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Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by lkillbrokehoes: 10:09am On Nov 19, 2020
ume1000:
where you take dey see pictures when resemble you

First Mr ibu

When would simps ever learn
That online simp omooba969 nah womaniser, check his profile and see, nah only females he dey follow grin
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Onyxunlimited(f): 10:20am On Nov 19, 2020
YourCoffin:
Madam was watering ground for the normal urgent 2k. Guy man saw through it and jakpa.

Kpele dear. As you dey avoid men's burden na so wise guys dey dey begin avoid women's burden

Abi you thnk all the advice they get here no dey enter their head
If his intention is to avoid burden, why then did he come back?
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Raalsalghul: 10:28am On Nov 19, 2020
Petyprincess:
Lol i knew this is where it will end!!

The same moniker which was formerly ashirawealthy did the same thing to a guy she met on nairaland,it was so funny that their pictures were uploaded, something that should have been private,the problem with her is she loves so much attention hence she hasn't been a long term relationship with all men she met on nairaland, she had to delete her account then.

She is always looking for men with new moniker every month from, sapphire,jewessgratitude,ashirawealthy,
eulilia,pozehani which is her current moniker.
https://www.nairaland.com/pozehnani

It's funny how people still take her serious, she does all this for attention,she was doing this same thing on romance section now she opened new moniker and it's nw family section.

I know the real moniker of the guy, he is in his 30 while the lady Is 40 years old, two shameless old people disgracing themselves on public forum!!
grin grin grin grin grin

How did this babe offend you?
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Raalsalghul: 10:30am On Nov 19, 2020
Justbehave:
Abobi !. So na this fool dey talk since sef? Lolz.No let me look for that Una outing pics again and post it here. Old Mama youngy and his foolish simp. Guy no dey beg her. She don cross menopause o. Hahahahaha. Ashirawealthy.
grin grin grin grin

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Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Nobody: 10:46am On Nov 19, 2020
Petyprincess:
Lol i knew this is where it will end!!

The same moniker which was formerly ashirawealthy did the same thing to a guy she met on nairaland,it was so funny that their pictures were uploaded, something that should have been private,the problem with her is she loves so much attention hence she hasn't been a long term relationship with all men she met on nairaland, she had to delete her account then.

She is always looking for men with new moniker every month from, sapphire,jewessgratitude,ashirawealthy,
eulilia,pozehani which is her current moniker.
https://www.nairaland.com/pozehnani

It's funny how people still take her serious, she does all this for attention,she was doing this same thing on romance section now she opened new moniker and it's nw family section.

I know the real moniker of the guy, he is in his 30 while the lady Is 40 years old, two shameless old people disgracing themselves on public forum!!


Chi! See disgrace. But why are so full of hate? Abi u aren't happy she is got a seemly serious guy here?
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by pocohantas(f): 11:22am On Nov 19, 2020
OgaHector:
your reasoning is like that of a man. I’m fucking impressed lolz

My reasoning is like that of a woman and it is totally fine to reason like one. Thank you...


Hathor5:


In his case the concern was fake.

Why do Nigerians like to ask this question anyway? What if I haven't? Will you cook for me? Or hide like the guy did? grin

Lol. I don’t think it was fake. That is the Nigerian definition of care or love. Some of us have gotten used to it when it comes from the right people though.

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Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by omooba969(m): 11:26am On Nov 19, 2020
[s]
lkillbrokehoes:
See this lying ass womaniser? only u follow 35 females here and u are here typing trash, see no matter how u be a captain save a hoe to them, u will never get to see their pants.
[/s]

The only thing in your filthy skull is sex and I doubt if you have any female friends coz you might have seen all of their pants...lol cheesy

This is your definition of a man - fvckn everything in skirts.

Yours is beyond redemption... walahi. grin
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Elmaaq: 11:52am On Nov 19, 2020
CalliDora1:


I taya o. I don't understand how she's seeing this whole thing. Anyways, people view things differently. So...

After reading the topic and a few chats I'm shocked it got to 29pages
Is it the matter still been deliberated on or the topic has changed?

Hope you're not convinced to keep the relationship/friendship? If helping out is work Move...
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Nobody: 12:05pm On Nov 19, 2020
Decimus:


Correct guy. Now you have to appease the goddess, so she can at least pick pick your calls.
Send some money to her so she can 'pump' it into her business.

Open a BTC wallet for her too and send her abroad for Masters next year.
People don't value what they have until they lose it, please don't make her sad again.

A story went viral yesterday, about a Knight that trained a lady through Nursing school, they are happily married now, i can see same thing about to happen here.


lol, nah'so oh bruh!

He should even apportion 80% of his total salary to the lady, in fact, if he's inspired to the core, he should give all his earnings to her with nothing for himself!

nah him sabi!!

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Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Nobody: 12:08pm On Nov 19, 2020
Elmaaq:


After reading the topic and a few chats I'm shocked it got to 29pages
Is it the matter still been deliberated on or the topic has changed?

Hope you're not convinced to keep the relationship/friendship? If helping out is work Move...


It got so lengthy because a lot of people left the bone of contention and went arguing out of context. Only a few read and really understood the point I was trying to make here. Most people didn't even bother reading the original post but were just drawing their assertions from other peoples presumptious comments. That was how we got here.

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Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by tosinhtml: 12:19pm On Nov 19, 2020
You know Judging by your behaviour here & how this supposedly fine boy gave you 50 Naira as opposed to paying a significant amount for your shopping. You said & I quote "I zeroed my mind about us ( didn't tell him though)." .

Going by your current logic, It means there is also a possibility he was testing you.
You see why the "Test" in quote of a thing is pure rubbish. Further more, someone even pointed to you on that thread that her current husband who was based in Canada at the time, sent a little token to her which she was disgusted but decided to be patient & watch.

But you as the All Knowing & All powerful human decided to be a Tester. Testing Microphone. Kontinu.


CalliDora1:
Yeah you read right! And now the why's

Why is that you meet a guy, he's everything you want but "rich".

Why is it that you meet another guy, he's rich but not everything you want?

Why can't there be a sort of balance? Like being rich and everything you want?

I'm not a leech, neither am I a liability but we all know how important it is for both couple to be financially ok at least for the unborn childrens sakes because no body wants to bring children into the world to suffer.

This is really making it hard for people to settle down because trust me, if you decide to go ahead just for marrying sakes, you'll regret it. Imagine a fine boy who can't do a 70-30 shared responsibilities with you or a rich man who can't be your fine boy and bestie in marriage, making you feel like you're one of his funitures.

Met one recently ( fine boy) and I decided to give it a shot.
So we went shopping and I was about to pay for my stuff and there was #50 naira on top, so I told the cashier not to do the 50 with my card that I'll give her cash. Next thing Bobo said, don't worry I can do the #50.. lol.... I developed instant headache. Like what? Even though I wasn't expecting him to pay, I wasn't comfortable with that gesture. He should have just kept quiet. So, I zeroed my mind about us ( didn't tell him though). Hm. It is well with our young boys.

I know this might sound silly to some, but it is what is still keeping a lot of people single. Speaking from experience. It's crazy though but real.

Why is life not balance?
Just thinking aloud this morning.
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Nobody: 12:25pm On Nov 19, 2020
tosinhtml:
You know Judging by your behaviour here & how this supposedly fine boy gave you 50 Naira as opposed to paying a significant amount for your shopping. You said & I quote "I zeroed my mind about us ( didn't tell him though)." .

Going by your current logic, It means there is also a possibility he was testing you.
You see why the "Test" in quote of a thing is pure rubbish. Further more, someone even pointed to you on that thread that her current husband who was based in Canada at the time, sent a little token to her which she was disgusted but decided to be patient & watch.

But you as the All Knowing & All powerful human decided to be a Tester. Testing Microphone. Kontinu.




Was this the only thing you could dig up? Search some more, I'm sure you'll find enough to buttress your points.
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by tosinhtml: 12:37pm On Nov 19, 2020
CalliDora1:



Was this the only thing you could dig up? Search some more, I'm sure you'll find enough to buttress your points.


Learn madame, nobody is fighting you. Everyone is not your enemy!

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Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Nobody: 12:58pm On Nov 19, 2020
IamGreen1:


Na the idiot com first run reach here con they call the lady scammer. It's good to keep chats if not una people for finish the beautiful lady with depression.

Why won't I, the follow the story I com dey pour the story give hubby like that of Jude and em white gf.
for reals u have good memory of the incident grin grin grin
it was the guy who came here to accuse the lady of scamming him grin
i now remember
when babe bring proof of what the guy did
baba swiftly deactivated his moniker grin grin grin grin

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Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Nobody: 1:21pm On Nov 19, 2020
Hathor5:




Why do Nigerians like to ask this question anyway? What if I haven't? Will you cook for me? Or hide like the guy did? grin
Its just a normal nigerian way of greeting when they ask u weda you don chop.like the way the americans would ask u whats cooking(whats happening around ur area).Anytime someone asks me if i have eaten i always reply yes i have eaten.i dont see it as anything i should fuzz about cheesy

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Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Rashman578(m): 1:23pm On Nov 19, 2020
CalliDora1:
Long post. Please bear with me.

This trait seems to be common among some Nairaland men (with apologies to all the men here though) cos I never really experienced such attitude with men ive met offline. So don't know whether they have a nairaland men's association (not the red pillars or mgtow kinda thing though) where they agree to behave likesome. The way they reason sometimes just baffles me.

Ok. So, I met someone here as a friend and I wanted it to stay that way. Along the line, he wanted more than just friendship but I just kept dodging because I don't want any issues as he's a good friend (a born again) and I like our friendly chats and all that. So didn't want anything serious that could jeopardize that but he kept pressing on and stressing until I naturally began to feel relaxed (against my wish) you know how that constant checking on someone tends to make one want to compromise their Stance. So I sort of got trapped.

Now here's the issue. He would always want to know about my biz and job. If I went or not. So I decided to test him. He would always call and ask if I've eaten. So that day, I said no (was fasting) but didn't want to divulge it to him that I was fasting. He called later in the day and asked again, I said I've not eaten, he dropped. I now felt he prolly thought I wanted him to feed me huh??.. I observed he reduced his calls. Third day he called and asked again, I said no. And he said "na wa o" I was like why, he said I'm sorry I can't help. Huh?? I don't remember asking him so I decided to play along. He called in the evening, I still said I've not eaten ( cos I had not broken my fast then) and he said I'm sorry ( I was just laughing within). I asked him, for what? he said because he couldn't help. And since then he stopped calling only to chat after a week to ask if the biz I was pursuing was through. I ignored him and for two months no contact.

Just last night he chatted me up again asking if I've resumed work and I said yes. he then asked if he's free to call me bla bla. And since last night hes been trying to keep up chats but I'm kinda cold towards him and he asked why I'm so cold. Acting like nothing happened.

Now, this is what I feel. so if someone is truly dying of hunger (God forbid) you'll abandon the fellow? or that they can't date someone who's biz is shaky or has not resumed work due to a global crises that affected everyone? I'm not saying anybody should carry someone else's burden ( there was really no burden anywhere as God has been faithful.) but I don't understand what actually played out there and why he's all of a sudden interested again after learning I've resumed work. I don't just understand because I don't want to be rude. Was that a right thing?

I'm really confused here because.. I mean.. I never asked you to help me with anything but being there would have been enough. Calling and chatting would have helped me scale through the bordom I felt that period of compulsory break from work and biz but he went into Oblivion even when I never placed any demands on him.

I bow to men and the way they reason o.


You said u suspected he thought so so so... Same way he suspected you were up to so so so which you rightly thought. All I see here are two suspects! If you block him (for disappearing no p) however, u might disagree all u like buh truth is u were guilty of what u thought (rightly) he's guilty of too!!!

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Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Nobody: 1:45pm On Nov 19, 2020
Justbehave:
Knight of st simps.Keep begging. Kneel down,cry sef.Shameless murderfucker.
Look at him saying he will turn out good. Fool wants to change because of a woman. Ozo younger brother.

Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by angelfallz(m): 5:48pm On Nov 19, 2020
GLYCOLYSISS:

Mr Michdaf, hope you're good ?

You're a fellow guy like me, that's why I decided to give you a helping hand in these situation,because I strongly believe it's going to help you, if you can only listen to me.
Sir, have some self respect.
That's exactly what you need right now and going forward in your dealings with women and anyone in general.
The deduction I can make so far doesn't reflect you do, in fact, that's one quality lacking in your arsenal, and another quality, is your inability to spot manipulative behaviors and write up.

She don't respect you,simply because you don't respect yourself, and you allow your emotions to govern you in these situations, where cold detachment and logic will have yielded a better result.
You can't control how people generally treat you, but you can control how you handle some situations .
She's not picking your calls, why not stop the calling ?
Stop disturbing her, and give her the gift of your absence,and respectfully move on with your life.
You have tried to reach out,and she's not welcoming, why still insist on reaching out ? Is that how bad and low you value yourself, your time and energy ?

Go to where you're celebrated, not where you're tolerated and treated like trash.

What's even more baffling is how you can't stop the emotional blackmail and gaslighting !
I don't really know what genuinely transpired between you two, and I won't jump into conclusion on the basis of the side of the stories you two presented, just that I'm more concerned what's unfolding here.
She was wrong to bring these issue here, knowing fully well you frequent these forum, and instead of apologising for poor handling of the issue, she shifted the blame on you .
She's literally gaslighting you, young man!
That's manipulation, and unfortunately, you fell for it, and ended up apologising for what's not.
She's manipulative, and I won't pretend about that, not to exempt you of any blames.
My problem with you here is that you engaged her, instead of outrightly ignoring her bullshits,cut your losses, and gently move on with you life.
Personally, I hate dramas, I don't have energy to expend on dramatic and manipulative persons.
That pocochantas girl was the first to spot her bullshits,did you notice how she took things personal with her ?

Take it from me, you never did worst than her Ex boyfriends, and she did no shit and is no shit, she's only reacting these way because she knows you lack self respect and don't have the cojones to walk away from manipulative peoples and their dramas.
Nigga, learn how to spot manipulative tendencies in your dealings with people in general, it's going to save you loads of energy and time, and most importantly, respect yourself and stop disturbing her, it's irritating and disgusting !

She's even making bullshit rules for you and deciding the terms of which her relationship with you is going to be, and foolishly you're going to play to her BS games.

Brother, have some self respect !




God bless you.

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Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by lkillbrokehoes: 7:20pm On Nov 19, 2020
omooba969:
[s][/s]

[b]The only thing in my fvcked up filthy skull is sex and I doubt if i have any female friends[/b]coz you might have seen all of their pants...lol cheesy

This is your definition of a man - fvckn everything in skirts.

Yours is beyond redemption... walahi. grin
Young man just accept what u are, like I said before u won't see their pants no matter how u asslick them, go and play with sand boy. cheesy
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by lkillbrokehoes: 7:23pm On Nov 19, 2020
pocohantas:


My reasoning is like that of a woman and it is totally fine to reason like one. Thank you...




Lol. I don’t think it was fake. That is the Nigerian definition of care or love. Some of us have gotten used to it when it comes from the right people though.
You are the only sensible female here, even though most times u are annoying, u know what? I will make the offer open for a week, only for you

don't miss this opportunity, note that I've never done this for anyone before
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by pocohantas(f): 7:33pm On Nov 19, 2020
lkillbrokehoes:
You are the only sensible female here, even though most times u are annoying, u know what? I will make the offer open for a week, only for you

don't miss this opportunity, note that I've never done this for anyone before

Leave me!! I don’t have sense please. I don’t like when people think I have sense, because I don’t. I am not single either... Bye! angry

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Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Nobody: 7:35pm On Nov 19, 2020
CalliDora1:



You're pained because you don't come close. Are you even a man? (In your mind) how many sensible men go about lazily from thread to thread looking for what is not lost like you do? You're virtually everywhere on this forum disgracing the men folk. Ain't you ashamed?

Go get a life and stop being a nuisance to the community. You suck for a man. Tufia!
I've told Evolutionlove that he's not psychologically sound. That dude needs urgent psychiatric evaluation. I actually mentioned the mods on one of the disgusting comments he made. Maybe, that was why he was banned.

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Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Nobody: 7:58pm On Nov 19, 2020
It really PAINS a lot when you Ignore lowlife jobless scums. Enjoy your Sifia Pains......grin grin grin

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Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Nobody: 8:02pm On Nov 19, 2020
angelfallz:


God bless you.

I appreciate, Mr angelfallz.
Hope you're doing great ?

Good evening..

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Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by lkillbrokehoes: 8:05pm On Nov 19, 2020
pocohantas:


Leave me!! I don’t have sense please. I don’t like when people think I have sense, because I don’t. I am not single either... Bye! angry
Lolz u have now, btw if u aren't single u should have been married by now, I've warned u to stay away from guys who just wants to chop and clean mouth, they won't marry u as far you give them pussy, anyways the offer is still open, my friend who resides in canada is looking for a vivacious, sedulous and smart woman to marry, he's in his late 30's, the offer is still open before I change my mind
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by JONNYSPUTE(m): 8:14pm On Nov 19, 2020
pocohantas:


Leave me!! I don’t have sense please. I don’t like when people think I have sense, because I don’t. I am not single either... Bye! angry
.....Hahahahahahaa.Una no kill person for here.
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by angelfallz(m): 8:30pm On Nov 19, 2020
GLYCOLYSISS:


I appreciate, Mr angelfallz.
Hope you're doing great ?

Good evening..


I'm doing great, thank you. cheesy
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Nobody: 8:32pm On Nov 19, 2020
grammarnazi2:

I've told Evolutionlove that he's not psychologically sound. That dude needs urgent psychiatric evaluation. I actually mentioned the mods on one of the disgusting comments he made. Maybe, that was why he was banned.

Yes! Thats good. Please keep reporting and getting his ass banned until he becomes normal. He's obviously sick and needs to be chained permanently.

Thank for the heads-up.
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Nobody: 8:37pm On Nov 19, 2020
angelfallz:


I'm doing great, thank you. cheesy
Alright man.
Do have a great day and weekend ahead.

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Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Deceptionlove: 9:01pm On Nov 19, 2020
Evolutionlove:
It really PAINS a lot when you Ignore lowlife jobless scums. Enjoy your Sifia Pains......grin grin grin

Lol Some people are In Sifia Pains. Being severally Ignored can be suicidal lol.......grin grin grin

Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by omooba969(m): 9:02pm On Nov 19, 2020
lkillbrokehoes:
You are the only sensible female here, even though most times u are annoying, u know what? I will make the offer open for a week, only for you

don't miss this opportunity, note that I've never done this for anyone before

Lol cheesy cheesy

Even Poco dey reject ya crass advances...u now see dat ya case is beyond redemption. grin

DIRTY PIG!

Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by pocohantas(f): 9:03pm On Nov 19, 2020
lkillbrokehoes:
Lolz u have now, btw if u aren't single u should have been married by now, I've warned u to stay away from guys who just wants to chop and clean mouth, they won't marry u as far you give them pussy, anyways the offer is still open, my friend who resides in canada is looking for a vivacious, sedulous and smart woman to marry, he's in his late 30's, the offer is still open before I change my mind

Lol. You know I was working today and a strange number called me. I picked and just couldn’t miss that voice. I screameeddd! We talked and talked and I was amazed at the man he has become.

Way back he was so proud, maybe because he was young, handsome, intelligent, tall, abs and all that. Anyway, he is 29 now, living in America and wants a Nigerian (Igbo) wife. I told him to pick a wife there and he said NO. We can both join hands to find them wives. If we find two, we give your friend one, give my friend one.

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