Go and take you child from her because she will indocrinate her sex immoralities

DrFunmisticGlow:
go and look for your wife and work on your marriage. Pray for her. You allowed a strange man into your marriage.

This is the type of advice I don't like.

How can you give such advice that blames the victim for the injustice done against them?

Are you saying that the woman is not responsible for her own infidelity?

Even if he never satisfied her, is cheating the only option?

Why is communication essential in relationships?

If you can't share your grievances with your husband, then share it with at least someone else who can talk to him on your behalf.

What stopped her from drawing her husband's attention to the problem she was having in the marriage?

Please, stop blaming the victim here.

If there is anyone who needs prayer, it is the victim.

Because he really needs it to make the right decision for the sake of their child.

If he wants to continue with her, he needs serious prayer to help build back his trust for her. Because without trust, he is going to suffer even more, and their child would suffer too.

She even pack property go..

Once a woman pack her things....oga her mind is made up already.


Just take your child back and let her go

Well the first point I wanted to read is you saying you caught your wife with another man.....

But at the same time you admitted not being sexually active with your wife....

Two things working against you.....

I will suggest you wait to hear from your wife first....

Jazzafizzy:
Igala Woman doing this ?

Why Igala tho?

Ok if she wasn't caught she would have continued and you will still be the one feeding her fat and fresh for the other men..u want to go and bring her back because of the money you invested in her okwayaNa ur grave u wan dig so

Angelfrost:


That's assuming he is truly the father of that kid... In the midst of adultery, paternity fraud is never far off.

This wan sef dey... The things wey woman dey carry man eyes see for this life ehn..

Sebastine1994:


she is an igala while I am igbo,

Igala women don't cheat once they are married because of their Culture. There is what they called aleku abi na aleko. If the wife cheats in marriage the husband or the both of them will die except they appease the God of aleko. It's very very important to do cultural investigation before getting married to any family.
There are instances where some of them cheat while in marriage though, for such women, their parents averted the Culture while some parents don't

May you not be successful in taking her back..I foresee more tears in the nearest future if you stupidly take her back

Where una dey find igala women for Lagos tho

cicikhemy:


I'm not married yet so forgive my advice to a married man.

Forbearance is one of the most important virtue in marriage because it shows your level of love and understanding. Check 1Cor 13: 4-8
As Christians, we ought to possess this virtue before thinking about marriage because the Bible doesn't support divorce.

I will advise that you forgive your wife, express how you feel to her and pray to The Holy Spirit to help and comfort you to forgive your wife totally.

Fvck u, fvck your definition of the word forbearance, fvck the type of Christianity that you practice, because the Christianity I know hates adultery.

See Igbo people might fornicate but they don't take adultery lightly.
That man needs to go and meet her family and tell them to repay him for all the money he spent for that wedding.

That's what he's supposed to do. Except he's not a true Igbo son.

Notatribalist:
You're here on nairaland dashing out useless advice. Didn't you see where he said he is partly responsible by denying her sex?He just admit error and you're here talking nonsense.. OP,if you know truly you denied her sex kindly go bring her back and make some amendment, but if she continue in her unholy way kiss her goodbye.

The woman is totally at fault abeg. That He neglected the sexual aspect does not mean that he outrightly denied her sex. It is even what he felt might have caused the cheating after some self reflection on his part.

From what the OP wrote it did not seem that the wife even brought it up for discussion and he refused. She just went ahead to collect dick in a house that he paid for, possibly in the presence of a child that might even not be his.

Nigga should let the hoe go.

Sebastine1994:
i came back from work on Friday to discover that my wife has ran away with our son and some properties in the house, my neighbor said she is a bad woman that I should let her go, they caught her in adultery and she ran away because of shame.

for the first time in my life I discovered that I have not played my role as a husband. I was just focused on bringing back money home for the family and forgot the sexual responsibility, I agree I am at fault too. but if I calculate all the bride price I spent and wedding cost, I feel like going to bring her back. if not for her sake but for the baby, please advice is needed now

she is an igala while I am igbo,

She ran in shame for her actions. But if she is not genuinely remorseful then you may be doing yourself more harm than good.

Jazzafizzy:


Igala Woman doing this ?

Why not?... then if this is like taboo he should her people know and I guess ask for a refund. This can be a huge embarrassment to her and her family if it is like taboo.

@OP... for the neighbours to say what they did... they have their reasons. They been seeing stuff... take their headlines... you don't want to know the details. What you need to do first... is do a DNA test for your child. Hope for the best..... expect the worse. The sooner the better.

Sebastine1994:
i came back from work on Friday to discover that my wife has ran away with our son and some properties in the house, my neighbor said she is a bad woman that I should let her go, they caught her in adultery and she ran away because of shame.

for the first time in my life I discovered that I have not played my role as a husband. I was just focused on bringing back money home for the family and forgot the sexual responsibility, I agree I am at fault too. but if I calculate all the bride price I spent and wedding cost, I feel like going to bring her back. if not for her sake but for the baby, please advice is needed now

she is an igala while I am igbo,

You'll be shocked to find out that the kids aren't even yours.

You'd better go for a paternity test.

Please take her back and leave us alone.

GodWrites:
An adulterous wife will send you to your grave earlier than a bullet from an SKS.

In some traditions, her people will be mandated to pay back every dime you spent marrying her.

Adultery is not something you take lightly, not in Igbo land or Igala.

Get in touch with your people, so they will accompany you to see her people so they can do the necessary things.

Never accept her back, no matter the magnitude of tears and begging. If you give her a chance, she will poison you or probably kill you in your sleep.

Traditionally, the boy is yours. If she's to seek a legal divorce, you'll win custody on the ground that your wife is a hoe, irresponsible, and a bad influence on your son.

My advice to young folks: If you want peace of mind, never marry, get a baby mama instead. There are some good women, they are few and not worth the gamble.

Shalom!

Calvary greetings to you! Your wisdom no go fit kill you. You too make sense...��

Jazzafizzy:
Igala Woman doing this ?

you seem so surprised that an igala woman could do that...?

Sebastine1994:
i came back from work on Friday to discover that my wife has ran away with our son and some properties in the house, my neighbor said she is a bad woman that I should let her go, they caught her in adultery and she ran away because of shame.

for the first time in my life I discovered that I have not played my role as a husband. I was just focused on bringing back money home for the family and forgot the sexual responsibility, I agree I am at fault too. but if I calculate all the bride price I spent and wedding cost, I feel like going to bring her back. if not for her sake but for the baby, please advice is needed now

she is an igala while I am igbo,

From this we can deduce that motive is everything.

Why do you want to bring her back? ...because of the kids/bride price or you’ve found reason(s) to really forgiven her?

Well, your story is not detailed. Call her to hear from her what actually happened. It is not enough to go to the bank with what your neighbors say.

Marriages these days...

Sebastine1994:
i came back from work on Friday to discover that my wife has ran away with our son and some properties in the house, my neighbor said she is a bad woman that I should let her go, they caught her in adultery and she ran away because of shame.

for the first time in my life I discovered that I have not played my role as a husband. I was just focused on bringing back money home for the family and forgot the sexual responsibility, I agree I am at fault too. but if I calculate all the bride price I spent and wedding cost, I feel like going to bring her back. if not for her sake but for the baby, please advice is needed now

she is an igala while I am igbo,

Oga, sue her and d man in a customary court for all your money, and custody of your child

Hope u still have d wedding lost to use as evidence in court

this is serious!! A cheat is always a cheat Let her go!

cicikhemy:


I'm not married yet so forgive my advice to a married man.

Forbearance is one of the most important virtue in marriage because it shows your level of love and understanding. Check 1Cor 13: 4-8
As Christians, we ought to possess this virtue before thinking about marriage because the Bible doesn't support divorce.

I will advise that you forgive your wife, express how you feel to her and pray to The Holy Spirit to help and comfort you to forgive your wife totally.

Which Bible do you use? Cos the Bible I know supports divorce in cases of infidelity.

HELLO MR IGBO ....U ACCEPTED YOUR FAULT
THIS MEANS U PUSHED THE INNOCENT GOAT TO THE WALL
U ABANDONED YOUR MOST IMPORTANT DUTY IN MARRIAGE...SEX?
IF YOU ARE SURE U ARE NOT A EUNOCH...THEN FORGIVE HER
AND GO AN BRING HER BACK...WITH UR ASSUMED CHILD..
THEN..PROVE TO HER THAT YOUR 'JONNY PEG' IS WORKING WELLA ..WELLA!...QED!

Never take back an adulterous partner, and when you notice your partner isn't giving you the peace of mind expected either after mending too many fences, just take the exit door for sanity sake.

DrFunmisticGlow:
go and look for your wife and work on your marriage. Pray for her. You allowed a strange man into your marriage.

Let God forgive you got this advise

Sebastine1994:
i came back from work on Friday to discover that my wife has ran away with our son and some properties in the house, my neighbor said she is a bad woman that I should let her go, they caught her in adultery and she ran away because of shame.

for the first time in my life I discovered that I have not played my role as a husband. I was just focused on bringing back money home for the family and forgot the sexual responsibility, I agree I am at fault too. but if I calculate all the bride price I spent and wedding cost, I feel like going to bring her back. if not for her sake but for the baby, please advice is needed now

she is an igala while I am igbo,

wetin carry you go marry igala woman?
na kogi women worse pass

She love u very well that was y she is doing adultery. She love you pls don't disappoint her. Mumu

Igala ladies are not like that,probably there is something wrong.. If u still love her you can take her back

Womanizer:


Put her in jail say wetin happen?!

I am also surprised ooo

thatigboman:
pay back what? The inlaws will just return a token to him, which is the bride price, maybe N100 or N200 and dissolve the marriage. That's all. The son remains his but can be at the custody of the woman till he grows. That's all.

Those talking about refund does not understand Igala culture. Ankpa people no de even collect money. So, watin they wan refund The food cooked during the ceremony or what are they going to refund

See them hypocrites killing the woman while they all cheat on their wives. Tufiakwa. Spits.

Infidelity is bad.

Take heart and move on with life.