Firstandonly:

my parents are doing well, dad is even taking care of his brothers children. my sister's are all married. the only thing my parents need from me is my love and present not money

If you feel that helping her is something you’d want to do, go ahead and do so but, on one condition, that you’ll not regret and curse her if she ever turns down your marriage proposal.

ModestGal:

I call him stingy because its something I would do for an ordinary friend if its available and I see the friend in need. He said he doesn't use money

would you do it for a boyfriend ?

cassyrooy:
Even pregnancy can't hold any lady that has got her eyes fixed on the fast lanes and fast lives.

@firstandonly, even if you think she's not worth it, doing it might mean well for her in the future (even if you're in it, or not).

All the best brave Bro!

Atleast the guy will refer the money as child support

Debra911:

must crazy comment ever

Funny but true

solonubinho:


On top 40k salary. You are an evil man lol.

Him wey dey reason to borrow pesin 60k on top his 40k salary nko?

Libatine:
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Baddest boy

You feel me?

Skyfornia:


Him wey dey reason to borrow pesin 60k on top his 40k salary nko?

Lmao! Na why he come meet elders for advice nau. Make we press reset for him head.

Firstandonly:
My girlfriend is very good in sawing and she has always wanted to have a shop of her own where she can expand. She is still in school and supports her studies from the little sawing she does at home, the truth is she's very hard-working.

Should i take a risk and open a shop for her. I work and i earn 40k a month i can easily save up to 60k from now till January but am scared, I don't want to take a risk i will later regret in life.

Pls has any body faced this kind of situation before or heard of it and how was the outcome?

Every knowledge in me says it's a wrong thing. But in every 100, you are bound to meet as least one good one. Besides, 60k cannot kill you. I will ask you to do it. But do not do it with any hope in mind. If she turns out well, good. If not, fine.

By the way, I urge you to start investing in your own development too.
1. She is schooling
2. She has hand work.


It's only a matter of time b4 she is neck and shoulder above you if you don't develop yourself.

lanreHeda:
would you do it for a boyfriend ?

Yea, especially if he's a free minded person like myself. Life is that simple, and I don't walk amidst such people

Firstandonly:
My girlfriend is very good in sawing and she has always wanted to have a shop of her own where she can expand. She is still in school and supports her studies from the little sawing she does at home, the truth is she's very hard-working.

Should i take a risk and open a shop for her. I work and i earn 40k a month i can easily save up to 60k from now till January but am scared, I don't want to take a risk i will later regret in life.

Pls has any body faced this kind of situation before or heard of it and how was the outcome?

Yes malam mugu invest in her

MrHighSea:
wetin concern me na...

"save 60k within 2 months from 40k salary"

Guy, how?

rent, food, data, tp, the boys, cousins in university,

you better teach us.o

40k na basic salary but my insensive and other side hustle the raise am up... sometimes i no d even touch my basic salary self

Nychillax:


It might end up in premium tears, I did it in the past bro, hmmmmmm....

You did it ?
how was yours

Premium tears loading

Nuyokoi:
yes, help her out.

Yeye

If you are thinking and thinking then you are not comfortable with it.

Don’t do it, even if you are married beware of investing on women you will regret it , they have so much ego when they attain certain levels

Use the money play betnaija.Carry sure game

For you to even come here to ask this kind of question shows you are second-guessing yourself. That your relationship get wan kain and you are not sure it would last.

Help her because you want to and forget about it. Don't help her in expectation of what she might do for you. Even if she ends up leaving you, be that singular person who had faith in her.

Please follow your gut.

Firstandonly:
I think she is worth it just that I've never spend big on a girl before.

How big do u currently invest?
Don't do it if it's bigger than ur 3 months salary, if u must do it then give her 50%
Thank me later

2dice01:
You did it ?
how was yours

BabA I deeply regret it, I can never do that again in my life infact the highest money I can give a lady for now na 2k , I prefer to use 10k carry olosho and Bleep the hell out of her and give me cool Mouth Gig than give it to one useless GF...

lanreHeda:
i always wonder why women are the ones that always need this help.....and the men have to keep giving it, not the other way round

Who say you must give? What you don't understand is the difference between men and women nature. Men and women both need the help but women are talkative and because of their weak nature, they easily breakdown when this need comes up and because they are talkative, the moment they get breakdown as a result of this need(money) they speak out while on the other hand, men are strong, talk less and full of ego. Therefore it takes them extra pressure from financial need before they even open up to their friends that they are in need of financial help talk more of opening up to opposite sex that they consider themselves to be stronger than

Don't be stvpid o. I warned u.

ModestGal:
Lol, I read the post twice to look for the investment cost, is it because of 60k you wrote this epistle? My only pity is to the good girl dating your stingy self, disgusting

To Nairalanders, so you are this broke? Money that some people spend on a sitting, don't invest in her bla bla bla rubbish that you all are typing. Not 7million, 700,000, ordinary 60k? Na wa o

See talk like mess... Park well

Girl friend you say? You want to put yourself in one chance. I am still trying to recover from the one I did god five years. After 10 years it is still hard for me to find my ground. After I made her she left to marry her class and I struggle till now. Still finding it hard to gain ground. It is not easy. Sponsor yourself. Don't sponsor woman for someone else to claim the benefits.

Nychillax:


BabA I deeply regret it, I can never do that again in my life infact the highest money I can give a lady for now na 2k , I prefer to use 10k carry olosho and Bleep the hell out of her and give me cool Mouth Gig than give it to one useless GF...

it is good you learn you lesson the hard way

Now you are wise

Firstandonly:
My girlfriend is very good in sawing and she has always wanted to have a shop of her own where she can expand. She is still in school and supports her studies from the little sawing she does at home, the truth is she's very hard-working.

Should i take a risk and open a shop for her. I work and i earn 40k a month i can easily save up to 60k from now till January but am scared, I don't want to take a risk i will later regret in life.

Pls has any body faced this kind of situation before or heard of it and how was the outcome?

if foolishness could be measured you would be used as its SI unit

Vacancy

Firstandonly:
My girlfriend is very good in sawing and she has always wanted to have a shop of her own where she can expand. She is still in school and supports her studies from the little sawing she does at home, the truth is she's very hard-working.

Should i take a risk and open a shop for her. I work and i earn 40k a month i can easily save up to 60k from now till January but am scared, I don't want to take a risk i will later regret in life.

Pls has any body faced this kind of situation before or heard of it and how was the outcome?

You earn just 40k per month (which is quite little) and you are thinking of "investing" in your girlfriend? Are you mentally ok?!! Don't do it!!!

Invest in your wife not girlfriend!

Firstandonly:
My girlfriend is very good in sawing and she has always wanted to have a shop of her own where she can expand. She is still in school and supports her studies from the little sawing she does at home, the truth is she's very hard-working.

Should i take a risk and open a shop for her. I work and i earn 40k a month i can easily save up to 60k from now till January but am scared, I don't want to take a risk i will later regret in life.

Pls has any body faced this kind of situation before or heard of it and how was the outcome?

of course you will regret it, stay away!

Don’t do it. Next you’ll find out she’s fuvking one of your homies.

kachdviruz:
Bros invest in your self more than your gf. Thank me later

That's it. Build yourself up first and the ladies come to U. Don't build a woman for another man.

My former girl was thrown out of her house, I got her a new apartment, did interiors for her, two months after, she told me she doesn't wanna continue in the relationship after all I did....so bros build up yourself first

pansophist:
The two fundamental principles of investing in a woman are that you should do it purely from a position of benevolence, and secondly, you should invest in yourself ten times more than what you're investing in her. With the following formula, you're growing exponentially as well, and if she leaves, you won't regret and feel like a swindled victim. Also, you will be in a better state to attract more women, which will make you forget her quickly. Nothing destroys a man's esteem and sense of being worthy when he is romantically invincible. It is a confident suicide and a gateway to chaos.

For a woman to be properly feminine, she needs to benefit from the masculine, it's non-negotiable. Like a queen that taps privileges from the king or a first lady that taps privileges of the president, it doesn't work in the opposite. If she becomes economically stronger and you weaker, then chances are, you will lose attraction in her eyes. Only a few women are capable of taming their hypergamous instinct and still feel horn.y, attraction, and respect to a man they are economically better than.

So, brother, I don't want to see you later in the future singing sorrowful hymns of how you've been taken for a ride, and how women are trash, just because you are not a competent player. Don't blame the players, but understand the game, and play like a pro. For a woman to find a man attractive, she has to compare him with other males at her disposal, then pick the top. So if you sponsor her and refuse to increase your own network in ten folds, well, you just set yourself up for failure and inevitably became the sacrificial lamb for a man out there making himself bigger, which she would consider worthy and submit to, since you are not comparable in value to him.

You write so well, do you write books if not you should consider it or even a YouTube channel. I like how you break things down.