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Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by Blitz888(m): 3:35pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
PataAlhajaKeji: Should I take the higher ground and ignore this simpleton or give him a piece of my mind.. Some of una never even fit get woman wey loyal so tey she jettison her papa name to take on una name yet una go come for faceless forum dey run una soakaway of a mouth. 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by BreconHills(m): 3:42pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
BadBitch: The word "patriarch" does not connote bullying and body shaming. It simply means a system of family controlled by a man. There are also "matriarchs" which mean families or clans controlled by women. I have noticed this redefinition of "patriarch" making rapid progress and I have no doubt that one day it will become a term of general abuse. These redefinition come from Western societies that have entirely redefined the concept of family. We must be careful to filter their concepts. They are not necessarily wiser. As someone who has worked with families of means for many years, financial and other professional advisors usually refer to the aged father and mother of a successful dynasty as "patriarch" and "matriarch" all at the same time. E.g " last week we held a meeting with the patriarch" or I have just sent a letter to the "matriarch" Neither word connotes bully, oppressor, or any such thing. The term is also used to describe lineal inheritance. There are for instance societies such as the Ashanti of Ghana where lineal matrilineal descent passes through females. Language controls culture. Lets call out abusive behaviour not family systems. Finally, while there have been many injustices against females, we must push back against generalizations and attempts to create gender wars where none currently exist. The " young blood" males on NL fighting women are a symptom of an oppressed generation, they do not represent the general view of men. For all other points you have made are fair. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by deebrain(m): 3:49pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
Wow. One of the few sincere ladies I've seen online. |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by PataAlhajaKeji(m): 3:49pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
Blitz888: Sharrap! You are a Simp. Accept your "L" and move on, Pussy-ass Nigger! 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by Saintmary(f): 3:52pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
danilmo: No wonder you demean women. Your Mom is less successful than your Dad. This is a lesson to myself and women out there. Hustle ooooo 4 Likes |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by harmony75: 4:01pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
woman are going through alot these days, career, as a single but successful and also as marrieds I think you're talking about yourself and others alike. 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by AuntRose(f): 4:01pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
Beverlyjean:Are you talking about the ideology of speaking up against the maltreatment of women?, the ideology of trying to equate the right of both sex is the best ideology any woman could have. You probably have a comfortable home where you must have been beclouded by the artificial love being shown towards you by the other gender. My dear, don't get drown in that artificial love as when it's time the beast in him would surface and I pray it won't be too late. There's need to educate we ladies to see how we've been reduced by the other sex, they consider us as sex objects, deprive us of our rights, profess love but bring along hatred and shame. If truly you are sympathetic and patriotic you'll realise the importance of this movement. Free yourself my dear, Free yourself. I refer to you as 'dear' because you're like me; a female. We need your support in freeing womanhood. 3 Likes |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by AuntRose(f): 4:03pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
Ikillbrokehoes:You have any evidence to proof the op is a female? If yes, mention me with one. 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by AuntRose(f): 4:08pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
Psych412:It beats my imagination to see females attack patriotic ladies who have good intention for womanhood. You my dear and other ladies out there shouldn't be the ones at the attacking side. Let's strive to make us great again. Back to the topic, I don't think you have any evidence to proof the op's gender, do you? 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by LordVaiki: 4:08pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
Leshurr:Soro soke!! 3 Likes |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by JovialJune(f): 4:09pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
pansophist: Smh, any thread that stroke you guys ego to pieces is always the legit and correct and senseible one, how y'all are blind to all the falsehood in her write up in this country and the world at large, beats me, honestly, You guys like to deceive yourself by yourself. 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by TheRedpillguy: 4:11pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
Take the Redpill 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by JovialJune(f): 4:13pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
pansophist: You are enjoying yourself, ride on, And I thought you are smarter than this....... 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by TemmyT002(m): 4:13pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
mrblessed: This sounds like sarcasm. 3 Likes |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by Blitz888(m): 4:18pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
PataAlhajaKeji: Bozo, I guess you want to be unfortunate! Stop coming on my mention trying to sound woke... When you piece your beleaguered life together then we can have some real men talk... At least the type your wasted forbearers didn't bequeath to you. Anuofia rere ure! 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by JovialJune(f): 4:23pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
danilmo: Your mum or.parents out of millions of homes in naja is the standard to use for all family? Are you daft?, there are homes that don't.have housemaids, and the wife works, but those wives will be nice enough not to allow anyone know she is the.bread winner, instead, she allows the husband to take all the glory outside because he's a man, how is that chasing clout? You schmucks don't want 100% housewife, you want a working wife, but you don't want to contribute to house hold chores, isn't that stupidity ![]() 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by humilitypays(m): 4:26pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
BadBitch:stop that!!! White ladies face more pressure to get married than Nigerian ladies or why do you think Nigerian Internet romance scammers aka Yahoo Boys who target mostly white women make millions of $$ every year ![]() The desire and pressure to get married is in all women of all race, it has nothing to do with race or nationality. Kim Kardashian flaunt her marriage more than when she was single. Same with Beyonce. Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie the mother of Nigerian and African women feminists got married and she is very loyal to her husband but comes outside to tell gullible ladies this and that. The day Linda Ikeji finally finds a hubby and gets married will be celebrated by her more than the day she bought her first car. Some years ago when she met Jeremy her babydaddy, she went underground and even reduced the rate she updated her blog, she was always at his place thinking her dream have come true and she open her vjay wide open and got pregnant even without marriage assurance before reality downed on her that she has been catfished yet she was busy deceiving many young girls with celibacy and the nonsense talk that marriage is not all that is to life for ladies, which she used to deceive so many ladies into believing that being single and chasing career growth without getting married is the right way to live life as a lady. You ladies should stop deceiving yourselves like the op said, you can be successful in your career, business or handwork and still have a successful marriage, don't throw away one for another, carry the two along cheerfully and stop insulting men and looking down on men that you so much desire to feel complete. Stop denying the truth that you so much desire to get married to a great man, that's self deceit and delusion if any lady denies that, especially a Nigerian lady. ....they only tow that line after several failed attempts to hook up a man for marriage and this failure to keep a successful, healthy relationship with a worthy man, which is mostly caused by them, out of their pride, arrogance, bad character and excessive love for money, material things and vane life. But instead of making a honest change to become better women, they rather turn to toxic women who use feminism as an excuse to be unruly, disrespectful, toxic, mannerless, stupidly materialistic and over ambitious ![]() 17 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by JovialJune(f): 4:29pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
Beverlyjean: So because men owns or head most of what you mentioned, means they contribute 100% to the family? Are you living in a cave? Or you don't know the stupid life most of these men live because they feel cos they have money, they have arrived? Do you even know what it means to be a bread winner? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by danilmo: 4:29pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
Saintmary: common nobody is demeaning women here. we are all leaving fine , dad not complaining of being d finance backbone neither is mum feeling demeaning and mum too don't boast of her income anyday.. just stating the obvious for the ladies who won't let us hear word with the chicken change they contribute.. young ladies should learn from their working mother's who earns and won't still put it to their men's face.. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by Goldp5988(f): 4:30pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
JovialJune: 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by AuntRose(f): 4:30pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
stanech:You just ended up saying nothing, it's this same mindset that makes you men bash women all the time. Superiority complex I must say is a common disease found in all men. 3 Likes |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by JovialJune(f): 4:32pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
Ogaonos: So I should come and tell you all the things I've bought for my husband, because you are who exactly? 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by SarutobiEky(m): 4:33pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by JovialJune(f): 4:35pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
survivor10: I'm over 25, and I'm arguing against it, not all over 25s are desperate for marriage, if women and marriage are like 5&6, who keeps marrying them? Goats? Or you guys? 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by PataAlhajaKeji(m): 4:35pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
Blitz888: E pain am! ![]() ![]() ![]() I know your type. Na your type dey wash woman pant, come spread am for wire. ![]() Fuckin' Sissy! 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by JovialJune(f): 4:37pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
Ogaonos: Pls crawl out from whatever cave you live, women supports their men financially, and it will continue to be so till the end of time. 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by humilitypays(m): 4:38pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
AuntRose:No matter how you follow it, man can never be equal to women. Men out of compassion and empathy have done a lot to bring themselves at par with ladies to make ladies feel loved and great but the modern women are trying to take advantage of those priveleges and they need to be put to their place. Religiously, man was created before woman. Biologically, a man is created more physically rugged than a woman. Psychologically, a man is more mature than a woman. Check all the history of technology, science and engineering inventions from the beginning of the world, you can find no woman or very insignificant number of women, why ![]() To enjoy this world as woman, be humble to a man that cherishes you and throw away every feminism or gender equality nonsense and don't even listen to ladies that do such or befriend any, just focus on your life and your man and be happy. Men worship ladies who are loyal and respectful to them, but show that you are too wise and equal to your man and he will make life miserable for you. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by AuntRose(f): 4:38pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
Beverlyjean:You've lost it totally, how many men can take care of their home, children and work concurrently?, How many men can still stay unmarried when the wife passes on?, You're too blind to see the strength we have over them, what a shame. You bringing up those senseless issues as a proof shows you have no pride in womanhood. You've been brainwashed to even fail to realise all those stuffs you mentioned came as a result of the bias, over pompous and domineering attitude of the opposite gender. Truly, you have no pride as a woman. A shame I must confess. 3 Likes |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by JovialJune(f): 4:39pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
Regex: She never said she's married, she said "I am a woman with 2 girls" Stop gloating unnecessarily. 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by AuntRose(f): 4:42pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
humilitypays:History have shown if given the chance women perform better in those aforementioned field. Ask yourself this first, have we been given the chance to proof if truly we have what it takes to be the 'superior'?? 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Why Do We Keep Deceiving Ourselves? by JovialJune(f): 4:43pm On Dec 08, 2020 |
[s] Leshurr:[/s] Unnecessary niceties, what the hell is the truth? Speak up let's hear it, not the hogwash you conjoined up from your limited thinking and immediate environment and people around you.... 1 Like |
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