Michdaf:
Calli, this is the types of response you are waiting before you take your decision. Don't let them misled you. At the beginning, it was me and you, so let be what we decide. I can still turn out good

pocohantas:
You are overthinking things.

How can you keep saying you haven’t eaten for 3days without any explanation? Haba! Don’t you know that is Naija babes intro to ask for urgent 2k?

The guy is not psychic to know you were fasting. Whenever I tell a man I haven’t eaten, I always make sure I add the reason (e.g) Busy day, I am trying to watch my intake/weight...etc.

While it wasn’t so nice of him to disappear, we should remember that building relationships is hard in Nigeria because we suspect ourselves too much. Imagine if he kept telling you he is lonely.

It is okay if you want to block him, I just want you to know you are not entirely blameless. It takes time and trust to unlock certain aspects of a friendship...

kneehighbootz:
Look, let's be honest. The guy didn't try at all. I mean, a woman you're trying to be in a relationship with and you couldn't put your best foot forward. Like, what would it take to show care and concern for the woman you want to date and presumably marry?
I know the economy is hard for all of us but we shouldn't lose our humanity. Everything is so transactional right now, even love.

And nairaland guys, you guys should quit the online masturbation. Every time Nigerian women are beggars, urgent 2k, blah blah blah. In all my time on nl, I've seen more begging threads opened by males than the females on this forum. Stop fooling yourselves.

Ishilove:
So if you were truly in need of help that is how he would have abandoned you. Please block him. We don't need useless people in our lives

Ishilove:
So if you were truly in need of help that is how he would have abandoned you. Please block him. We don't need useless people in our lives

CalliDora1:


Don't mind him. He thinks he can shame me. He's here running his mouth tap but he has almost drained my battery with calls.

Dafe, michdaf, I'm done. Please let me be. Or did you think I would be sitting like a puppet waiting for you to come back?

kneehighbootz:
Look, let's be honest. The guy didn't try at all. I mean, a woman you're trying to be in a relationship with and you couldn't put your best foot forward. Like, what would it take to show care and concern for the woman you want to date and presumably marry?
I know the economy is hard for all of us but we shouldn't lose our humanity. Everything is so transactional right now, even love.

And nairaland guys, you guys should quit the online masturbation. Every time Nigerian women are beggars, urgent 2k, blah blah blah. In all my time on nl, I've seen more begging threads opened by males than the females on this forum. Stop fooling yourselves.

patoski39:
Una sure say no b one person dae operate those 2 accounts

Splitmind:


Again you have just described the thought process of women and are projecting it onto men because we aren't sitting down to take your bullshit anymore.

This woman is clearly in the wrong and coming here to fish for sympathy. To you you never see the topic at hand only man-woman fight, she's asking for support after her failed attempt at manipulation but because women are so used to special treatment and no accountability you see nothing wrong with this behaviour.

If OP was a man the situation would still be ridiculous but because she's female you feel the need to form sisterhood and defend her.

Geddifokouttahere.

luminouz:

This is always what you type every time. Dont you have any other statement or view?

Originalsly:
Hmmmm....... red flags waving in front of your face.... you're staring but not seeing! The guy.. ehmmm.... man doesn't even have sense..... most guys wanting your money will be smooth operators... 419 type.... this one is the type that will draw cutlass to you throat and tell you it's a stick up... then dash you on the ground and run away with your pocket book.... leaving you behind all battered and bruise but with all your money in your pocket. I advise you block that guy.... with cement... Dangote cement like Ishilove said... not because he is after your money.... but because he has little sense.

mariahAngel:


Ishi, that is childish na.

Personally, I don't tolerate those rubbish.

kneehighbootz:
Look, let's be honest. The guy didn't try at all. I mean, a woman you're trying to be in a relationship with and you couldn't put your best foot forward. Like, what would it take to show care and concern for the woman you want to date and presumably marry?
I know the economy is hard for all of us but we shouldn't lose our humanity. Everything is so transactional right now, even love.

And nairaland guys, you guys should quit the online masturbation. Every time Nigerian women are beggars, urgent 2k, blah blah blah. In all my time on nl, I've seen more begging threads opened by males than the females on this forum. Stop fooling yourselves.

kkins25:
ohhh boy!!! i almost miss drama ohh!!!!! Dora Dora weytun i talk? ishilove, i hope you are watching as your client dey fall your hand? she came here and gave us only half cake to chop...
i feel good. parara ra rara ra!!so good!! pa pa SO GOOD!!!

CalliDora1:



Lol..@bolded.. I don't blame you. Poco don give you something talk, shey? 2k kor. Why would I ask my supposed man for 2k if i want to stock up my pantry? Abi because of small lockdown everyone want to dey reason themselves anyhow? please don't reason me like that.

luminouz:


I swear down. I think its just like that...


The pattern is too suspicious and cunning

pocohantas:
You are overthinking things.

How can you keep saying you haven’t eaten for 3days without any explanation? Haba! Don’t you know that is Naija babes intro to ask for urgent 2k?

The guy is not psychic to know you were fasting. Whenever I tell a man I haven’t eaten, I always make sure I add the reason (e.g) Busy day, I am trying to watch my intake/weight...etc.

While it wasn’t so nice of him to disappear, we should remember that building relationships is hard in Nigeria because we suspect ourselves too much. Imagine if he kept telling you he is lonely.

It is okay if you want to block him, I just want you to know you are not entirely blameless. It takes time and trust to unlock certain aspects of a friendship...

CalliDora1:


My dear. @bolded is my thoughts because he resumed the question this morning again.

Sugar what?.. this person I'm telling you is a MAN as in very mature guy and from all indications he's not a play boy. But why he pulled that stunt at the last minute was what got me upset and worried.

I'm thinking whether to download all he did to him and how I see it or just block him.

I don't want to appear wicked or rude but my interest is no longer there.

Raalsalghul:

It is a fact and has been established more times than you can imagine that most Nigerian women are beggars. That more begging threads are opened by males doesn't erase that.

luminouz:

This is always what you type every time. Dont you have any other statement or view?

silverkings:
You sure say you're not the guy in question?

Cutie09:
It could be the guy thought it is his duty to help you with food and bills, most naija girls automatically wants guys to help them card food, bills and help solve their family financial wahala. I know there are some good nigerian men out there same with women.

2017 i met a girl online became chat buddies. 2017 she helped me deliver a birthday cake to a friend, 2018 i was supposed to send her £22 for birthday cake accidentally sent her £2,200. Guess what she did? She returned all my money back i know theee are honest guys and ladies out there online.

sotadegrt:


Can we be friends pls. 08063348179. You could please write me on Whatsapp with that. Anticipating. Thanks

Jaqenhghar:

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E be like say you don see things for this firum

CalliDora1:
Long post. Please bear with me.

This trait seems to be common among some Nairaland men (with apologies to all the men here though) cos I never really experienced such attitude with men ive met offline. So don't know whether they have a nairaland men's association (not the red pillars or mgtow kinda thing though) where they agree to behave likesome. The way they reason sometimes just baffles me.

Ok. So, I met someone here as a friend and I wanted it to stay that way. Along the line, he wanted more than just friendship but I just kept dodging because I don't want any issues as he's a good friend (a born again) and I like our friendly chats and all that. So didn't want anything serious that could jeopardize that but he kept pressing on and stressing until I naturally began to feel relaxed (against my wish) you know how that constant checking on someone tends to make one want to compromise their Stance. So I sort of got trapped.

Now here's the issue. He would always want to know about my biz and job. If I went or not. So I decided to test him. He would always call and ask if I've eaten. So that day, I said no (was fasting) but didn't want to divulge it to him that I was fasting. He called later in the day and asked again, I said I've not eaten, he dropped. I now felt he prolly thought I wanted him to feed me huh??.. I observed he reduced his calls. Third day he called and asked again, I said no. And he said "na wa o" I was like why, he said I'm sorry I can't help. Huh?? I don't remember asking him so I decided to play along. He called in the evening, I still said I've not eaten ( cos I had not broken my fast then) and he said I'm sorry ( I was just laughing within). I asked him, for what? he said because he couldn't help. And since then he stopped calling only to chat after a week to ask if the biz I was pursuing was through. I ignored him and for two months no contact.

Just last night he chatted me up again asking if I've resumed work and I said yes. he then asked if he's free to call me bla bla. And since last night hes been trying to keep up chats but I'm kinda cold towards him and he asked why I'm so cold. Acting like nothing happened.

Now, this is what I feel. so if someone is truly dying of hunger (God forbid) you'll abandon the fellow? or that they can't date someone who's biz is shaky or has not resumed work due to a global crises that affected everyone? I'm not saying anybody should carry someone else's burden ( there was really no burden anywhere as God has been faithful.) but I don't understand what actually played out there and why he's all of a sudden interested again after learning I've resumed work. I don't just understand because I don't want to be rude. Was that a right thing?

I'm really confused here because.. I mean.. I never asked you to help me with anything but being there would have been enough. Calling and chatting would have helped me scale through the bordom I felt that period of compulsory break from work and biz but he went into Oblivion even when I never placed any demands on him.

I bow to men and the way they reason o.

patoski39:
very suspicious,, if not how come the gal no dae pick call but them dae mention thierselves here.. Las Las d gal just wan make we know say e get guy wey dae beg her