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An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by MrKoi(m): 4:23pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
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Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by NobleSeed(m): 4:28pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
Two side of a coin......... I thought I read when you clearly stated that your wife is not the first daughter? So why the so called ritual of a thing? You told her to go and ask and she did, she came with a positive reply that's no need to perform the sacrifice .Later she said everyone was misinformed who is deciving who? Misinform as how? Who don't want to indulge in such practices right? So what's your family stand on that? Don't do that crap bro There is more to this you are not divulging to us ,probably they have not told you the real reason for the sacrifice.. Bro go and dig deep about this stuff if nobody wants to give you any fallible answer concerning this stuff. Don't be supprise what you will gana see. Perform the sacrifice at your own peril Don't. Don't. Don't.don't try it!!!!! 1 Like |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by Nobody: 4:29pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
oboy ur geh n ar famili don corna u 4 Tite corna. If your believe is strong you better jakpa or just follow love. |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by Nobody: 4:31pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
You didn't say anything about what the sacrifice is all about.People jump on each other these days without proper background check only to meet this type of things later.Dont do what you are not comfortable with,some tribes are very fetish especially south south part of Nigeria.You should inform your parents as well,also tell your pastor about it. |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by Nobody: 4:32pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
excellence44:what sort of rubbish advice is this?somebodys future husband smh |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by Nobody: 4:44pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
Zzor:Have sense. Don't be too emotional. make them no treat your matter like ERICA. |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by Nobody: 4:47pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
excellence44:if you had any sense,you won't spew such trash as an advice |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by Tajbol4splend(m): 4:47pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
21st century, people are still in this cage, o sad
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Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by Nobody: 4:50pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
Zzor:Erica it's okay off mic |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by Nobody: 4:51pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
Zzor:You are a woman but please have sense and don't be too emotional. |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by MrKoi(m): 5:07pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
NobleSeed: Yes. She's not the first to the father but first to the mom. Of course, I don't feel like doing it. I've not talked to my people about it. Most likely, they'll ask me not to do it because it's not done in my place. I've said all I know sir. This is just a forum and there'd be no point keeping a part of the whole thing to myself after all, I'm seeking counsel on how to cross the hurdle. I'm just tired. To say the least, since I got the news, I'm not excited about the whole thing again. I just feel bad. |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by MrKoi(m): 5:11pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
Zzor: I don't know the details of the sacrifice because I'm not from their tribe. But what I know is that they'd bring a list and you'd buy the things there and be led to perform the sacrifice. Indeed, it's in the South South part of Nigeria but I just want to keep the state and tribe in particular off. I'm yet to inform my parents and the church. |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by MrKoi(m): 5:12pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
Tajbol4splend: I'm speechless. |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by NobleSeed(m): 5:13pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
MrKoi:I understand your plight bro. Relate the matter to your family and be fixity with your decisions never to participate in that crap. |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by Nobody: 5:15pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
MrKoi:Dont do it ooo, never involve yourself in such without informing your parents,im very sure they are hiding more from you now till you are fully in. It will not pass Delta State,that state and fetish things are like 5$6.Tell us the state and tribe,dont be afraid of anybody here,its a faceless forum and if they insult you,i will reply them on your behalf 1 Like |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by MrKoi(m): 5:16pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
excellence44: I'm still wondering why her mom didn't do this when my girl told them I'd be coming for introduction. Why now that we've gone far into preparation for the marriage? |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by BareFacedLies(m): 5:18pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
MrKoi: Before the whitemen came with their Christianity we Africans had our own traditions. Doing the ceremony will not remove anything from your body! |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by Paramount01(m): 5:22pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
If you think you really love the girl do it,if you don't domit that shows ypou don't love her...this is the first step of love,not just the word of mouth but action... But for me ,I can't do it because I don't use to fall in love 1 Like |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by MrKoi(m): 5:28pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
My girl further told me that if I don't do it, her sister automatically can't do it and her mom would only have her second daughter to look after her from now until she grow old and die. She also said her mom suffered so much for her and she wouldn't bear I don't perform or pay for the sacrifice so she can take care of her. I've been very weak and unmotivated to do anything. |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by foxxydude: 5:32pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
They are trying to extort cash from you That is why they gave you the option to pay for the sacrifice Guy if the cash is not much pay for it and forget about it.
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Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by MrKoi(m): 5:33pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
BareFacedLies: If it won't take anything from me, why not they let us be? Why not they drop the practice? It's not a white man's religion, it's about my relationship with God. If I do it, I think I'd be serving both God and Mammon. |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by MrKoi(m): 5:40pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
foxxydude: If only they come forward and say the truth plainly, I'd settle them and walk away. Now they've succeeded to put the woman in total fear of dying if she eats anything from my hand or that of the daughter. She in turn is pressuring the daughter while the daughter is pressuring me, I think that won't work. |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by foxxydude: 5:44pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
MrKoi: Funerals and wedding are used by opportunistic relatives to extort If you investigate thoroughly you will find out its your mother in laws family that is requesting the sacrifice just to collect extra items |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by Ygrette(f): 6:00pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
Zzor: Lol you're very funny and you seem to be well informed. 2 Likes |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by MrKoi(m): 6:16pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
Zzor: Well, it's the Ibibio people in Akwa Ibom state. |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by Nobody: 6:24pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
MrKoi:They did it purposely to prevent you from turning back because by now they feel you might have gone too far to quit. |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by Kobicove(m): 6:27pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
MrKoi: How come is it that you're from the same tribe yet you don't know of this cultural practice? Anyway I would advise you do it |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by Nobody: 6:35pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
You don't want to pay for the rituals...you also do not want your girl to pay for it...you do not want to also end the marriage...You are a man, act like one. Marriage between 2 women is the worst prison in life. Hiding behind religion to justify an action is annoying. ...My girl was planning to use her money to pay for the ritual on my behalf. She told me about it and I said to her not to try it else at any time I find out in the future, I’d send her out of my life... |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by Nobody: 6:41pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
Ygrette:lol |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by samuelson06(m): 6:46pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
Kobicove: He said same state and not tribe. |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by Bluezy13(m): 6:49pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
Just pay the god-damned money. Or simply back off. All these Christianity bla bla bla makes me sick. |
Re: An Obnoxious Cultural Practice Is About To Tear Our Relationship Apart by NobleDeSage001: 6:49pm On Sep 06, 2020 |
"Give to Ceaser what is Ceaser's; give to God what is God's". Just try some more and find out exactly what the ritual entails. It will help you to decide if you want to do it for love or just back out of the marriage. |
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