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Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Elsueno: 7:19pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Some people never know what suffering is, and i pray they don't find out |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by OrlahYemmy: 7:20pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Please don't give up on God. I experienced something similar to your situation recently and God came through for me. You knw wen u r working and uv got nothing to show for it, all the bad thoughts came to visit in a day and u feel heavy like it's time to die....I knelt down and cried my heart out to him and he sent ppl to me.Not one person o #PEOPLE.... So pls talk to God...He is with you, all you have to do is take him as your everything, as your best friend especially.I pray God will help you, and show you the way. All the best bro. 3 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Xinox: 7:20pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
YoungandDepress:I am happy stories like this can make headlines than showing how BBN are acting porn. I also thank God I opened d story. Listen up, you are not a waste! From this moment u can turn things around. Be urself and believe God exit. Draw close to Him and make up ur mind. Call ur elder brother and tell him you are now a change person. You can do anything with ur two hards and never compare yourself with anyone. " All fingers are not equal" those that were Mr Buhari's mates are not Nigerian President. I will challenge you, alot of people at 40 still have this challenge. Now you know so is the key! 3 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Nobody: 7:21pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Hold on, young man. You will be fine. |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Emmbanny(m): 7:21pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
My brother, no matter what you are going through, be rest assured that God loves you. Just speak with him(prayer) sincerely tell him every of your weaknesses. Table all your problems before him. 1 Like |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by chinazaJoshua: 7:21pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
You can't make progress while continually thinking of your Negative pasts. Any driver that keeps on looking at his back will definitely crash. So, quite your regrets, take them as great lessons for yourself and your future kids.More so, this negative pasts can also fetch you huge money when you put it into good use by writing a book to guide youngsters who may want to tow that path. Your book may save them from that shipwreck. Get yourself positively and legitimately engaged. Don't compare yourself with anyone. We all have different Time Zone. Some achieve early in life and depart early as well. While others achieve late and live well to enjoy their wealth and even see their fourth generation. God is not your enemy. He is your maker, your helper and the only reason you have not died in your gambling addiction, and once there is life there is hope for a better tomorrow when you utilize opportunities well. You can't engage the only personality that can help you and turn your life around. Only God can still help you, so don't make Him your enemy. Remember whether you believe in God or not He is still God. He is still the I AM. Whether you die or live, decide to commit suicide or not He is still the I AM. Retrace your steps back to God, cry out to Him for help, He will definitely hear and answer you. He will not abandon you. He is merciful and gracious. Remember He welcomed the prodigal son to honour and dignity. You can chat me via this line for further guide(+2349091774327) 2 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Rilwayne001: 7:23pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
If you're not making a dime by yourself for a whole month and have to depend on your parents to get 500, I believe it's only logical, if you really hate your situation, to go out and try to make at least 2k on your own. You said you were at home doing nothing for a whole month, and yet still complain you didn't make 500 on your own. Pray tell, is it possible for one to make 500 by just sitting down at home doing nothing all day? When I finished my OND and could not find a placement for internship, I was home most times eating my parents food, have a room of my own in my fathers house. My Mom can always give me money whenever I asked her. But I hated myself being idle. I stayed home for 4months doing nothing and just eating, always coming on nairaland argue politics and religious stuffs like my life dependend on em. But I never liked my situation. When I noticed I was starting to hate myself, I just went to a BAKERY to seek u employment. I got it, even though the work was tedious. I fell sick after the first week because you hardly get to a sleep in the bakery. Stilli went back because I just can't stay at home doing. Within a month I got used to the condition. And I was able to hold on to the work for like 6 months before I decided to take Direct entry form again. It was better than sitting down at home and getting fed without being productive. Being idle and doing nothing productive with a terrible bank balance is a depression on its own, but if you really don't like it, you, as a man, have to drop your past to the past and wake up to take charge of your life. We've all made mistakes and it's until we utilize our mistakes to correct our future, we'd continue to dwell on the futility of the past. Betting is a very terrible thing. Really addictive and enticing. There's a reason why it's called the fool paradise because the more you play, the more you win, the more you dwell in the world hoping to win more till you lose everything. To avoid it, you need to understand the psychological effects it always has on one and how deceitful the supposed winnings always turn into losses in the long run. Secondly, detach yourself from friends that engages in it. They are blind and would not mind making you blind too. If you see them win, let them celebrate their winning on their own. Don't be greedy to want to win too. In the long run they'll give back all their winnings to the game. Yahy!! I've said enough. 10 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Nobody: 7:24pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
poiunt:Abeg chop knuckle. Jet age period, everyone is in a hurry as if life is a race. |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by julybaba(m): 7:26pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
YoungandDepress: Please LEARN to FORGIVE yourself |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by K4daniel: 7:27pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Sir , until you surrender all to jesus life will be miserable.. there is a God in heaven who sees all. You are still young and have many years ahead. Talk to God in prayers, confess your sin and ask him to take over from here. You will smile again. |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by MichaelBlake40: 7:27pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
randomShek:I'm telling you bro let him stop doing these things abd there'll be improvement. |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by walkwithgod(m): 7:28pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Davidtolu1: Does learning how to write code automatically solve his problems ? It seems to be the new cool thing to do because everyone is doing it these days, lol. |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by LeeSantos(m): 7:28pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
well. in a simple word. GREED lead you to this part of life u Brought upon yourself. the life of those G-guys, big boys, artist you see is what your want( There's no body on earth that doesn't like the life of luxury, & I think there's no one who does more than I do seriously) but t head is u have to utilise to get to this and watch how your dream life unfold gently. as long as you can't take care of your greedy nature, mentally bout life, and where you want to see yourself 5-10years from now. u are still going to wallow in Ur present predicament. 1 Like |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Excuses: 7:28pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Every body here is emotional, passionate and sympathetic as best they could..you have been honest..too..what ever decisions you make..remember this: The greatest men in The world were once failures..but they got back to their feet.. Life is a storm my young friend u'll bask in the sunlight one moment,be shattered on the rocks the next. what makes you a man,is what u do when that storm comes.. Some people got involved in things, not as worst as u,2day they are no more..But u've the opportunity to print ur name in the sands of time and take ur place in history..the fates will know u as u've declared to day.. Some times it almost takes us losing what we've to make us realize how lucky we're to have it..now that u've assembled the pieces of life together, set ur priorities,goals, don't deviate..achieve them..see urself progressing.don't look back, hit d ground running.. Build a league of good friends, that will contribute positively to ur image & personality. always dress well&neatly too. learn healthier ways of interacting responsibly with everybody,this'll develop in u a good self esteem.don't shy away from good social functions.. ..U'll come back to nairaland soon with testimonies.. 2 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Palladium007: 7:29pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
GboyegaD: GboyegaD you said it all. This life is not a competition. And also work on your emotions (pride,fear). You can be a leader of this country one day. Whatever you're going through just know that JESUS loves you and care for you. |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by RIDOO: 7:30pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
OP,you are still alive today for a purpose.Life is d best gift given to us by God n dt is when other things follow Even if you can't fly or run,as far as you are still crawling you will still get there.The most dangerous thing is to standstill.Everyone have their own time n at d appointed time it shall be done. Many people go through depression that can't even identify what they are going through but since you have identified you are going through such, you can help yourself by seeing a therapist or self help You have to identify things that make u happy n run away from things dt make u sad.Also don't stay lonely .Occupy your time with things that can help u positively.. ie leaning a skill,working to earn something, working for the church,doing business etc When l graduated from d uni l used 7yrs for a4yr course without having any extra yr(courtesy of OAU) strikes, aluta n d likes but dt was history now.Sometimes d situations we find ourselfs make it look as if we are not relevant but believe me,as far as we still breathe we are miracles going somewhere to happen. Pls don't underrate the power of prayers. God still do wonders move closer to him...l speak peace to your life IJN Amen. |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by MichaelBlake40: 7:31pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Dohyn3:Since you are a writer, you could write for Opera News or even write novels and put them up for sale on Okada books |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by cedricksly: 7:31pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
YoungandDepress:I'm more angry because you don't know your life is just starting.... Early twenties of 23' and you are lamenting bitterly like you are 40 already... Have sense and stop feeling depressed because of what your age mate are achieving... You will come out good just be steadfast and hustle harder... Note: Life is an individual race, we are not in competition with anybody... That very time you wake up is your morning, even if it is 2pm... 1 Like |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Corroro: 7:31pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
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Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by gigante: 7:34pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Dannonye:Dm me, I'm starting one |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by kayourcome: 7:34pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
My guy! I no see anything miserable for your life oo. You that you are still very young and vibrant. You think say your case worst pass? Ok make I tell you small of mine. I did admission 4 times e no gree. I when I got offered, I had to wait for my younger ones to finish before I could enrol again. I gained admission when I was 26 and I am just serving at 30years. School days was hell. Some delays na to go to bed without meal. Even after service, I am still looking up to God to grand me a mouthwatering pay job so that I could take care of my younger one and my parents. I am the first born if you must know. Don't make yourself bored, what do you have interest in learn? Maybe tailoring, barbing, carpentry, weldering or even computer or ict works. Get yourself busy with what you have flair for and you will have less to think about. You fit beep me up make we talk on WhatsApp. 07035609248. I am kayode 1 Like |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by austino247: 7:34pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
My young man. The challenge you are faced with can not be overcome by u. You need something higher and that is God. I know you have lost faith in God. I want you to know that, it is the plan of devil to cut you off from your source in life. The bible says..how can a young man lead his way except the Lord directs him. Another scripture says, come unto me all of you who labour and are heavy laden, for I will give you rest. I want you to know that nothing has gone wrong with your life yet. Stop comparing and rather focus on drawing back to your creator who alone knows what he brought you into the earth with. God alone understands your situation. I was at home waiting for my older brothers to graduate from university when my mates were in final year. But today the story is different. Only God will heal you n restore all the wasted years in your life. My advise is for you to genuinely accept Jesus into your life and ask Him to lead you. Watch out what your life will turn out to. 1 Like |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by gigante: 7:35pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Xavfra: I'm good sir. Yes where there is right there's a remedy 1 Like |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Felix6: 7:35pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
internationalman:exactly, that is the real problem, he is ashamed to admit that. 1 Like |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by NaijaCover(m): 7:37pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
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Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by VTJN(m): 7:38pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Honestly i don't even know what to say, the comments display all over here indicate that we're all going through one form of difficulty or the other. @OP please dont take your life, be strong & push on. God will see u tru 2 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by ekerintee: 7:41pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
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Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by VTJN(m): 7:42pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
[quote author=Premiumwriter post=92513317]You want to fly when you're supposed to learn how to crawl. You want to fly when you have not even started crawling. I'm older than you and still about to start 100l. Go and learn a skill. Your parents are supportive... I have no parents but I don't sit inside pitying myself. I learned to write and buy all my clothes from the trade, give some money to my sisters for their cloths. Thank God my uncle helped with the skul fees. I'm currently using this holiday period to learn Python for programming. Just started yesterday self. The problem is you're lonely and bored and at the same time broke. Go and learn a trade and stop complaining about your life. You expect manna to fall from heaven abi you hear say money de waka cum meet people for house? Better start learning a trade and stop this pity story. I know guys on Facebook who dress better in the app than me, get more likes but beg me in real life for money. Bro hwfar |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by dantajay: 7:42pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
My brother you just came to the wrong place to vent ur frustration. Nairaland hmmm. Just wait and c their reply |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by diliekene: 7:42pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Wetin this guy dey talk my story is similar to but am way older than you bro believe me you have you whole life ahead of you calm down thank God you realize your mistake and you still got back into the university believe me it not the same for most of us you need to see the glass half full than half empty 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by itzElijah(m): 7:43pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
��� This thread is one of a kind... God Bless you all. Some part touched me 2 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Bar1941(m): 7:43pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
YoungandDepress: I never even knew I could finish this your long epistle, but as I read on it kept pushing me to read it further. What you are facing is what millions of Nigerians are facing or had faced in the past, I will just advice you to do your sincere best in whatever situation you found yourself and leave the rest to God henceforth, that is the secret to a meaningful life. Everyone has their time in life, when your time comes just use it wisely. I passed through double of what you are passing through even at a far older age, but when it is time, I achieved in 3years what many of my mates that I thought were doing well could not achieve in 15years after our graduation. Just be sincere to yourself like I earlier wrote and have a picture of what you want in life in your mind, God will help you. 1 Like 1 Share |
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