okpalaAnambra:

Neither is a sex driven person

shadeyinka:

Neither is a non virgin you mean!

okpalaAnambra:

Yeah.. Exactly

shadeyinka:

Which implies that being a virgin or not does not guarantee a good marriage

shadeyinka:

Ok!
Go find your virgin if that's the truth!

okpalaAnambra:

Nop.. It does, the Virginity builds trust and the fact that your partner is disciplined.. That's the real life thing.. Forget all these theories ppl de yan online

shadeyinka:

I have never insinuated that virginity us of no value (one of it is promoting trust in difficult circumstances). However it still doesn't guarantee a good marriage. A good marriage goes beyond sex.
Friendship
Unconditional acceptance
Companionship
Spirituality

None of these four has anything to do with being a virgin at marriage.

I am an advocate of no sex before marriage as that which is honourable. However,if the pot is already broken, maturity is moving on without weeping over spilt milk

shadeyinka:

That is true but the OP is unrealistically immature in his stance. Virginity has its advantage in marriage such as promoting TRUST in difficult circumstances BUT it doesn't guarantee a good marriage.

shadeyinka:

I have never insinuated that virginity us of no value (one of it is promoting trust in difficult circumstances). However it still doesn't guarantee a good marriage. A good marriage goes beyond sex.
Friendship
Unconditional acceptance
Companionship
Spirituality

None of these four has anything to do with being a virgin at marriage.

I am an advocate of no sex before marriage as that which is honourable. However,if the pot is already broken, maturity is moving on without weeping over spilt milk

GLYCOLYSISS:

More reason you should not be taken serious.
A man saying men wanting virgin women is just because of sex
Basically, wh*re have more chances of offer you those qualities in marriage ?
You're not a sincere fellow,with these mindset.
Women want rich dudes, do rich dude come inherently with those qualities you listed ?
Aren't there breakup and divorces from the same rich dudes that women crave ?
Does that dissuade them from wanting a rich dude for marriage ?
Thousands of women have left promising relationships with all those qualities you listed simply because the dude can't spend on their vanity, aren't we told to respect their choice ?
No matter the conditioning today's men are being ingrained to, you can't downplay men value for virgin women, because it's even beyond just sex, and to be a virgin woman in today's society takes lots of discipline, self control and contentment, which are very important values anybody could posses, but you're not ready for that conversation because it's a huge blow to your character assessment on virgins.
Virginity is more than hymen, deal with that!

Curious345:
I may not be a virgin , but it's generally accepted that she has to be a virgin.

Men are born disvirgined from above

HotPoundedYam:
virginity isn't a trival issue.
women who are chaste are always cherished

GLYCOLYSISS:

I have being following your argument from the initials, and I must commend wordworld for dragging it these long with you in here.
First and foremost,you're more concerned about being right than facing the reality of the life we live in.
Sir,have it occurred to you that not the same standard that apply to women in the society are applicable to a man?
A woman is not called out for being broke in today's society, funny enough, even women that got nothing , in terms of finance ,wants the richest guy(s) on planet earth ?
They even go as far as insulting guys not very financial buoyant, even when they are not themselves.
You're not calling them hypocrite, and even the society call it her "standards" and we should all respect that.
A short and ugly woman,most cases, look down on short guys, even though he may be handsome, they want them tall and handsome .
Nobody is calling them out for hypocrisy and that they should go for fellow short men.

Crazy enough, no woman wants a virgin male,they are even ridiculed, because ,in all honesty, they sucks in bed.
To women, a male virgin got no value, but not the same with how men view women who are virgins.
Men and women are built different to navigate life and what's of utmost important to them.
In all honesty, no man wants a wh*re or non virgins,especially for commitment like marriage.
They're OK for unserious relationships,but certainly not marriage.
And you ask why?
Pair bonding!
The more sexual partner a woman have gotten dirty with, the more damaged she is, psychologically and emotionally.
Very much the reverse is the case for men.
Women don't view sex with the same lens men does.
To men, sex is just for pleasure and making babies, to women, sex is very much deeper than that.
It's for connectivity, both mentally, emotionally and what have you.
Who talks about being used and dumped when sex is involved between a man and a woman in a relationship ?
In there, you get your answer, but you're not ready to acknowledge it.
If a broke woman wants a rich dude, why can't a non virgin guy want a virgin woman ?
Or the hypocrisy rule is only applicable to men ?
Yea,virgin woman may not be an important factor for a successful marriage for you, not every guy sees it that way, and they should not be shamed for their choice(s).
The same way rich dude may not be an important factor for a successful marriage, but does it discourage women from wanting them ?
Stop these mindset of shaming guys for what they want in women, but remain mute, and as most do, promote choices women wants for themselves.

Men will always value Chastity, youthfulness and beauty in women, and women will always value masculinity, power and wealth in men, deal with that !
Until women and society start appreciating virginity in men, you're fighting a lost cause.

shadeyinka:

It isn't.
If your girl lost her virginity due to masturbation what makes you different if you also have masturbated

Would you accept to marry a girl who lost her virginity due to masturbation? If Not, answer the question!

shadeyinka:

My arguments have been on this basis:
Can we truthfully call EVERY non-virgin woman a WHORE_?

If the answer to the above is YES, then I rest my case as no further logic can suffice.

If the answer to the question above is NO, then it means we have to look at each case by its own merit.

Is a 3 year old girl fingered by an adult uncle/neighbour in the category of "whore_" even if till adulthood she never touched a man?
When a woman is born without a hymen, does that prove she's a whore_ by birth?
When in the days of immaturity and ignorance a girl gets pregnant out of wedlock and she's repented and living right with God at adulthood, is she still a whore_?

My claim is that it is wrong and immature for a man to use a general blanket to judge every non-virgin.

It is even more immoral when such guys have black belt in pornography and masturbation yet claiming virtuous!

My normal environment is not sexually promiscuous yet we have seen several cases where it happens that both the young male and female are put under church discipline for sexual immorality.

Is your argument that these ones are irredeemably LOST to immorality?

GLYCOLYSISS:

A wh*re,is any woman who have had consensual sex, out of wedlock!
You're don't need to be fucking random guys everyday for money to be termed a wh*re. That's society trying to sugar coat it meaning.
It's not only limited to when women stand on the street and being picked by random guys for sex.
So a baby of three years being fingered forcefully without her consent, an act of rape, is what you're bringing into these conversation
You're a mischievous fellow, you got to be ashamed of yourself!
So a lady without hymen is what you're bring into these conversation ?
How does that relate to her Chastity, inexperience in sex ?
So virginity is all about hymen to you ? Even when I presented strong argument against these childish view ?
I'm beginning to think it's a woman that's behind that moniker, I will not forgive myself for wasting my time on you, if you're a woman.
You're more concerned about winning than entertaining any contrary opinion.
You don't talk about morality here, because every now and then, women hold men to higher standard than they hold themselves.
Women don't give a f*ck about morality, especially when they wants to secure their interest, but when it's men you play the morality card.
Going forward, you're ignored and I'm done with conversing with you.
Take care and have a wonderful day!

Curious345:
well she may be up for consideration, dildos are objects . But men are not.

I just wanna see blood stain on that white linen after round one on the first night after marriage

WORDWORLD:



OF COURSE I KNOW THIS VERY WELL AND THAT IS WHY I DID NOT MAKE THE MISTAKE OF NOT ADDING WITH A GOOD CHARACTER SEPERATELY TO QUALIFY THE KIND OF VIRGIN WIFE THAT MAKES THE HAPPIEST OF MEN.

GLYCOLYSISS:

I have being following your argument from the initials, and I must commend wordworld for dragging it these long with you in here.
First and foremost,you're more concerned about being right than facing the reality of the life we live in.
Sir,have it occurred to you that not the same standard that apply to women in the society are applicable to a man?
A woman is not called out for being broke in today's society, funny enough, even women that got nothing , in terms of finance ,wants the richest guy(s) on planet earth ?
They even go as far as insulting guys not very financial buoyant, even when they are not themselves.
You're not calling them hypocrite, and even the society call it her "standards" and we should all respect that.
A short and ugly woman,most cases, look down on short guys, even though he may be handsome, they want them tall and handsome .
Nobody is calling them out for hypocrisy and that they should go for fellow short men.

Crazy enough, no woman wants a virgin male,they are even ridiculed, because ,in all honesty, they sucks in bed.
To women, a male virgin got no value, but not the same with how men view women who are virgins.
Men and women are built different to navigate life and what's of utmost important to them.
In all honesty, no man wants a wh*re or non virgins,especially for commitment like marriage.
They're OK for unserious relationships,but certainly not marriage.
And you ask why?
Pair bonding!
The more sexual partner a woman have gotten dirty with, the more damaged she is, psychologically and emotionally.
Very much the reverse is the case for men.
Women don't view sex with the same lens men does.
To men, sex is just for pleasure and making babies, to women, sex is very much deeper than that.
It's for connectivity, both mentally, emotionally and what have you.
Who talks about being used and dumped when sex is involved between a man and a woman in a relationship ?
In there, you get your answer, but you're not ready to acknowledge it.
If a broke woman wants a rich dude, why can't a non virgin guy want a virgin woman ?
Or the hypocrisy rule is only applicable to men ?
Yea,virgin woman may not be an important factor for a successful marriage for you, not every guy sees it that way, and they should not be shamed for their choice(s).
The same way rich dude may not be an important factor for a successful marriage, but does it discourage women from wanting them ?
Stop these mindset of shaming guys for what they want in women, but remain mute, and as most do, promote choices women wants for themselves.

Men will always value Chastity, youthfulness and beauty in women, and women will always value masculinity, power and wealth in men, deal with that !
Until women and society start appreciating virginity in men, you're fighting a lost cause.

SmartProf:
If a trivial issue like the virginity status of a lady is giving you sleepless nights and restlessness in this age & time then u ain't ready to be married yet & your psychological maturity is in doubt to handle marriage. I will advise you to look for some other distractions like playing video games and forget marriage till you are man enough mentally. When u eventually get the virgin lady u are so obsessed about after an ultimate search, let her virginity bring alongside all you need to make it big on earth since it appears you intend to use it to update your CV. E dey like say this one hear say virgin ladies na arch angels dem be..e go shock U.

Magnoliaa:


Double-speaking then, are you?

Lmfao.

So, answer this: A VIRGIN WIFE without a good character makes the _________ of men?

Curious345:
It's with a heavy heart I write you this story.
I am about to get married ,but the lady is not a virgin.

What do I do please ? Do i call off the wedding ?

Marrying a virgin is biblical and quarannical.
It's always been my dream. I thought I would be lucky in this dark world .
But alas I fell into that same web of distortion which I feared the most .
How can I marry a woman whose punna has been used to play PIANO by men of different shades?
Will God in heaven forgive me?

I always had this belief that if I marry a lady who is not a virgin, i am dishonoring my creator.

So what to do ?

If I call off this wedding at the last minute (I am seriously considering it ) can I still find a virgin lady to marry before December?

House ,I need your word on this imbroglio

WORDWORLD:


Makes not the happiest of men but a happier man for the fact that a bad character is very much subject to reformation with time and patience, but once a bore-hole forever a bore hole.

WORDWORLD:



THE ABSOLUTE TRUTH IS, WOMEN LOVE SEX VERY, VERY MUCH FAR MORE THAN AN AVERAGE GUY, THEY JUST TOO DISCREET ABOUT IT, THAT IS WHY VIRGINS HAVE SINCE TIME IMMEMORIAL BEEN VERY, VERY SCARCE AND THE FEW VIRGINS THAT THERE ARE, ARE CELEBRATED.

IT IS VERY, VERY DIFFICULT FOR WOMEN TO KEEP WHAT IS BETWEEN THEIR THIGHS INTACT, THAT'S THE REALITY. THEY WILL GO FOR FORE PLAY AS AN EXCUSE NOT TO HAVE SEX BUT IT IS ALL LIES EVEN THOUGH MOST ESPECIALLY THEY LOVE pre-intimacy, ROMANCE VERY MUCH MORE . . THIS INFORMATION CAN BE VERY WELL CONFIRMED BY THE 20% OF MEN WHO ARE THE ONES VERY BOLD ENOUGH TO MAKE SEXUAL MOVE WHICH A WOMAN HAS BEEN DYING FOR, YET SHE MAKE S YOU LOOK LIKE THE GUILTY ONE AFTER YOU HAVE FULFILLED HER DESIRE.

THESE 20% OF MEN BECAUSE OF THEIR BOLDNESS, ARE MOSTLY LOVED BY THE 99% OF WOMEN WHILE THE REMAINING 80% OF MEN ARE RIDICULED AND LAUGHED AT BY WOMEN FOR NOT HAVING SUCH BOLDNESS, THAT'S THE TRUTH.

IT IS THESE 20% OF MEN THAT THE 99% OF WOMEN SURRENDER THEIR VIRGINITY TO BE DISVIRGINED BEFORE FINALLY HANDING OVER THEMSELVES TO THE 80% OF MEN (their husbands) AS ALREADY DISVIRGINED. THE IRONY OF LIFE IS THIS, THOSE VERY RARE, SCARCE LADIES WHO ARE ABLE TO KEEP WHAT IS BETWEEN THEIR THIGHS UNCORRUPTED AT MOST TIMES END UP IN THE HANDS OF THAT SAME 20%. IT TAKES DELIBERATE EFFORT TO GET TO MARRY A VIRGIN YOU NEED TO TAKE THE UNCOMPROMISING WAY.

Curious345:
It's with a heavy heart I write you this story.
I am about to get married ,but the lady is not a virgin.

What do I do please ? Do i call off the wedding ?

Marrying a virgin is biblical and quarannical.
It's always been my dream. I thought I would be lucky in this dark world .
But alas I fell into that same web of distortion which I feared the most .

How can I marry a woman whose punna has been used to play PIANO by men of different shades?
Will God in heaven forgive me?

I always had this belief that if I marry a lady who is not a virgin, i am dishonoring my creator.

So what to do ?

If I call off this wedding at the last minute (I am seriously considering it ) can I still find a virgin lady to marry before December?

House ,I need your word on this imbroglio

Curious345:
It's with a heavy heart I write you this story.
I am about to get married ,but the lady is not a virgin.

What do I do please ? Do i call off the wedding ?

Marrying a virgin is biblical and quarannical.
It's always been my dream. I thought I would be lucky in this dark world .
But alas I fell into that same web of distortion which I feared the most .

How can I marry a woman whose punna has been used to play PIANO by men of different shades?
Will God in heaven forgive me?

I always had this belief that if I marry a lady who is not a virgin, i am dishonoring my creator.

So what to do ?

If I call off this wedding at the last minute (I am seriously considering it ) can I still find a virgin lady to marry before December?

House ,I need your word on this imbroglio

Angelacruz:
Didn't you date her to know if she is a virgin or not.Oga just take ur time