flyingpig:
yes I want to discuss privately with him to let him know of my own conditions, he thinks he's having it tough, wait till he hears my own story. I can't share it here. Maybe he'll feel special after hearing worse stories. Pm me bro.

Pls are you AkeNathan? You write like him and we kinda have the same story.

JBoss25:
I have a strong heart that will never happen, I've been through alot.

Okay o. Don't say you were not warned.

Ishilove:

Okay o. Don't say you were not warned.

I'm sure you're the type to advice person to start forex, there's no difference between forex and betting, you better open your eyes, all investments are risky. If you want to make it for this life you have to take risks.

I didn't really have any idea either, I just kept doing the things that I loved doing or attracted to until I became very good at some of them and today I am being paid to do them. Just follow your heart, you'll figure it out eventually.

annayawchee:
If only you know there are people who walked with burden more heavier than yours, you will fall down and thank God.....

You goofed your first admission ba??

Still got another and you have parents who are willing to spend on you...

Put yourself in the shoes of smarter kids who had no one to pay their tuition ..

Be grateful!!!

He forgot that there are people he is still better than!

In this life eh, no one should give up. Anyone wey give up eh, na him f**K up.

the economy is hard but I know a way you can make money, please this is only for serious people, if you are tech savvy and can write good grammar.

I have a job for you. WhatsApp me 0 9 0 2 4 6 2 4 9 9 7

YoungandDepress:


I regret my past daily. I think about it all the time but it does me no good. I have accepted my fate and moved on but like they say the evil that men do surely lives with them.
I'm suffering from the consequences of what I brought upon myself and pray life gets better for me.

Thank you for your advice.

bro can you send me a whatsapp message? i would like to tell you something that changed my life and it changes every life i tell, people dont usually see or tell it but i will tell you

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Take it easy. Doesn't mean you are a failure. Every one have their story and if I tell you how mine was at that stage you'll know you are really going somewhere. Just stay focus on the positive, embrace every moment and be prohative. You can if you determine.

YoungandDepress:
My story is quite a sad and long one.
I wish I could write it all out. My life has been a terrible mess.
Where did it go wrong for me, I have no idea.

I am writing with so much emotion, my heart is full and heavy.
Life is bitter.

I am a 23 years old guy.
My life all started to go in the negative direction when I gained admission at age 16.
A 16 years old boy in the university, so much freedom and exposure.
I messed up my life, I became addicted to bet9ja virtual gambling I lost focus, Gambling killed me, I started failing exams, at the end I dropped out without my parents Knowing, but the truth came out when I was supposed to graduate, I could not hide it anymore. I told them the truth, my parents forgave me like the prodigal son.

They still believed in me especially my mom, she keeps reminding me of how intelligent I used to be.

Well I'm not here to talk about my past life but here to talk about how it is still affecting me today.

Ever since I started university all over again, I have been miserable and frustrated. Nothing has been working in my favour. I'm currently now in 200level hoping to graduate before 25.
All my mates I started with have done their NYSC.

I'm still stuck in the same stage.
I have no idea what I am doing with my life. I'm young, broke and depressed. I get irritated over little things. I feel disgust at how I uselessed my youthful life. How gambling destroyed me.

By the grace of whichever god exists, I am no longer addicted to gambling. I have quit the addiction for almost a year now but nothing changed, I still feel miserable. I hate having people around me even my family members including my mom.

I have no true friends. Nobody checks on me, nobody calls me.

At this age, I can't boast of having 500 naira in my account.
I'm broke and miserable.

I have started hating God and question my belief in God. I hate Sunday's. I hate hearing about God, I don't blame God for my troubles but I'm angry at the fact that despite my parents being dedicated Christians, things are not working well in my family.
My elder ones are graduates, but no solid job yet.

Only my eldest brother who is doing quite well now and I thank God for his life but we don't talk. I can't remember the last time I called him on phone. They don't hate me, I hate myself.
I have disappointed them a lot.


I just lost the last #1000 I had in my life today and I cried. The money fell out my pocket when I went to get something.

At 23 years, I have no idea what I will do with my future.
I still live with my parents and I have never rented an apartment of my own even in school.

What is wrong with me, why am I miserable?

I have no good clothes. My clothes are all worn out.
I have nothing doing, i live off my parents.

Since schools were shut down, I have been at home doing nothing.
Completely broke, damaged and miserable.

Can my life be any better. What do I do. I am depressed.
I keep asking myself these questions but there
Seem to be no answer.

My guy, rush no dey this life o, you dey hear me?? Take am jeje... You don reach stage 1; you've identified that you are no longer happy with the situation you find yourself, now the next step would be to figure out how to change your things that you don't like for the better, abi no be so?

And as a fellow young man (21 yrs) from a low income Nigerian family like you, I want to just give you small advice, very small advice o, and my advice to you is to get busy, figure out whatever you need to do to get busy during this period that you are home, maybe you could start getting involved in little things (not crime o) just little things here and there, maybe programming like somebody suggested or computer repairs or cutting hair, anything small that can keep you busy for the time being... Gather mind and STAY COMMITTED o , because in the beginning e go still look hopeless just keep forging ahead, and check out,in little to no time you would have learnt a life long skill that you could rely on to take care of yourself and your bills with.

Forget girlfriend at this point in your life or if you get 1 real one wey understand, good for you, otherwise just forget women and anything wey go dey make you spend stupidly until you are financially capable for those things...

And most importantly, NO DEY COMPARE YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE!!

My guy just run this thing well and check out in a few months you go dey dash people money...

Damnnnnn niggarrr
Isoright

too bad bro.talk to a counsellor

Honestly,its not hard to understand how you feel,I've been there and I'm still there..You just need to Trust God. Trusting him to be in charge of your life and take control..Do that and see peace come into your life

BeLookingIDIOT:
This one has close to 500 naira in his account and he's complaining.

Guy you be fool����

I didn't mean to laugh but the comment funny die.

Op,take most of the advice giving to you here.I also think you need genuine friends in your life that you guys will constantly brain storm about anything and everything.

I know that hopelessness feeling,I think we all have been there at one point in our life.

Suicide is never an option bro and quit entertaining those thoughts.

Since my time on NL,I have never seen so much out pour of genuine concern and encouragement on any post from all genders.

Its touching and unbelievable,I wish you the best.

You will come back to this post and laugh someday.

Keep pushing and believing.

YoungandDepress:

I know the sins of my past are catching up with me. Karma is hitting me from all directions.
I see my mates riding nice cars, living in their rented apartment, I cry.

Most of my classmates I finished secondary school with are now responsible graduates and here I am, stuck in 200level.

I see them in the street and I hide myself in shame and disgrace because I can't answer the catching up questions.

I still ask 500 naira from my parents just to go out.

I stayed through out the month of June without earning even one thousand naira by myself.

Sometimes I curse the day I was born and why I came through a mid level family and not a rich family.

God has abandoned me. I can't remember the last time I prayed. Not that I even care now.
I am turning into an atheist because of my frustrations.

Sometimes I think why not just die and end it all, I mean we are all going to die one day so what is the point, but then I think of my family and the shame it will bring upon them and at the same time I think what if I die and heaven and hell is real. It's funny how the thought of hell keeps me going and trying to do good with my life when I don't really believe in God anymore.


Safe to say, my suicidal tendencies are very low to non existent but I hope I have the courage to keep pushing. I hope one day, I just don't loose it completely.

Even my phone I am using to type this has a damaged screen which I'm half managing but it is what it is, I have no funds to fix it and no relative to help.

I mean I'm just here watching the days go by, taking evening walks around the neighborhood and thinking how my life would have been if I didn't mess it up or did all these happen to me so I can be a testimony to others if life decides to smile on me?
I have no idea.

I'M JUST A YOUNG, BROKE, MISERABLE AND DEPRESSED MAN.

I PRAY MY SOUL FINDS THE PEACE THAT IT DESPERATELY SEEKS.


I just wanted to table my emotions here and vent out all the frustrations in my head because I have no one to talk deep with me. I hope to find little relief and seek solace in the peace of others.

Hello. I smiled while reading this. Sounds exactly like my story. I was at this point some years ago. If you need someone to talk with, kindly PM.

God, see..

At 23, you are already in uni (300l) and you are complaining

At 23, i'm currently an hustler earning 10K a month with hard labour. ( I no get option, I have to feed myself)
At 23, I'm just a guy with secondary school certificate.
At 23, I can't boast of having 30K in my account
At 23, I eat once or twice a day. Sometimes na garri I go soak and ulcer don nearly finish me.
At 23, I have brothers looking up to me but I no get shigbain whenever I need to assist them financially.

See, if I continue ground go full..

My background isn't rosy at all, we just have to keep pushing maybe one day God go show us mercy!

YoungandDepress:




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gigante:

Dm me, I'm starting one

Send the link here

I feel your pain my friend.... Sorry, I can't write but if you text me, I'll call you. I would like to talk to you; please text me. 08039655290.

YoungandDepress:

I know the sins of my past are catching up with me. Karma is hitting me from all directions.
I see my mates riding nice cars, living in their rented apartment, I cry.

Most of my classmates I finished secondary school with are now responsible graduates and here I am, stuck in 200level.

I see them in the street and I hide myself in shame and disgrace because I can't answer the catching up questions.

I still ask 500 naira from my parents just to go out.

I stayed through out the month of June without earning even one thousand naira by myself.

Sometimes I curse the day I was born and why I came through a mid level family and not a rich family.

God has abandoned me. I can't remember the last time I prayed. Not that I even care now.
I am turning into an atheist because of my frustrations.

Sometimes I think why not just die and end it all, I mean we are all going to die one day so what is the point, but then I think of my family and the shame it will bring upon them and at the same time I think what if I die and heaven and hell is real. It's funny how the thought of hell keeps me going and trying to do good with my life when I don't really believe in God anymore.


Safe to say, my suicidal tendencies are very low to non existent but I hope I have the courage to keep pushing. I hope one day, I just don't loose it completely.

Even my phone I am using to type this has a damaged screen which I'm half managing but it is what it is, I have no funds to fix it and no relative to help.

I mean I'm just here watching the days go by, taking evening walks around the neighborhood and thinking how my life would have been if I didn't mess it up or did all these happen to me so I can be a testimony to others if life decides to smile on me?
I have no idea.

I'M JUST A YOUNG, BROKE, MISERABLE AND DEPRESSED MAN.

I PRAY MY SOUL FINDS THE PEACE THAT IT DESPERATELY SEEKS.


I just wanted to table my emotions here and vent out all the frustrations in my head because I have no one to talk deep with me. I hope to find little relief and seek solace in the peace of others.

I have been in your shoes before, broke , depressed with lamentations but I learnt a secret to life. The difference between a rich man and a poor man is while one is very optimistic the other is pessimistic . The poor man who is pessimistic always feel something bad will go wrong if he should do or attempt something while the rich feels he could hit a jackpot if he tried something, in fact he is excited about trying new things. That is why a wise rich man will always want to invest cos he knows he will either fail and lose money or hit the jackpot and become richer.
You need to work on your mind first, it’s tough but you can do it. Please stop lamenting about how much of a failure you think you are, stop saying you wish you were from a rich background, it’s a cage in the mind that limits the physical because our thoughts attracts anything we see in physical

Solution:
I need you to work on a routine for one month , it may sound stupid but as they say “there is no harm in trying”. Get a mirror, look into the mirror and look at yourself deeply, you need a medium sized mirror or a large mirror to achieve this, if you don’t have one, find it.
Look at yourself and tell your self truthfully the things you don’t like about yourself ,what you want to change in your life and why. When you start this therapy, you may not understand it’s effect but with time you will see.
Secondly, you wish you are from a rich home. Why not start reading books written by rich people and connect to what made them rich through your mind cos last last the Bible no lie when it says “as a man thinketh in his heart so is he” . If you think you are poor and miserable, you will continue to manifest in being more poor .




I really appreciate that you poured out your heart for help. It shows you can heal fast and be great.

gigante:
Brother please calm down, like you I'm a law undergraduate in 300 level at the same age with you. Yes admission frustrated me, i sat for jamb 4/5 times. Please calm down.

As for broke, aren't we undergraduates all broke? I know you feel like a failure but please calm down. Are you on WhatsApp? Can we talk privately?

Modified: Seeing as this has blown up and I'm seeing lots of younger people in the same shoes all depressed, and I'm getting lots of pms, i would like to offer an opportunity, where you pm me, and i will create a WhatsApp forum for us to share opportunities to each other. If you don't think it's a good idea please ignore, thanks.

PS: I have no ulterior motives, just a young person wishing to impact lives.

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JBoss25:
Uncle, stop making betting look so bad, people have really made money out of betting if you don't know, if you're talking about virtual then i agree with you because you will not gain anything and you'll constantly be losing your money. This week alone i've made a profit of 150k+ from 2 sure odds from a good punter, if you strategize well you can make a living out of it, I'm 22 now and i believe by the end of this year i'll be a millionaire from betting, in this life you have to be smart, there are many punters that can predict 2odd without failing and it's not hard to find them. People potray betting as bad but those who do that always play big odds that is why they keep losing, if you subscribe to a good punter you'll win weekly and that's a fact

Your choice.

KingPipmarshall:



I understand how you feel because I have been through such thoughts before. We age mates.

At 19, I lost my mom, few months later I lost my friend. At 22 I got withdrawn from pharmacy school in the university.

I hated myself and didn't like the way things were going. I stopped believing in God and many things. I accepted my fate.

Here are the things I did that got me on a journey to achieving my goals.

1) I asked myself, what is my purpose ( I don't have the answer yet)
2) I found a hobby that got me engaged and active( forex trading). Learn a high income skill, you can get free courses on udemy.com
3) I started early morning workouts. 6am-6:30am( health is wealth)
4) I set goals( gave me a sense of something to aim for each month)
5) I cut away my friends, family and stopped watching TV( only your parents care about you)
6) I started reading ( after my withdrawal from. Pharmacy school, I had all the time in the world and I read somewhere that readers are leaders. I don't know if that is true)

Also you are 23 for Christ sake...no one expects you to have a car or a millionaire naira in your name. The time is on your side, you have 30, 40, 50 and many more years to celebrate on earth.

My step mom gave me this advice: " The foundation of a sky scraper goes deep into the ground, you don't know what plans God has for your life"

Face your challenges SQUARELY. Stop visiting nairaland, visit Quora.com instead.

I hope this helps

Does forex pay well? Fresh graduate looking for something to be earning while we search for that job

Regex:


Hey buddy.. We are in the same boat. Funny right? Nope. Shall we talk? Zero Eight 0 Seven Five Seven Six 4 One Five Eight.

If I slap you.... what do both of you want to talk about? You want to share your depressing stories together and end up hurting yourselves. You both don’t need each other right now, you need help to overcome this stage in your lives.

Charmingrascal:



Firstly you are blaming God for what you did to yourself.

Questioning God why your life is like this after you admitted to have wasted a golden opportunity of getting admission into the University at a very tender age of 16.
Let me tell you God shouldn't be blamed for ur failure, blame urself and retrace ur steps.

It is normal to feel depressed but don't allow depression overwhelm u.
Get a handwork that you can learn within six months, you are always depressed because you are alone and doing nothing.

There is always a second chance, some people even get up to Fifth chances.
The second chance you have now is ur mum who still believe in you and still finance ur education even after messing up at first she wants you to be great.
I remember when I had extra year because of my project supervisor who hated me so much it was only my mum who believed in me, even some of my siblings believed the issue I had was more than project they believed I have been expelled or perhaps I had many carry overs which I was hiding from them but only my mum believed me like ur mum is doing now (Mothers are worth more than gold).

So my friend take the advice I have giving you and let me also remind you that don't let any girl distract you, that was one of the mistakes I made then.

The fact is if you are able to graduate from Nigeria University without bowing to peer pressure of smoking, partying, gambling, womanizing, and joining any fraternity then nothing can change you again.

My guy we all make mistakes but don't let ur past weigh u down.
The future is bright, make Mama proud.

With love from the side

Herald is that you?

CALM DOWN. You are alive, THANK GOD FOR YOUR LIFE! People younger and older than you are dead, and wished they were still alive now cos they had so much planned to achieve on Earth! Thank the Lord for LIFE!!!!

Thanks to your good parents, esp your mom.

Never gamble again, never commit that evil crime-suicide, NEVER.

Listen,some tried Jamb for 7 seven years or more before giving up: That song says- 'COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS AND NAME THEM ONE BY ONE'

Heed advice of gigante, flyingpig, and the others like ZINIBANKS, they and others are ready to assist you. Even your eldest brother will help you, Phone him, wish him happy weekend, Happy Sunday, etc.Dont ask for anything, then you'll see him asking you how much to help u with etc.

FINALLY, God Almighty has kept you alive; told you to make this NLand post; He also TOLD moderators to push it to FrontPage; He (GOD) Loves you, young man! You just have been listening to the devil that God is indifferent to you....LIES !! If He does, I can tell you that you will not be breathing NOW! Thank God first for LIFE!!!

Repent, worship God, thank Him and Read His Holy WORD! Then see His MIGHTY HAND in your life.
I thank God for you man. Be wise. CHEERS!

paulolee:
I went to play ball with my guys last sunday and a guy refused playing because he was very Hungry and sounds soo depressed saying he wants to end his life, we gathered money for him to eat, up to 2k and asked him to keep the change..
but he got the shocker when my team captain told him the story of his elder bro is in prison for 15yrs now because he was with 2 of his neighbors watching football in a bar when trouble happened, there was a little argument as they were watching the match and one of his friend ended up stabbing and killing the only son of a military man...
presently two of the guys are awaiting trial till now because one of them died due to health complications...
the school refused pleading for them saying that they are cultist and the painful part about the story was that the military man letter died since last 6 years leaving the case on pending and now they have nobody to plead because the wife died while birthing the late boy...na GOD hand the matter still de like this, thats if they are still in good condition..

Dude that story heavy ooo

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Young03:
@23 yrs your complaining


If u know what most of us in our 30s are seeing.

you will just be praising God.


Can u stay 24hrs without food.
whereas u have house rent, light bill to pay

God bless you bro

Futurejoy:

If I slap you.... what do both of you want to talk about? You want to share your depressing stories together and end up hurting yourselves. You both don’t need each other right now, you need help to overcome this stage in your lives.

Do you know if I've overcome mine and want to share with him how I overcame mine?

Or if I want to direct him to the person who helped me overcome mine?

Stop acting on your emotions like it's your only resort. Try logic first.

Text me on this number 07013266928 what's the name(your name) am Edward though

Please am new to nairaland and am interested in joining the whatsapp group@gigante and others hw can I PM

Pick up the pieces and move on. Don't dwell in the past, be optimistic about thr future and take meaningful actions. Add prayers to it and God will bless you.