Kizito2nv:
I still want her back ( she is sort of a good girl) but I have stopped all communication with her cos the more I try to reach out to her the more simping

My question is how do I get back to her and regain my lost glory.

Joskiro50:


I like how genuine you are with this deposition. I'm sure the bosses in the house will have words for you. Just stay put..

Meanwhile, welcome to the thread.

PS: @Dpsychologist, thank you for such a good work you're doing. I dey follow you like hunchback

Jerry59:
Lol, now i see why they say it’s hard to advice someone in “love”. Don’t be a coconut head kinda pesin. There are lots of better girls out there besides focus on yourself cos that’s what matters

Kizito2nv:

Bro I get you, but how person go take marry with all these .
I'm in my early 30's , what's the possibility that the next"better girl won't be worse"

besides my problem here is my bruised ego thought I was in control all these while.

Kizito2nv:
I stumbled on this thread cos I knew I'm a certified simp.

My girlfriend just broke up with me for a stupid reason saying we have different ideologies

I'm still reading at page 10 just realized it was all my fault I tried to be the Mr nice guy, promised to stick with her even when I was gaining nothing from the relationship.

The break up was last week, I pleaded for acceptance up till Monday this week she refused that she can't be in a one sided relationship,

Which means e don tey wey she lose interest.

I stopped asking for her back, but then I felt my ego has been bruised.

Cos I'm good looking, and have a reasonable job.

I still want her back ( she is sort of a good girl) but I have stopped all communication with her cos the more I try to reach out to her the more simping

My question is how do I get back to her and regain my lost glory.

Bashing is allowed cos I messed up big time

Jerry59:
That’s why i said focus on yourself. They’ll come around when they notice you’re doing good yourself then what you decide to do with them is left to you... if you decide to simp again, that’s all on you.

Peace!

alexistaiwo:
Acceptance is one major big step in the road that leads to recovery.
Na wetin see finish dey cause for relationship be this.
You no longer have any ace up your sleeve to throw her off guard hence why she said your ideologies are different.


Anyway na mumu you be, you no kee person so we no fit dey look you dey suffer like this.

The only thing you have to do now is to summon self control, if you don't have, borrow it and if they refuse to borrow you, steal it.


You will need the self control to keep you from reaching out to her because nothing irritates a girl more than a guy she lets go who is continually pestering her life for reconciliation.


Even if you are dying inside, don't call her.


I promise you that if you can hold your side, before the end of the year, she will call you and start picking offence that though you are no longer together, you should at least be checking up on her once in a while as if she resemble bet9ja running ticket.



Stop begging her unless you want to beg her all the days of your life because whatever you get a girl with is what you will most likely use to grease the engine of the relationship.

Kizito2nv:
That's my plan. I'm an introvert so it shouldn't be difficult.

Kizito2nv:
I stumbled on this thread cos I knew I'm a certified simp.

My girlfriend just broke up with me for a stupid reason saying we have different ideologies

I'm still reading at page 10 just realized it was all my fault I tried to be the Mr nice guy, promised to stick with her even when I was gaining nothing from the relationship.

The break up was last week, I pleaded for acceptance up till Monday this week she refused that she can't be in a one sided relationship.

Which means e don tey wey she lose interest.

I stopped asking for her back, but then I felt my ego has been bruised.

Cos I'm good looking, and have a reasonable job.

I still want her back ( she is sort of a good girl) but I have stopped all communication with her cos the more I try to reach out to her the more simping

My question is how do I get back to her and regain my lost glory.

Bashing is allowed cos I messed up big time

Kizito2nv:

That's my plan. I'm an introvert so it shouldn't be difficult.

Pstarogood0100:


One thing about being too nice in a relationship is that you will be taken for granted. Women hate nice guys subconsciously because they don't have the life of their own. Being nice has its own value when you mix it up with bad boy character which makes you a good bad guy.

How can you keep presurrizing a lady consistently to reconcile with you. Relationship is never done that way.

In a relationship, begging a lady to reconcile with you is different from when she begs you to come back. When a man presurrizes woman to come back he looks disgusting to her but when a lady presurrizes reconciliation she becomes more attractive to the man because she is now submissive and the guy will be willing to accept her back. But, in the case of a lady the man looks disgusting to her for pressuring her and nothing will make her accept such man. Even if she pitied him she will be in absolutely control and everything will be done in her own term.

Let me leave you with this quote : A lady does not want a man to need her but to want her. If your want becomes need then, she no longer wants you.

At all time you must keep making her to depend on you for the relationship to exist not you depending on her. This is the rule of relationship. Whenever you break this rule you will suffer it, this is the phonemenon of how relationship works for men.

Since you love her and don't want to loose her. no 1. thing to do is to give her some space to miss you like 1 to 2 weeks. She must surly want to hear from you 100% guaranteed. This is the advantage you have got. Keep all your nice attitude to one side and subtly show her that you have moved on.

Ladies desire a man that other ladies wants not a man that have never double dated them for once. No matter how handsome and rich you are if she knows you don't have option she would take you for granted.

Even if you are not the double dating type, fake it and watch and see how it works.

Don't get it wrong, being nice to your woman is good but learn to draw the line let's she will take it for granted.

If truly she is your woman, learn to Bleep her very well. it also matters a lot.

listen : Not that she doesn't like you but you have killed your relationship with too much of niceness

tips: after reconciliation, Don't always pick all her calls. Dont call her all the time. Cause dramas once in a while. Accuse her of cheating on you even if it's not true. And make sure you double date her once in a while not because you like to do it but because all these are the formulas to attract ladies into your life.

JasperVII:
I'm starting to feel sorry for Johnny Depp. Man has been going through a lot because of a woman who has so much evidence against her.

Dpsychologist:

Thats the power of a p*ssy. A woman can destroy a man from a king to a slave.

Last time i heard, amber has turn lez.

Kizito2nv:
I stumbled on this thread cos I knew I'm a certified simp.

My girlfriend just broke up with me for a stupid reason saying we have different ideologies


The break up was last week, I pleaded for acceptance up till Monday this week she refused that she can't be in a one sided relationship,

Which means e don tey wey she lose interest.

I stopped asking for her back, but then I felt my ego has been bruised.


My question is how do I get back to her and regain my lost glory.

Bashing is allowed cos I messed up big time

Kizito2nv:
I stumbled on this thread cos I knew I'm a certified simp.

My girlfriend just broke up with me for a stupid reason saying we have different ideologies

I'm still reading at page 10 just realized it was all my fault I tried to be the Mr nice guy, promised to stick with her even when I was gaining nothing from the relationship.

The break up was last week, I pleaded for acceptance up till Monday this week she refused that she can't be in a one sided relationship,

Which means e don tey wey she lose interest.

I stopped asking for her back, but then I felt my ego has been bruised.

Cos I'm good looking, and have a reasonable job.

I still want her back ( she is sort of a good girl) but I have stopped all communication with her cos the more I try to reach out to her the more simping

My question is how do I get back to her and regain my lost glory.

Bashing is allowed cos I messed up big time

Akinbahm:


You never drop the full gist, ow you wan make them advise u?

DXXMI:





You sound like a fellow who is teachable. I love ur straightforwardness n it has earned you my one million dollar advise. If you want to attract butterflies, don't chase after them bro. U may ask, then how do I get them? Plant flowers, colorful flowers and butterflies will come to you in their numbers. Those that have ears, let them hear

Kizito2nv:


Bro writing so much and talking about her brought me to this point.

I feel keeping things short and simple is the way out for starters

I'm one of those guys that loves to write epistle on woman matter but after reading uptil page 10 I realized men they are not worth that stress

I'm at page 19 and don't even know if really want her back

What are my gaining from the relationship sef mtweeee

Have even shared the link to my friends on WhatsApp guys need to wise up our mumu don do

Kizito2nv:


Bro writing so much and talking about her brought me to this point.

I feel keeping things short and simple is the way out for starters

I'm one of those guys that loves to write epistle on woman matter but after reading uptil page 10 I realized men they are not worth that stress

I'm at page 19 and don't even know if really want her back

What are my gaining from the relationship sef mtweeee

Have even shared the link to my friends on WhatsApp guys need to wise up our mumu don do

alexistaiwo:
Acceptance is one major big step in the road that leads to recovery.
Na wetin see finish dey cause for relationship be this.
You no longer have any ace up your sleeve to throw her off guard hence why she said your ideologies are different.


Anyway na mumu you be, you no kee person so we no fit dey look you dey suffer like this.

The only thing you have to do now is to summon self control, if you don't have, borrow it and if they refuse to borrow you, steal it.


You will need the self control to keep you from reaching out to her because nothing irritates a girl more than a guy she lets go who is continually pestering her life for reconciliation.


Even if you are dying inside, don't call her.


I promise you that if you can hold your side, before the end of the year, she will call you and start picking offence that though you are no longer together, you should at least be checking up on her once in a while as if she resemble bet9ja running ticket.



Stop begging her unless you want to beg her all the days of your life because whatever you get a girl with is what you will most likely use to grease the engine of the relationship.

alexistaiwo:
Acceptance is one major big step in the road that leads to recovery.
Na wetin see finish dey cause for relationship be this.
You no longer have any ace up your sleeve to throw her off guard hence why she said your ideologies are different.


Anyway na mumu you be, you no kee person so we no fit dey look you dey suffer like this.

The only thing you have to do now is to summon self control, if you don't have, borrow it and if they refuse to borrow you, steal it.


You will need the self control to keep you from reaching out to her because nothing irritates a girl more than a guy she lets go who is continually pestering her life for reconciliation.


Even if you are dying inside, don't call her.


I promise you that if you can hold your side, before the end of the year, she will call you and start picking offence that though you are no longer together, you should at least be checking up on her once in a while as if she resemble bet9ja running ticket.



Stop begging her unless you want to beg her all the days of your life because whatever you get a girl with is what you will most likely use to grease the engine of the relationship.

Kizito2nv:
I stumbled on this thread cos I knew I'm a certified simp.

My girlfriend just broke up with me for a stupid reason saying we have different ideologies

I'm still reading at page 10 just realized it was all my fault I tried to be the Mr nice guy, promised to stick with her even when I was gaining nothing from the relationship.

The break up was last week, I pleaded for acceptance up till Monday this week she refused that she can't be in a one sided relationship,

Which means e don tey wey she lose interest.

I stopped asking for her back, but then I felt my ego has been bruised.

Cos I'm good looking, and have a reasonable job.

I still want her back ( she is sort of a good girl) but I have stopped all communication with her cos the more I try to reach out to her the more simping

My question is how do I get back to her and regain my lost glory.

Bashing is allowed cos I messed up big time

Asekhamid:

a wise man once said "courage is the ability to stand up and speak,courage is also the ability to sit and listen"
I love your courage for coming out while some just let this kill them inside.
it seems you loved her genuinely but girls hardly appreciate when someone loves them more..Don't take the redpill and become a monster to girls because you might end up chasing away those that love you genuinely also,take the redpill and know when a relationship isn't going well and its time to MOVE ON.
I will tell you something I tell myself when am about to simp(not just to women but in any relationship) and I believe it will be helpful to you and other guys
"I DESERVE BETTER"
saying that to myself has really helped me when relating with people and see how I am being used or stepped on...if I love a girl,I show her but if she doesn't reciprocate the love I just tell myself that and MOVE ON..
The secret to life is to never settle for less..
Always know that "YOU ARE THE PRIZE" and you will live like a king....
The truth is the dating game is rigged against Men..
ALWAYS INVEST IN YOURSELF AND NOT WOMEN...
and remember YOU DESERVE BETTER....

Dpsychologist:
3.Game:

This is the most important element of a man’s personal power, not just with women but with people/existence.

Game is interchangeable with “social skills.” Gaming and building attraction doesn’t just have to mean sexually but it applies non-sexually too.

It’s all about cultivating your personality and being real, not needing to act because you don’t like who you are but actually enriching who you are to be powerful and attractive. It makes people value and accept you.

This is the stuff that builds your social circles, allows you access into other social circles, allows you to network and gets you the job at the interview.

Game is developed over the span of one’s life and never becomes obsolete or irrelevant.
I will go further and subdivide game into elements which consists of:

¶ Charm/confidence – this is simple narcissism, self-confidence, self-assuredness, this is what demonstrates non-verbally that you are a high value person.

¶ Machiavellianism/sophistry – knowing how to perceive and play a situation to come out victorious, knowing what’s real and what’s not, why people are doing what they’re doing, knowing when you’re being played either as a pawn or as a theatrical fool in someone else’s game

¶ Humour – Humour is often at the expense of negativity, it produces positive energy from a negative source and communicates non-verbally that you are capable of staring at the face of failure/negativity without becoming unhinged by it. Humour is a cornerstone of power and influence and ties in closely to charm.

¶ Wit – this is what allows you to pass shit tests, essential if you ever want to get anywhere in life, everyone will shit test you when they first meet you so they can personally ascribe value based on their impression of you , your eloquence, the creativity of your communication and a successful delivery style are all elements of wit, this is the cornerstone of a strong frame

Kizito2nv:


God help the next unfortunate girl .
That's all I can tell you bro.

Joskiro50:


Nah nah, don't say that. You are unconsciously resorting to hatred for them girls. That's not the goal..

Rather say the next girl will be FORTUNATE. You know why? Because you know better now. You can now handle her better. Trust me, girls don't say it, but they love red-pilled men.