Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.

Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.

One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.

This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.

Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.

dont go and make up ur mind, be here doing DELAYtionship and decamping from one man to the other every three months,
U think relationship is build on physical qualities? In life u will always find someone more attractive than the one u are currently dating, wen that time comes, emotional maturity will help u, self control will come to ur rescue and commitment will keep u going, u think happily married couples dont see better qualities, Relationship should not be build on qualities but understanding that commitment is ur greatest arsenal that destroy those unhelpful impulses if and wen it comes. u can fall in love with anyone, it takes little or no effort but building a relationship that could survive the test of time takes more than that, My dear, there is no already made relationship, u have to build one. but u are just 16yrs, u wont understand

Favour2323:
. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position.

dicey dice u there, Rubbish

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If you are a Guy reading this, please pay attention.

I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.

You see this?

He knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends

You see this?

This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend.

And this?

I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else

And this too....

You see those 4 parts I highlighted? They should be the reason why you should never expect much from GIRLFRIENDS, they are just hoes parading as Girlfriends.

The earlier you understand this the better for you. Thanks!!

Fake story. i kno is a guy under dat moniker

Abeg the next person has something to say.

Should we tell her?

Ehmm...okay *hands over mic to the next person.

merieam16:
Fake story. i kno is a guy under dat moniker

Please don't dissuade those that want to offer their opinions.

This is my story and it's not fake.

Your boyfriend was right there for you.
But you literally choose a stranger over him.

Your emotional infidelity is all over the place so I cannot advise you to stay, and not to leave him.

Run along into the arms of your new guy.
Don't double date.

Just have the decency be honest. Let him know WHY you're leaving him. These hoes ain't loyal...

Favour2323:

Please don't dissuade those that want to offer their opinions.
This is my story and it's not fake.

be deceiving urself der. yimu

I'd put things clear as apt as it is... If you say you love the second guy, then you never loved the first... You can't love two people at the same time; it's impossible.

If you wanna go for the second guy, then do so and stop using the first as leverage or collateral to keep whenever the new guy is unavailable.

Furthermore, you'd be doing more good than harm in leaving your first boyfriend because as it is, you clearly don't love him because love goes beyond what you just see physically. It's accepting one's shit and excesses and loving them for who they are.

Give your first boyfriend the respect he deserves by leaving him and stop loving him out of pity. You're only making him a lovelorn. If you actually knew that the new guy had all you needed in a man, courtesy states that you remain single till you get to meet such guy even if it takes 100 years but outta being lonely, you opted to date your first and now the man of your dreams appeared, the first seems to fade in your eyes...

YOU CLEARLY DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT

Give the first boyfriend the honor he deserves and let a woman who is worthy of him be with him. You can't eat your cake and have it. Next time, carry a TO-DO-LIST about your expectations with you henceforth because it seems if another guy should sweep you outta your feet better than the second, you might as well put the second in the corners.

I might have been rude but pardon my unfriendliness; the TRUTH hurts.

dukeprince50:
So what do u want us do?
Create visa for u? Or give u transport?

lmao.. Werey plenty for this nairaland, aswerugod

Bro, I like your assertion. You nailed the truth. Girls are the most confuse creature on earth. They don't really know what they want.

donstan18:
If you are a Guy reading this, please pay attention.



You see this?



You see this?


And this?


And this too....

You see those 4 parts I highlighted? They should be the reason why you should never expect much from GIRLFRIENDS, they are just hoes parading as Girlfriends.

The earlier you understand this the better for you. Thanks!!

SMH

FluxEmpire:
I'd put things clear as apt as it is... If you say you love the second guy, then you never loved the first... You can't love two people at the same time; it's impossible.

If you wanna go for the second guy, then do so and stop using the first as leverage or collateral to keep whenever the new guy is unavailable.

Furthermore, you'd be doing more good than harm in leaving your first boyfriend because as it is, you clearly don't love him because love goes beyond what you just see physically. It's accepting one's shit and excesses and loving them for who they are.

Give your first boyfriend the respect he deserves by leaving him and stop loving him out of pity. You're only making him a lovelorn. If you actually knew that the new guy had all you needed in a man, courtesy states that you remain single till you get to meet such guy even if it takes 100 years but outta being lonely, you opted to date your first and now the man of your dreams appeared, the first seems to fade in your eyes...

YOU CLEARLY DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT

Give the first boyfriend the honor he deserves and let a woman who is worthy of him be with him. You can't eat your cake and have it. Next time, carry a TO-DO-LIST about your expectations with you henceforth because it seems if another guy should sweep you outta your feet better than the second, you might as well put the second in the corners.

I might have been rude but pardon my unfriendliness; the TRUTH hurts.

Apt!

goodluck

The second always appear to be better than the first because of see finish but most times, it's not.
Choose wisely.

This is as a result of "SEE FINISH"

She don see her boyfriend Finish, that's why she wants a new Challenge

Always avoid "SEE FINISH"

Nonsense!

Sometimes when I read people write about relationships here, I wonder if it's just some tourist centers because seriously that's how you lots paint it. Aunty! You aren't in a relationship, you are just vacationing in an amusement park. Hain!

It takes commitment and contentment to be in a Relationship, you lack these two. Do your boyfriend a favor, break up with him and go for the new guy whom I believe will not be foolish enough to take a confuse person like you seriously.

It's okay to develop feelings for people every now and then but it's completely wrong for you to leave an existing relationship for a stranger you think has all the qualities you seek..

There is a reason they say "the devil you know is better than the angel you just met". What if he just wants you for the sex and nothing more?
Then you'll start regretting and trrying to get back with your former boyfriend.

The ball is in your court, if you like run off with the new guy but please do the other one a favour by never looking back cos he won't accept you and even if he does, it'll be just for knacks
#cheers!

Rubbish. That's why most guys end up hating women. See as you wanna substitute the 6months guy for another one. Well, it's your choice jare

Looking at this case critically, j really don't have anything to say at the moment

This is how your "about to be" new boyfriend will receive you.

Do what ever you want, i expected this. Its what ladies do when they see a stable guy. Follow which ever you like most.

No one has rights to call you a monster or slut. I try and make girls love me then dump them all for the thrill, some guys actually get off breaking ladies hearts hope this new guy isnt like me or those guys. But you are free

Favour2323:
Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.

Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.

One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.

This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.

Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.

It's ladies like you that will cheat in marriages. You see where the issue of hypergamy in women is coming from?

Do you know you are already cheating? If you can leave your boyfriend for one random play boy that appeared from no where and start falling for him, what makes you think you won't leave that same new guy for another when you see another person you think is better than the new guy?

You are simply a hoe nothing else. You are typically unstable. A girl like you is to be used and dump cuz you are one of those damaged goods that are being spoken about by redpillers.

Let's take an instance. If perhaps your boyfriend had paid your bride price and you meet this new guy, will you say you want to leave your boyfriend for a random guy you just felt a mere attraction for? What makes you think this new guy won't use and dump you? When that happens, you will now crawl back to your ex boyfriend you are already cheating on and start begging him to take you back right?

You are simply a hoe. Ladies like you are not always stable. They jump from one guy to another. If people in serious relationships or marriage commit the evil you are about to commit now, will you see them getting married or staying long in their marriages? Or do you think ladies that decided to remain faithful and stable in their relationships are not coming across other men whom they feel attraction for on daily basis?

You lack self control. That's all I can say. And a lady that lack self control is nothing but a hoe who can't just remain put with one guy in a relationship and stay faithful. Any guy who marry a girl like you is doomed for a divorce in the future cuz you will definitely cheat.

Watch the 18 minutes video below and see why I said you are not fit for a serious relationship or marriage. You are a time bomb ready to explode.

Bet me, that new guy will use and dump you. You don't deserve your boyfriend because he is a nice guy.

This video sum it all:

If a woman cheats on you


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V9Rjlr1RCqM

donstan18:
If you are a Guy reading this, please pay attention.



You see this?



You see this?


And this?


And this too....

You see those 4 parts I highlighted? They should be the reason why you should never expect much from GIRLFRIENDS, they are just hoes parading as Girlfriends.

The earlier you understand this the better for you. Thanks!!

You're right

A very funny massive, aunty if the guy that's excetly what I will do. if you truly love him more than your boyfriend break up. if am dating you it's not a favour it's our will to stay together. I don't know why must Nigerians girls in molested relationship do stay because of a favour the guy has done. don't qoute me and not referring to you. mine was a game we are too play immediately I asked her about her relationship status, ,she's dating I lose interest cut any form of Chat with her I don't like sharing a person. if she truly love me then she can trade her relationship for me if not I won't talk to her, higest once in a while reason because my first intention was to date her and she's dating, well bye bye. unless I start a talk with her for friendship purpose.