Blissquare:
Hello people. My close sousin came to me for advise but the only ideas may look harsh. I post his predicament here so that I can see neutral point of views. in his words...

I married my wife while she ran a small business of buying and selling shoes but I had no idea the actual income was so little. I am a civil servant myself but I've been able to pick up my bills with the help of my knowledge of I. T. After having 2 kids, I realised that I need more income but my wife can not afford to support in anyway. I rented her a shop and furnished to sell her shoes hoping to attract more profit but she sold many on credit and could not give account of capital. later, she got a job at a school earning 15k a month. she is so complacent because I pay all the bills. Any time that I encourage her to be more productive, it ends in arguments. I farm alongside my work and hustle but she doesn't know how to be gainfully employed. I pay for everything including my kids weaving of hair. I don't plan to shift any burden to her but I expect her to save if she is gainfully employed. This pandemic has taught me many lessons. What if I was not receiving salary? what if I die? What if her parents are sick? How can a graduate be okay not doing anything tangible. I gave her an ultimatum to think of something and I would support her but instead, she got pregnant without my consent and now has an excuse not to work for the next one year. My car has broken down for months and I could not afford to fix it. Having 3kids without a car is okay by her. If she can't work or be business savvy then why did she get pregnant against my will? Do I stop giving her food or pocket money? How do I force her to work to secure her future and her children's? There is nothing wrong in having a supportive wife. Please don't misunderstand my complaints. I have spoken to her in love and harshness but none has worked. I need a practical solution.

frozen70:

After this child birth, warn her not to become pregnant again and if she does, you will return her to her parents and start another life where you can live with a woman who is ready to obey you and make sure you warn her in the presence of her immediate family

amaham:
Pls how can someone get pregnant without consent?

truthsayer009:


I'm guessing this has to do with Family planning right? Please can you explain how it really works?
I am asking because every one on the thread is either pretending or ignorant that a woman can prevent herself from getting pregnant.

frozen70:


A woman knows her cycle better than any one and she does know how to prevent pregnancy

But in her own case, she doesn't want to be burden with family responsibilities so being pregnant at this time will make the guy to stop reminding her of her support

We have so many methods of preventing pregnancy that some of them are even natural

Assuming she is the one feeding the family, she will avoid pregnancy by all means

truthsayer009:
Thanks for the explanation @frozen70

See Miss/Mrs LadySarah, there are two types of Women, those who tell themselves the truth & those who don't. The story OP narrated is clear enough.

She started a business & couldn't even maintain it. She is comfortable with a 15k job as a teacher? C'MON! Be honest with yourself na. At least for once, leave this Always support Women no matter what campaign. Habba, Fear God ma, Fear God.

He already said below that he encourages her & she flares up. She's not ready.

Any time that I encourage her to be more productive, it ends in arguments. I farm alongside my work and hustle but she doesn't know how to be gainfully employed.

I.T personell + Farmer, he has tried please.

she got pregnant without my consent

If she can't work or be business savvy then why did she get pregnant against my will?

NtiObaEneke:



When you were asleep, she took hold of your preek, squeezed out the sperm and injected into her womb.

You must be high on your own fart.

jaz:
Guess that's the only part that resonates with you.

NtiObaEneke:

It resonates with me because of the stupid double standards Nigerian men are notorious for.

LordKO:



Nothing can be more irritating than seeing mentally parochial and sententiously chauvinistic elements like you and your ilk projecting the stupid men and women who brought you into this world towards others. Not all Nigerian men and women are stupid.

NtiObaEneke:

Reading your nonsense gave me a headache. Your verbosity shows the kind of inferiority complex troubling you.

Also note that your parents are the ones that are very stupid, not mine. You are also an idiot for jumping to cuss the parents of total strangers on the internet and it reflects your gutter breeding. I spit on you. Useless thing.