bigcee:

Bro, you need to run away from him. He is a Narcissist and he will never stop bullying you. He is making you feel bad about yourself through gaslighting, devaluation and projection, etc. In reality he see you as a threat. They are pathological jealous people and very empty inside. I had to end a friendship because of that nonsensè. They have a fragile Ego. So the reason he is saying all that trash to you is to raise his Ego. Bro, I take God beg you run away from him.

I fit into this exact description. I look soo good that many people want to get close and be friends with. But they start feeling inferior when I let them in briefly.

To help their inferiority complex around me, they talk me down, throw shades, condemn virtually anything I do (even while copying it), and never say something nice to me. The bad negative energy is their way of getting me pissed and feel less of myself.

I give those types small time to reveal themselves and then terminate our closeness by avoiding and quarreling with them. And then the apology comes but I don't reconcile with them.

I know a very few who are exceptions though. I love them very much and hang around them very well. They are not bothered by these things. Very free and pure-hearted from thorough observation

My is about this particular course mate, we lived very close to each other while in school and as a result of that, we started becoming friend. Called on ourselves while going to school and returning together, we chatted, discussed on so many things, what I did for this guy happened to be more than what he has done for me then.

When we got to 300 level second semester, I was terribly sick, I was having chronic typhoid fever that I didn't discover on time, later which affected my academics, could not go for lectures for up to three weeks and this guy was aware, we had a test then from another department after I was gradually recovering, that I could manage to go to school for the test, so I went.

I looked for every opportunity to sit close to this guy, so it happened. We sat close to each other to the point that communication wasn't an issue.

I didn't read because no stamina and strength to do that's. So the test started, I called this guy several times, but he didn't answer, tapped him but pretended to be carried away with what he was doing, I thank God that it wasn't exam but test that carried just 30% or so.

Since that day I stopped discussing something personal with him, but never approach him at all. I read as much as possible to make up in the examination, but later passed the course.

This is the type I noticed that would call you to know your progress level under the pretence of calling you to hear from you.

Slawormir:
Damnnn niggarrr ....

Isoright...friends go always loose guard us...but that nor mean say we nor go keep friends because say one or two friends don first loose guard us before...

Me way one of my guy loose guard in 2016....the guy wake up the morning of the day he want travel to Abuja go meet he boss for huzzle kingdom....he wake up to realize say he laptop nor green on...immediately na im he beg me for my hp laptop( the only laptop when I dey use as at that time unto say man pikin broke)...but i no reason am..i just give am....unto say my kind heart
This guy reach Abuja...good six months he nor collect anything...na so hungry dey beat am...he go dey call me I go dey give am hope..even send am small small money make he take dey support he feeding unto say their boss dey feed them only once in a day..
God run am for am...na im the guy pick...but the boss percentage too much......I come advice am make he return to Benin come dey huzzle on he own afterall he don learn some work, tools and format...
The guy enter Benin...before you know it my guy dey collect am steadily...
Surprisingly or rather i shock when this guy start to dey loose guard me....if I call am he nor dey pick and return call...and funny enough the reason I dey call am na make we dey together as we dey do before dey smoke weed and most importantly make he help me tie weed....because as at that time I nor sabi tie weed...and na him introduce me to weed smoking....by constantly tieing it for me....
but the idiot was thinking because he now has a little money that is why am calling him and wanting to be around him
The one that reallly got to me or rather got me annoyed was the day I called him three times and he didn't pick ...from that day I stopped calling him...for one year I didn't call him...when he realize his mistake he called me one day but I picked and we talked but deep down inside me our friendship can never remain the same
And thank God..I can tie weed now....am a professional in weed tieing as am typing now

brother reply your message, we need to align

He slept with my girlfriend i love so much and would die for.

Slawormir:
Damnnn niggarrr ....

Isoright...friends go always loose guard us...but that nor mean say we nor go keep friends because say one or two friends don first loose guard us before...

Me way one of my guy loose guard in 2016....the guy wake up the morning of the day he want travel to Abuja go meet he boss for huzzle kingdom....he wake up to realize say he laptop nor green on...immediately na im he beg me for my hp laptop( the only laptop when I dey use as at that time unto say man pikin broke)...but i no reason am..i just give am....unto say my kind heart
This guy reach Abuja...good six months he nor collect anything...na so hungry dey beat am...he go dey call me I go dey give am hope..even send am small small money make he take dey support he feeding unto say their boss dey feed them only once in a day..
God run am for am...na im the guy pick...but the boss percentage too much......I come advice am make he return to Benin come dey huzzle on he own afterall he don learn some work, tools and format...
The guy enter Benin...before you know it my guy dey collect am steadily...
Surprisingly or rather i shock when this guy start to dey loose guard me....if I call am he nor dey pick and return call...and funny enough the reason I dey call am na make we dey together as we dey do before dey smoke weed and most importantly make he help me tie weed....because as at that time I nor sabi tie weed...and na him introduce me to weed smoking....by constantly tieing it for me....
but the idiot was thinking because he now has a little money that is why am calling him and wanting to be around him
The one that reallly got to me or rather got me annoyed was the day I called him three times and he didn't pick ...from that day I stopped calling him...for one year I didn't call him...when he realize his mistake he called me one day but I picked and we talked but deep down inside me our friendship can never remain the same
And thank God..I can tie weed now....am a professional in weed tieing as am typing now

mek I see the weed wey you tie

Fussion1000:
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Friends! With my little experience on earth, friends are more of problems than good, the more you have friends, the more problems , when there is money friends will show face, but during time of adversaries, the same friends will be the one to backbite you first.

My best friendship period ends at childhood those times the mind is pure but now I do not really have friends, I have noticed that making friends in Nigeria is not worth it, seems everyone is in competition with the other, it is more of a race than brotherhood, some can't even hide their disdain for one's progress through their countenance, you can live a very good life without friends......... “Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy.”

Greatfullheart:
He slept with my girlfriend i love so much and would die for.

That's cold but in this case, I'll say it was for the best. If he didn't sleep with her, you won't know how traitorous they both are.

Imagine dying for someone who if the tables were turned will quickly stab you in the back.

When my girlfriend shared a picture of a guy engaging her. My heart bled

Babawale01:
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Wow! You just described one of my friend 100%.
He so much like devaluing people just to massage his ego. I mean he would talk down on anyone just to make himself look more superior... At first, I thought he's doing that to only me but I later realized that's how he does to everyone.. This guy would give you something in the presence of everyone Just to feel bossy and when you try to reciprocate he got offended. Then I realized he just want to be giving you so to make jest of you. .. I just deyy pray make God help me in this mess make I move ahead..

you do not have to make millions before you reject some things, our people will say stuffs you wont take when you are rich, you will start rejecting them when you are poor. Do not let anybody make you look inferior irrespective of your current situation.

The funny thing about those bossy guys is they carefully look for their prey, they can easily smell inferiority complex from a far, before I cut off friendship with my 3 friends 7 years ago, there was one of them with similar trait, he was a thorn in the flesh of the other two but he never for once tried his tricks on me, why? because I am very unpredictable, he just couldn't predict what the outcome would be and he knows that any trial from his side would be met with stiff resistance from me, so there was this mutual respect between us.

Isoright...friends go always loose guard us...but that nor mean say we nor go keep friends because say one or two friends don first loose guard us before...
mind who u trust n**ga screenshoting is real.

Me way one of my guy loose guard in 2016....the guy wake up the morning of the day he want travel to Abuja go meet he boss for huzzle kingdom....he wake up to realize say he laptop nor green on...immediately na im he beg me for my hp laptop( the only laptop when I dey use as at that time unto say man pikin broke)...but i no reason am..i just give am....unto say my kind heart
This guy reach Abuja...good six months he nor collect anything...na so hungry dey beat am...he go dey call me I go dey give am hope..even send am small small money make he take dey support he feeding unto say their boss dey feed them only once in a day..
God run am for am...na im the guy pick...but the boss percentage too much......I come advice am make he return to Benin come dey huzzle alot

jagorinho:

you do not have to make millions before you reject some things, our people will say stuffs you wont take when you are rich, you will start rejecting them when you are poor. Do not let anybody make you look inferior irrespective of your current situation.

The funny thing about those bossy guys is they carefully look for their prey, they can easily smell inferiority complex from a far, before I cut off friendship with my 3 friends 7 years ago, there was one of them with similar trait, he was a thorn in the flesh of the other two but he never for once tried his tricks on me, why? because I am very unpredictable, he just couldn't predict what the outcome would be and he knows that any trial from his side would be met with stiff resistance from me, so there was this mutual respect between us.

I know how to handle those people but na see finish dey cause ham bro... Distance and savage response dey send them to exile but attimes situation dey turn person to mumu jare. Make God help us

virginprincess:
Hmmm really, of course i value my virginity, even God value virginity, that was why our lord jesus christ passed through a virgin, besides how do you know am a religious person?

This girl is not a virgin o, nobody should trust her, na so them go dey lie say den be virgin and still receiving dick like salary constantly, nonsense

0% RELATIONSHIP.
0% TRUST.
95% LUCKY.
No Room For Fake Love.

Babawale01:


I know how to handle those people but na see finish dey cause ham bro... Distance and savage response dey send them to exile but attimes situation dey turn person to mumu jare. Make God help us

I understand you perfectly, but you are still getting it wrong, you can be rich and still be preyed upon in your clique, everything is not money, some people don't really have money but their aura commands respect.

annayawchee:
He defiled my 3 years old niece and he is still cooling off in cell as I type....

bros give us location, I promise you that guy prick nor go rise for life !

Pls, house I need your help...I've been battling depression due to my recent job loss. Pls, I need your help as per getting any job to fecth me something daily, weekly or monthly....be it hotel, schools, farm or anywhere....I don't wants to be criminal and I don't mind any job in anywhere or any state. Thanks a lot. I have HND in banking and finance and I'm base in abeokuta in ogun state....May God help u as u link me up. Thanks a lot. U can whatsapp me or call on 08064784680.

sonnie10:
My friend and I were involved in a business which I initiated but he later decided to join when he saw the outcome. In fact I accepted just to help him increase his little capital. His contribution was not even up to 10% of the total amount in the business. Upfront, I told him he would have 30% of his invested amount every 4 months. The first condition I gave him was that I wouldn't share the details of the business with him. The second condition I gave him was that he should never ask question regarding the operations of the business. All he has to do was wait for his 30% every 4 month.
The first 4 months came, he got his 30%. Again, the second 4months came and he got his 30% as well. Things were going really well until the third 4 months. The shipper overseas delayed the shipping of the good because he travelled so the good were just stocked in the shippers warehouse overseas.
The shipper stayed about 3 months before returning. Remember, it takes about 2-3months for the container to arrive when shipped. Unfortunately, it was pass the 4months interval for my friend to get his 30%. I tried to explain to him why he wont get it on time but he became very furious.

He said he doesn't want to hear anything about the business operation, all he wanted was his 30%, and to return his principle. No amount of explanation would calm him down. He went on to report to everyone, and dragged my name around and threatened all sorts. Eventually, the container arrived after 5 months plus, and goods were sold. His money was paid in full including his principle amount.
Since then, he has been begging me to forgive him and allow us continue, but I have made up my mind not to help anymore.

Lol after dragging your name in the mud he wants to be friends again...some people's conscience is stone dead.

Trust me, since you have said "No", he'll continue to paint you as a monster to anyone with ears (friends &strangers) while presenting himself as the saint or innocent victim....he'll even formulate convenient demonic sounding reasons why you shut him out...further worsening the situation between you both cuz now he believes he has nothing to lose and it's pay back.( narcissists do this often because they can't survive without attention and drama) But YOU MOVE.

Forgive him but never look back. Dont even attempt to explain yourself, counter, get revenge or anything silly. Just assume you never met.

These kinds of frenemies will pull the trigger without thinking about all the times you were good to them.

And don't ever let anyone guilt trip you. It's your fault if you can't forgive him but NOT your fault if you can no longer trust him. Trust is a natural thing.

I tell u bro..I personally don't keep friends...we have lots of snakes out there pretending to be friends but stab u at the back

paulolee:
win 45k from naijabet last year.....I flex my gees and one of DM latter go cast me give who suppose help sponsor me with work..
2..I kept wondering why all my new catches kept on breaking up with me after a short period BT immediately after meeting my friends, not after one of the Bea I jus met asked me online if am a gay bitch DT gv big boys my ass for moni and DTS d main reason of my fresheness, DTS what one of my friends told her n d rest concurred BT she jus felt like to ask me....I jus cut off from all of them....soo many deadly snakes..

I stopped keeping friends after my horrible experience with one of them.

My used to be best friend (he was my best man on my weeding day)came to my house, he was supposed to spend one week as he claimed but he spent a day and left. I never knew he collected one of my clothes and used it for ritual. Few months after he collected the cloth be became rich and everything was turning upside down for me. Nothing was working and I almost killed myself. I sold almost everything I got earlier. I couldn’t feed myself or help my family.

My mom took me to different mountains for prayers. After one year of prayer, God restored me. Things are getting better by Gods grace. but the sad thing is my mom died few months ago. She didn’t enjoy what she labored for.

I don’t think I can keep any friend again. My family is my everything. There’s nature of envy and jealousy in us. Some knows how to handle them very well while most people out there don’t. They allow envy and jealousy to control them.

You need to be careful of friends. They are like ants looking for sugar.

Kweensavvy:


Lol after dragging your name in the mud he wants to be friends again...some people's conscience is stone dead. Trust me, since you have said "No", he'll continue to paint you as a monster to anyone with ears (friends &strangers) while presenting himself as the saint or innocent victim....he'll even formulate convenient demonic sounding reasons why you shut him out...further worsening the situation between you both cuz now he believes he has nothing to lose and it's pay back. But YOU MOVE. Never look back. Dont even attempt to explain yourself, counter, get revenge or anything silly. Just assume you never met. These kinds of friends will pull the trigger without thinking about all the times you were good to them.

The one that pained me the most is when he went about telling people that I want to use him to learn job.

Kccheechy:
Mine was in exam hall. Final year 2nd semester exams. We were writing MTH425. After reading for so long, my head just went blank. I couldn't assimilate anything anymore. My friend who I had taken as a brother studied with me. I got into the exam hall as saw the questions. You know how exam questions can be na, 1 question will have so many children under it. Out of four we are to answer, I knew just 1 and even that 1 I couldn't answer it completely. if I failed that course, it would earn me an extra year in school. I was confused and spent. Most of the questions came from our handouts but to solve one question can take a full page of A4 paper on both sides. My brain just couldn't take it anymore. My friend was sitting behind me and was already on his third question. You know how we communicate in the hall na. I asked him to help me with one question so I can answer two in total. He assured me that he would help me with the answers to one question. My hopes were high. Only for my guy to stand up to go and submit and left the hall. Went out and started laughing. If he was laughing at me I can't remember. I was shocked!!! If he didn't want to help me, he should have told me then I know what to do. He left me hanging. Till today I can't understand why he did that. The thought of spending another year in school because of 1 course really broke my heart. when I saw there was nothing else I could do, I went to submit my almost blank answer booklet. Long story short, I got a D grade in that course. That was far better than repeating another year. My ex-friend got a D grade to upon everything.

No lie bros... You go give lecturer small thing. No worry, i no go loud am

sonnie10:


The one that pained me the most is when he went about telling people that I want to use him to learn job.

It's what people like that do. They'll paint you evil. If you think he's going to stop, you're in for a long thing. Just move on no matter how he attempts to destroy your name.

Let your consolation be that you'll never have anything to do with an ungrateful snake again.

But try to forgive him. But I can't force you to trust him or be friends again. Be wary of such people. They can kill for trivial things like money, fame and even reputation.

Trust is a natural thing. Check my previous comment, I modified.

Kweensavvy:


It's what people like that do. They'll paint you evil. If you think he's going to stop, you're in for a long thing. Just move on no matter how he attempts to destroy your name.

Let your consolation be that you'll never have anything to do with an ungrateful snake again.

But try to forgive him. But I can't force you to trust him or be friends again. Be wary of such people. They can kill for trivial things like money, fame and even reputation.

Trust is a natural thing. Check my previous comment, I modified.

OMG! What is your background? What you have explained is so true.

You never really know anyone. Never lose guard.. About betrayals, e plenty ehn..

virginprincess:
No not that i like it, but my brother and this boy has being friends from childhood, telling my brother will hurt him seriously, but the guy is keeping his distance sha, even my brother is suprised at that.

You should tell your brother. He'd hate you more if he found out through some other ways. And despite what you think, men, generally, would choose family over friendship. It's part of their biological make-up.

Have you seen cases where wife complains that her husband spends more money on his family than on her? That's a classic example of how much men love their family. Even if you're a known prostitute and you got raped by his friend, if you tell your brother who did it, he'll rather beat up that person than say something like "it's your fault."

Brothers are like that.

EdmundChidera:
It is once said that the devil you know is better than the Angel you don't know.

Friends is good no doubt, having a lot of friends makes someone gets connected in the society. There are many advantage coming from having many friends, meanwhile some people still want to keep the circle of their friends small to avoid unnecessary drama.

I once seek an advice from my friend on how to leave Nigeria for a better livelihood outside the country. He gave a lot of reason why I shouldn't leave the country which I somehow was convincing. To my greatest surprise, I saw my guy on Facebook taking pictures with white folks like Osuofia in London . He left for Canada after telling me story for the gods on how Nigeria will be heaven later.
I later travelled sha.

Another experience, when I went to pageantry with my friends, though I never planned to partake, my schoolmate told me to replace him looking how fresh I was then sha, but I needed to look more dope. I had to borrow my guys necklaces and wrist watch immediately. While awaiting for result, these guys decided to take away those stuff in the public, just to shame me. I later won sha, And decided not to borrow again.

In my hood then when i had a fine babe and she was so proud of me posting me everywhere as the main guy. I know some guys in pain about her actions but will never believe that my real paddy wants the babe too. The guy toast the babe she refused, the nonsense guy came to me to call the girl names. With this experience I avoided public relationship.

Many experience though, is it when you ask your classmate how you preparing for exam, he will tell you, I'm yet to open my book. Or is it those that say love na scam, getting married. Or those saying school na scam, furthering their education. And so on

Share your experience

OP you r just too lazy to think fo yourself. Listen to people but make up ur own mind. I

Slawormir:
Damnnn niggarrr ....

Isoright...friends go always loose guard us...but that nor mean say we nor go keep friends because say one or two friends don first loose guard us before...

Me way one of my guy loose guard in 2016....the guy wake up the morning of the day he want travel to Abuja go meet he boss for huzzle kingdom....he wake up to realize say he laptop nor green on...immediately na im he beg me for my hp laptop( the only laptop when I dey use as at that time unto say man pikin broke)...but i no reason am..i just give am....unto say my kind heart
This guy reach Abuja...good six months he nor collect anything...na so hungry dey beat am...he go dey call me I go dey give am hope..even send am small small money make he take dey support he feeding unto say their boss dey feed them only once in a day..
God run am for am...na im the guy pick...but the boss percentage too much......I come advice am make he return to Benin come dey huzzle on he own afterall he don learn some work, tools and format...
The guy enter Benin...before you know it my guy dey collect am steadily...
Surprisingly or rather i shock when this guy start to dey loose guard me....if I call am he nor dey pick and return call...and funny enough the reason I dey call am na make we dey together as we dey do before dey smoke weed and most importantly make he help me tie weed....because as at that time I nor sabi tie weed...and na him introduce me to weed smoking....by constantly tieing it for me....
but the idiot was thinking because he now has a little money that is why am calling him and wanting to be around him
The one that reallly got to me or rather got me annoyed was the day I called him three times and he didn't pick ...from that day I stopped calling him...for one year I didn't call him...when he realize his mistake he called me one day but I picked and we talked but deep down inside me our friendship can never remain the same
And thank God..I can tie weed now....am a professional in weed tieing as am typing now

weed dey control your reasoning trust no one

Told my friend to buy me 1 acre of land he purchased 2 plots and kept over 200k. Money comes and goes but he lost me as a friend since we have known each other since we were kids.

Another is another childhood friend who I told to do a Dubai visa..He did a fake visa only for my friend to be deported from Dubai.

TONY042:
As a child, my mum will always ask me not to go and play football with other kids in the barracks. But then, I have these set of friends that do have a way of calling me out and we'll go and enjoy our game ..... Lolzzz

One day, we all went out as usual, and on getting home with the said friends, my mum ask them to hold me for her but then I started running and she asked them to go after me, can you imagine that these foolish people started chasing me and caught me and then bundled me to my mum

It wasn't the beating that I received that day that made me cry but the pain of being betray by the same that lured me out to play football with them


I forgive Una sha ..... Lolzzz

Which barrack be dat?

sonnie10:


The business secret wouldn't even have benefitted him because he did not have up to the amount enough to do the business on his own. He might take the idea to someone else with more money and negotiate for more percentage share. Don't you know if I tell him, it would no longer be a business secret and everyone would probably be doing it. I will loss out eventually and he it will affect him too.
Although I told him what the problem was, he should have given me that benefit of doubt for a little time. .

You weren't a friend either. You clearly didn't trust him, yet complaining he didn't trust you. This illustration is not a good example of trust. It was simply a business arrangement and within that he had a right to be upset.

Can't recant word for word but I think it goes this

For none to Mar or mend, they that have themselves as friends

I do have friends but they are restricted to d purpose they serve

If they betray that purpose I simply am prepared cos none has a higher purpose than me who gave them

AdedoyinO:


That your friend is actually a good person and one should be careful of you.
Imagine what you did to someone's daughter and you have children too abi?

Let any guy without ds type of sin cast first stone, you are talking as a saint guy, the lady am talking is divorcee


If I spit what my friend was doing, let me silent.


Oga no be today man don dey trick woman for sex, mind you she opened leg for me based on money I soent