iamadonis2:
Bash me Nairalanders, I didn’t learn again.

But sit down critically and analyze this, then tell me your thoughts.

Sometime last year, I made a thread https://www.nairaland.com/5461415/it-proper-girlfriend-still-gets where I revealed my girlfriend-cum-business partner still receives financial help from a man she once dated.

Today, another story surfaced. In June 2020, she had produced one million naira saying her brother gave it to her to invest in our business. I even called the brother to say thank you and he told me it wasn’t a bother to him at all. We could pay in six months time. I know we can.

Today, I realized it was her ex-boyfriend, the same man I complained about last year, that gave her the money. He’s 52. She's been confessing more and more about how it’s a loan to grow our business she asked for to pay back in December and she only kissed him as a thank you. My people, what precise, wise, and smart move do I make now?

You don't own her.
You're lucky to have someone that would do anything to take your business to the next level.
Let her know you're not comfortable with her methods, but happily cash in on it. It's a little sacrifice for a better future.

Finally, YOU DON'T OWN HER. What she does with her body is her prerogative. Your part is to make sure she didn't do it for nothing. Make that business work!

iamadonis2:
Bash me Nairalanders, I didn’t learn again.

But sit down critically and analyze this, then tell me your thoughts.

Sometime last year, I made a thread https://www.nairaland.com/5461415/it-proper-girlfriend-still-gets where I revealed my girlfriend-cum-business partner still receives financial help from a man she once dated.

Today, another story surfaced. In June 2020, she had produced one million naira saying her brother gave it to her to invest in our business. I even called the brother to say thank you and he told me it wasn’t a bother to him at all. We could pay in six months time. I know we can.

Today, I realized it was her ex-boyfriend, the same man I complained about last year, that gave her the money. He’s 52. She's been confessing more and more about how it’s a loan to grow our business she asked for to pay back in December and she only kissed him as a thank you. My people, what precise, wise, and smart move do I make now?

Why do you go about disturbing people when you know what to do but choose to be playing to the gallery because of the illicit funds you are getting from your girlfriend?

Soon, they'll extend the kissing to your house. After all, the man funded your girlfriend (business)

iamadonis2:
Bash me Nairalanders, I didn’t learn again.

But sit down critically and analyze this, then tell me your thoughts.

Sometime last year, I made a thread https://www.nairaland.com/5461415/it-proper-girlfriend-still-gets where I revealed my girlfriend-cum-business partner still receives financial help from a man she once dated.

Today, another story surfaced. In June 2020, she had produced one million naira saying her brother gave it to her to invest in our business. I even called the brother to say thank you and he told me it wasn’t a bother to him at all. We could pay in six months time. I know we can.

Today, I realized it was her ex-boyfriend, the same man I complained about last year, that gave her the money. He’s 52. She's been confessing more and more about how it’s a loan to grow our business she asked for to pay back in December and she only kissed him as a thank you. My people, what precise, wise, and smart move do I make now?

dude, you better start treating that relationship like a business that it is.

iamadonis2:
Bash me Nairalanders, I didn’t learn again.

But sit down critically and analyze this, then tell me your thoughts.

Sometime last year, I made a thread https://www.nairaland.com/5461415/it-proper-girlfriend-still-gets where I revealed my girlfriend-cum-business partner still receives financial help from a man she once dated.

Today, another story surfaced. In June 2020, she had produced one million naira saying her brother gave it to her to invest in our business. I even called the brother to say thank you and he told me it wasn’t a bother to him at all. We could pay in six months time. I know we can.

Today, I realized it was her ex-boyfriend, the same man I complained about last year, that gave her the money. He’s 52. She's been confessing more and more about how it’s a loan to grow our business she asked for to pay back in December and she only kissed him as a thank you. My people, what precise, wise, and smart move do I make now?

Invest the money in the business wetin u where she gets the money, you even see money self to run your business but just know that your girl is probably having something with the man as nothing goes for nothing, don't trust that girl at all but just take the money invest in business

Karleb:


Baba, your head dey there.

Funny thing is, this betrayal is something he can get from a girl he's not getting financial gains from.

What are we trying to justify here?

Wether 52, 30 or 10yr old is not the problem. An ex is an ex. It now boils down to individual choices. Alot of people collect monies and other gifts from their ex's on the low low even after (marriage). Now for me I don't accept that and it's a No-No for me but others do accept. Your woman collected this money with the intention of you never finding out. Now you have found out the decision to make is entire up to you.

Karleb:
Find a side chick.

Don't let your current woman go unless you want to be unfortunate. That girl is responsible for your fortune.

You will appreciate her more if you see what it takes to borrow that exact amount from a Nigerian bank.

This is my own financial advice.

That moment when you are sharing woman with your benefactor.

And he should always use protection when fvcking her.
Very important

One thing is certain here...the man still dey yansh am....

iamadonis2:
Bash me Nairalanders, I didn’t learn again.

But sit down critically and analyze this, then tell me your thoughts.

Sometime last year, I made a thread https://www.nairaland.com/5461415/it-proper-girlfriend-still-gets where I revealed my girlfriend-cum-business partner still receives financial help from a man she once dated.

Today, another story surfaced. In June 2020, she had produced one million naira saying her brother gave it to her to invest in our business. I even called the brother to say thank you and he told me it wasn’t a bother to him at all. We could pay in six months time. I know we can.

Today, I realized it was her ex-boyfriend, the same man I complained about last year, that gave her the money. He’s 52. She's been confessing more and more about how it’s a loan to grow our business she asked for to pay back in December and she only kissed him as a thank you. My people, what precise, wise, and smart move do I make now?

You know what to do. It might seem inconvenient right now but believe me you'll be grateful you did it. Don't waste time, the earlier the better for you.

Do you know a lot of girls wont give you that money even when they have that money in their account and will still cheat on you? Based on her level of thinking, she sacrificed herself to get you that money. She it trying to build a future with u but might not be doing it the right way. Use your mind to take a decision.

checkmatez:
Squander the money..they will quarrel and hate eachother.... simple

Your mansion is reserved in heaven all plated in gold. Good advice

MusaChukwudi:


Let him carry his cross, MUMU!

In the old days we would use that type for sacrifice

iamadonis2:
Bash me Nairalanders, I didn’t learn again.

But sit down critically and analyze this, then tell me your thoughts.

Sometime last year, I made a thread https://www.nairaland.com/5461415/it-proper-girlfriend-still-gets where I revealed my girlfriend-cum-business partner still receives financial help from a man she once dated.

Today, another story surfaced. In June 2020, she had produced one million naira saying her brother gave it to her to invest in our business. I even called the brother to say thank you and he told me it wasn’t a bother to him at all. We could pay in six months time. I know we can.

Today, I realized it was her ex-boyfriend, the same man I complained about last year, that gave her the money. He’s 52. She's been confessing more and more about how it’s a loan to grow our business she asked for to pay back in December and she only kissed him as a thank you. My people, what precise, wise, and smart move do I make now?

You are a love-vendor. You are using the girl to prostitute and make money from her. You are the real Gee. But, do you know how pimps die? They die miserably.

my problem is not just getting the help from the guy but she lied about the source and she kissed the man, hmmm, story...

Do what your mind tell you but the truth is, you should ask yourself some questions, can you marry her, after marriage and their are challenges, what is the possibility that she will not go to that same person.... if by your answers you know you can't marry her, them separate from her now and go hustle on your own.

your happiness and peace of mind is very important, more than money, please don't deceive her, so God can see your clean hand and mind and bless you

my take

Bro don't be deceived.. She doesn't love you..also don't be afraid to call the shots. once u believe you cant survive without her my bro you are doomed and will never recover.. Pls note that business is no more both of yours..its her own its just a matter of time she will dump you.. She is paying for something for that business bro.. Even today our ladies come in and take everything a man has worked for..the only thing I want you to free yourself from Is the thought that you need her for your survival of business or food..my view..be a Man. No fear..you can't even put your future home in the hands of such person..

If only this girls can just dey blunt and say the bitter truth...
Na ur ex-lover, why not call ur bf and tell ham sey, babe i wan go see my ex o, na fvck i wan use collect 1m from hin hand o as per we broke pas Brooklyn, atleast u clear the air, is it that hard to say the truth??

She loves you although no man will be happy bout the help shes getting from her ex bcux weda u like it or not she honestly might be sleeping with this her ex or shes not but if your mind is telling you she is f***king the ex then that's it, so I advice if you cannot live with that kindly sit her down and let her go not wait till business materialise or have another side chick, at the end she will feel used and by then if she lay course on you e go catch you, satisfy your conscience man.

You never see wife wey you go marry o. Just chop your own too and comot there

iamadonis2:


You have a great point here. Having her sell her body for the loan is the same as collecting loan from bank.

What exactly gave u d impression that she slept with him? She even went to an ex to borrow money that you would benefit from and you here yapping about it? To some, an ex remains a friend and I see nothing wrong in taking a loan from a friend and she didn't tell u at first cos she knew you'd biitch about it.

Ezemarcel:
You are not far from contacting HIV

laugh wan Kee me!! lmao o

The fact that she is collecting from the sugar daddy and she is giving you the money...my friend she loves you wella...accept the consequences and ignore how she got the money or who is giving it to her...as a sugar boy like me...I think you should accept the fact that you are a sugar boy and enjoy this life...but when she stops giving you the kpekus or if she starts insulting you...my friend just know the end is near...

To answer your question, please may I know your plans for your girlfriend cum business partner first?

Shortyy:


But if the case was reversed will you give the woman this advice?

How can you ask that? Are men and women the same that you should ask if the case was reversed. Men are allowed to keep more than one wife at a time in Islam and African culture, but women cannot because a woman can only bear a child with one father at time. If she keeps two husbands simultaneously, which of them will be father of her child (only one of them), so it is forbidden and unnatural for a woman to keep two men at the same time. You can't serve two masters at the same time, you must love one and hate the other; even the Bible said as much.

May our son not be foolish

holocron:


How can you ask that? Are men and women the same that you should ask if the case is reversed. Men are allowed to keep more than one wife at a time in Islam and African culture, but women cannot because a woman can only bear a child with one father at time. If she keeps two husbands simultaneously, which of them will be father of the child (only one of them), so it is forbidden and unnatural for a woman to keep two men at the same time. You can't serve two masters at the same time, you must love one and hate the other; even the Bible said as much.

Bible said what exactly?

iamadonis2:


That’s a successful growing business at stake here Bro

Successful business that's relying on borrowing to survive...you better use your head,separate business from your marital future plan with her before you be on the losing end.
You don't need to squander the money as he jokingly suggested but you just need to be more careful in terms of sourcing funds in the business and make sure you have a separate hidden account....after all nothing is Fair in love and war

iamadonis2:
Bash me Nairalanders, I didn’t learn again.

But sit down critically and analyze this, then tell me your thoughts.

Sometime last year, I made a thread https://www.nairaland.com/5461415/it-proper-girlfriend-still-gets where I revealed my girlfriend-cum-business partner still receives financial help from a man she once dated.

Today, another story surfaced. In June 2020, she had produced one million naira saying her brother gave it to her to invest in our business. I even called the brother to say thank you and he told me it wasn’t a bother to him at all. We could pay in six months time. I know we can.

Today, I realized it was her ex-boyfriend, the same man I complained about last year, that gave her the money. He’s 52. She's been confessing more and more about how it’s a loan to grow our business she asked for to pay back in December and she only kissed him as a thank you. My people, what precise, wise, and smart move do I make now?

Poverty is a bastàrd sha. I'm really disappointed with most of what is passing for advice here.

I have this to say though, if you don't mind sharing her with the other guy till he dies or is tired of her pûssy, you can look the other way and keep on enjoying his money.

However, you should note that now that everyone knows the source of your business capital, you no longer have a 100% say in that relationship. Expect her to expect you to be understanding whenever he makes demands. Whether you like it or not he has become a major factor in your relationship. You looking the other way means you have greenlit your babe to continually seek assistance from him while he receives his "kisses" in return.

In your shoes I would continue the relationship until I can stand on my own without any external assistance, upon exiting the relationship I would exit the business partnership with the girlfriend, of course I'd have been making moves on the side. Of course, it's easier said than done but life isn't easy. You can either take the tough road, or sell your birthright and share your wife.

If you marry that girl, she go carry the child of that 50 something old He-goat give you

And tell you that you are the father of the child when indeed the old man is responsible.

Run Run Run

If possible collect your money in the business and runaway.

Shortyy:


Bible said what exactly?

Matthew 6:24
No one can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other; or else he will be devoted to one and despise the other.

Girlfriend? Your own better na... I know someone who's baba alaye still sends money to even as a wife to another man already. During her wedding, this man contributed hugely as well. How do you explain such scenario to the innocent hubby na?