Today, I told my wife to start feeding our 18 month old son sma baby milk once a day so he could take in all the necessary nutrients from the milk since he was never breast fed.

Note: he eats cerelac in the morning, yoghurt at 12 noon, Eba/Amala at 4pm and cerelac again in the night. I mentioned to her to find a way to feed him sma milk at least once a day but instead she started arguing with me.

What do i do?

Haaaa this your wife get as e be ooo


The elders are on their way...

Patience bro. most women are like that na to just manage her as we dey manage our own las las d pikin go grow.

Ahmed0336:
Patience bro. most women are like that na to just manage her as we dey manage our own las las d pikin go grow.

I'm tired of the patience,i bought a box of the sma milk.

take heart.
try to advise her .

Give her a helping hand in feeding the baby, from there introduce your sma..

its not by shouting or giving order, calmly explain to her, like someone said, advise her.

Just 18 months old baby and you are already tired of wifey?

Brace up for more impact sir.

culf:
its not by shouting or giving order, calmly explain to her, like someone said, advise her.

I don't even shout,i bought the milk myself and i work 8-5pm...i definitely help weekends but she just wants her way.

Why wasn't d baby breast fed?

Patience and understanding my man.

HOME UPKEEP MONEY, HOW MUCH SHOULD A MAN GIVE HIS WIFE?

A must read for every couple.

Last Friday evening, I decided to gulp down a couple of beer bottles at a joint before going home after a hard day's work.

Sitting next to my table were these two guys whose discussion was almost disturbing the rest of the people in the bar. One seem to be bitterly complaining to his friend about his wife. "My wife wan kill me", "she too like money", "she is too demanding, infact I am tired of her nonsense.

From his utterances and countenance you will know he just finished a fight with his wife before coming to the bar. Probably the friend called him out in other to quell the situation.

The friend was trying to calm him down. Johny cool down nah, what is the matter? I thought you and your wife have out grown these constant fights that have almost become a ritual. Ahh ahh, be a man, calm down and tell me what happened.

Then the man started, could you imagine? before I use to give my wife N30,000 as the home Upkeep money. She was complaining that the money was not enough. then she will be asking for small small money untill next Upkeep money. One day I came back from work to discover that NEPA has cut our light because she failed to pay. I was not happy because I have already given her the monthly Upkeep, when I asked, she said there is no money. Then I decided to take up the payment of NEPA bills which is about N5000 per month. The next month she still complained and we quarreled as usual.

To make her happy, I increased the monthly Upkeep to N45,000. To my surprise, I came back today, just barely three weeks after giving her the money and she continued with her usual way of demanding for more money. That's why I have to beat her up.

Even though, I was keenly listening to their conversation, they did not care. Considering the way he was glancing at me from time to time, it seems he wouldn't care if I say something.

Then, I adjusted closer, and assisted his friend in calming him down. After calming him down, I asked him, how many children do you have, he answered 4, then I asked, do you have a house help, he said yes, I also asked, is there any other person living in your house, he said yes, his wife's sister is living with them. That is a total of 6 people, if he is added, there will be total of 7 people living in the house.

I now asked him to get his calculator. That I am going to teach him a simple calculation that will surprise him, and help him manage his family. He brought out his mobile phone and opened the calculator.

Then, I asked him, how much do you think is the cost of one plate of home made food. i.e. food prepared in the home without additional Restaurant cost. He thought about it for a while but couldn't come up with a figure.

Then I wadded in and told him, let's say a plate of home made food costs N100, which you know is impossible because an average home made food for a low income family should cost between N150 to N300 depending on the quality.

If one person consumes N100 per meal, then s/he will consume N300 in a day, if he takes breakfast, lunch and dinner.

That means s/he will consume N300 x 30 =9,000 in a month. He was pressing the calculator without knowing were I am driving at.

N9,000 x the six (6) people in your house = N54,000 excluding you. If your cost is added, let's say it's not up to N,9000 because you don't usually eat lunch in the house. Let's say it is N200 x 30 dayss = N6,000 if your lunch money is excluded.

Then the total food cost in your house per month = N60,000, that is, if a plate is N100. Remember that a plate of food can never be N100.

If the average cost is N150, then you should be thinking of N90,000 per month as the food money for your home. Remember, we have not considered other expenses.

If the average cost is N200, which is still not too costly for a good home made meal, then you should be thinking of N120,000 per month as the food money for your family.

At this point, the man was looking at me in utter surprise with his mouth wide open.

The friend immediately cut in awe, thank you my brother, thank you my brother, you are God sent, I have been telling this my friend that women hardly waste money but he never agrees.

He started calling the bar man , abeg bring a bottle of beer for this our friend, infact bring two at a time and a plate of perper soup for him.

I now asked the man to call his wife immediately and apologise to her, which he obliged, men have ego issues but not in this case because he have realised how wrong he was.

He called the wife and said "Babe, I am so sorry for hitting you, please forgive me. I have realised my mistake, please forgive, At this point we can hear the faint voice of his wife crying and sobbing at the other end. We asked him to invite her over. He begged her and told her the name of the joint we are in. Though the wife initially refused but his friend took the phone and asked her to come that we will be eagerly waiting to meet her. Then she agreed. The husband took the phone again and asked her to take Keke drop.

In the next 20mins she was with us. And we all apologized to her and narrated to her about our calculation, how she is so right. We could see a wave of inner joy that engulfed her. Then smile showed up on her face and she leaned on her husband's shoulder.

Then, I ordered for Fish Berbecue while the friend was ordering for more drinks.

We all went home happy.

Women are indeed amazing, they try much hard to keep the home going without little or no appreciation. When they go to market, they will price and price and will not hesitate to go round the whole market to ensure they are buying at the best price.

Men, let us appreciate our women a little, please.
Kindly share widely to bring peace in various homes.

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My son has so many brand new clothes but he wears old rag looking clothes,i told her about this too but she argued.This happened some weeks ago.

newace:
My son has so many brand new clothes but he wears old rag looking clothes,i told her about this too but she argued.This happened some weeks ago.

Involve her parents bro

Tomblaize:


Involve her parents bro

Her mum told her something similar when she came to nurse the boy,but she was arguing with her mum too..at some point her mum reported her to her family members(Aunties,Uncles etc) im just fed up tbh

Return her back to her parents house, she's not wife material. How dare she tell you how to feed a baby she carried for nine months and nurtured till 18 months?

Send her packing jor, go and marry another woman that will take care of the baby she didn't carry so she can feed the baby according to your specification. If the new wife doesn't comply, send her packing and marry yet another woman.

Keep marrying new ones till they are ready to do a better job than the actual mother of the child.

Come back and tell us how it goes.

WandaMaximoff:
Return her back to her parents house, she's not wife material. How dare she tell you how to feed a baby she carried for nine months and nurtured till 18 months?

Send her packing jor, go and marry another woman that will take care of the baby she didn't carry so she can feed the baby according to your specification. If the new wife doesn't comply, send her packing and marry yet another woman.

Keep marrying new ones till they are ready to do a better job than the actual mother of the child.

Come back and tell us how it goes.

I have left her to do what she wants though its not what i want. But that'll be my last child with her.

newace:
I have left her to do what she wants though its not what i want. But that'll be my last child with her.

Like I said, send her back home and marry someone else.

I don't get how a mother won't know what's best for her child.

newace:
I have left her to do what she wants though its not what i want. But that'll be my last child with her.

Just because of that?
I guess that commenter is just being sarcastic.

WandaMaximoff:


Like I said, send her back home and marry someone else.

I don't get how a mother won't know what's best for her child.

Not all mothers know whats best for their kids,the boy cries heavily when he poos which happens once in 2-3 days...the dr advised us to stop cerelac but my son's mother knows best.Like i said i'll have 3 more kids but he's my last child with her.

VLTA:


Just because of that?
I guess that commenter is just being sarcastic.

I know he/she is being sarcastic but i have made up my mind to end the marriage.I can't spend the rest of my life with a woman that doesn't listen to me or to her mum or to dr's advise.

newace:
Not all mothers know whats best for their kids,the boy cries heavily when he poos which happens once in 2-3 days...the dr advised us to stop cerelac but my son's mother knows best.Like i said i'll have 3 more kids but he's my last child with her.

My previous comments were sarcastic, I hope you saw through it. Mothers go through a lot nursing their children and no mother will deliberately put her child in harm's way. Tbh, most kids would have stopped breastfeeding at that age and would be on pap or solids.

I'd suggest you talk to an elderly woman she respects or take her to seek counselling.

There are more issues to worry about in marriage than issues like this. If you're getting tired over this small issue, wetin u go come do if one wey big pass this one come?

You don't sound like you still love your wife. Is there a problem like that?

WandaMaximoff:


My previous comments were sarcastic, I hope you saw through it. Mothers go through a lot nursing their children and no mother will deliberately put her child in harm's way. Tbh, most kids would have stopped breastfeeding at that age and would be on pap or solids.

I'd suggest you talk to an elderly woman she respects or take her to seek counselling.

There are more issues to worry about in marriage than issues like this. If you're getting tired over this small issue, wetin u go come do if one wey big pass this one come?

You don't sound like you still love your wife. Is there a problem like that?

My only take from this marriage is never marry a woman that doesn't live with or respect her mum.I can't love a woman that doesn't listen to me or to her mum or to dr's advise...she lacks common sense.

newace:
My only take from this marriage is never marry a woman that doesn't live with or respect her mum.I can't love a woman that doesn't listen to me or to her mum or to dr's advise...she lacks common sense.

A woman can live with her mum or respect her mum and still hold strong opinions that are opposite to her mum's.

WandaMaximoff:


A woman can live with her mum or respect her mum and still hold strong opinions that are opposite to her mum's.

Even when her mum says exactly what the dr says..trust me if you dont respect ur mum,you can't respect anyone.

newace:
My son has so many brand new clothes but he wears old rag looking clothes,i told her about this too but she argued.This happened some weeks ago.

I don't blame people that says marry your class, why will a mother prefer to wear rags for her child Background truly matters when choosing a spouse.

WandaMaximoff:
Return her back to her parents house, she's not wife material. How dare she tell you how to feed a baby she carried for nine months and nurtured till 18 months?

Send her packing jor, go and marry another woman that will take care of the baby she didn't carry so she can feed the baby according to your specification. If the new wife doesn't comply, send her packing and marry yet another woman.

Keep marrying new ones till they are ready to do a better job than the actual mother of the child.

Come back and tell us how it goes.

If at all he'd understand ur sarcasm.
Marriage is not for everyone o... Not kids especially.
Keep coming to NL to update us on ur failure as a husband o don't go and make your young home work be seeking validation from NL where even yaba patients are members.

Find a way to talk to that woman. She cant be difficult. The love u have for that child no reach her own, so try and understand her point of view and reach a peaceful conclusion.

Biglittlelois:



I don't blame people that says marry your class, why will a mother prefer to wear rags for her child Background truly matters when choosing a spouse.

You just said exactly what i refused to say.

WandaMaximoff:


A woman can live with her mum or respect her mum and still hold strong opinions that are opposite to her mum's.

The child is constipated which is why he cries when shitting, once in 3 days o... Adults are supposed to have bowel movement 2 to three times a day, how much less a toddler?

punisha:




If at all he'd understand ur sarcasm.
Marriage is not for everyone o... Not kids especially.
Keep coming to NL to update us on ur failure as a husband o don't go and make your young home work be seeking validation from NL where even yaba patients are members.

Find a way to talk to that woman. She cant be difficult. The love u have for that child no reach her own, so try and understand her point of view and reach a peaceful conclusion.

there's nothing to understand..she refused to do what the doctor,her mother and I say.I saw the signs,never marry anyone(man or woman) that disrespects his/her mum.

Ishilove:

The child is constipated which is why he cries when shitting, once in 3 days o... Adults are supposed to have bowel movement 2 to three times a day, how much less a toddler?

That woman needs therapy or better education. She doesn't need her husband to be saying he's tired of her.

newace:
Not all mothers know whats best for their kids,the boy cries heavily when he poos which happens once in 2-3 days...the dr advised us to stop cerelac but my son's mother knows best.Like i said i'll have 3 more kids but he's my last child with her.

And if the next woman decides to feed your second child with pap and amala, you'd divorce her and move on to the next one right? You ain't maritally mature yet.