavor: 1:34am On Jul 05, 2020 |
The kind of rubbish, senseless, childish threads that make frontpage sef ehnn!!! Seun please upgrade Nairaland ooo!!! 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by jikins(m): 1:41am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Mvici: Its sad that you didn't end up learning anything. Instead you digged the hole you were already in deeper to reinforce your narrow minded views. Best of luck 3 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by Jbangs: 1:41am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Well, your Mom is such a strong woman! She obviously, is just like my Mom.. Brave,Sacrificial, And above all Loves you too much to make such sacrifice. To be frank with you, I wouldn't will advice you to go on pathing ways with your Girlfriend, she might be good! Reason be that,I shade Tears, whenever I put myself in the position of my Mom, Sometimes you just need that someone with whom you can talk to, fight with, play with, look up to, Relate with and share opinions about life and how to Move on! But whenever, I find myself away from my Boyfriend for a while, I realise my Mom has been in a Helpless situation, and it's obvious that she can not change things. Each and every night when I lay to sleep, all I ever think of is what she thinks, how she feel, taking care of 6 children, who where left behind all by herself, no one to talk to about what decisions is best to take and what is not... And so I keep on praying and wishing she gets a companion with whom she would live again... Not because I am not jealous for my Dad, but he is long gone and she has sacrificed a lot to be where we are today! I think she deserve a life, She deserve Happiness, and also someone with whom she would wake up every morning to talk to about what she feels and how she feels. Life is too short! And despite all sacrifices we would want to make, I believe we all deserve to be Happy! Your Girlfriend is probably feeling for your Mom and she felt possibly your mom needs to live again. I will Advice you to seek God on this! 3 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by napredboy(m): 1:43am On Jul 05, 2020 |
It was an honest advice and she said it out of genuine love and concerns for your Mum, loneliness goes beyond bleeping don't count it against your girl if you truly love her. 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by Judybash93(m): 1:46am On Jul 05, 2020 |
It's your mum's choice, if she wants to, fine, if she doesn't want to, that's fine too. There's nothing wrong with the suggestion your friend gave you as she's thinking of your mum as a human being with feelings too. In addition, if y'all Christians, the promise is "until death do us part". 1 Like |
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