Do you even need an answer to this?

crackhaus:

Of course he should, but it doesn't have to be at the detriment of his current relationship.
There are ways...

It wouldn't be if he didn't mention it. It should be as if he's only helping a friend.

Truthlord12:
Good evening people please I need your advice regards to this, I got separated from my ex girlfriend last year because she told me her travel plans abroad I was a bit sceptic About the nature of job she’ll do there, she’s the type that’s ready and willing to do anything to help her family.

After everything I told her not to embark on the journey that she should be patient with me, once my business picked up I’ll care for her and her family, she refused and traveled last year, few months before she left she gave me some money to add to my business I wouldn’t want to state the actual amount but a bit huge. Of recent her family really suffering because my ex had issue with the person that took her abroad so she’s passing through difficult time though she’s hiding some info from me since she’s not able to make money, she called me of recent that I should please do anything to help her family.

Now I’ve got a new girlfriend I told my new girlfriend about the issue but she said I shouldn’t give my ex family any money, because we ain’t together anymore that if I do she’ll leave me

Please people help me what should I do? My mind is really disturbing me and I still love my ex I wish I’ve a way to bring her back to Nigeria so we can start a family I don’t care the type of job she went there to do and I don’t mind what she has been through. She did so much for me, she made sacrifice that this my new girl won’t do, I don’t even know if my new girlfriend loves me or because of my money.

Though I love my new girlfriend but part of me is with my ex I don’t know if she’ll will be willing to return though I’ve not discussed it with her. And now my new girlfriend threatening to leave me if I assist or give back the money my ex gave me as support for my business before she travelled to her family I’ve been down for days thinking so much.

Blehhhh.... Next

Truthlord12:
Good evening people please I need your advice regards to this, I got separated from my ex girlfriend last year because she told me her travel plans abroad I was a bit sceptic About the nature of job she’ll do there, she’s the type that’s ready and willing to do anything to help her family.

After everything I told her not to embark on the journey that she should be patient with me, once my business picked up I’ll care for her and her family, she refused and traveled last year, few months before she left she gave me some money to add to my business I wouldn’t want to state the actual amount but a bit huge. Of recent her family really suffering because my ex had issue with the person that took her abroad so she’s passing through difficult time though she’s hiding some info from me since she’s not able to make money, she called me of recent that I should please do anything to help her family.

Now I’ve got a new girlfriend I told my new girlfriend about the issue but she said I shouldn’t give my ex family any money, because we ain’t together anymore that if I do she’ll leave me

Please people help me what should I do? My mind is really disturbing me and I still love my ex I wish I’ve a way to bring her back to Nigeria so we can start a family I don’t care the type of job she went there to do and I don’t mind what she has been through. She did so much for me, she made sacrifice that this my new girl won’t do, I don’t even know if my new girlfriend loves me or because of my money.

Though I love my new girlfriend but part of me is with my ex I don’t know if she’ll will be willing to return though I’ve not discussed it with her. And now my new girlfriend threatening to leave me if I assist or give back the money my ex gave me as support for my business before she travelled to her family I’ve been down for days thinking so much.

let me comment before reading other people's opinions.

1st she's not your ex, you people did not break up according to your story.

Secondly someone gave you a huge amount of money to support your business and now needs you to help out and you are consulting your new girl who has never contribute anything to your life. For even asking her for opinion you are a wicked person. Me and you know that no lady will never support that.


Thirdly have u put it into consideration that you are indepted to your ex? If you don't know it now.

Truthlord12:
Good evening people please I need your advice regards to this, I got separated from my ex girlfriend last year because she told me her travel plans abroad I was a bit sceptic About the nature of job she’ll do there, she’s the type that’s ready and willing to do anything to help her family.

After everything I told her not to embark on the journey that she should be patient with me, once my business picked up I’ll care for her and her family, she refused and traveled last year, few months before she left she gave me some money to add to my business I wouldn’t want to state the actual amount but a bit huge. Of recent her family really suffering because my ex had issue with the person that took her abroad so she’s passing through difficult time though she’s hiding some info from me since she’s not able to make money, she called me of recent that I should please do anything to help her family.

Now I’ve got a new girlfriend I told my new girlfriend about the issue but she said I shouldn’t give my ex family any money, because we ain’t together anymore that if I do she’ll leave me

Please people help me what should I do? My mind is really disturbing me and I still love my ex I wish I’ve a way to bring her back to Nigeria so we can start a family I don’t care the type of job she went there to do and I don’t mind what she has been through. She did so much for me, she made sacrifice that this my new girl won’t do, I don’t even know if my new girlfriend loves me or because of my money.

Though I love my new girlfriend but part of me is with my ex I don’t know if she’ll will be willing to return though I’ve not discussed it with her. And now my new girlfriend threatening to leave me if I assist or give back the money my ex gave me as support for my business before she travelled to her family I’ve been down for days thinking so much.

N̶o̶w̶ ̶I̶’̶v̶e̶ ̶g̶o̶t̶ ̶a̶ ̶n̶e̶w̶ ̶g̶i̶r̶l̶f̶r̶i̶e̶n̶d̶ ̶I̶ ̶t̶o̶l̶d̶ ̶m̶y̶ ̶n̶e̶w̶ ̶g̶i̶r̶l̶f̶r̶i̶e̶n̶d̶ ̶a̶b̶o̶u̶t̶ ̶t̶h̶e̶ ̶i̶s̶s̶u̶e̶ ̶b̶u̶t̶ ̶s̶h̶e̶ ̶s̶a̶i̶d̶ ̶I̶ ̶s̶h̶o̶u̶l̶d̶n̶’̶t̶ ̶g̶i̶v̶e̶ ̶m̶y̶ ̶e̶x̶ ̶f̶a̶m̶i̶l̶y̶ ̶a̶n̶y̶ ̶m̶o̶n̶e̶y̶,̶ ̶b̶e̶c̶a̶u̶s̶e̶ ̶w̶e̶ ̶a̶i̶n̶’̶t̶ ̶t̶o̶g̶e̶t̶h̶e̶r̶ ̶a̶n̶y̶m̶o̶r̶e̶ ̶t̶h̶a̶t̶ ̶i̶f̶ ̶I̶ ̶d̶o̶ ̶s̶h̶e̶’̶l̶l̶ ̶l̶e̶a̶v̶e̶ ̶m̶e̶


You see where you want to hurt yourself? If you follow that your useless new girlfriend advice and refuse to offer any little help to that your former girlfriend family, na God go punish you for that

PrinceOfEast:
SIMPISM is a disease whose cure is a dose of REDPILL 3 times a day 24/7.

Emancipate yourself from simpish.

some Simps need someone to be administering the medicine to them by force

Truthlord12:
please no need for insult. Should I assist my ex’s family and lose my new girlfriend? What of if my ex don’t want to come back to the country I’ll lose two of em. Please give me a reasonable advice not insults

Please do the right thing. If you do it and your new girlfriend choose to leave or pick offence, it shows you real don't have a good woman beside you.
Let me ask, how will you feel if the table is turn between you and your ex?
Please be careful of the people you journey with in life.

Somehow you love your ex, and you love the current one I think you should know what love really is. As regards helping your ex's family, I would advise you help if you are well placed to help and not because you think it will sway her to come back and love u.

Kemimarch16:
You better give that lady her money if u don't want thunder to fire u there.why is that it usually difficult for some men to return any money give to them dere ex

Seconded.... Next case

Kemimarch16:
You better give that lady her money if u don't want thunder to fire u there.why is that it usually difficult for some men to return any money give to them dere ex

Pained mofo, when was the last time you offered financial help to your boyfriend

HarunaWest:
so cos you wanted to help your ex family, you had to open your big mouth to tell your girlfriend..who made men this stupid for god sake.... Something you should even give her family without think about it, your announcing on NL.... I pity your type dude, your unloyalty won't make you go far.

disloyalty is the right word, don't be offended.

Please help out o as its not easy.

Everyone thinks staying in US/Europe/Middle east is so easy that all you have to do is stay there and pick up money from the street.

You should better help that lady. That once happened to me and do you know that my wife is aware of my ex and she knew that nothing is happening between both of us and she do help me well when need arises.

HarunaWest:
so cos you wanted to help your ex family, you had to open your big mouth to tell your girlfriend..who made men this stupid for god sake.... Something you should even give her family without think about it, your announcing on NL.... I pity your type dude, your unloyalty won't make you go far.

who made him this stupid not men. Abi does his action stands for every man in the world action?

I will try to b honest and b friendly with my reply


Are u really a man. If yes..... Not every thing you'll tell your woman because their nature is to control their man.

Use ur discretion most times. They'll come to respect u for DAT. But if u allow her control u, u becomes her puppet.

Kingscee:


N̶o̶w̶ ̶I̶’̶v̶e̶ ̶g̶o̶t̶ ̶a̶ ̶n̶e̶w̶ ̶g̶i̶r̶l̶f̶r̶i̶e̶n̶d̶ ̶I̶ ̶t̶o̶l̶d̶ ̶m̶y̶ ̶n̶e̶w̶ ̶g̶i̶r̶l̶f̶r̶i̶e̶n̶d̶ ̶a̶b̶o̶u̶t̶ ̶t̶h̶e̶ ̶i̶s̶s̶u̶e̶ ̶b̶u̶t̶ ̶s̶h̶e̶ ̶s̶a̶i̶d̶ ̶I̶ ̶s̶h̶o̶u̶l̶d̶n̶’̶t̶ ̶g̶i̶v̶e̶ ̶m̶y̶ ̶e̶x̶ ̶f̶a̶m̶i̶l̶y̶ ̶a̶n̶y̶ ̶m̶o̶n̶e̶y̶,̶ ̶b̶e̶c̶a̶u̶s̶e̶ ̶w̶e̶ ̶a̶i̶n̶’̶t̶ ̶t̶o̶g̶e̶t̶h̶e̶r̶ ̶a̶n̶y̶m̶o̶r̶e̶ ̶t̶h̶a̶t̶ ̶i̶f̶ ̶I̶ ̶d̶o̶ ̶s̶h̶e̶’̶l̶l̶ ̶l̶e̶a̶v̶e̶ ̶m̶e̶


You see where you want to hurt yourself? If you follow that your useless new girlfriend advice and refuse to offer any little help to that your former girlfriend family, na God go punish you for that

Not only God, Satan too have to join God in punishing him. What an ingrate.

Why do I think op does not have common sense at all.
How is she your ex you did not tell us. So just because she travelled without your advice she is now your ex.
If she had made it there and come back big and then apologize to you wouldn't you accept her into your life back even though you claimed you don't know her job description over there.
To tell you the fact op you are very self-centered . Imagine someone that helped you when you were in grate need now you are having a bias mind to help her back.
If I may ask what are friends for ?
Let's assume I was your friend though not an intimate one and I needed your help even if you never needed mine but I desperately needs yours , wouldn't you have helped me.
Help help help if not for nothing at least for humanity sake aaaaaaaahhhhh.

Kemimarch16:
You better give that lady her money if u don't want thunder to fire u there.why is that it usually difficult for some men to return any money give to them dere ex

Here we go again. Don't be dumb. She dashed him the money at the time. If he gives her some money now, it's not related to that money she gave him earlier. You're here yarning dust without simple comprehension of a message.

Yes, if you can.

Truthlord12:
please no need for insult. Should I assist my ex’s family and lose my new girlfriend? What if my ex don’t want to come back to the country I’ll lose two of em. Please give me a reasonable advice not insults

bros go and help that family it doesn't matter if you lose your current girlfriend or not. you are an ingrate I must say. must you tell your gf before helping?

Truthlord12:
please no need for insult. Should I assist my ex’s family and lose my new girlfriend? What if my ex don’t want to come back to the country I’ll lose two of em. Please give me a reasonable advice not insults

You think your current girlfriend is marking territories? She's just being selfish. Guy read in between the lines. Your ex made so much selfless sacrifices for you and all you could come up with is this?
C'mom bro! Help her family out. The future still holds a lot.

bros she invested in the business, either you return her money with interest or you return the money she gave you to her family. even if your new gf is already your wife, will you be happy holding unto somebody money given out of kindness and genuiness to support your huzzle. the excuse your new gf is given is pure wickedness God is watching so dont repay good with evil, live is a seed.

Put yourself in your ex shoes.
You don't need to ask such question. Go and assist her family. Someone assisted you when you are in need and you are here asking if you should help the person's family.
Who be that your current babe telling you not to help. Na witch she be.

Truthlord12:
Good evening people please I need your advice regards to this, I got separated from my ex girlfriend last year because she told me her travel plans abroad I was a bit sceptic About the nature of job she’ll do there, she’s the type that’s ready and willing to do anything to help her family.

After everything I told her not to embark on the journey that she should be patient with me, once my business picked up I’ll care for her and her family, she refused and traveled last year, few months before she left she gave me some money to add to my business I wouldn’t want to state the actual amount but a bit huge. Of recent her family really suffering because my ex had issue with the person that took her abroad so she’s passing through difficult time though she’s hiding some info from me since she’s not able to make money, she called me of recent that I should please do anything to help her family.

Now I’ve got a new girlfriend I told my new girlfriend about the issue but she said I shouldn’t give my ex family any money, because we ain’t together anymore that if I do she’ll leave me

Please people help me what should I do? My mind is really disturbing me and I still love my ex I wish I’ve a way to bring her back to Nigeria so we can start a family I don’t care the type of job she went there to do and I don’t mind what she has been through. She did so much for me, she made sacrifice that this my new girl won’t do, I don’t even know if my new girlfriend loves me or because of my money.

Though I love my new girlfriend but part of me is with my ex I don’t know if she’ll will be willing to return though I’ve not discussed it with her. And now my new girlfriend threatening to leave me if I assist or give back the money my ex gave me as support for my business before she travelled to her family I’ve been down for days thinking so much.

Let your current ex-to-be know that your travelling-traveller-ex did support your ministry with a huge sum and that had helped your church to move to a permanent site, hence, you should reciprocate without any strings attached!

If she wan go, make she go!

I might decide not to help the ex family because of one reason or another but as sure as the sun rise in the East, I am going to break up with that yeye current girlfriend.

@OP, if you have the money to help your ex, then by all means, help her. Forget about the fact you guys are currently not together. If you have the money and you feel she's worth your help, do it for her without any expectations. Help her even if she does not want you back.

Truthlord12:
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Now I’ve got a new girlfriend I told my new girlfriend about the issue but she said I shouldn’t give my ex family any money, because we ain’t together anymore that if I do she’ll leave me

For your current GF, make it a case of you are returning back the favor done you. If that does not sound nice enough, then you should have the answer about how well to trust her manner of reasoning.

Oga

This is not as difficult as you make it seems.

I don't need to tell you what to do about helping your ex's family. I wanna talk to you about your current GF.

See ehn, you need to take a stronghold of things. You don't ask for her permission in that kinda situation. She was not there when a favour was rendered to you and she should have lil or no say in what you intend to do. I read a comment where you said you don't wanna help your ex cos you don't know if she is coming back and you don't wanna lose your current GF, you also said you don't think she loves you.
Thing is this, you know what is best for you, but you need people to tell you what to do. Please, let your current GF know that you wanna help your ex so she can go. Period

Truthlord12:
Good evening people please I need your advice regards to this, I got separated from my ex girlfriend last year because she told me her travel plans abroad I was a bit sceptic About the nature of job she’ll do there, she’s the type that’s ready and willing to do anything to help her family.

After everything I told her not to embark on the journey that she should be patient with me, once my business picked up I’ll care for her and her family, she refused and traveled last year, few months before she left she gave me some money to add to my business I wouldn’t want to state the actual amount but a bit huge. Of recent her family really suffering because my ex had issue with the person that took her abroad so she’s passing through difficult time though she’s hiding some info from me since she’s not able to make money, she called me of recent that I should please do anything to help her family.

Now I’ve got a new girlfriend I told my new girlfriend about the issue but she said I shouldn’t give my ex family any money, because we ain’t together anymore that if I do she’ll leave me

Please people help me what should I do? My mind is really disturbing me and I still love my ex I wish I’ve a way to bring her back to Nigeria so we can start a family I don’t care the type of job she went there to do and I don’t mind what she has been through. She did so much for me, she made sacrifice that this my new girl won’t do, I don’t even know if my new girlfriend loves me or because of my money.

Though I love my new girlfriend but part of me is with my ex I don’t know if she’ll will be willing to return though I’ve not discussed it with her. And now my new girlfriend threatening to leave me if I assist or give back the money my ex gave me as support for my business before she travelled to her family I’ve been down for days thinking so much.

Your gf is very selfish
Whether you still love your ex or not, please help her family if you can, and do it as soon as possible.

If your gf wants to leave please let her!

GboyegaD:
What I don't understand is why you needed the new lady's permission.

Because the OP Mr Truthlord12 is probably a fraudster. All the traits and signs are there. Very ungrateful human and also someone with very low sense of reasoning. Never in my life would i pray to meet someone like the OP that has such a deep dark ungrateful heart that would be confused whether to help someone who has helped him in the past.

Truthlord12.Let me tell u d BITTER TRUTH.U dnt have a GF yet and pls ,dnt marry this witch if I don't want to REGRET/UNFORTUNATE in life.What u have now is a JEZEBEL not a GF..Her type won't allow u to take care of Ur pay/siblings.Let her Go b4 she turn Ur destiny upside down

Reason ladies don't want to help men. You here asking rhetorical questions. You not even meant to discuss it with your new gf coz later she will still use it against you. Go ahead and help her family, if your gf want to go, so be it. She is with you coz of your money.

Be a man and do d needful