If she wouldn't give him the milk, do the milk yourself and give it to the baby.

Just remember to burp the baby after feeding.

NADA

Ahmed0336:
Patience bro. most women are like that na to just manage her as we dey manage our own las las d pikin go grow.

U just sound like an average naija papa

WandaMaximoff:
Return her back to her parents house, she's not wife material. How dare she tell you how to feed a baby she carried for nine months and nurtured till 18 months?

Send her packing jor, go and marry another woman that will take care of the baby she didn't carry so she can feed the baby according to your specification. If the new wife doesn't comply, send her packing and marry yet another woman.

Keep marrying new ones till they are ready to do a better job than the actual mother of the child.

Come back and tell us how it goes.

VLTA:
Give her a helping hand in feeding the baby, from there introduce your sma..

great advice. My son is about 10 days old I have fed him several times already I can't remember. When you help the woman, she will be forced to follow your advice. Don't leave everything for the woman, learn to carry your baby early, feed him or her early and help your wife as well but don't forget you are a man, the father lead from the front.

punisha:




If at all he'd understand ur sarcasm.
Marriage is not for everyone o... Not kids especially.
Keep coming to NL to update us on ur failure as a husband o don't go and make your young home work be seeking validation from NL where even yaba patients are members.

Find a way to talk to that woman. She cant be difficult. The love u have for that child no reach her own, so try and understand her point of view and reach a peaceful conclusion.

Where did you read that from? The father's love for a child can be more that the mother.

Women sees love as feelings while men sees love as action.

You can't love a child and be doing what his harmful to the child. Is that what you call love - going against doctor's prescription?

newace:
Today, I told my wife to start feeding our 18 month old son sma baby milk once a day so he could take in all the necessary nutrients from the milk since he was never breast fed.

Note: he eats cerelac in the morning, yoghurt at 12 noon, Eba/Amala at 4pm and cerelac again in the night. I mentioned to her to find a way to feed him sma milk at least once a day but instead she started arguing with me.

What do i do?

why no breast feeding?

Ogaga87:


You people should sort it out yourself.. Not serious to make way to Nairaland.. If I'm your wife, I won't cook for you for ten days.. Yeye man

yes then you'll pack your load to your fathers house and start cooking for him

newace:
You just said exactly what i refused to say.

Have you ever thought of taking her to a psychiatrist/psychologist most women develop postnatal depression and develop hatred or signs of hatred towards there baby, maybe she isn't in her right sense now and might need a help of a shrink.

newace:
Today, I told my wife to start feeding our 18 month old son sma baby milk once a day so he could take in all the necessary nutrients from the milk since he was never breast fed.

Note: he eats cerelac in the morning, yoghurt at 12 noon, Eba/Amala at 4pm and cerelac again in the night. I mentioned to her to find a way to feed him sma milk at least once a day but instead she started arguing with me.

What do i do?

Your baby has outgrown sma gold. Look for age appropriate milk for your child! THERE ARE PEAK 123,Dabo follow on milk etc. Must be full cream.

What your child needs is a milk for 1 plus and not Sma. His nutritional needs has outgrown itJust feed your child well. There's nothing that will happen.

WandaMaximoff:
Return her back to her parents house, she's not wife material. How dare she tell you how to feed a baby she carried for nine months and nurtured till 18 months?

Send her packing jor, go and marry another woman that will take care of the baby she didn't carry so she can feed the baby according to your specification. If the new wife doesn't comply, send her packing and marry yet another woman.

Keep marrying new ones till they are ready to do a better job than the actual mother of the child.

Come back and tell us how it goes.

adviser shebi nah so e easy

Some women are unnecessarily stubborn. I will advise you to buy the sma milk, then whenever you are around prepare and give the child. He is also your child you can do it. Once you start she will definitely continue from where you stopped. If she doesn't just ignore her and ride on bro.

Biglittlelois:



I don't blame people that says marry your class, why will a mother prefer to wear rags for her child Background truly matters when choosing a spouse.

maybe the woman is just following the prevailing style in town you know crazy jean and other whatnot

CAPSLOCKED:
INVOLVE BOTH FAMILIES AND YOUR NEIGHBORS IF ONLY YOU NO FIT CHANGE AM FOR HER.

The mistake we always make is thing we can change anyone.

My brother just caution her

Carchoice:
Just 18 months old baby and you are already tired of wifey?

Brace up for more impact sir.

No dey scare the already tired man.

newace:
Today, I told my wife to start feeding our 18 month old son sma baby milk once a day so he could take in all the necessary nutrients from the milk since he was never breast fed.

Note: he eats cerelac in the morning, yoghurt at 12 noon, Eba/Amala at 4pm and cerelac again in the night. I mentioned to her to find a way to feed him sma milk at least once a day but instead she started arguing with me.

What do i do?

The title of your thread suggest that you're tired of the marriage but the content gives the impression that you just had a minor disagreement over how to feed your baby

newace:
I have left her to do what she wants though its not what i want. But that'll be my last child with her.

I don't think the present circumstance is enough reason to send her packing or leave her to herself. I am sure, she has other good characters, she might just be too obstinate when it comes to changing what she perceives as right.

Op, be patient with her, give her all the attention she wants, she is a female and you are a male, try to convince and maneuver her to make her melt and her heart soft. I mean tell her those and do those sweet sweet things that will blow her away and evoke her to stop thinking about even her own idea. You can do this boss. If it is about za oza room you know how you play your game na, please expend the same energy or more in this department too.

All the best Chief. But don't ever leave your wife because of this, rather try to convince her to change. She doesn't hate that which she carried for 9 months and even back for more, she is just obsessed with her own perspective.

newace:
Even when her mum says exactly what the dr says..trust me if you dont respect ur mum,you can't respect anyone.

So how come you didn't notice all these till she carried belle?

Maybe you are not man enough. I can't phantom my wife disobeying my instructions. Establish your authority at home by making provisions and care, you will see how ur wife defers to you

WandaMaximoff:
Return her back to her parents house, she's not wife material. How dare she tell you how to feed a baby she carried for nine months and nurtured till 18 months?

Send her packing jor, go and marry another woman that will take care of the baby she didn't carry so she can feed the baby according to your specification. If the new wife doesn't comply, send her packing and marry yet another woman.

Keep marrying new ones till they are ready to do a better job than the actual mother of the child.

Come back and tell us how it goes.

MAD OOH

daddytime:
Patience and understanding my man.

HOME UPKEEP MONEY, HOW MUCH SHOULD A MAN GIVE HIS WIFE?

A must read for every couple.

Last Friday evening, I decided to gulp down a couple of beer bottles at a joint before going home after a hard day's work.

Sitting next to my table were these two guys whose discussion was almost disturbing the rest of the people in the bar. One seem to be bitterly complaining to his friend about his wife. "My wife wan kill me", "she too like money", "she is too demanding, infact I am tired of her nonsense.

From his utterances and countenance you will know he just finished a fight with his wife before coming to the bar. Probably the friend called him out in other to quell the situation.

The friend was trying to calm him down. Johny cool down nah, what is the matter? I thought you and your wife have out grown these constant fights that have almost become a ritual. Ahh ahh, be a man, calm down and tell me what happened.

Then the man started, could you imagine? before I use to give my wife N30,000 as the home Upkeep money. She was complaining that the money was not enough. then she will be asking for small small money untill next Upkeep money. One day I came back from work to discover that NEPA has cut our light because she failed to pay. I was not happy because I have already given her the monthly Upkeep, when I asked, she said there is no money. Then I decided to take up the payment of NEPA bills which is about N5000 per month. The next month she still complained and we quarreled as usual.

To make her happy, I increased the monthly Upkeep to N45,000. To my surprise, I came back today, just barely three weeks after giving her the money and she continued with her usual way of demanding for more money. That's why I have to beat her up.

Even though, I was keenly listening to their conversation, they did not care. Considering the way he was glancing at me from time to time, it seems he wouldn't care if I say something.

Then, I adjusted closer, and assisted his friend in calming him down. After calming him down, I asked him, how many children do you have, he answered 4, then I asked, do you have a house help, he said yes, I also asked, is there any other person living in your house, he said yes, his wife's sister is living with them. That is a total of 6 people, if he is added, there will be total of 7 people living in the house.

I now asked him to get his calculator. That I am going to teach him a simple calculation that will surprise him, and help him manage his family. He brought out his mobile phone and opened the calculator.

Then, I asked him, how much do you think is the cost of one plate of home made food. i.e. food prepared in the home without additional Restaurant cost. He thought about it for a while but couldn't come up with a figure.

Then I wadded in and told him, let's say a plate of home made food costs N100, which you know is impossible because an average home made food for a low income family should cost between N150 to N300 depending on the quality.

If one person consumes N100 per meal, then s/he will consume N300 in a day, if he takes breakfast, lunch and dinner.

That means s/he will consume N300 x 30 =9,000 in a month. He was pressing the calculator without knowing were I am driving at.

N9,000 x the six (6) people in your house = N54,000 excluding you. If your cost is added, let's say it's not up to N,9000 because you don't usually eat lunch in the house. Let's say it is N200 x 30 dayss = N6,000 if your lunch money is excluded.

Then the total food cost in your house per month = N60,000, that is, if a plate is N100. Remember that a plate of food can never be N100.

If the average cost is N150, then you should be thinking of N90,000 per month as the food money for your home. Remember, we have not considered other expenses.

If the average cost is N200, which is still not too costly for a good home made meal, then you should be thinking of N120,000 per month as the food money for your family.

At this point, the man was looking at me in utter surprise with his mouth wide open.

The friend immediately cut in awe, thank you my brother, thank you my brother, you are God sent, I have been telling this my friend that women hardly waste money but he never agrees.

He started calling the bar man , abeg bring a bottle of beer for this our friend, infact bring two at a time and a plate of perper soup for him.

I now asked the man to call his wife immediately and apologise to her, which he obliged, men have ego issues but not in this case because he have realised how wrong he was.

He called the wife and said "Babe, I am so sorry for hitting you, please forgive me. I have realised my mistake, please forgive, At this point we can hear the faint voice of his wife crying and sobbing at the other end. We asked him to invite her over. He begged her and told her the name of the joint we are in. Though the wife initially refused but his friend took the phone and asked her to come that we will be eagerly waiting to meet her. Then she agreed. The husband took the phone again and asked her to take Keke drop.

In the next 20mins she was with us. And we all apologized to her and narrated to her about our calculation, how she is so right. We could see a wave of inner joy that engulfed her. Then smile showed up on her face and she leaned on her husband's shoulder.

Then, I ordered for Fish Berbecue while the friend was ordering for more drinks.

We all went home happy.

Women are indeed amazing, they try much hard to keep the home going without little or no appreciation. When they go to market, they will price and price and will not hesitate to go round the whole market to ensure they are buying at the best price.

Men, let us appreciate our women a little, please.
Kindly share widely to bring peace in various homes.

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This is a wonderful piece and eye opener to many thank you

Exactly! When he gets to level 5 and he turns 55, he will understand life. When all the children from the different mothers start their war, he will calm down.

Or may be the wife is not just wise.
Anyways, op, if u get to read this, your toddler's toilet habit may be normal. It may not. I had a personal experience with my first son. My mother started putting him on potty before he was even 7 days old. I did exclusive breastfeeding for 6 months but I could count the number of times he pooped in his diapers. He was always running around when the thing was coming. I did pap, crayfish and soyabeans, ewedu, etc, till today, approaching the teenage grade, his toilet na two to three days. I have stopped worrying.

Please the issues between you and your should be sorted inside your home. Carrying it out will get you to level 5 and the number of children that may end up sending you to an early grave. Marriage is not courtship. It is serious business. Feed your child at night, back him sef, bond with him, grow with him and see wonders. I didn't say spare the rod o. But grow with your child no matter how busy you are.

God keep your home. You need to keep it first and tell that lady advising you outside to STFU.

punisha:




As in eh...
All this strong head won't be anything short of another strange girl that's tickling his fancy and making everything his wife do,to be repulsive to him.
He should send her home let's rest.
Got one rule at home...we settle our differences in 20minutes and no third party is permitted to EVER interfere.
Works and has worked for years.
Abeg free this person.

newace:
Her mum told her something similar when she came to nurse the boy,but she was arguing with her mum too..at some point her mum reported her to her family members(Aunties,Uncles etc) im just fed up tbh

Bros, it's called post-partum/natal stress disorder. It's not easy on the women folk. Be patient.

You don't know how the body system works after delivery. Research on it, some even throw away the baby.

newace:
Not all mothers know whats best for their kids,the boy cries heavily when he poos which happens once in 2-3 days...the dr advised us to stop cerelac but my son's mother knows best.Like i said i'll have 3 more kids but he's my last child with her.

can you actually keep to your stand? when the child is old enough and needs a younger fellow your wife would warm up to you.

But, I still you should sit her down and ask her why she is being so stubborn and deviant. You might have offended her and she is not ready to speak about it with you but only feels like punishing you through her stubbornness

Goodzinny:
Some women are unnecessarily stubborn. I will advise you to buy the sma milk, then whenever you are around prepare and give the child. He is also your child you can do it. Once you start she will definitely continue from where you stopped. If she doesn't just ignore her and ride on bro.

Good advice. Op, I wonder why you can't see to your child's feeding when you're at home? Instead of barking orders out, feed the boy yourself. He's your son too.

FloraEC:


Had to shorten the quote.

Lol @tearing chicken. Every child is different.

Continue with the spoon, you can also buy that feeder that comes with a spoon instead of teat. I believe zaynie have it or you can check the market for it.

Congratulations on your child, was wondering why your hair thread wasn't updated. Never knew someone kept you busy.

Abeg we've derailed this thread finally. Op will soon come for us.

lolz, thanks sis.The girl no dey let me see road.I will get the feeder.

newace:
Not all mothers know whats best for their kids,the boy cries heavily when he poos which happens once in 2-3 days...the dr advised us to stop cerelac but my son's mother knows best.Like i said i'll have 3 more kids but he's my last child with her.

This is the height of it all! Poo once in 2-3 days?? Your wife lack common sense, apologies.

WandaMaximoff:


I'm just tired of the endless whining of people about their spouses on this forum. It's like they are not even willing to put in any work in their marriage or someone told them marriage is cold stone and Dominoes.

People should be given a psych eval before they are allowed to marry, honestly.

Nlanders come here to seek for advice, if you can't advise them why not read and move on. Please if you can't help, don't shut people down. I will not be surprise that you don't know what he is talking about.

I am married and I know exactly what he is facing.

newace:
Today, I told my wife to start feeding our 18 month old son sma baby milk once a day so he could take in all the necessary nutrients from the milk since he was never breast fed.

Note: he eats cerelac in the morning, yoghurt at 12 noon, Eba/Amala at 4pm and cerelac again in the night. I mentioned to her to find a way to feed him sma milk at least once a day but instead she started arguing with me.

What do i do?

dont convert hoes oloshos ashawos to wife una no go hear