Truthlord12:
Good evening people please I need your advice regards to this, I got separated from my ex girlfriend last year because she told me her travel plans abroad I was a bit sceptic About the nature of job she’ll do there, she’s the type that’s ready and willing to do anything to help her family.

After everything I told her not to embark on the journey that she should be patient with me, once my business picked up I’ll care for her and her family, she refused and traveled last year, few months before she left she gave me some money to add to my business I wouldn’t want to state the actual amount but a bit huge. Of recent her family really suffering because my ex had issue with the person that took her abroad so she’s passing through difficult time though she’s hiding some info from me since she’s not able to make money, she called me of recent that I should please do anything to help her family.

Now I’ve got a new girlfriend I told my new girlfriend about the issue but she said I shouldn’t give my ex family any money, because we ain’t together anymore that if I do she’ll leave me

Please people help me what should I do? My mind is really disturbing me and I still love my ex I wish I’ve a way to bring her back to Nigeria so we can start a family I don’t care the type of job she went there to do and I don’t mind what she has been through. She did so much for me, she made sacrifice that this my new girl won’t do, I don’t even know if my new girlfriend loves me or because of my money.

Though I love my new girlfriend but part of me is with my ex I don’t know if she’ll will be willing to return though I’ve not discussed it with her. And now my new girlfriend threatening to leave me if I assist or give back the money my ex gave me as support for my business before she travelled to her family I’ve been down for days thinking so much.

who are these people creating new accounts to write rubbish

Truthlord12:
please I quoted you because you’re the first to comment on this thread I’ve done the needful help me to copy the message below and edit your first post to tell others I’ve done the needful I’m tired of many insults on my mentions thank you. I can’t edit my original post I would’ve done so myself


“”” I’ve done the needful I couldn’t go to my office today just to settle my ex girlfriend family.

I even gave them more than enough Thank you all for your advice. Though my relationship with my current girlfriend just ended Few hours ago, she left because I insisted on helping my ex’s girlfriend’s family.

I just got to know this afternoon my girlfriend had personal issues with my ex girlfriend, I found out they were in same faculty, because we all graduated from same university but I never knew they both know each other and had personal issues. I was surprised today my girlfriend made a vow that if I give the money to my ex family she’ll cut contacts with me and she did because I actually did what’s right for my mind to be at peace.

I don’t like the way some people here been raining insults on me but why? Some people are so quick to judge it’s not even up to four days my ex called me to help her family and I was not planning to hide anything from my current girlfriend I even had intentions of marrying her this year anyway now I’ve lost both.

How could I not help my ex girlfriend family? I’m not wicked, from my writeup you all could see I loved her.


At least my mind is free now thank you’ll for the insults and advice. “””

I have edited my post.
Don't take the insults to heart.
Your conscience told you to seek advice because you were in a dilemma and that's ok.
I knew right from the start that deep down you knew what the right thing to do was. For the simple reason that your conscience would not let you rest. You are not a bad person and you don't deserve the insults but no matter what you post here some people will always insult you. Don't take it personally.
Sorry your relationship ended.

Truthlord12:
Good evening people please I need your advice regards to this, I got separated from my ex girlfriend last year because she told me her travel plans abroad I was a bit sceptic About the nature of job she’ll do there, she’s the type that’s ready and willing to do anything to help her family.

After everything I told her not to embark on the journey that she should be patient with me, once my business picked up I’ll care for her and her family, she refused and traveled last year, few months before she left she gave me some money to add to my business I wouldn’t want to state the actual amount but a bit huge. Of recent her family really suffering because my ex had issue with the person that took her abroad so she’s passing through difficult time though she’s hiding some info from me since she’s not able to make money, she called me of recent that I should please do anything to help her family.

Now I’ve got a new girlfriend I told my new girlfriend about the issue but she said I shouldn’t give my ex family any money, because we ain’t together anymore that if I do she’ll leave me

Please people help me what should I do? My mind is really disturbing me and I still love my ex I wish I’ve a way to bring her back to Nigeria so we can start a family I don’t care the type of job she went there to do and I don’t mind what she has been through. She did so much for me, she made sacrifice that this my new girl won’t do, I don’t even know if my new girlfriend loves me or because of my money.

Though I love my new girlfriend but part of me is with my ex I don’t know if she’ll will be willing to return though I’ve not discussed it with her. And now my new girlfriend threatening to leave me if I assist or give back the money my ex gave me as support for my business before she travelled to her family I’ve been down for days thinking so much.

Op u re mad!! Sorry for that insult tho...

How dere u say u won't help her family because of that new idiot u call girlfriend.. this girl gave u money before she travelled out to add to ur business for christ sakes... Why re human beings like dis for christ sakes. Where will i get such a supportive girl for God's sake.

Hathor5:


I have edited my post.
Don't take the insults to heart.
Your conscience told you to seek advice because you were in a dilemma and that's ok.
I knew right from the start that deep down you knew what the right thing to do was. For the simple reason that your conscience would not let you rest. You are not a bad person and you don't deserve the insults but no matter what you post here some people will always insult you. Don't take it personally.
Sorry your relationship ended.

thank you

Op,first i was reading this at a guest,so i have to log in and comment on ur post which i hardly do...secondly,u are an asshole,both u and ur present girlfriend s an idiot..u better go help dat lady...what a dumb excuse from a simp...

Truthlord12:
Good evening people please I need your advice regards to this, I got separated from my ex girlfriend last year because she told me her travel plans abroad I was a bit sceptic About the nature of job she’ll do there, she’s the type that’s ready and willing to do anything to help her family.

After everything I told her not to embark on the journey that she should be patient with me, once my business picked up I’ll care for her and her family, she refused and traveled last year, few months before she left she gave me some money to add to my business I wouldn’t want to state the actual amount but a bit huge. Of recent her family really suffering because my ex had issue with the person that took her abroad so she’s passing through difficult time though she’s hiding some info from me since she’s not able to make money, she called me of recent that I should please do anything to help her family.

Now I’ve got a new girlfriend I told my new girlfriend about the issue but she said I shouldn’t give my ex family any money, because we ain’t together anymore that if I do she’ll leave me

Please people help me what should I do? My mind is really disturbing me and I still love my ex I wish I’ve a way to bring her back to Nigeria so we can start a family I don’t care the type of job she went there to do and I don’t mind what she has been through. She did so much for me, she made sacrifice that this my new girl won’t do, I don’t even know if my new girlfriend loves me or because of my money.

Though I love my new girlfriend but part of me is with my ex I don’t know if she’ll will be willing to return though I’ve not discussed it with her. And now my new girlfriend threatening to leave me if I assist or give back the money my ex gave me as support for my business before she travelled to her family I’ve been down for days thinking so much.

u told ur new girlfriend... the enemy of a woman is a woman.. help jor.... let her leave... u have not married her, she is deciding for u already..... ladies are really heartless o.

Agbebakun22:




Prophet Michael dey para ooo.... Abeg e easy for the guy.. E just be like the guy no fit used e head well

I've seen his latest comment, it is well with him and moreover, God just delivered him from Delilah.

What do u guys gain from keeping Nigerian girls as lovers

Yeye creatures at many of them

So now u wan help ur girlfriend family where u never marry her

Oga help back 1 gud turn deserve another

Women n their hatred for their fellow women anyways do d rite by assisting d gal's family.

This your new girl friend has no conscience, why should she hinder you from helping your once helper? She just sauntered into your life, and started appropriating the wealth she knew nothing about (Chai! There is God o). You owe your ex everything, so try and help her family even if it's with that same amount she gave you before she traveled... You are a good man, and you have conscience, God will definitely bless you more!

why tell ur new girlfriend about ur ex request! cos am sure u didn't find it necessary to tell her that ur ex gave u money to boost ur business! give them the money joh

XXXXTENTACION:
Make i no talk my mind

quote cause of moniker

bukatyne:


At this rate, I give up!

@your other post: Marriage gives legitimacy to a relationship between a man & his woman.

However, if you cannot be responsible and make the right decisions by your partner before marriage, the marriage vows possess no special powers to make one start to make the right decisions after marriage.

That is why people choose monsters and somehow expect them to change because they said their vows after marriage. Or choose partners who had multiple relationships and someone expect fidelity.

The responses on this thread are also hilarious to note especially as it is a rare sight of male & female NLers heading the same direction: whatever name we call the OP, he did right telling his current girlfriend about the Ex's request.

The current girl should have had more sense, dug into the matter and make a right decision else Bobo would stop telling her stuffs and when/if they marry, she would start lamenting her husband keeps secrets from her. If I can't trust you to make the right decisions, why shod I confide in you?

My tboughts: if the OP still feels very strongly about his ex after deep soul searching apart from her sexual prowess, he should end his current relationship (apart from the fact he doesn't love her, she is very selfish, greedy and would alienate him in future) and reach out to his ex.

Lay his conditions on the table, extract her and continue the relationship. If a her concern is to 'help her family' instead of finding an escape for herself, her story of dumping him to hustle for her family is believable.

Some people have a misguided sense of duty towards their families. I know a woman in her late 30s who said she couldn't leave her brothers alone (40s & late 20s) to get a job she was required to stay there for the week in addition to other factors.

When we meet people at certain stages of life, we must accept that others have contributed to the man/woman we deem attractive enough to date/marry and they might have debts to pay.

Why are you so SMART!!!
And REASONABLE!!!

dingbang:
as in.. Idiot wey he never marry come dey give am terms ... The temerity! The op is just an annoying simp

As in dey get opinion on top of another woman’s money

As I love my mama reach she no fit tell me who to help and who not to help
Putting a smile on people's face gives me joy andskes me feel like I'm doing what's right with God

Truthlord12:
Good evening people please I need your advice regards to this, I got separated from my ex girlfriend last year because she told me her travel plans abroad I was a bit sceptic About the nature of job she’ll do there, she’s the type that’s ready and willing to do anything to help her family.

After everything I told her not to embark on the journey that she should be patient with me, once my business picked up I’ll care for her and her family, she refused and traveled last year, few months before she left she gave me some money to add to my business I wouldn’t want to state the actual amount but a bit huge. Of recent her family really suffering because my ex had issue with the person that took her abroad so she’s passing through difficult time though she’s hiding some info from me since she’s not able to make money, she called me of recent that I should please do anything to help her family.

Now I’ve got a new girlfriend I told my new girlfriend about the issue but she said I shouldn’t give my ex family any money, because we ain’t together anymore that if I do she’ll leave me

Please people help me what should I do? My mind is really disturbing me and I still love my ex I wish I’ve a way to bring her back to Nigeria so we can start a family I don’t care the type of job she went there to do and I don’t mind what she has been through. She did so much for me, she made sacrifice that this my new girl won’t do, I don’t even know if my new girlfriend loves me or because of my money.

Though I love my new girlfriend but part of me is with my ex I don’t know if she’ll will be willing to return though I’ve not discussed it with her. And now my new girlfriend threatening to leave me if I assist or give back the money my ex gave me as support for my business before she travelled to her family I’ve been down for days thinking so much.

you be mumu you talk go here you talk go there. Don't even know what you e

No mind am. na Yeye they worry am

Slynation:

I swear.... Some guys shaah mumu oO, Something he would have done in confidential like a Man he went and involve a lady....

ExBanker:


Why is it difficult for girls to returnall the money their ex spent on them after breakup?

Back to op, the girl gave you money which you tagged "a bit huge" to support your business. You don't need anyone to tell you the right thing to do. Oga help her family. If i may ask, what has this your new girl friend contributed to your life that she will tell you not to help someone who contributed to your life?

Perfect question

andyanders:
Op, u and ur new useless girlfriend wicked pass the federal government of nigeria.

Shebi u have mouth to say u don't want insult? Why do u have to bring such a disgusting topic to this forum in the first place?

Someone u claimed that loved u and kept huge amount of money with u and she is suffering where she is and begged u to help her family with some money, and u are discussing with an idiot that wasn't there for u when the exchange of cash was made, and she wants you not to help the family. Same way she will tell u not to help ur mother, u will run to this forum to seek for opinion.

I can ONLY see a WEAK man in ur person. You can't even handle a family. You're surely not a man.

sweetilicious:
Perfect question

andyanders:
Op, u and ur new useless girlfriend wicked pass the federal government of nigeria.

Shebi u have mouth to say u don't want insult? Why do u have to bring such a disgusting topic to this forum in the first place?

Someone u claimed that loved u and kept huge amount of money with u and she is suffering where she is and begged u to help her family with some money, and u are discussing with an idiot that wasn't there for u when the exchange of cash was made, and she wants you not to help the family. Same way she will tell u not to help ur mother, u will run to this forum to seek for opinion.

I can ONLY see a WEAK man in ur person. You can't even handle a family. You're surely not a man.

bro don't mind that useless guy with his stupid new girlfriend this post so annoying I swear wicked world full if evil people

Truthlord12:
Good evening people please I need your advice regards to this, I got separated from my ex girlfriend last year because she told me her travel plans abroad I was a bit sceptic About the nature of job she’ll do there, she’s the type that’s ready and willing to do anything to help her family.

After everything I told her not to embark on the journey that she should be patient with me, once my business picked up I’ll care for her and her family, she refused and traveled last year, few months before she left she gave me some money to add to my business I wouldn’t want to state the actual amount but a bit huge. Of recent her family really suffering because my ex had issue with the person that took her abroad so she’s passing through difficult time though she’s hiding some info from me since she’s not able to make money, she called me of recent that I should please do anything to help her family.

Now I’ve got a new girlfriend I told my new girlfriend about the issue but she said I shouldn’t give my ex family any money, because we ain’t together anymore that if I do she’ll leave me

Please people help me what should I do? My mind is really disturbing me and I still love my ex I wish I’ve a way to bring her back to Nigeria so we can start a family I don’t care the type of job she went there to do and I don’t mind what she has been through. She did so much for me, she made sacrifice that this my new girl won’t do, I don’t even know if my new girlfriend loves me or because of my money.

Though I love my new girlfriend but part of me is with my ex I don’t know if she’ll will be willing to return though I’ve not discussed it with her. And now my new girlfriend threatening to leave me if I assist or give back the money my ex gave me as support for my business before she travelled to her family I’ve been down for days thinking so much.

You're ungrateful person if you don't help them

Truthlord12:
Good evening people please I need your advice regards to this, I got separated from my ex girlfriend last year because she told me her travel plans abroad I was a bit sceptic About the nature of job she’ll do there, she’s the type that’s ready and willing to do anything to help her family.

After everything I told her not to embark on the journey that she should be patient with me, once my business picked up I’ll care for her and her family, she refused and traveled last year, few months before she left she gave me some money to add to my business I wouldn’t want to state the actual amount but a bit huge. Of recent her family really suffering because my ex had issue with the person that took her abroad so she’s passing through difficult time though she’s hiding some info from me since she’s not able to make money, she called me of recent that I should please do anything to help her family.

Now I’ve got a new girlfriend I told my new girlfriend about the issue but she said I shouldn’t give my ex family any money, because we ain’t together anymore that if I do she’ll leave me

Please people help me what should I do? My mind is really disturbing me and I still love my ex I wish I’ve a way to bring her back to Nigeria so we can start a family I don’t care the type of job she went there to do and I don’t mind what she has been through. She did so much for me, she made sacrifice that this my new girl won’t do, I don’t even know if my new girlfriend loves me or because of my money.

Though I love my new girlfriend but part of me is with my ex I don’t know if she’ll will be willing to return though I’ve not discussed it with her. And now my new girlfriend threatening to leave me if I assist or give back the money my ex gave me as support for my business before she travelled to her family I’ve been down for days thinking so much.

Didirin ni e...... Womam wrapper

Was your new girlfriend dy there when she gave you money

Truthlord12:
Good evening people please I need your advice regards to this, I got separated from my ex girlfriend last year because she told me her travel plans abroad I was a bit sceptic About the nature of job she’ll do there, she’s the type that’s ready and willing to do anything to help her family.

After everything I told her not to embark on the journey that she should be patient with me, once my business picked up I’ll care for her and her family, she refused and traveled last year, few months before she left she gave me some money to add to my business I wouldn’t want to state the actual amount but a bit huge. Of recent her family really suffering because my ex had issue with the person that took her abroad so she’s passing through difficult time though she’s hiding some info from me since she’s not able to make money, she called me of recent that I should please do anything to help her family.

Now I’ve got a new girlfriend I told my new girlfriend about the issue but she said I shouldn’t give my ex family any money, because we ain’t together anymore that if I do she’ll leave me

Please people help me what should I do? My mind is really disturbing me and I still love my ex I wish I’ve a way to bring her back to Nigeria so we can start a family I don’t care the type of job she went there to do and I don’t mind what she has been through. She did so much for me, she made sacrifice that this my new girl won’t do, I don’t even know if my new girlfriend loves me or because of my money.

Though I love my new girlfriend but part of me is with my ex I don’t know if she’ll will be willing to return though I’ve not discussed it with her. And now my new girlfriend threatening to leave me if I assist or give back the money my ex gave me as support for my business before she travelled to her family I’ve been down for days thinking so much.

You know in your heart that your new girlfriend is wrong and bad for you. You need to help your ex family. Even you don't want to do much, at least, give them the money your ex gave you to help in your business.

Tell your ex your mind about your feeling for her. If she still refuses to come home then move on with your life.

Dump your new girlfriend as soon as possible!

Can you for once stop seeking your new gf validation on what you should do with your money or life. If she wants to leave because of what you're about to do, then open the door wide for her to find her way out.
Do you need any advice on what to do in this kind of situation.

If you cannot offer help to the family of someone who has given help to you in time past, I wonder who you will help.

Truthlord12:
Good evening people please I need your advice regards to this, I got separated from my ex girlfriend last year because she told me her travel plans abroad I was a bit sceptic About the nature of job she’ll do there, she’s the type that’s ready and willing to do anything to help her family.

After everything I told her not to embark on the journey that she should be patient with me, once my business picked up I’ll care for her and her family, she refused and traveled last year, few months before she left she gave me some money to add to my business I wouldn’t want to state the actual amount but a bit huge. Of recent her family really suffering because my ex had issue with the person that took her abroad so she’s passing through difficult time though she’s hiding some info from me since she’s not able to make money, she called me of recent that I should please do anything to help her family.

Now I’ve got a new girlfriend I told my new girlfriend about the issue but she said I shouldn’t give my ex family any money, because we ain’t together anymore that if I do she’ll leave me

Please people help me what should I do? My mind is really disturbing me and I still love my ex I wish I’ve a way to bring her back to Nigeria so we can start a family I don’t care the type of job she went there to do and I don’t mind what she has been through. She did so much for me, she made sacrifice that this my new girl won’t do, I don’t even know if my new girlfriend loves me or because of my money.

Though I love my new girlfriend but part of me is with my ex I don’t know if she’ll will be willing to return though I’ve not discussed it with her. And now my new girlfriend threatening to leave me if I assist or give back the money my ex gave me as support for my business before she travelled to her family I’ve been down for days thinking so much.

Guy you need to break up with that your current girlfriend...she is a bad vibe... She is only dating u cus of your moni... If u marry that girl, u will regret it...

Concerning your ex, i will advice u just be her friends from now...i mean close friend then as times go on, you will know if u can ask her out again or not

Truthlord12:
please no need for insult. Should I assist my ex’s family and lose my new girlfriend? What if my ex don’t want to come back to the country I’ll lose two of em. Please give me a reasonable advice not insults

Just return the good deed she did to you, not minding if she will return back to you or not.

It is your goodness to her family that might even make her come back to you

solobrain:
Can you for once stop seeking your new gf validation on what you should do with your money or life. If she wants to leave because of what you're about to do, then open the door wide for her to find her way out.
Do you need any advice on what to do in this kind of situation.

Truthlord12:
Good evening people please I need your advice regards to this, I got separated from my ex girlfriend last year because she told me her travel plans abroad I was a bit sceptic About the nature of job she’ll do there, she’s the type that’s ready and willing to do anything to help her family.

After everything I told her not to embark on the journey that she should be patient with me, once my business picked up I’ll care for her and her family, she refused and traveled last year, few months before she left she gave me some money to add to my business I wouldn’t want to state the actual amount but a bit huge. Of recent her family really suffering because my ex had issue with the person that took her abroad so she’s passing through difficult time though she’s hiding some info from me since she’s not able to make money, she called me of recent that I should please do anything to help her family.

Now I’ve got a new girlfriend I told my new girlfriend about the issue but she said I shouldn’t give my ex family any money, because we ain’t together anymore that if I do she’ll leave me

Please people help me what should I do? My mind is really disturbing me and I still love my ex I wish I’ve a way to bring her back to Nigeria so we can start a family I don’t care the type of job she went there to do and I don’t mind what she has been through. She did so much for me, she made sacrifice that this my new girl won’t do, I don’t even know if my new girlfriend loves me or because of my money.

Though I love my new girlfriend but part of me is with my ex I don’t know if she’ll will be willing to return though I’ve not discussed it with her. And now my new girlfriend threatening to leave me if I assist or give back the money my ex gave me as support for my business before she travelled to her family I’ve been down for days thinking so much.

This had better be a joke... I hope it's a prank. WTF is wrong with you? A family is in turmoil and you can't help. Even if the girl didn't assist you something which most girls don't do, can't you help the family for the sake of God and your terrible and evil conscience. So if the girl hadn't helped you, you wouldn't help the family even though you're in a position to. I smell your downfall if you refuse to help your benefactor.

Kemimarch16:
You better give that lady her money if u don't want thunder to fire u there.why is that it usually difficult for some men to return any money give to them dere ex

He didn't say the money is a loan. He said he gave it to him to add to his business. Nevertheless, if he wants to help out, for old time sake, must he bring it to the knowledge of his new gf?

Truthlord12:
Good evening people please I need your advice regards to this, I got separated from my ex girlfriend last year because she told me her travel plans abroad I was a bit sceptic About the nature of job she’ll do there, she’s the type that’s ready and willing to do anything to help her family.

After everything I told her not to embark on the journey that she should be patient with me, once my business picked up I’ll care for her and her family, she refused and traveled last year, few months before she left she gave me some money to add to my business I wouldn’t want to state the actual amount but a bit huge. Of recent her family really suffering because my ex had issue with the person that took her abroad so she’s passing through difficult time though she’s hiding some info from me since she’s not able to make money, she called me of recent that I should please do anything to help her family.

Now I’ve got a new girlfriend I told my new girlfriend about the issue but she said I shouldn’t give my ex family any money, because we ain’t together anymore that if I do she’ll leave me

Please people help me what should I do? My mind is really disturbing me and I still love my ex I wish I’ve a way to bring her back to Nigeria so we can start a family I don’t care the type of job she went there to do and I don’t mind what she has been through. She did so much for me, she made sacrifice that this my new girl won’t do, I don’t even know if my new girlfriend loves me or because of my money.

Though I love my new girlfriend but part of me is with my ex I don’t know if she’ll will be willing to return though I’ve not discussed it with her. And now my new girlfriend threatening to leave me if I assist or give back the money my ex gave me as support for my business before she travelled to her family I’ve been down for days thinking so much.

I urge you to help out your ex girlfriend family, since your financially secured do it. It's always good to return the favor. Also your current girlfriend needs help, also be careful with her, if you marry her she might try to stop you from taking care of your own family.

lilyheaven:
Girl friend ooo
Not a wife,
Let her go, if she desires.
Or you signed a contract girl friend with her in the law court

i wonder oo my brother. I dnt knw why this man is behaving like a boy. Some1 should tell d OP nt to be ingrate.