Organs:
In all of this, i have a question? There is this guy Righteousness89, that has a very stupid immature opinion and position and i can see some folks respecting the mumu guy and not coming out outrightly to call him out on his Buhari + Jonathan brain. Pls who is he for God's sake? is he a Mod or something?

Nairaland's resident pastor.Rumour has it that he's Dominique's brother in the Lord.

JIMMY1393:

I smell lies

Is it your lie?

Righteousness89:


My Brother! Flogging is a form of Discipline
Punishment is a Form of Discipline!

You can't be Under your Parents and do anyhow!

There are Lanlord that will lock you outside for breaking the house rules. If you are not happy, what u do is move out!

As a young man who is passing a phase in Life, knowing the Circumstances around you, you will avoid anything that will bring such stuffs..

Maturity is not just in age or in height!
It's the ability to know what to do and how to do it..

Your Parents are your Parents ! Don't Deceive yourself!

If I visit my dad, and I wanna stay with him, I need to adjust myself to what happens there..

There is different between depending on God to help raise your child at age 26 than flogging. That flogging is human effort which cannot yield any good result. It's the holy spirit that changes people not flogging.

Broda I will only pray for you.... May God bless enrich you and grant your heart desires.amen

I kept seeing people repeating the word 'child' child. That's a grown man being abused mentally and physically by a narcissist because he's broke with no alternative roof over his head.

OP just take this as a phase you must pass. As an adult even my parents have to start with an explanation and logic for why I should or shouldn't do something.

As for whipping, my dad never did that to me even as a kid; let alone a full grown adult.

What a sadist (how do I unread this) Some parents will give an account to God of how they abused their privilege.

Ishilove:

The problem with many African parents is they don't know where to draw the line. See the young man here lamenting and resenting his father because he is being treated like a little kid. Will you say this so-called discipline worked? No! Instead the father is driving his son to despair, just as the bible warned. The bible exhorts us to respect and honour our parents, but the same bible also warned parents not to provoke their children. Many men are married at 26 and are living in family homes so your position does not hold water

Good, u are on point my babe

Kriss216:
You’re a good writer.

How you managed to skip your gender all through the post is orgasmic.

The title if the post says "At 26, His Father Still Flogs Him" not really difficult to deduce that OP is male.

Fucsheetup:
26year old man is a child?


You need to go back to school because you clearly wasted your time there’s.

The school I attended taught me that a child could be a man or woman of any age.

Even if your principal is a dunderhead, at least you should have heard statements like "I'm a child of God" from your pastor. Does it mean your pastor is a baby??

Don't be unfortunate please

JIMMY1393:


I smell lies

O.K.

Righteousness89:
[s][/s]
If I was your Father! I will cane you for uttering this..

Oshey, Cane and Abel

light099:
Seems your dad is a perpetual ass whooper and since you're not yet making him feel proud to be a father, by travelling down home in a sleek car, perhaps on some weekends and dropping fat envelope in his hands, the only other way he feels like a father is by whooping your ass.

Like people say, age is just a number, your parents start to regard you as an adult, the moment you're able to survive on your own and they can live off on you.
If you're 50 years old still living under your parents and also living off them, then you're still a kid to them anytime any day, and your sorry ass can be whooped real bad, if situation warrants it. You don't amount to shiit to them, and they can fvck you up big time, if you trespass.
Since, you're yet to clock the criteria of an adult, the only choice left is to continue enjoying the ass whooping, while you work hard in order to gather enough escape velocity to break away from all the gravity of joblessness, grounding your ass in your parents' house.

So when my parents are old and weak and they decide to live with me they will automatically become my kids na.Its my house so i can bruise them they way I want.

Make una dey think very deep bf talking.

A landord will misbehave and tell tenants its my house.

Area boys will missbehave and tell people it their land.

Let apply logical thinking.

Whats wrong is wrong.

Righteousness89:
Your Father is your Father! He can correct as he wants !
My GrandFather Dealt with his sons who Where Married..
More so when you are still under his Roof!

I used to see all your post but ignore cos me i dont believe in God but after seeing many people quote you i decided to read what you wrote and its today i know you dont have sense...so even Jesus christ would have been flogging his son @26 if he had one abi? oniranu false prophet gtfo

Righteousness89:
Your Father is your Father! He can correct as he wants !
My GrandFather Dealt with his sons who Where Married..
More so when you are still under his Roof!

You jonze for this one abeg.

Acidosis:



If any of my cousins come to live with me, I would never allow him or her stay out as late as 10 or 11pm to watch any match. Period.

They can do such in their parents home, not mine. Your home, your principle.

Not enough reason to assault an adult. It's a criminal offense that could land him in jail.

Righteousness89:


My Brother! Flogging is a form of Discipline
Punishment is a Form of Discipline!

You can't be Under your Parents and do anyhow!

There are Lanlord that will lock you outside for breaking the house rules. If you are not happy, what u do is move out!

As a young man who is passing a phase in Life, knowing the Circumstances around you, you will avoid anything that will bring such stuffs..

Maturity is not just in age or in height!
It's the ability to know what to do and how to do it..

Your Parents are your Parents ! Don't Deceive yourself!

If I visit my dad, and I wanna stay with him, I need to adjust myself to what happens there..

Like I said earlier sir; the problem isn't disciplining, it's the method used. Even though it is harsh, it is actually better to be locked outside than to be flogged as an adult. Flogging an adult is not ideal at all, no matter what.

When I was a kid, I got into a lot of troubles and I was flogged on multiple occasions. They couldn't even spare me for a sec. After I graduated from secondary school and got enrolled into tertiary school, I still erred but the means for correction changed, and that was because they reconciled with the fact that I've grown. I'm not saying we shouldn't respect and obey our parents -- this should be constant, whether we're under their roof or ours.

All I'm saying is they should also be able to respect your advancement in age and learn to treat you differently. Harsh treatments don't always give expected results. I stand with the point that flogging someone who is mature enough to make decisions for himself is wrong.

light099:
Seems your dad is a perpetual ass whooper and since you're not yet making him feel proud to be a father, by travelling down home in a sleek car, perhaps on some weekends and dropping fat envelope in his hands, the only other way he feels like a father is by whooping your ass.

Like people say, age is just a number, your parents start to regard you as an adult, the moment you're able to survive on your own and they can live off on you.
If you're 50 years old still living under your parents and also living off them, then you're still a kid to them anytime any day, and your sorry ass can be whooped real bad, if situation warrants it. You don't amount to shiit to them, and they can fvck you up big time, if you trespass.
Since, you're yet to clock the criteria of an adult, the only choice left is to continue enjoying the ass whooping, while you work hard in order to gather enough escape velocity to break away from all the gravity of joblessness, grounding your ass in your parents' house.

So when my parents become old and weak and they decide to live with me, they will automatically become my kids na.Its my house so i can bruise them they way I want.

Make una dey think very deep bf talking.

A landord will misbehave and tell tenants its my house.

Area boys will missbehave and tell people it their land.

Let apply logical thinking.

Whats wrong is wrong.

kkins25:
Your FATHER

Just ignore him please, ishilove has given him the required answer

hstar:

Same thing happened to me @26
Mine was slap, he slapped me such that a mark appeared on my right cheek, I didn't like him before, but dat day I just detest him and moved out of the house d following day, till today I don't bear his surname again, but I played my part anytime I'm with cash.

I couldn't just fight him because he's my father, I wanted to, but I didn't, I just had to bring myself back, d worst part was when I got to my work place, pple who respect me a lot were just asking me how I got a mark on my face, but alas I couldn't tell them, save for one person.

Why did he slap me?
He slapped me because he gave birth to a baby and he was doing the naming ceremony and I refused to show up due to work and mostly I didn't vibe with him due to his character.

Pple wouldn't understand this unless they passed through it

I understand this perfectly... Some people are simply ignorant here!

butterfly55:
The only advice I will give to you is to go out there and become a man. Will you depend on them forever? At 26? Go out and hustle, get your own place, even if it's one room, start from there, do something with your life. Start small, make it and stand on your own feet. That way, no one will reduce you to nothing, not even your father. You brought this upon yourself by still living under his house at your age. If you live under him, you have to abide by his rules and take his shit! Sorry but that's the hard truth!

VERY CORRECT! HARD TRUTH THAT MANY FIND DIFFICULT TO UNDERSTAND

Richy4:


I'm so loving you already [b] u deserve daddy's hug.[/b].

Bia b careful o
She's my bae

merieam16:
@op follow this advice at ur own peril

bros I was in the op shoes years back.
I did what this guy did and the story is d reverse today.
then my dad would beat me, call soldiers when dey front of our house(dad was a military officer) to beat me join.
until d day when I carry jack knife to treatment my dad and promised to stab any soldier that interfere.
men I did it out of depression cos my dad was exploiting my weakness.
today me and d old man na partial friend, yeah we were never alike in nature though..

light099:
Seems your dad is a perpetual ass whooper and since you're not yet making him feel proud to be a father, by travelling down home in a sleek car, perhaps on some weekends and dropping fat envelope in his hands, the only other way he feels like a father is by whooping your ass.

Like people say, age is just a number, your parents start to regard you as an adult, the moment you're able to survive on your own and they can live off on you.
If you're 50 years old still living under your parents and also living off them, then you're still a kid to them anytime any day, and your sorry ass can be whooped real bad, if situation warrants it. You don't amount to shiit to them, and they can fvck you up big time, if you trespass.
Since, you're yet to clock the criteria of an adult, the only choice left is to continue enjoying the ass whooping, while you work hard in order to gather enough escape velocity to break away from all the gravity of joblessness, grounding your ass in your parents' house.

Never read such truth in a very long time.

Independence is maturity. Bless you!

Acidosis:



If at 26, your priority in life is to drag subscription or remote control with your father or wander at night like a thief or cultist, then you should be ready to accept whatever befalls you. I'm not responsible for your irresponsibility.

And btw, I don't have issues with staying out or going wherever to watch whatever. Just don't go against the principles of your caretaker, parents or guardian.

If you come to my house at 11pm because it's your priority to watch a match at night, be rest assured you would sleep at the gate. Principle is principle.

You obviously do not have kids or have no clue about parenting. Imagine your statement, you are trying to keep a child safe and you say he will sleep at the gate for coming home late? Bros, stop all that stupid mentality our parents did when we were young. I went to a party in secondary school and my mum locked the door and i had to sleep in the parked car outside. She herself couldn't sleep throughout the night and i got emboldened. Now i have a place to sleep, so what do i do? i started going to parties like my friends and i will not bother to come back home cos i imagined the door will be locked. When, kids turn 18, they listen to their friends more and you are helpless at that time, you have to use wisdom and not that stupid "principle is principle", your child will just join bad gang that will give him accommodation and if its your daughter, you will lose her, period. Go and watch the Yoruba movie, "OLEKU", you will learn a lot.

Reading comments, the one supporting my thought and the one opposing, it gets me angry n depressed coz, i ve suffered this.. @Rightueosness89 your comments got me really pissed, Mr.OP do watever you got to do n live that house.. my own part though, im 24 yrs, still under my parents care, i dont generate my own income or have handwork, my dad fights me(not even caning me) even chasing me wit cutlass at de age of 10 because i mistakenly broke a bucket.
still on still i do resist him, whenever i block his attack, he will say that m fighting me n start laying curses on me, that my kids will fights him n other misfortune on me...Righteousness89 u really need to keep shut on this matter cuz u re so annoying

Organs:


You obviously do not have kids or have no clue about parenting. Imagine your statement, you are trying to keep a child safe and you say he will sleep at the gate for coming home late? Bros, stop all that stupid mentality our parents did when we were young. I went to a party in secondary school and my mum locked the door and i had to sleep in the parked car outside. She herself couldn't sleep throughout the night and i got emboldened. Now i have a place to sleep, so what do i do? i started going to parties like my friends and i will not bother to come back home cos i imagined the door will be locked. When, kids turn 18, they listen to their friends more and you are helpless at that time, you have to use wisdom and not that stupid "principle is principle", your child will just join bad gang that will give him accommodation and if its your daughter, you will lose her, period. Go and watch the Yoruba movie, "OLEKU", you will learn a lot.

Thanks for the recommendation but I'm not interested. The fact that you gave your parents a hard time doesn't mean we all did. I didn't join any bad gang growing up, I don't stay out late. Never been flogged by my parents either.

At 18, I was listening to myself more, sorry. No mistakes, no regrets.

Acidosis:
If you were my child, I'll also whoop your arse until you cry like a baby. Don't take stup!d risks in another man's home. It is very very unfair.

If you were in my area last night, you'll probably be cooling off in SARS or DSS cell this minute. Some cult boys decided to count scores last night and SARS ensured they cleared the entire neighborhood. Of course, innocent ones like you who went to "watch match late in the night" were arrested.

Don't put your parents and guidance through unecessary fear. If anything happens to you, the world will blame your father.

you're indeed a father

Bros.. I understand your plight perfectly, believe me, I have been in your shoes severally before.
The reason he's still doing that is because you're staying under his roof and you have nothing doing as at now.

But if you know you have no other options than to still be staying under his roof for now, you gotta man up bro, next time drag it out with him, make him understand he gotta stop, make him reason you're no longer a small boy.
This kind of act will affect you psychologically and you might not be able to stand up for your right outside when someone of the same age with you or older than you is intimidating you.. You gotta stand for yourself now.
Don't always be that gentle timid guy, learn to stand up for yourself.. Haba, beating a 26 year old guy.. That's archaic and sad.

CoolJulian:


I understand this perfectly... Some people are simply ignorant here!

Thanks
Would you mind sharing urs too, if I can learn two or three things there, please?

because for u to understand it, u must av passed 2ru it

Righteousness89:


My Brother! Flogging is a form of Discipline
Punishment is a Form of Discipline!

You can't be Under your Parents and do anyhow!

There are Lanlord that will lock you outside for breaking the house rules. If you are not happy, what u do is move out!

As a young man who is passing a phase in Life, knowing the Circumstances around you, you will avoid anything that will bring such stuffs..

Maturity is not just in age or in height!
It's the ability to know what to do and how to do it..

Your Parents are your Parents ! Don't Deceive yourself!

If I visit my dad, and I wanna stay with him, I need to adjust myself to what happens there..

Do you even listen to yourself? That you never consider what some people are saying is totally appalling.

Hear me well, any father who would flog his child who is 26, is totally disrespecting and abusing them; they are not being disciplined as you think. Such a one deserves to be disrespected back.

situationreport:
Please is there anyone else experiencing what I'm passing through now, because it's making me sad and depressed I can't believe my dad still whips me at my age.. I don't want to confront him because, he's still my father even though I feel gutted for his actions

Yesterday I went to watch liverpool vs Arsenal match in a viewing center, and came back late at night by 9:55 pm, As soon as I came in, he was still awake in the parlor, what he did next was to use the cain he hid to start whipping me...i think is because I'm still living with him, at my age with no meaningful contribution right now, that's why

I have no where to go to, It seems I'm now a burden to them in our house...because I 'm currently jobless now and unemployed for six months now, due to this pandemic... I was initially working in the hospitality industry as a waiter, but was laid off at the beginning of the covid-19 pandemic, ever since then things have gone from bad to worse for me..... I'm broke to hell at the moment

I'm seriously depressed, I just wish I could relocate far away and look for something else to do, and fix my life back, but no where to go, I don't have anyone to help... � May God forgive me if I can't bear this anymore....

Bro u’re an idiot.
My parents stopped beating me when I was in jss3. Not because I was stubborn, I just displayed one madness that changed everything!

Oga man up and stop being a coward. It’s not disrespect, it’s being a man.

In fact the reason you are jobless and depressed is because you’re a coward!

They don’t owe you nothing bro but sometimes you can hold them to random, create awareness, shake them to the marrow. NOTHING WILL HAPPEN OGA!

Don’t move because you think you want them to respect you.
It’s not easy out here
Save sufficient money, SHOW DEM BIG WEREY, then move at your convenience.

Stop explaining yourself when you do something wrong sef.

Baba just start living!

AtoningBlood:


Don't judge this or something similar because your grand parents did it that way.

Even the God said in His Word ' come let us reason together.....'

My Dad beats me at 26, yes after my service year and waiting to get a job, I went for an offer I wasn't supposed to accept all because I told my self 'it is enough'. Left to another state where I had to live with a stranger before saving to get a place of my own. I later got a better job n left to a better place. All through my single time working I dare not go home cos I know the messages he was passing on phone would translate to beatings if I dare visit him. I hastingly got married to have a cover. And guess what, one thing lead to another this year, I visited my family house with my kids, and my Dad almost beat me again!!!!!

Stop there I had to shout, that if he try to heat me I will sue him, he knows i meant it and he stopped. That's an abuse, my dad will leave a mark on you when he beats you, this is a married woman, can he try it if my husband is there with him? How will my husband feel? and I was shouldering a responsibility and taking care of a sick relation, if he had touched me I would have fainted cos I was weak.

Under no guise should a child or an adult be abused, I have had the experience and I know what it means. Only God saw me through it, I was verbally, emotionally and physically abused, this almost destroyed social life, in the name of Church, Bible children are being abused daily even in the so called Christian homes, they have taken the responsibility from God. Spend time beating than praying for the children. Train your children with respect, they will certainly respect and regard you and your wishes.

If I hadn't shouted and he beats me, my husband will hear it, certainly, he will never regard him for life, in addition, the little children around will never regard me again. Tell me what that will bring to me in the long run?

My elder sister was beaten and disgraced at age 31, she became timid and hateful. Malicious and lived like an outcast. Look here, she is a Christian, she'd pray to forget but for years, she was bitter and kept malice with all my family members except me cos I wasn't there when it happened.

Stop judging a case like this with 'my grandma or grandpa did it this way, they were wrong.

I once forcee my son to brush his teeth and in the process, his tooth got removed, I laughed at him and the next time I picked up his toothbrush, I heard a voice rebuking me for hurting the boy and never saying sorry. Wow, I looked up and said am sorry, then hugged the boy and apologised to him with a promise not to force him again, till date, I don't force him, he do it by himself.

Parents should rather allow God to take charge than being abusive. Am not saying we shouldn't correct where necessary, never, we as children of God knows what He did to Eli. But beating and leaving marks on our bodies? That negatives God's Word, our body is the temple of the Holy Ghost now. Why beat till blood gush out, can that blood be replaced by us?

We should rather keep quiet on some things like this, or advise the party to pray and be settled on time.

If you train your children like your grandparents did, be sure to be a failure like they did, still flugging their married sons.

I shed a tear while reading this. I never experienced anything like this while growing. People think I'm a sadist by nature. That I rarely smile. I only laugh within when I hear such. Life has never really offered me anything to be Happy about.

Kweensavvy:


Not enough reason to assault an adult. It's a criminal offense that could land him in jail.

Well, you're right.

But if as a father I have to choose one of (1) correcting my child through assault and (2) having my child assaulted by SARS for wandering at night, I will choose the former.


It's funny how no one care about the trauma his father may have been through. He probably may have called his line severally all through the evening only for him to show up at 11pm.