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Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by richie240: 12:24pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by MrFly(m): 12:26pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28:thought u said ur grown up and independent |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Thereishel: 12:26pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28: Beg the person give her money and promise her that you will never divulge the secret to your dad since they fear him 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Nobody: 12:28pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28: Reduce ur emotion over the issue. And focus ur mind only on logic and strategy to get the truth u seek. U have been told, u and ur cousin have the same mother. And u know, ur cousin is your fathers elder brother son. If all this are correct, u already have ur answers. Your quest is already almost solved. If that story is correct, ur fathers elder brother died before his wife. Your father was now taking care of her and her son( ur so called cousin who is ur brother). By tradition, ur mum is ur father's wife after ur uncle (ur fathers brother) died. Your father got her pregnant and she gave birth to u. Your father did not commit any abomination by tradition for getting ur mum pregnant. It is his right and privilege by Tradition. The reason ur ralative told u, ur dad payed ur mum bride price. because by Tradition, ur mum is ur dad legal wife. After u were born three things are possible. Option 1. Your mum died at Child birth when she was giving birth to u. Or she died few years after u were born. Ur dad did not see any need to start telling u that u have a different mother. For sure, ur step mum was never in support of ur dad marrying ur mum even though tradition gave him that right. because ur dad have d right to refuse marrying ur mum, tradition aslo have a way of freeing the woman and the man, if her husband brother don't want to marry her. Option 2: Your mum just hated your paternal family and left. That means she hate ur grand father, ur father and ur fathers family. She abandoned u and ur brother (cousin). If this is the case, the person most hurt is not even u, but ur brother (the seminarian). Now, simply ask your cousin(ur brother), if he has the picture of his late parents. They have no reason to hide the picture of his late parents from him. If he has the picture of his dad and mum, then u will see ur mother. Also, u can ask ur cousin(brother), where is his mum from. If he knows any of his mum relatives. If he knows anyone, he can link u to them. But don't tell him, he is ur brother when asking this question. But if he refuse to answer u, u can then tell him all u know. No matter how he perceived u, he will be interested too in knowing. He is a human being. He will naturally be curious. In my opinion, u have 80% of what u need to get all ur answers if the story that u and ur cousin have the same mother is true. 17 Likes |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Wapchrist1(m): 12:29pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
As a consultant psychologist ur Mum is ur step mum sister !!! |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by osothermal(m): 12:29pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
SexytorresE:stop being childish here, do you think the Op is playing here |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Eze2000(m): 12:30pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
dalass: She's his illegitimate child. How do I know that? Answer: The circumstance of her birth is not something her own people wish to discuss. They shy away from the topic in FEAR.... I always call the truth where I see it. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Nobody: 12:31pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
To get started 1. what tribe are you from 2. how influential is your dad 3. does he hold any post, politically or religiously 4. do you have access to old pictures in the house 5. since your birth certificate was forged as it seems, is the location of the hospital in the forged document in your area, if yes there's probability you were given birth somewhere near or in the area, hospitals around there should be noted. 6. do you have a dialect name, if yes is it a name related to your dads tribe, if no that's a clue 7. your other siblings, what's your age difference 8. Do you know anyone of your step mum family, I sense there's a connection, either your father got your step mum sibling pregnant lets get this first, then we will talk on what next 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by timagentms: 12:31pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
miketayo: Oga take your time to read the story very well, 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by richie240: 12:35pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28: Godlovesyou28: Godlovesyou28: You really have a good imagination. Thanks for stringing nairalanders along #Fake story 1 Like
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Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Brightgem(f): 12:35pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28:So sorry about your pain. Lock then all up and get answers jhoor! . They have no right to hold such info from you. You do need closure. |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by coldFLARES1(m): 12:36pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28:Sorry about your heartache, but I honestly think this whole episode is one needless hoopla. Some of us had moms that stayed their married lives with our dads but were absolutely less loving in tending to us, yet we survived and eventually forgave. If it is closure you need just to be sure you have a mom somewhere and you are meeting a seeming lack of cooperation from your dad and informant, why not rest the matter. Just be consoled that you have grown into an independent young woman in spite of all that went down and move on. It would be foolhardy to think a stepmom with kids of her own could love you equally when me that was birthed with nine others by same mother wasn't loved anywhere near. 4 Likes |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Kenstufez: 12:37pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Sue that person that told you that story so he/she can complete it by force. If not, she have succeeded in disorganizing your life. Pick her up with the police asap so she can tell the full story!! Godlovesyou28: |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by butterfly777(m): 12:38pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28: Your monica says Godlovesyou, that suggests that you know God. So, don't do your search in your strength alone, engage God. You can see that the physical odds against you are strong. - they kept such info away from you for years. - your discovery and pleas failed to change their mind to tell you the truth. - they fear your dad as if he is a lion. - people who might know are scared of telling you. - going online or to the court might make things much messier. So candid advise? As a Christian: 1. Command that every spirit hiding your mother's identity from you should be bound. 2. Command that every agenda to hide your mother's identity from you should be scattered. 3. Pray that, " O Lord, show me my mother. Once you pray as above, believe it is done, and relax in God. Read Mark 11:23-24. You don't need to continue praying it. Just pray them once and continue thanking God that He has done it. God will work out how you will know your mother. You are blessed. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by KingBaba1(m): 12:38pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Jullima:Those that knows about the step mum not being the real mum have answer to whom her biological mother is. It's either the bio mother isn't sane or there is more to it. I don't wanna believe she is dead, and i am not buying the baby mama thing, but maybe she was dumped somewhere and the parent took her up |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by mormoney85(m): 12:38pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28:from this comment sorry to say it you are an adopted child |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Emrixx(f): 12:39pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Dem don use juju for your dad Stepmum dey control that man |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by KingBaba1(m): 12:39pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Jullima: |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Analysiscorner: 12:39pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
[quote author=Godlovesyou28 post=89806678] I have no idea whether she is dead or a life and intend to find out. My siblings fear me more than I fear them; their only weapon against me is hate and my weapon against them is forgiveness and resolve - they know I never quit anything I start until I conclude it. I have weighed all my options and the court is my best option.[/quote The court might not be your last option. Pay the person that told you, if need be swear to him that you will never implicate him. What is the name of your village? You Can go there and do your research. That is the best option. ] |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by chukel(m): 12:40pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
dalass:I can decipher how it happened. I may be wrong. Her true mom never left her. Househelp may have gotten pregnant for Dad. Probably no female Child then. To cover the shame to the family, they allowed her deliver, took the child away from her in deceptive way. Sent househelp away. Trained the child as theirs since it's Dad's blood. So baby will look like Dad. Step mom will never treat baby as hers. She will even have a kind of hatred towards her. The househelp the year she was born holds the answer to the question she seeks. If she isn't the one. She knows the one. 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by KingBaba1(m): 12:40pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Jullima:Those that knows about the step mum not being the real mum have answer to whom her biological mother is. It's either the bio mother isn't sane or there is more to it. I don't wanna believe she is dead, and i am not buying the baby factory thing, but maybe she was dumped somewhere and the parent took her up |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by lacapine: 12:42pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Please where are you based? You need friends and close watch. With this amount of raging emotions, she may hurt herself badly. Please let those in her vase find a way to reach her and help her stay sane. Let's know your base please.. |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by OROSUNBOLB(m): 12:43pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28: I'll advise you take necessary precautions to protect your life before taking the option above which I consider okay though. I tell you everything,I mean the truth you're looking for,is right there in your village. Some people know everything about you and your family in that village and some of them might talk if the price is right. A good investigative Journalist can get every fact you need for you at a reasonable expense. I don't know why I'm having this feeling that your real Mum might be a relative of your Step Mum. I may be wrong but it crossed my mind and that's why I let it out. I don't like ruling out anything in a situation like this one. Why is everyone so scared of talking about your real Mum ? What are they hiding ? You might be shocked when you find out who your real Mum is. People talk when the price is right and everybody has a price ! The truth about your real identity is right there in your village. A good investigator with some cash in his/her pocket to unlock people's mouth in your village will get the required information about your Mum for you. I strongly suggest you beam your searchlight there before thinking of any legal action against your dad. You may not even need any legal action afterward. I wish you good luck in search of your Mum. 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by emmanuelpopson(m): 12:43pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
form the narrative here,it shows that your dad got your mum pregnant who maybe an underage at that time. now the ways in which you can know your mum is by narrowing down your tribe, your village and your kinsmen... you can do that on Facebook and after that you consult a private investigator that will to the findings for u.. If youe step mum connived with your dad to hve kept this a secret for years. then it means it more gonna be tough and hard bit... there are some things hidden and which if exposed now, may nailed your supposed parents... any findings done shd be kept secret and don't just trust any one with information received |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Stevenbright(m): 12:44pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28: Hello dear! Yo need to take it easy on yourself. I believed you already understand that your dad doesn't care what happens to you. That was why he cared less about your threat of suicide. But please don't harm yourself because doing that will be an easy victory for those who want your dead because your mere existence is a an headache to them. At the moment, you need to know that you and God are the only personalities that care about you. God will never disappoint you and hence, it is now up to you. Be kind to yourself, be positive, be realistic and less emotional. Don't allow the urgent desire to meet your real mum becloud your sense of reasoning. For the short-term, be focused on improving yourself confidence and establishing your base. While at this, cut all communications with your dad and his family. Be prayerful, determined to be more successful and work at it. At the moment, tell yourself that as long as your mum is still alive, you will reunite with her soon. And it will surprise you how this will come to pass in due course! Cheers!!! 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by lele007: 12:45pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
I can't pretend to understand your pain. your parents are very callous to have treated you differently since they raised you as a child. You have to have a very strong mind if you really need to find your mum, because from all indicaitons there is some shame that your father and step mother are carrying. God luck and grace to you 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Onyi22(f): 12:45pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Ishilove:Thunder fire you 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Nobody: 12:48pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28 Go to the village, meet that your father's brother or sister he/she is close to, or better still his closest friend in town and discuss this with them. I bet they will be of help. Your elder one's may also know something. |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Awoleesu(m): 12:49pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Dear OP, I understand your pains and curiosity, but I must tell you, some things are better left un-exhumed! I have a feeling your Dad is preventing you from a worse trauma by deliberately refusing you access to or knowledge about your Biological Mom! With due respect to her, It could be she's no more, she's not in the right frame of mind... or an unforgivable scandal was behind your birth... My prayer to you, is to let it go! If Dad insists on keeping mute, please don't force your entry into where sleeping dogs lie... 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by ABINTUK(m): 12:49pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
[quote author=Godlovesyou28 post=89782052] Please how do I locate a private investigator. Am loosing my mind. [/quote Let your lawyer write a letter to your Dad, compelling him to reveal the identity of your mum within 7days face litigation... You have tried your best,now let the government come in. |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by bluestone2015: 12:49pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
It's so easy. You are now on your own. Post his pictures, name, hometown together with yourself and your full name on various Social media platform and ask for anybody who knows your mom. If she is alive she'll find you in less than one year. |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Onyi22(f): 12:50pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28:Awwww am so emtional right now, may God continue to protect her anywhere she is until you find her 1 Like |
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