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Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Charlesdock(m): 8:51pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
gigante:You air our view bro. Every man has his story. |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by YoungandDepress: 8:52pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
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Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by DatProudIgboGuy: 8:52pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
So let me give you a brief Intro and Motivation Bro... I wrote Jamb 7times before I got admission, I passed all exams yet nothing to show and by this time most of my mates were graduates and some were even living their dream... I felt left out of life, but I worked as a factory worker for that 7years, survived till I got admission and when I did, no money for school fees(mind you I was not a waster,just not ready to give more details)... I wore 5shirts, 2 jean trousers and a Pam slippers for a year just to survive, slept in classrooms, mind you by then I was in my mid 20s, had to survive by doing bouncing jobs, working in construction sites and anything I could lay hands on to put food on my table... There was a time I had just N50 for 2weeks, no outside Jon's to feed and I survived.. After struggling to come out with a 2:1, no job for another 2years, started a Bizness and was duped, had to start working for 40k(2years) to pay off the debt accumulated via d dupe... Am in my 30s, Life has not been a bed of roses but we can all do better by not giving up... You can do better than me, You have age on your side, try n get mentally stable friends that have sense too... ✊✊✊ 2 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by YoungandDepress: 8:53pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Sysdatek: Please I'm very much interested I sent you a mail Thanks for reaching out Sir |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Lukayly: 8:56pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
This life ehn, e get as e be, mine isn't far from what you wrote tho, just that am not a gambler, infact have never tried it, it all happened when I lost my Dad. But we thank God anyway, we keep fighting the battle hoping tomorrow will be better. Please am open for any kind of legit hustle during this lockdown in case there is any, my location is kwara state, thanks in advance |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by earnit1: 8:57pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Nigeria makes most youth lose hope |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Mursz: 9:00pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Wear sunscreen “Metaphorically” Just relax, put your feet up, live your life. Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your Life. The most interesting people I know didn’t know at 25 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don’t Live your life, it is way ahead of you. Everything eventually falls into place, you’ll see. Excerpts from Baz Lurhmann “Sunscreen” 1 Like |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by byinks(f): 9:02pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
YoungandDepress: Kiddo you need to calm the heck down... What is your passion ? Can you find out ? Do that and dedicate the next two years of your life to that and ONLY That. You'll be a brand new person. Mind you, A lot of 40 year Olds are just as lost as you. Be grateful ! Be grateful Be grateful. That's the key. |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by internationalman(m): 9:02pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
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Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by juniorstar(m): 9:02pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
YoungandDepress:Bro... i understand your plight...from your write up.. u are a learned young man who has simply made some wrong choices in life. but thank God you are still 23. wat if you were 40 or even 50. it wud be worse than dis in 5 yrs your story can be different. i wud advise you to start as a freelancer on good sites like fivers or upwork. the pay would be low at first but with diligence and God on your side within a month you wud have a little something. in my view once you start earning no matter how small at first you would change your outlook about life. wishing u the best bro. |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by damoobaba: 9:03pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Dew04: Why you dey shadow d guy nah. You women of nowadays dont know more than sleeping around with boys |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by internationalman(m): 9:03pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
leeikem:But why the insult |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Benprass(m): 9:04pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
You alive is something to be thankful for, you will be fine, great man pass through this kind of process, dot just give you on what you want to become in life, for the sake of your mum keep your head up, I know is not easy but keep your faith alive, here try and download this message by APOSTLE Joshua selman LIMITATION OF MAN, if you can't download it drop you account details so that I can send you something to eat and buy data All will be well. |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by nkemdi89(f): 9:04pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Please channel your depression into learning a new skill, go and learn any computer related stuff or musical instruments. 1 Like |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Abiodunspectre(m): 9:05pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
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Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Nobody: 9:06pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
And you think you are alone in this?, Bro you are not... I understand u because I am also passing through the same thing, your challenges is even like a child when compared to mine... Your plan is to graduate b4 25, whereas I am 25 and I never graduate and I gained admission 7 years ago, just for 4yrs course, even though I am good if not the best, all I know is that the harder I read and work to be the best when studied, the higher my possibility of failure in that exams or test that I would be preparing for ( if only u can relate) despite the fact that I write well and also taught some of colleagues that lagged behind (well, that is another story for another day)... I am the firstborn of the family, my sister was still writing jamb when I was in part 2, she gained admission when I was in part 3 to the same university. She is now a graduate and should have gone 4 service if not 4 Corona virus but here I am still where I was more than 7 years ago.. All my friends in my days at secondary school and also university that saw me as a brilliant student, some would even told me they envy me are now a Graduates and some are done serving; one of them was even trying to make mockery of my predicament the other day we conversed on FB.... I know some readers will be thinking MAYBE SCHOOL Is NOT MEANT FOR You, MAYBE You Are Not Good ENOUGH; those itemized are what have being causing both mental and emotional trauma for me, if school is not meant for person like me then who is it meant for? I know that I am good, those that are not even as good as me have gone far academically and other aspects of life but me stuck in a single position for years, well that's another story for another scenario.... Bro, in a nutshell, where your own stops is where some people starts and the most hilarious thing is that I didn't have distraction of any kind, maybe betting or any kinds of social activities, I literally spent my life in library, receiving lectures, reading books and still has nothing to shows for it. This is just an excerpt of my past and present predicaments. People might be wondering what about learning some skills, I have been trying to do that too but no tools and money to do that, even though I seldom think if learning skills could also work. I am just also tired of everything. 2 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Yahksbiz(m): 9:07pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Nobody is free... U did nothing wrong to deserved such life, but not the gambling, not the dropped out nothing, you did absolute nothing. If those that do not gamble finish school still have more worse situations than yours. You need to start mental training Start thinking how you should do one thing to help someone, I know you need help, but think about it just change your mind and think about how you can help someone and walk towards that. it is not your fault, not gambling fault not school. Life will not leaves you until you are strong and wise. Except all your problems are on Money. But nothing has gone bad too late you still have time. You need to be motivated and not depressed. Not that I don't have my own stories oh, but I don't see it as depression I see it as a challenge... My mother is one of the reasons I am struggling so anytime I get tired I remember her I keep the struggle burning, she deserves a better life and I own her that. anytime I gone bothered even if I wear it that doesn't stop me from hunting my day. Don't asked me how I make money o, no money, I still borrowed money from my parent, but I am working on something, I am writing a book which I believe It will be a hit. I am working on my YouTube channel to make sure it make sense. I am still a student of........ Not saying my story man but I am never tired never give up nothing is the cause. Just be motivated 1 Like |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by YoungandDepress: 9:07pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
I'm overwhelmed by the encouragement I have gotten so far. I will dedicate this night to digest clearly all the comments from page 1. I have replied the mails I have gotten so far , I really appreciate everyone who has reached out to me. I can't describe how I'm feeling this night. I don't remember the last time I got so much attention like this and so much messages from anyone. God bless you all. 2 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by AfroKnight: 9:10pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Heartlessbanker: I feel it’s the age of retirement which is set at 60. 23 is still a good age to start life. I feel, if you can start your career before 30, you have a good chance at becoming an authority in that chosen field. |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Oladoyinipede: 9:13pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
My brother @op please calm down first.... your agitations might be overwhelming to you but when compared to that of others it's a child's play. You can't find your purpose at 23?what about men in their 30's or 40's whose only purpose is just to survive and live through each day.You are in 200level at 23?go to several fed.or state universities,you will see students of your elder brother's age hustling with you for front seats.. Forget about your friends, it's not Today that matters but Tommorow.you are young and promising,you have got alot of years ahead of you. Let your past fuel your desire to make something out of your life.If your family could still believe in you after all that's happened,it will be shameful for you to throw it all away and lose focus.you should be grateful, you got out of the mess.some people never do. You can't crave and agitate for a better life and still hold on to negative experiences.If you don't forgive yourself,no one will.A new chapter has been opened for you, don't soil it with regrets of the last one. Move close to God and his WORD,there is no substitute to this.SUICIDE SHOULD NEVER BE AN OPTION. 1 Like |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by RealEzee(m): 9:16pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
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Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by osazsky(m): 9:20pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
YoungandDepress:my dear nairaland is not where u share ur problem of depression.pls stop gambling.have u tried getting a job.even if it's a sale boy job.start from there keep urself busy.most of us who have finally made it if we share our story here u go know say ur own good.we cleared plots of lands while in sec sch cuz we needed to survive.labuke.salesboy etc.but last last.graduated from a pri unit.got an m.sc.today I work as a senior acc in a fed institution.. and also the owner of 2 companies.when government doesn't pay we aren't bordered...pls most persons that will advise u here are also depressed that's y u see them celebrating FTC at 36.some of them even do FTC baby shower.thanksgiving and bachelors FCT eve.gather ur self up shake it up and start from somewhere.note never remain idle even if its 1 month holiday look for where to hook up...failure is not an option.for the love of ur unborn children it shouldn't be an option.succes is not tied to credentials put potentials .a man's greatest potentials is in his ability to overcome himself .the first and best victory is to conquer yourself,,,Pluto.how u fall doesn't matter it's how u land.remove shame and learn any handiwork.lastlast salary na slavery u cant get rich with salaries. Sir pray.work on urself and u will be successful.pls nor reason Yahoo if u now wan die young we know how they all end up.nerver envy someone's illegitimate wealth it will definitely fade off cuz it wasnt built on something.hope this helps |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Jidesam01: 9:21pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Go and learn how to code, in 6 months your life will change. 2 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by chinchonglee(m): 9:24pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
YoungandDepress: Bro at 23 i was more useless... All dose ashawo wanted to ruin my life. At 26 i have a life.. Calm down bro.. infact many nigerians were useless at 23 |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Bbbwings: 9:27pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
I was at this stage in 2014. I still have some struggles now though. 1 Like |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by rockstar27(m): 9:28pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
my advice for u is that move closer to God and I promised u everything will be alright for u. don't hate anyone and stop stay alone move out and mingle with best people that can't add to your problems... God bless u and ur household |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Nobody: 9:30pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
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Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by benzion72(m): 9:31pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
In fact your own story give me hope, I think you should pray to your unknown God for help, you need to listen to Sam Adeyemi own frustration story it will help you |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Prettychild(f): 9:32pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
My dear, just calm down okay. But the first thing is that you need Jesus Christ in your life so that you can have peace. I have also gone through depression and felt like committing suicide on three occasions. But the thought of my Mum made me to rethink. It's only cowards who commit suicide. You are greater than your present circumstances and need to fight to get your feet back in life and destiny. |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Jerry299: 9:32pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
YoungandDepress: If I tell you my own story.. You go borrow money take do Thanksgiving |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by MOTIONTECH(m): 9:33pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
flyingpig:is it a competition? |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Ugomovic1(m): 9:35pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
This is my second time replying on this platform, wow.. thanks to everyone who contributed and reached out to him in their own way. My brother.. 1. Life is not perfect.. even till now every single person is searching for the meaning of life.. heck!! all through our lives we are searching for what life means.. I'll be 28 by next month.. am not half of where I want to be.. am a school drop out.. i couldn't finish my degree cuz of no money.. i had to look for a job after my nd just to support my family and since I've been working.. mind u i finished my nd since 2013.. 2. We all make mistakes.. I don't know you before but I feel u should know this.. we all make mistakes daily in our lives.. no one person is perfect.. mistakes are what makes life worth living. 3. Comparison.. my brother .. even me too I still fall for this shit.. it happens to both the rich and d poor. It happens.. u feel your life isn't any better when u see someone u know making it and climbing heights.. Lol but my bro.. if u should hear their own story.. u go thank God for your own.. 4. Keep the faith.. am sure you've heard of the quote that Faith moves mountain? You are alive now.. u are still very young.. bro.. I finished my n.d .. when I went back to stay with my parents my dad only drops 50 naira for me make I take hold body any day of the week.. am the first born and only son.. Lol.. and u have elderly siblings.. u don't know what u have..nobody depend on u bro.. I would kill to have elderly siblings.. but I had faith that things would change and dat alone took me forward.. Brother.. no body has a perfect life.. but life is all about Stages.. you are in this phase of your life. I can only tell u to be thankful.. cuz life is uncertain.. u don't know what will happen in the next minute... Cheer up bro.. pls don't feel like u are all alone in this world.. alot of people are praying to have what u currently have..trust God even if u still get doubt and see what will happen.. I promise u. 1 Like |
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