Yeah you read right! And now the why's

Why is that you meet a guy, he's everything you want but "rich".

Why is it that you meet another guy, he's rich but not everything you want?

Why can't there be a sort of balance? Like being rich and everything you want?

I'm not a leech, neither am I a liability but we all know how important it is for both couple to be financially ok at least for the unborn childrens sakes because no body wants to bring children into the world to suffer.

This is really making it hard for people to settle down because trust me, if you decide to go ahead just for marrying sakes, you'll regret it. Imagine a fine boy who can't do a 70-30 shared responsibilities with you or a rich man who can't be your fine boy and bestie in marriage, making you feel like you're one of his funitures.

Met one recently ( fine boy) and I decided to give it a shot.
So we went shopping and I was about to pay for my stuff and there was #50 naira on top, so I told the cashier not to do the 50 with my card that I'll give her cash. Next thing Bobo said, don't worry I can do the #50.. lol.... I developed instant headache. Like what? Even though I wasn't expecting him to pay, I wasn't comfortable with that gesture. He should have just kept quiet. So, I zeroed my mind about us ( didn't tell him though). Hm. It is well with our young boys.

I know this might sound silly to some, but it is what is still keeping a lot of people single. Speaking from experience. It's crazy though but real.

Why is life not balance?
Just thinking aloud this morning.

Lol... Very funny. just can't stop laughing. And this is someone looking to take us to next level. So if I bring #95, he'll add #5 naira? What is really happening these days?
Not trying to shame him but he could have remained mute. I can't cope.

I Know its good to always resist the urge to shalaye (like nairalanders would say) but I just can't resist the urge to shalaye here cos this one off me. Lol...

Lols.

You're right, he should've kept quiet.
I hope you refused his #50 naira and dumped him thereafter.

Personally, I don't care if a man is rich or not,
but I love a man who has the initiative to take care of his woman.
A man who loves you will do that. Do not settle for less.

Any man who has no money has no business dating, period.

The broke men on NL will soon rush this thread.

Lol

This is really funny.

Y'all so triggered you had to comment twice.

Is the guy generally stingy? @ OP

CalliDora1:


I can't really say for now.

I find it funny because N50 shouldn't be enough to set you over the edge. Las las I blame the guy for not sensing the kind of person you are and acting accordingly. Of course, it would have been a different story if he had offered to pay for your whole shopping.

This is why I avoid "escorting" my babes to markets, for shopping, etc. In fact, I avoid following them to anywhere payment will be involved, unless I fully intend to cover all the expenses which I do every once in a while. But I also expect the lady to chip in. I blame the guy for not spotting the trap and avoiding it completely especially if he is broke.

But I also think you are overreacting over N50, unless this is a culmination of different acts of stinginess which your (ex?) guy must have used to deal with you.

Wahala for who dey relationship oooooo

waywardpikin:
Lol

This is really funny.

Y'all so triggered you had to comment twice.

Is the guy generally stingy? @ OP

you people have really abused this Mona Lisa painting.

It's all a mindset thing.

Money and facial appreance are inversely proportional.
The reason is that most fine boys usually believe that they will get favours with their pretty face and hence don't need to stress their brain/ body hustling. Other times they are busy following girls or girls following them thus tilting them into poverty.

However, most ugly dudes get hearbroken repeatdly by women and just decide to focus on making money which they keep on doing till they make it big.

It goes for ladies as well. The ugly/old ones focus on career, church and hustling a man to settle down with while the pretty/young girls jump from on d**k to another while marketing their bodies on instagram as they get money and favours by doing this.


There are a bit rare cases but this happens alot.
Dont stress, this is the true balance.

CalliDora1:
Yeah you read right! And now the why's

Why is that you meat a guy, he's everything you want but "rich".

Why is it that you meat another guy, he's rich but not everything you want?

Why can't there be a sort of balance? Like being rich and everything you want?

I'm not a leech, neither am I a liability but we all know how important it is for both couple to be financially ok at least for the unborn childrens sakes because no body wants to bring children into the world to suffer.

This is really making it hard for people to settle down because trust me, if you decide to go ahead just for marrying sakes, you'll regret it. Imagine a fine boy who can't do a 70-30 shared responsibilities with you or a rich man who can't be your fine boy and bestie in marriage, making you feel like you're one of his funitures.

Met one recently ( fine boy) and I decided to give it a shot.
So we went shopping and I was about to pay for my stuff and there was #50 naira on top, so I told the cashier not to do the 50 with my card that I'll give her cash. Next thing Bobo said, don't worry I can do the #50.. lol.... I developed instant headache. Like what? Even though I wasn't expecting him to pay, I wasn't comfortable with that gesture. He should have just kept quiet. So, I zeroed my mind about us ( didn't tell him though). Hm. It is well with our young boys.

I know this might sound silly to some, but it is what is still keeping a lot of people single. Speaking from experience. It's crazy though but real.

Why is life not balance?
Just thinking aloud this morning.

Gold digger

Life is not balance because life will not always give you everything you want

Life is not balance because you and I are not perfect, but cohabiting with you means I'm trying to work around your imperfections

Life is not balance because life is not always a bed of roses where you expect things to work in your favour always.

In life you don't get what you wish for, you get what you work for

But life is what you make out of it shaaa

yomi007k:
It's all a mindset thing.

Money and facial appreance are inversely proportional.
The reason is that most fine boys usually believe that they will get favours with their pretty face and hence don't need to stress their brain/ body hustling. Other times they are busy following girls or girls following them thus tilting them into poverty.

However, most ugly dudes get hearbroken repeatdly by women and just decide to focus on making money which they keep on doing till they make it big.

It goes for ladies as well. The ugly/old ones focus on career, church and hustling a man to settle down with while the pretty/young girls jump from on d**k to another while marketing their bodies on instagram as they get money and favours by doing this.


There are a bit rare cases but this happens alot.
Dont stress, this is the true balance.

Bro no be like that o, there are hustling young guys that are still fine and hardworking only say e never click....
Moreover I see a lot of fine and rich guys too just that they're in high demand, competition too much

Supreme145:

Bro no be like that o, there are hustling young guys that are still fine and hardworking only say e never click....
Moreover I see a lot of fine and rich guys too just that they're in high demand, competition too much

I added that it's not in all cases.

How old are you? And your guy?

One thing your ilk has in common is a poor marketing strategy. You've demarketed yourself before any aristocratic (established, refined but not stupid and discerning eligible man) man who may read through this your available and ready to mingle with an aristocratic man advertisement through your sententious and conceited disposition/presentation, which points to your character regardless of the glossing. I don't expect you or any other small-minded person to see through your shortcoming (the deriding aspect of it is nauseating) or acknowledge my submission in good faith. Universally, discernment and truth are meant for a handful of people.

You only stand a chance with a servile man or an opportunistic man who, as a small-minded man, knows how to wreck women who're small-minded like him disingenuously.

In summary, you wanted the guy to either pay for your entire shopping or keep his 50naira.

Your insolence aside, my only issue in this story is why that fellow even tried being nice to you.

I can usually "sense" people like you from afar, and will ensure you pay for your own shopping, and if you don't have change in cash, ensure you go and look for aboki or tomato seller around to make change for you... all to piss you off.

Las las, na only vex you go vex go house, and I would have satisfied myself.

What's all these 'meat meat' in your write-up?

thorpido:
What's all these 'meat meat' in your write-up?

I just tire

That's someone demanding for a rich man who has EVERYTHING she wants. All these children sef.

RightToReject:
One thing your ilk has in common is poor marketing strategy. You've demarketed yourself before any aristocratic (established, refined but not stupid and discerning eligible man) man who may read through this your available and ready to mingle with an aristocratic man advertisement through your sententious and conceited disposition, which points to your character regardless of the glossing. I don't expect you or any other small-minded person to see through your shortcoming (the deriding is nauseating) or acknowledge my submission in good faith. Universally, discernment and truth are meant for a handful of people.

You only stand a chance with a servile man or an opportunistic man who, as a small-minded man, knows how to wreck women who're small-minded like him disingenuously.

Na wa

DimplesLikeWow:
Lols.

You're right, he should've kept quiet.
I hope you refused his #50 naira and dumped him thereafter.

Personally, I don't care if a man is rich or not,
but I love a man who has the initiative to take care of his woman.
A man who loves you will do that. Do not settle for less.

Any man who has no money has no business dating, period.

My dear, I didn't let him pay.

I've friendzoned him o. Unless he he repentance and acts accordingly, If you know what I mean.

waywardpikin:
Lol

This is really funny.

Y'all so triggered you had to comment twice.

Is the guy generally stingy? @ OP

I can't really say for now.

yomi007k:
It's all a mindset thing.

Money and facial appreance are inversely proportional.
The reason is that most fine boys usually believe that they will get favours with their pretty face and hence don't need to stress their brain/ body hustling. Other times they are busy following girls or girls following them thus tilting them into poverty.

However, most ugly dudes get hearbroken repeatdly by women and just decide to focus on making money which they keep on doing till they make it big.

It goes for ladies as well. The ugly/old ones focus on career, church and hustling a man to settle down with while the pretty/young girls jump from on d**k to another while marketing their bodies on instagram as they get money and favours by doing this.


There are a bit rare cases but this happens alot.
Dont stress, this is the true balance.

You just hit the nail on the head.

I'm not stressing. Just wondering... Maybe one should just forget the idea of being with the other. Cos what's the essence of being with someone if you can't be 100% happy or fulfilled?

Just thinking aloud though. My siblings dare not hear these thoughts.

Tony142:




Gold digger

Better to dig gold than dig nothing.

sabbiboi:
Life is not balance because life will not always give you everything you want

Life is not balance because you and I are not perfect, but cohabiting with you means I'm trying to work around your imperfections

Life is not balance because life is not always a bed of roses where you expect things to work in your favour always.

In life you don't get what you wish for, you get what you work for

But life is what you make out of it shaaa

Hmmmm.... I get what I wish for most time though.

It seems you still have age on your side. By the time you hit 35 upwards, this story will change. Just because the guy offered to help, you came up with this long sermon. Do you even know the financial status of the guy in the first place?? We shall see on the other side.

Acidosis:


How old are you? And your guy?

We are both metuselah

CalliDora1:


I can't really say for now.

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Lady, I commend your desire and zeal to find a spiritual , handsome and rich brother and I wish you godspeed in that quest. However I'd like to point out few things you ought to be wary of .

* Good things doesn't always come in fancy packaging
* Don't judge a book by its cover, be discerning and rely on the Holy Spirit for guidance.
Don't loose a man of destiny, purpose and vision because of 50 naira.
* A man that loves God can become great in a twinkle of an eye, with the right information and push.
* Package yourself more to attract the kind of package you desire.
* Honour all men, don't look down on any.

I wish you luck and pray you meet him soon.

DimplesLikeWow:
Lols.

You're right, he should've kept quiet.
I hope you refused his #50 naira and dumped him thereafter.

Personally, I don't care if a man is rich or not,
but I love a man who has the initiative to take care of his woman.
A man who loves you will do that. Do not settle for less.

Any man who has no money has no business dating, period.

It seems you are contradicting yourself, young woman.

CalliDora1:


Better to dig gold than dig nothing.

Lol, OK, I have a Gold mining factory in-between my legs, but it is not free o, I charge 10k per hour, so u can come and dig it or suck as u like, but do not forget to bring the 10k when Cumming o

thorpido:
What's all these 'meat meat' in your write-up?

It not me, auto-correct did that.

Thanks for pointing it out though.

CalliDora1:



You just hit the nail on the head.

I'm not stressing. Just wondering... Maybe one should just forget the idea of being with the other. Cos what's the essence of being with someone if you can't be 100% happy or fulfilled?

Just thinking aloud though. My siblings dare not hear these thoughts.

Nne seeking fine face and money are superficial attributes.

What you should find are deeper virtues suvh as honour and loyalty because it will be worse for you broke fineboy to still be cheating on you oo.

TAGM:
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Lady, I commend your desire and zeal to find a spiritual , handsome and rich brother and I wish you godspeed in that quest. However I'd like to point out few things you ought to be wary of .

* Good things doesn't always come in fancy packaging
* Don't judge a book by its cover, be discerning and rely on the Holy Spirit for guidance.
Don't loose a man of destiny, purpose and vision because of 50 naira.
* A man that loves God can become great in a twinkle of an eye, with the right information and push.
* Package yourself more to attract the kind of package you desire.
* Honour all men, don't look down on any.

I wish you luck and pray you meet him soon.

Amen.

Thank you Sir.

yomi007k:


Nne seeking fine face and money are superficial attributes.

What you should find are deeper virtues suvh as honour and loyalty because it will be worse for you broke fineboy to still be cheating on you oo.

It's all part of the package.

TAGM:
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Don't loose a man of destiny, purpose and vision because of 50 naira.