My younger sister got a job in a multinational company since before marriage, her husband works as a seller of a certain foreign product but since he started he has been barely mking money, my sister pays rent and kids school fees and buys food while he spends his money mainly on marketing his product. we all tried to help him and get a job in a company and as a lecturer but he refused saying he is used to business and does not want to work under anyone.
So my sister has been the financial back bone of the family for a while.

Her husband now wants to bring in a family from the village that has been having financial problems since their father lost his job in a construction company when covid 19 started and want to stay with them while the man looks for a job in the city

My sister will basically be the one feeding this man and his wife and child.

I feel as if her husband is taking advantage of her ,he can work hard and be a better provider but he insists on doing his meager business that hardly fetches anything.

My sister is very soft spoken and does not like acrimony so I guess that is why he acts like he is not supposed to be the provider, not just that but now he wants to bring in extra mouth to feed when the woman was already stretched to her limit in handling responsibilities that are her husband's.

I plan to intervene and talk her husband out of bringing in another person to the house.

When a man is financially okay in a family, he'll tolerate and accommodate his jobless wife, her jobless siblings in his house without complaints. He'll even train and sponsor them.

But when a woman happens to be the one earning more, she'll see reasons not to accept and accommodate her husband's siblings. That's when she'll remember marital quadratic and differential equation, integration, permutations, combinations and all kinds of selfish-induced calculations. Why? Because they are naturally selfish.

I just hope your sister's husband will deal with you for being stupid enough to intervene on how he runs his marital affair. If he was very rich, you'll be worshiping him and looking for favors, but you now feel the need to be foolish by intervening in his marital choice of bringing his sibling in his home.

Would you have frowned if he had wanted to bring your own sibling home?

Don't you have sense? Don't you know your boundry?

She saw him and married him like that, so let her be,dont instigate or fuel anything.Just leave them, when load heavy her she will know what to do

valdovas:


My sister is very soft spoken and does not like acrimony so I guess that is why he acts like he is not supposed to be the provider,

The bolded is everything wrong and disgusting about that man, no apologies,

One thing I've noticed about humans is that, the weak are always taken advantage of, the soft spoken, nice, sweet people are the ones being burned severally, for married peeps, it is the ones opening threads upon threads of complaints that are also in this category, smh,

If I should advice your sister to secretly rent a house for herself and kids, furnish it tastefully, then move in asap since her husband is of no use whatsoever, so that he can house his other cousin and family and also feed them(he obviously boasted of being the man of the house and sole provider), some peeps here will come for my e-head with more usual garbage, but I won't say it, your sister can do as she wishes,


I await e-idiots to coin out unbelievable, yet not surprising, ways to make this man look like an angel among humans.

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IamD18:
When a man is financially okay in a family, he'll tolerate and accommodate his jobless wife, her jobless siblings in his house without complaints. He'll even train and sponsor them.

But when a woman happens to be the one earning more, she'll see reasons not to accept and accommodate her husband's siblings. That's when she'll remember marital algebraic and quadratic equation. Why? Because they are naturally selfish.

I just hope your sister's husband will deal with you for being stupid enough to intervene on how he runs his marital affair. If he was very rich, you'll be worshiping him and looking for favors, but you now feel the need to be foolish by intervening in his marital choice of bringing his sibling in his home.

Would you have frowned if he had wanted to bring your own sibling home?

Don't you have sense? Don't you know your boundry?

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When you were serving ban, there was peace here, pls go away with your illogical nonsense.

A man who is not financially providing for his nuclear family wants to bring in his jobless relative who comes along his own wife and child, so madam will also be fending for them?...This is truly super story.

I believe you got to know all this because your sister confided in you and that shows she's not happy about it so what's stopping her from talking to her husband?
You and your siblings should leave married people alone . 'you tried to get him a job, did he come running to you that he needs a job?
Your sister will just open her mouth waaaa and pour out everything, as a wife it's her duty to cover the man's Shame not expose it.

Brandonx:
I believe you got to know all this because your sister confided in you and that shows she's not happy about it so what's stopping her from talking to her husband?
You and your siblings should leave married people alone . 'you tried to get him a job, did he come running to you that he needs a job?
Your sister will just open her mouth waaaa and pour out everything, as a wife it's her duty to cover the man's Shame not expose it.

She is not exposing his shame,

He himself is not ashamed of his situation, he wants to continue earning peanuts that he spends on himself because he knows she earns a lot.

Fountainofyouth:



The bolded is everything wrong and disgusting about that man, no apologies,

One thing I've noticed about humans is that, the weak are always taken advantage of, the soft spoken, nice, sweet people are the ones being burned severally, for married peeps, it is the ones opening threads upon threads of complaints that are also in this category, smh,

If I should advice your sister to secretly rent a house for herself and kids, furnish it tastefully, then move in asap since her husband is of no use whatsoever, so that he can house his other cousin and family and also feed them(he obviously boasted of being the man of the house and sole provider), some peeps here will come for my e-head with more usual garbage, but I won't say it, your sister can do as she wishes,


I await e-idiots to coin out unbelievable, yet not surprising, ways to make this man look like an angel among humans.

She is too soft it annoys me sometimes

I was even wondering why she didn't immediately refuse the husband's suggestion instead of keeping it in mind and coming to tell me about it.

Their house is very big, it has extra rooms that is why her in laws want to come. They think their brother is making serious money, They don't understand that the woman is basically the one carrying the whole house.

I won't advise you go talking to the husband. Call your sister and try to find out what she thinks about the whole arrangement. Ifs she's cool with it and can cope financially, fine. Otherwise, tell her not to overstretch it for her own sanity and if the husband tries to be funny, then you can all swing into action and put him in his place. He should man up to his responsibilities as the head of the home and be able to cater for any extra mouth he's bringing into the family.

Fountainofyouth:

The bolded is everything wrong and disgusting about that man, no apologies,

One thing I've noticed about humans is that, the weak are always taken advantage of, the soft spoken, nice, sweet people are the ones being burned severally, for married peeps, it is the ones opening threads upon threads of complaints that are also in this category, smh,

Bullseye!

Fountainofyouth:

If I should advice your sister to secretly rent a house for herself and kids, furnish it tastefully, then move in asap since her husband is of no use whatsoever, so that he can house his other cousin and family and also feed them(he obviously boasted of being the man of the house and sole provider), some peeps here will come for my e-head with more usual garbage, but I won't say it, your sister can do as she wishes,

I await e-idiots to coin out unbelievable, yet not surprising, ways to make this man look like an angel among humans.

Great Plan, but let us explore the option of prohibiting uncle from increasing the burden.

valdovas:


She is too soft it annoys me sometimes

I was even wondering why she didn't immediately refuse the husband's suggestion instead of keeping it in mind and coming to tell me about it.

Their house is very big, it has extra rooms that is why her in laws want to come. They think their brother is making serious money, They don't understand that the woman is basically the one carrying the whole house.

I hate when people mistake kindness and Dutifullness for weakness, and the Trespassers are right, because weakness Truly exist.

The Law is "He bears the burden, bears the convenience"

Whilst this situation should never have arisen, however, this is where A Stand must be made and their marriage is already Trial, which way it shall Go, is up to them.

Your sister would be a fool to take some advice from someone like you.

I am sure before your sister got that job, the man was the provider and you shamelessly visit them then to deplete their food. Now table has turned and you the your Aristocratic mind has woken up to dish out lectures on prudence.
You think I won't see through your foolish lie of her working in that multi national company before marriage... Cos with that narrative, you want us to inevitably assume that your sister was the one that paid her own bride price, sponsored the wedding, feed the man ever since and the kids that followed. How can someone who is disgruntled about feeding one more mouth even allow such parasitic marriage in the first place?... If you want to paint a story to suit hide your vile nature, make sure you think it through.

Take your silly self-centered advice far away from that home, and focus on improving yourself. Stop trying to incite a war you have no intention of fighting in.

Brandonx:
I believe you got to know all this because your sister confided in you and that shows she's not happy about it so what's stopping her from talking to her husband?
You and your siblings should leave married people alone . 'you tried to get him a job, did he come running to you that he needs a job?
Your sister will just open her mouth waaaa and pour out everything, as a wife it's her duty to cover the man's Shame not expose it.

The horseband that has finished making mouth waaaa to his people that he is the man of the house, is he not the one that wants to expose himself shamefully to his people by bringing his cousin and family in who will see him for who he really is? Won't they tell every one of his family what they see when they're living there? The way you guys reason sometimes ehn

Brandonx:
I believe you got to know all this because your sister confided in you and that shows she's not happy about it so what's stopping her from talking to her husband?
You and your siblings should leave married people alone . 'you tried to get him a job, did he come running to you that he needs a job?
Your sister will just open her mouth waaaa and pour out everything, as a wife it's her duty to cover the man's Shame not expose it.

I did not see the bolded before, you are not feeling fine, if it was the wife will you say this exact same thing? Won't you call her a lazy ass with all manner of obscenities?

IamD18:
When a man is financially okay in a family, he'll tolerate and accommodate his jobless wife, her jobless siblings in his house without complaints. He'll even train and sponsor them.

But when a woman happens to be the one earning more, she'll see reasons not to accept and accommodate her husband's siblings. That's when she'll remember marital quadratic and differential equation, integration, permutations, combinations and all kinds of selfish-induced calculations. Why? Because they are naturally selfish.

I just hope your sister's husband will deal with you for being stupid enough to intervene on how he runs his marital affair. If he was very rich, you'll be worshiping him and looking for favors, but you now feel the need to be foolish by intervening in his marital choice of bringing his sibling in his home.

Would you have frowned if he had wanted to bring your own sibling home?

Don't you have sense? Don't you know your boundry?

Be exposing the kinda family u grew up in. Ode

Fountainofyouth:


I did not see the bolded before, you are not feeling fine, if it was the wife with you this exact same thing? Won't you call her a lazy ass with all manner of obscenities?

You that is feeling fine did you see him running his mouth ? I don't blame you sha, it's the wife that reduced him to this level. And she would still prepare food for the man to eat tonight
I don't even know why people get married these days

Brandonx:

You that is feeling fine did you see him running his mouth ? I don't blame you sha, it's the wife that reduced him to this level. And she would still prepare food for the man to eat tonight
I don't even know why people get married these days

How the hell didn't you understand what I typed? What is wrong with you?

Brandonx:
I believe you got to know all this because your sister confided in you and that shows she's not happy about it so what's stopping her from talking to her husband?
You and your siblings should leave married people alone . 'you tried to get him a job, did he come running to you that he needs a job?
Your sister will just open her mouth waaaa and pour out everything, as a wife it's her duty to cover the man's Shame not expose it.

Cover untill she passed out abi? Weldone ma or sir...

Fountainofyouth:



How the hell didn't you understand what I typed? What is wrong with you?

Madam what is your challenge? Why are you so bitter and rude am I the cause of your misery?

ststyreal:

Cover untill she passed out abi? Weldone ma or sir...

When the man proposed to her didn't she know what she was getting into?

Brandonx:

Madam what is your challenge? Why are you so bitter and rude am I the cause of your misery?

You just had to go personal, so unwell.

IamD18:
When a man is financially okay in a family, he'll tolerate and accommodate his jobless wife, her jobless siblings in his house without complaints. He'll even train and sponsor them.

But when a woman happens to be the one earning more, she'll see reasons not to accept and accommodate her husband's siblings. That's when she'll remember marital quadratic and differential equation, integration, permutations, combinations and all kinds of selfish-induced calculations. Why? Because they are naturally selfish.

I just hope your sister's husband will deal with you for being stupid enough to intervene on how he runs his marital affair. If he was very rich, you'll be worshiping him and looking for favors, but you now feel the need to be foolish by intervening in his marital choice of bringing his sibling in his home.

Would you have frowned if he had wanted to bring your own sibling home?

Don't you have sense? Don't you know your boundry?

Can you just shut your pie hole?

You spent about four paragraphs typing balderdash. I don't know why you people just chose to turn every topic concerning marriage into a gender war. Would you say the same thing if your sister were in her stead?

Overgrown kid!

Fountainofyouth:


You just had to go personal, so unwell.

When you asked what was wrong with me that wasn't personal
Do not allow this misandry to becloud your sense of reasoning.

Fountainofyouth:


You just had to go personal, so unwell.

You started it. See:

Fountainofyouth:


I did not see the bolded before, you are not feeling fine, if it was the wife with you this exact same thing? Won't you call her a lazy ass with all manner of obscenities?

valdovas:
My younger sister got a job in a multinational company since before marriage, her husband works as a seller of a certain foreign product but since he started he has been barely mking money, my sister pays rent and kids school fees and buys food while he spends his money mainly on marketing his product. we all tried to help him and get a job in a company and as a lecturer but he refused saying he is used to business and does not want to work under anyone.
So my sister has been the financial back bone of the family for a while.

Her husband now wants to bring in a family from the village that has been having financial problems since their father lost his job in a construction company when covid 19 started and want to stay with them while the man looks for a job in the city

My sister will basically be the one feeding this man and his wife and child.

I feel as if her husband is taking advantage of her ,he can work hard and be a better provider but he insists on doing his meager business that hardly fetches anything.

My sister is very soft spoken and does not like acrimony so I guess that is why he acts like he is not supposed to be the provider, not just that but now he wants to bring in extra mouth to feed when the woman was already stretched to her limit in handling responsibilities that are her husband's.

I plan to intervene and talk her husband out of bringing in another person to the house.

Better talk to the fool very fast...what nonsense..don't mince words with him .it's pure wickedness,can u imagine,if doesn't budge turn am to fight...if possible both families should know...the idiot will be claiming head of house so it's no one's business...no gree o!!

Brandonx:

When you asked what was wrong with me that wasn't personal
Do not allow this misandry to becloud your sense of reasoning.

Typical misogynist, reeks everywhere starting from your first comment.

listen. Don't say anything. let them come. If she talks, the male folk will say it is normal with women bcoz its the man's relative.

There must be quarrel between invited and invitee and they will run.na today?

Will your sister bleed more blood than she has? MBA!

Fountainofyouth:



Typical misogynist, reeks everywhere starting from your first comment.

Lol . Madam what's bothering you ? Let out the frustration by creating a thread or talk to someone, if it was last week you mentioned me the way you did by telling me I'm not fine I would have showed you a real misogynist.
But I'll let it slide call me whatever you feel like it doesn't change the fact that the Op's Sister brought disgrace to her husband if she can't shoulder the responsibilities tell him not running her mouth outside and still come to the house to act a good wife.

Brandonx:

You that is feeling fine did you see him running his mouth ? I don't blame you sha, it's the wife that reduced him to this level. And she would still prepare food for the man to eat tonight
I don't even know why people get married these days

Your foolish comments are always on point, you've never disappointed me

Kirchoffs:
Your foolish comments are always on point, you've never disappointed me

So you want to start with me tonight again ? Sorry to burst your bubbles I'm not that bitter man again I'll let it slide.

Brandonx:

Lol . Madam what's bothering you ? Let out the frustration by creating a thread or talk to someone, if it was last week you mentioned me the way you did by telling me I'm not fine I would have showed you a real misogynist.
But I'll let it slide call me whatever you feel like it doesn't change the fact that the Op's Sister brought disgrace to her husband if she can't shoulder the responsibilities tell him not running her mouth outside and still come to the house to act a good wife.

How is Op an outsider? Or did you skip the part Op said she is his sister? How did you know she hasn't told her husband she can't shoulder the responsibilities? Were you there? Are you the lazy ass husband?

If the husband has sense, he will know that bringing not one person, but a whole family to a house where the wife is the sole provider while he is doing basically nothing, is a disgrace and big shame to him as a man, he is exposing himself outside for his people to know what's going long on in his home, or you think his cousin won't tell people what goes on there? If he is super sensible, he won't bring in outsiders, he should be the one covering his shame by himself,

But as you and the horseband is in the same category of shamelessness, of course you'd support him, nonsense.