My husband saw I had a pay rise in January on my payslip but I forgot to tell him and he is mad over this trivial matter

I have resolved never to apologise for this one, husbands are getting swollen headed these days

Lol... I don't really know what you want us to say. Annual increments, regardless of how small, are normal in most organizations so even without mentioning it, it's should be expected and shouldn't come as a surprise.

Do you guys have an agreement to contribute a certain percentage of your salary to a project, expense head or savings? If that's the case, then he might be feeling cheated and you not apologizing would only make it seem deliberate. I'd suggest you apologize and move on. There are bigger things to think about

In the absence of such agreement/structure, the next question would be, does he always pick on little things like this? If that is his personality, it would still be up to you to manage the situation. It is a known fact that couples stay together by staying committed and managing one another, and not really cause of the initial lovey-dovey feelings that hardly go beyond the first few years. They might be some of your excesses he is managing too. Relationship is about being with someone whose excesses you can tolerate and I believe you knew his personality before marrying him. Both of you can't be hot headed or prideful or nagging at the same time. Someone has to be the 'let peace reign' type. So I'd still say, tell the man what he wants to hear and move on.

At the end, only you can handle your husband. Nairalanders don't care about you. The truth is, we have our own problems. We're here to pass time and say things that will make us feel good about ourselves. It's all about us. Some school boys will insult you and side your husband just to feel like a "man". Some fellow ladies will insult your husband and tell you to do things they wouldn't do. A few will give you sincere advice and move on to the next thread with the speed of light. It's up to you to know what really matters. Pay attention to the big picture.

What is the aim of this thread?

See person wife

If you're still in that house your husband is the coolest man on earth. Emi meji loyon. Your papa house na him you go dey write this thing from. Since you forgot to tell me about your pay rise me to go forget you for your papa house. For I can never trust you ever again. Since January. Note it's not about the cash it's because you are a professional liar

Preciousgirl:
My husband saw I had a pay rise in January on my payslip but I forgot to tell him and he is mad over this trivial matter

I have resolved never to apologise for this one, husbands are getting swollen headed these days

Is It a significant pay rise?

This one is always having issues with her husband...

Wait, na you marry am abi ur parents force una together.. Ehnnn

You and husband issue are like 5 & 6

Preciousgirl:
My husband saw I had a pay rise in January on my payslip but I forgot to tell him and he is mad over this trivial matter

I have resolved never to apologise for this one, husbands are getting swollen headed these days

Can u give us small from the pay rise make we share?

You know you didn't really forget to tell him.

thesicilian:

You know you didn't really forget to tell him.

I forgot..I don't lie

ArewaOduduwaBia:

Can u give us small from the pay rise make we share?

Drop your account details

DaudaTheSexyGuy:


Is It a significant pay rise?

No

Women!

You forgot to tell him since January

We’re not babies here, this girl!

it is well oh

Preciousgirl:



Drop your account details

I am serious o.

Lets reason it well, you forgot to tel him since january, madam u are a liar and ur husband has every right to get angry

Albertone:



GTBank
A A A
0464313378


Me too abeg

What do you need it for?

Albertone:



GTBank
A A A
0464313378


Me too abeg

A A A don't be faster than ur shadow, u wan thief my money ni?

Ehnn

Namie
Keep begging him

Preciousgirl:


What do you need it for?

See me for here.

Preciousgirl:
My husband saw I had a pay rise in January on my payslip but I forgot to tell him and he is mad over this trivial matter

I have resolved never to apologise for this one, husbands are getting swollen headed these days

lemme forward my CV to you please. I need a job

Albertone:


You typed my full names,what for?

Kindly help modify it from your post please.

And I never claimed to be you to her.I only said "me too"

Ok, I will do just that, but no corner my money sha.

ArewaOduduwaBia:

Ok, I will do just that, but no corner my money sha.

Thanks

Preciousgirl:
My husband saw I had a pay rise in January on my payslip but I forgot to tell him and he is mad over this trivial matter

I have resolved never to apologise for this one, husbands are getting swollen headed these days

Men I warn u guyz again....never marry a working class women if u want long lasting marriage....

Working ladies are egocentric,unapologetic,in love with money,believ marriage is a competition btw husband and wife,disrespect husbands and always searching for the door....

A word is enough for the wise..!

Call me old skl if u want.truth is bitter

Blackmann001:



Men I warn u guyz again....never marry a working class women if u want long lasting marriage....

Working ladies are egocentric,unapologetic,in love with money,believ marriage is a competition btw husband and wife,disrespect husbands and always searching for the door....

A word is enough for the wise..!

Call me old skl if u want.truth is bitter

If the husband is temporarily facing challenges in finance,who will support him till he is back on his feet??

Blackmann001:



Men I warn u guyz again....never marry a working class women if u want long lasting marriage....

Working ladies are egocentric,unapologetic,in love with money,believ marriage is a competition btw husband and wife,disrespect husbands and always searching for the door....

A word is enough for the wise..!

Call me old skl if u want.truth is bitter

You are suffering from hernia of inferiority

you forgot to tell him or never planned telling him?? just a pay rise and you are calling the "man" of the ous a swollen head abi??
no problem, don't apologize and let's see how it would endup, after all wen a woman gets more money she feels she no longer needs a man and joins the feminist geng...set awon #i love d woman I am.,..but finally reality would hit you DT pride goes before a fall...

Preciousgirl:
My husband saw I had a pay rise in January on my payslip but I forgot to tell him and he is mad over this trivial matter

I have resolved never to apologise for this one, husbands are getting swollen headed these days

you and your husband everytime. Una matter don dey stale