ZIINI:
Kekereekun123 abeg read this shit
You go see the reason why we dey always bash our women

lol

Wow, thought it was only me. She can't change, have you seen a snake eating leaf, have you seen a goat eating meat and drinking blood and have you seen a Lion eating leaf, so understand these!

Perfectsouth:
As I type this, it's with tears in my eyes.. I am pained, they've done everything bad to me.. Sincerely, I don't deserve this ill treatment have gotten from this family...
It is gonna be a very long read but I know you will learn a thing or two from this..
I might not be able to touch everything but if you feel there is something I need to share and I didn't, point it out and I will shed more light on it....

This may seems a bit lengthy but you should learn one or two lessons from it..
I come from a not broken not memded marriage same as my wife but hers was worse than mine..
My father used to be a rich man. When car dealing was very lucrative, he was a top notch car dealer in akure.. So along the line, he started fornicating. His was on another level, he always take them abroad to sleep with, shop for them and do every every.. We are five in my family, I being the first born..
I had to train myself through university with photography with the help of my mum too. I remember when I was looking for project money, one of my father's wife, the one that went to give birth in Dubai just came back and they were doing naming ceremony.. I could remember I was in the rain with my mum and they were pointing at us, though we couldn't hear what they were saying.. How did I raise my project money? Sponsoring 5 kids wasn't an easy task since 3 of us was in the university. So I went with my to her work place, she was a nurse so we collected all the aprons used during immunization and washed them.. Then I also hustled to complete the money...
It was a very rough and tough life but all along, we didn't even seem like someone who has a father..

Let me jump to the reason for this thread..
I vowed never to allow whatever happened in my family happen to me in the future..
I met my wife when I was in 200 level.. I was 23 and she was 21..

Cc royalroy

Pls you have to leave your wife if it's for the sake of the kids leaving her is better for them let me tell you she can never change no amount of prayer can do that.
See my mom and dad had this kind of situation but reversed and my mom kept staying and praying hoping he would change (for more than 18yrs) when she realised he was too far gone(just like your wife in this case, she left and it was the best choice she ever made I was so happy when she left and I wish she did it sooner. Take your children and flee from her use your evidence in court, As for the kids having one parent is better than having a useless parent that can't keep his/her privates in, trust me I learnt first hand.
And lastly I can bet 100k that one or both children are not yours. But please please I beg you leave that marriage.

Nuyokoi:
any possibility you made poor business decisions leading to the collapse of your businesses?
always easy to blame another than to admit your faults in these typa situations

Very true
Waiting on your comment about the wife sleeping around or you rather ignore that cos it does not suit whatever narrative you end up supporting ba ?

SweetCunt97:
But while you guys were together and having sex you grew rich, so how come she the cause? She committed adultery?

Personally the nonsense that pained me in this ur story is the bullshiit about being fragile and unable to learn or work.. Like wtf.

Best you go for a divorce not all marriages are meant to be. In ur case you simply ignored a very bad boil and it festered.

Who knows if the kids are yours sef

Exactly he should leave, the fact is a wife or husband that can cheat on his/her spouse would keep cheating and never change. There is a high chance the kids aren't his(but let's not blame the kids here they are innocent), and it's better to leave having one parent is better than having a useless parent. I don't like people like the op that take shit like this

op. this your story no sweet. u married an unrepentant Hoe. Yet u expected her not to do Hoe things inside marriage.

if she was decent at some certain points wen u guys started off, the story for make sense.

My dear brother i feel your pain, please all i can't write much here,but all I have to say for now is that if u like your life,tie your penis and if u like it family,then stop your wife from any work and send her to mountain of fire for serious deliverance.. I'm not a member but I believe it's in your city because other ones I know might not be in your city... If you can't suceed in making her go through heavy deliverance then know that really divorce is by the corner... Mind u also,u also need serious prayers because those spirits that was given legal ground by your father might be the ones fighting u in this manner.. God bless u I speak all these in case u are a christian... Jesus still saves....

Perfectsouth:
thanks bro for the words.. Since I stopped mating with her, have seen improvement.. Don't just don't want to break up with her yet cos she will do everything to stop me from seeing my kids

I actually understand u ...I know she wont let u hv acess to them...my advice is even though u dont want a broken marriage but right now u are in one dont let ur values about marriage keep u in bondage I have had aunties that thought that way but now they r separated and happier and doing better Las Las u answer to ur maker as a single person not with ur wife....just let her be take care of ur kids but then try to legally divorce her it not easy being without a woman I know nd ur nt the cheating type so divorce her nd be free even the bible condemns divorce but also states that when ur partner is caught red handed in adultery ur free to leave the marriage dont let any pastor confuse u oo study ur bible urself and be wise.... if possible since u hv evidence against her fight for custody of the children legally. ... the lord is ur strength...atimes it nt about whether na club girl or not cos some club girls change nd be better ...in marriage there is a need for constant teaching with each other going through what u want nd ur goals over nd over it nt enough to say it once people change that life .I know good girls that went bad in marriage due to influence so that y I say constant follow up on what u need nd want out marriage is needed with our partners everytime ..

Perfectsouth

You say you're very prayerful but you know little or nothing about the scriptures. Jesus said, "happy is the one hearing the word of God and keeping".(Luke 11:28)

King Solomon said, the "The shrewd one has seen the calamity and conceals himself, but but the inexperienced pass along and suffers the penalty."(Proverbs 27:12)

You knew your wife to be was wayward and yet you married her, what were you thinking? Then she started cheating in your marriage and you're still keeping her!? Can't you see the handwriting on the wall

Dump her now and fast!

ahnie:
my questions....
1...Did the Yahoo guy that she stole fuel money from later slept with her?
2....Are you a sex freak?
3...after you were warned not to have sex with her...why do you always have sex with her and the romp days always coincides with your kids birthdays.
4...I noticed from your narrative that you're the clingy and gum gum type.


please be kind enough to answer my questions.

You are so bad!

Perfectsouth:
not that, I could have said this with my main account, but it was banned..
You see in life, if your first step was a mistake, you will keep having problems....
The mistake I made early in life keeps bringing more problems..
The one his brother did recently was what brought about this thread..
I have been through alot in life, from one problem to another, I keep fighting, I keep praying but if your problem lives with you, you hardly get an escape route..
Those kids should never suffer for what they knew nothing about believe me... Every decision am still making revolves around my kids..
Till today, I blame my father for every thing that has happened to me cos he was nowhere to be found when we needed him most..
And let me shock you, we now give him monthly stipends to feed himself.. The wife he wanted to die for abandoned him.

I can relate bro. Though my wife not promiscuous but does similar but i sacrifice a lot for my son cos i dont want him to experience challenges i still face today due to bad background i got from my fathers polygamous life. I dropped out of medicine due to no support after struggling 2 years. There was even a time in university i forgot i had parents honestly, i was just buried between work n schooling, yet bore no anger against them cos i was used to such life, looking now is wen i realised it was wrong. I was d best n best graduating student in my secondary but no 1 cares except my immediate elder bro who was young as myself. Wen i look at my son today, i always want to be around for him to help him to his best potential by God's grace. My wife doesnt know wer i come from(i guess) n she cares less. Mind u, i am a handsome guy but i always try my best to resist sex(especially wt random ladies) cos i bliv it limits my growth. My story don dey plenty pass OP own. So wen i say i can relate wt d OP is because we have similar experience. I also notice wen i am away from home(cos i work in lagos while my family is in Jos), things work smoothly but d moment we r together, all positives begin to negate for the past 7 years we have been together, even she too noticed. I was told she needs deliverance but she wouldnt just listen to none of that. It was war b4 i could stop her from still chatting her former yahoo boyfriend who is now in china.

defcon4:
You saw the signs, you ignored the signs, you bear your cross. For this life you never suffer finish. When life ceases you by the throat, your heart will turn to stone.

You will dusbin her ass and even the children and face your front.

Gbam! On point

Perfect South, what is perfect in your Nick name? Look the lot is cast into the lap but the whole disposing is up to you. I mean too many advised has been given to you but the implementation is in your court.

Choose the best your spirit can assure you of and live by it.More grace from God Almighty.

Perfectsouth:
Cc royalroy

Well, I don't wNt my kids to go through what I went through so I forgave her.. God was answering my prayers and things started picking gradually.. I went to meet them, took them all out and did shopping for them..
I was planning on how to relocate them to where I was...
Now this is the revelation..
My wife has been used,thats the fact...
My photography business first collapsed.
I did about 5 businesses that just one of it can make me a millionaire, every business collapsed.. The more I sleep with her, the more things become worse for me...
All these revelation came after I was told to pray and fast..

When things started picking gradually for me this year, I payed for a shop 300k,it was almost my son's birthday. So I went to see them.. We slept together, I came back after the birthday.. Could you believe, I was chased away from that shop and till now, I was only able to recover just 50k from the money..
Before my mom's birthday again, I was doing some business and it started picking. Went for my mom's, she came for the birthday too, we slept together, and when I came back to my business, the war I fought was unfathomable.. It collapsed too..
I am a very prayerful person and believe me, in the 8yrs we've been together, I never slept with another woman. I sweared with everything they gave me cos they couldn't believe me..
Before my daughter's birthday, God was merciful to me and I started another business.. I was warned severely never to sleep with her again.. Till now, my business is gradually picking and am able to send them money for upkeep and my kids school fees....

Now this my wife have an immediate younger brother who is a travel agent, I remember last year I introduced a friend to him and even vouch and stood for him that nothing will go wrong.. Truly he did this guy's traveling to Dubai and the guy went.. But we didn't know what happened and this guy came back.. Maybe he was deported or not, nobody knows but this my friend came to arrest me and I was told to produce my Inlaw.. He came and we were both locked up for 3days..along the line, the matter got settled, I parted with some money after selling one of my equipment. And he too also raised some money.. So this year, when things were already picking up for me, he got into another problem and this time, they were gonna jail him, so I borrowed him 100k and he promised to pay them 50k monthly till he complete the payment.. It was a travel gone sour though I know some people he has done traveling for and they are doing fine in their respective country of choice.

So this year, someone decided to help me travel out, he gave me UNIVERSITY OF MANITOBA admission processing fees, it was 120cad, but I gave this my Inlaw 150$ believing that atleast, since I am his Inlaw and have done him alot of goods before nothing will go wrong..
That was in August..
Fast forward to 2days ago, I messaged University of Manitoba since I wasn't getting any update, and I was told my application was not submitted neither paid for, I almost collapsed... So what he did was doctored some documents and sent to me and I believed him..
Right now, I am in a fix..
About my wife's promiscuity, I have all evidence of their chat..
After forgiving her over that chat, when I went for my daughter's birthday, I wanted to go through her phone, she gave me a heavy fight that I can't go through her phone, the phone I bought for her with my money..
When she slept, I opened it with her Fingerprint.
The chats there are so damaging. Some have slept with her and still wanting to do more, some she is already negotiating with.
She works in a beer parlor now and she is already using waist beads, she knows I hate these things..

I can't tell it all but if you have a question to ask, or anything you think I missed, ask me and i will tell you the truth..
My Inlaw hasn't pick my call to tell me why that happened..

If you think this is a fabricated story,
I have all evidences.
If enough people ask for it, I will release it here..

Please we are asking for the evidence

I really feel your pains,correct your ways look for a better lady and move on with your life how did u know the kids is yours,start new life now before it's too late.

Una just want mix christianity with everything yet you won't still act as one.
You pray and pray and revelation was reveal to you, yet as a christian you ignore it? If what you just type is true and absolutely true, then you'll end up in grief.
Get a divorce and since you have the chat and her cheating evidence, you will be able to get custody for the kids and thats the only way you can help them (your kids).
Act now b4 is too late and stop being stupid. You complain to her mother and she insulted you and everything gone wrong and she blame the devil? See waiting faith cause!
If it was easy to make peace, satan would have make peace with baba God and this suffering for end.
GET A DIVORCE, GET A DIVORCE, GET A DIVORCE,
Next stop complaining here o o?
I wonder how una want save marraige that have gone wrong for more 6years like say una be heroe.. #Spits

ThEGodFaThEr101:

Colleague or Friend?

A case of birds of a feather

Nothing wey person no go see for this Nigeria

Oh, Lord! Come to our rescue. Give us the wisdom and knowledge to discern Abanda's and their circles.

Amen.

If you already kwn that whenever you sleep her with her things go wrong for you ..why not stay away from your wife and her family..and take your kid with you...if you can't do that...then you have to carry the cross for the rest of your life..and stop disturbing me for here

legacystore:
Oga those children u are calling urs may not be yours

Say u dey fuk woman no mean say na u give am belle

Ha!

This also another angle to the whole wahala o.

Upload her photo so dat we self no go jam agbako

ststyreal:
Well, i remember an adage that says " birds of the same feathers flocks together". Which one come be your own. Any girl wey dey do wetin i no dey do, i no dey near her sef talk more of making friends with her.
Oga Op, the moment you noticed she is the club type and you no like club things why didn't you end the relationship immediately?
I do advice men, especially my own brothers, never you marry a woman because of her beauty, rather marry her because of her good character, look at her heart and her upbringing.
You see club girl, you go marry, which advice do you need again?.
Well, if you still want to keep your vow, take her for deliverance now abi?
Infact, i am out of advice for you because na you do yourself. But, kindly take care of your kids.
May God almighty come to your aid amennnnn...

Did u read he said she changed?

ahnie:
my questions....
1...Did the Yahoo guy that she stole fuel money from later slept with her?
2....Are you a sex freak?
3...after you were warned not to have sex with her...why do you always have sex with her and the romp days always coincides with your kids birthdays.



please be kind enough to answer my questions.

He is legal married... or should he be cheating like d wife?

legacystore:
Oga those children u are calling urs may not be yours

Say u dey fuk woman no mean say na u give am belle

Very good point, one of the kids may not even be his. See how marrying the wrong partner almost ruined this man and affected his normal behavior and thought pattern, may God guide us...

My only question is, is your wife awear that her destiny have been tempered with?
if yes, talk to her, her mom .
if the resfuse to listen, separate her with your children.

My brother Biko move on . Dont even try same mistake of bringing her back again , your kids are your tomorrow . Keep your hustle tight . You gonna be fine . Just try and forget about her , she can't change .

Tell us her state of origin and hometown. We are doing some research abeg.

I feel your pain bro and I'm trying hard to put myself in your shoes. Noticing her lifestyle during your school days, you should have ran away from her but the deed already has been done.
My own take. You sanity is very important to you than anything else, I know you have some sacrifices to make cos of your kids, but if your wife is bringing you badluck like you just said and her behaviors are so damaging that it cannot be repaired. Kindly walk away sir.
Your kids would grow up to understand the scenario that happened and besides, I believe you can take care of your kids yourself without having a manipulative wife as a companion. According to your story, I think she has been like that all her life and I don't think she can change anytime soon.
Such a woman can orchestrate your death bro.
She can do and undo for the money.
A woman that dares to undermine her husband and the father of her kids because of a stranger she met online.
The worst of it.. Her mom supported her. What kind of a disjointed family is that. Even her younger brother duped you his Inlaw.
I can offer some better advices tho, if you could chat me.
I'm a good listener!!

Perfectsouth:
not that, I could have said this with my main account, but it was banned.
You see in life, if your first step was a mistake, you will keep having problems...
The mistake I made early in life keeps bringing more problems.
The one his brother did recently was what brought about this thread.
I have been through a lot in life, from one problem to another, I keep fighting, I keep praying but if your problem lies with you, you hardly get an escape route.
Those kids should never suffer for what they knew nothing about believe me... Every decision am still making revolves around my kids.
Till today, I blame my father for everything that has happened to me cos he was nowhere to be found when we needed him most.
And let me shock you, we now give him monthly stipends to feed himself. The wife he wanted to die for abandoned him.

There r people that lost their parents at a tender age. They had no parental training n caring all through their lives but they were able to pull through the ladder of success to become what they r today. Stop seeing your father as the genesis of your marital failure rather blame yourself for seeing signs of who she was n you went ahead to put a ring in her finger. A lot of men r making a similar mistake. A woman can make you as a man or destroy you as a man.

Perfectsouth:
yeah he slept with her and she felt cheated according to her..

I was legally married to her, do you wish I become promiscuous?

1st born Sept 2
2nd Sept 28..
We are not living together, we stay in separate states and body no be firewood.

I am not a gum gum guy, from what I experienced in my family, I decided to stick to one woman to avoid my kids going through whatever I went through in life.

After everything bastard thing she did you took her back, if nobody tells you I will tell you bro... You be fool... Irredeemable mumu..

Perfectsouth:
yeah he slept with her and she felt cheated according to her..

I was legally married to her, do you wish I become promiscuous?

1st born Sept 2
2nd Sept 28..
We are not living together, we stay in separate states and body no be firewood.

I am not a gum gum guy, from what I experienced in my family, I decided to stick to one woman to avoid my kids going through whatever I went through in life.

you
Sometimes your biggest fear becomes your biggest problem.

You made the biggest decisions of your life based on emotions not reason and now the situation of your kids are worst compared to yours. For you there was a supportive mother who supported you how about your kids the Oloso is there chasing different color and size of prick.

Guys please when making long term decisions always place reason over emotions if not you will get burned like our brother here.

This is beyond me but I learnt one or two things.....but what I know is that she can never change lailai