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Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by LikeAking: 10:53pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
Babysuccess02: If he no han gout with guys,him no go make make. They wont show him rd. |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Acidosis(m): 10:54pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
Angelfrost: If any of my cousins come to live with me, I would never allow him or her stay out as late as 10 or 11pm to watch any match. Period. They can do such in their parents home, not mine. Your home, your principle. 1 Like |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by AtoningBlood(m): 10:54pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
Righteousness89: Don't judge this or something similar because your grand parents did it that way. Even the God said in His Word ' come let us reason together.....' My Dad beats me at 26, yes after my service year and waiting to get a job, I went for an offer I wasn't supposed to accept all because I told my self 'it is enough'. Left to another state where I had to live with a stranger before saving to get a place of my own. I later got a better job n left to a better place. All through my single time working I dare not go home cos I know the messages he was passing on phone would translate to beatings if I dare visit him. I hastingly got married to have a cover. And guess what, one thing lead to another this year, I visited my family house with my kids, and my Dad almost beat me again!!!!! Stop there I had to shout, that if he try to heat me I will sue him, he knows i meant it and he stopped. That's an abuse, my dad will leave a mark on you when he beats you, this is a married woman, can he try it if my husband is there with him? How will my husband feel? and I was shouldering a responsibility and taking care of a sick relation, if he had touched me I would have fainted cos I was weak. Under no guise should a child or an adult be abused, I have had the experience and I know what it means. Only God saw me through it, I was verbally, emotionally and physically abused, this almost destroyed social life, in the name of Church, Bible children are being abused daily even in the so called Christian homes, they have taken the responsibility from God. Spend time beating than praying for the children. Train your children with respect, they will certainly respect and regard you and your wishes. If I hadn't shouted and he beats me, my husband will hear it, certainly, he will never regard him for life, in addition, the little children around will never regard me again. Tell me what that will bring to me in the long run? My elder sister was beaten and disgraced at age 31, she became timid and hateful. Malicious and lived like an outcast. Look here, she is a Christian, she'd pray to forget but for years, she was bitter and kept malice with all my family members except me cos I wasn't there when it happened. Stop judging a case like this with 'my grandma or grandpa did it this way, they were wrong. I once forcee my son to brush his teeth and in the process, his tooth got removed, I laughed at him and the next time I picked up his toothbrush, I heard a voice rebuking me for hurting the boy and never saying sorry. Wow, I looked up and said am sorry, then hugged the boy and apologised to him with a promise not to force him again, till date, I don't force him, he do it by himself. Parents should rather allow God to take charge than being abusive. Am not saying we shouldn't correct where necessary, never, we as children of God knows what He did to Eli. But beating and leaving marks on our bodies? That negatives God's Word, our body is the temple of the Holy Ghost now. Why beat till blood gush out, can that blood be replaced by us? We should rather keep quiet on some things like this, or advise the party to pray and be settled on time. If you train your children like your grandparents did, be sure to be a failure like they did, still flugging their married sons. 32 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by midehill(m): 10:54pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
Fucsheetup: Bleep you |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by 4trecz: 10:55pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
Righteousness89: You shouldn't have talk on this bros. Did you think beating a man at 26 will make him come to his sense. It's better you are silent on this. 3 Likes |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Acidosis(m): 10:55pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
Organs: If at 26, your priority in life is to drag subscription or remote control with your father or wander at night like a thief or cultist, then you should be ready to accept whatever befalls you. I'm not responsible for your irresponsibility. And btw, I don't have issues with staying out or going wherever to watch whatever. Just don't go against the principles of your caretaker, parents or guardian. If you come to my house at 11pm because it's your priority to watch a match at night, be rest assured you would sleep at the gate. Principle is principle. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by LikeAking: 10:56pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
Righteousness89:Weaklins. No wonda you are following religion. Be strong. 8 Likes |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by JIMMY1393: 10:56pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
Prechgold1180: see this mumu...you think US and Nigeria are the same thing? some people even after moving out its not to go and be independent, they will go and be living with aunties and uncles all in the name of moving out 2 Likes |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Nobody: 10:56pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
MrHandsome2013:Asb |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by hstar: 10:57pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
Lawsaite:Same thing happened to me @26 Mine was slap, he slapped me such that a mark appeared on my right cheek, I didn't like him before, but dat day I just detest him and moved out of the house d following day, till today I don't bear his surname again, but I played my part anytime I'm with cash. I couldn't just fight him because he's my father, I wanted to, but I didn't, I just had to bring myself back, d worst part was when I got to my work place, pple who respect me a lot were just asking me how I got a mark on my face, but alas I couldn't tell them, save for one person. Why did he slap me? He slapped me because he gave birth to a baby and he was doing the naming ceremony and I refused to show up due to work and mostly I didn't vibe with him due to his character. Pple wouldn't understand this unless they passed through it 9 Likes |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Angelfrost(m): 10:57pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
Acidosis: I agree with that... But, flogging a grown ass man??! Where does that even begin to make sense??! Why not simply tell him off, and expressly warn him never to try that nonsense again, that a repeat will mean him sleeping outdoors??!... Why emasculate a grown man??! 5 Likes |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Vanzcharles(m): 10:58pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
Righteousness89: Mchteeewwww |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by jumper524(m): 10:58pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
situationreport:your dad would continue doing so until you dammn d consequences and react back.. was in your shoes years back. at 21 my dad punished me in front of visitors including children for doing almost nothing wrong. infact what I did that day was to leave the house when my mom's nagging became too much. she reported to my dad that I left the house, besides u didn't come home late sef. it continued until last year @age 23 when I finally reacted. omo na so d man carry stick for me oo, my anger was too much I took the stick away from him but didn't do nothing. but I just showed him the hard part of me that day, he tried again some other time and got a messier result. Now attimes I feel sorry for him cos he knows he can't get me do things the hard way again, rather he begs me indirectly to do it which is something he should have learnt to do on his own but learnt it the hard way. ill advise you hustle for something oo.. make sure I don't ask him for any penny yes any penny. @that age of you still stay in your fathers house, it's understandable but if he's still the one funding your bills aside feeding, my brother you still got a lot to do too. but next time he tries to bully you, no gree am. it's not disrespect, it's you putting your dad's sense on track . 8 Likes |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by ronyman(m): 10:58pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
Baba you said it all. The escape velocity aspect is epic. Kudos light099: 1 Like |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by osamz007: 10:58pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
Righteousness89: no wonder you still lack training |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Righteousness89(m): 10:59pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
Humanoid01: My Brother! Flogging is a form of Discipline Punishment is a Form of Discipline! You can't be Under your Parents and do anyhow! There are Lanlord that will lock you outside for breaking the house rules. If you are not happy, what u do is move out! As a young man who is passing a phase in Life, knowing the Circumstances around you, you will avoid anything that will bring such stuffs.. Maturity is not just in age or in height! It's the ability to know what to do and how to do it.. Your Parents are your Parents ! Don't Deceive yourself! If I visit my dad, and I wanna stay with him, I need to adjust myself to what happens there.. 3 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by dozzybreezy(m): 10:59pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
Your father is Okra plant. You sef na okra plant. The different is that your own okra no fit pass your father's. |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Nobody: 11:00pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
Righteousness89:Not necessarily wrong sir.. You are here as a light bringer don't end up comforming to the norms of Nairalnad if you allow you patience to be tampered with ....very soon heated arguments like these will not be the only things that will get people talking.... Nairaland has a way of turning a simple exchange of opinions into an argument filled with insults and abuse and such a thing is not something you should be found involved in..... Lots of Nairalanders although some may joke about it silently await you comments on trending issues which mostly is a reminder of the coming of Christ...arguments like this could dent your reputation and cause you to conform to the way things are done among Nairalanders..... We all have opinions sir and it's certainly not wrong for you to have yours...but looking at your reputation and the mission you have come to have on Nairaland...I advised that you pass across your opinion in love and tenderness....cancelling the post of other people is normally the trademark of trolls of which you are not.....pay the sacrifice of not comforming to Nairaland...God bless you sir.. 6 Likes |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Organs(m): 11:00pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
In all of this, i have a question? There is this guy Righteousness89, that has a very stupid immature opinion and position and i can see some folks respecting the mumu guy and not coming out outrightly to call him out on his Buhari + Jonathan brain. Pls who is he for God's sake? is he a Mod or something? 4 Likes |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by MrNipplesLover(m): 11:01pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
people are not following the holy books. is it written somewhere in the books that once you attain a certain age, you should resist your parents from beating you? I wanna learn. 2 Likes |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Nobody: 11:01pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
holyghost: Thank you.. 1 Like |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by LikeAking: 11:02pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
Acidosis: FEM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. 4 Likes |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Nobody: 11:02pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
Kriss216:Lol |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by prinxwizard(m): 11:02pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
Righteousness89:Flogging a 26-year old man? I don't want to sound abusive, but you're beginning to lose it.... 3 Likes |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by hstar: 11:02pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
Richy4:Correct Na bullying o Something that can even lead to hatred 2 Likes |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by JIMMY1393: 11:02pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
otipoju: I smell lies |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by 0neal(m): 11:03pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
@OP you have to step up your responsibility game |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Acidosis(m): 11:03pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
Angelfrost: I don't think the young man is grown enough to command some respect from his father. His father doesn't see him as a grown a$$ man. He needs to work on himself. Remember his father isn't here, and no amount of epistles will make his father read this thread? If he needs me to blame his father like everyone else has done, I can. |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by CoolJulian: 11:03pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
I'm so angry right now!... How much more docile could you be? That you are currently unemployed, is not enough reason for your father to whip you. At the age of 26, that is totally unacceptable... If you think he's doing you all the favour by providing with accommodation, some other needs, think of this...HE IS YOUR FATHER! Doing you such favour is not out of place! Now, i cannot imagine why a 26 year old guy would be allowing his father to flog him, just as he wishes... He told you not to keep late nights... Yeah! So what? That does not give him any right flog you like a kid! THAT IS DISRESPECT, ABUSE! He ought to show you respect, at least because you're an adult. He should actually expect to be disrespected back, if he fails to consider this. The only person who can change his orientation is YOU. Since you've been overly submissive, he sees you as a CHILD, and would continuously beat you up. Henceforth, RESIST every effort he makes at having you beaten, even if you might appear violent! |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by inumidun2010(m): 11:03pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
AtoningBlood: It is finished.... Imagine beating a Woman of age 31.. The aftermath is my PROBLEM.... It leaves scars... Even when you Cane a child for too long.. The child assumes you HATE him/her ... God knows once I marry my Wife, dem never born her PAPA or BROTHERS to touch HER... I revoked that license when I paid her BRIDEPRICE.. 7 Likes |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by JIMMY1393: 11:05pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
midehill: so its ok for a father to still be flogging his 26yr old son cos thats what your so called man of god is saying |
Re: At 26 My Dad Still Flogs Me by Righteousness89(m): 11:05pm On Sep 29, 2020 |
Chidorx60: My Dear! If I Cancel your post it simply means it's not needed.. Especially when you Quote me.. I could ignore or Strike it off' It's my Choice dear! It's not a curse! We don't do what We do to Please anybody! Thanks all the same.. 4 Likes 1 Share |
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