I feel really sad for single Nigerian men who are constantly reminded by the society not to attempt to approach women if they aren't rich or financially stable

We are so poverty-stricken and materialistic to the extreme!
But guess what?

The hurt and rejection inspires some men to strive so hard,very hard and when they make it,they are emotionally unavailable and that prompt them to see women as object of sexual gravitation


You can't kill a man's ego and ask for his love when he's sorted.

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Op. Nice one.


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mezico96:
I feel really sad for single Nigerian men who are constantly reminded by the society not to attempt to approach women if they aren't rich or financially stable

We are so poverty-stricken and materialistic to the extreme!
But guess what?

The hurt and rejection inspires some men to strive so hard,very hard and when they make it,they are emotionally unavailable and that prompt them to see women as object of sexual gravitation


You can't kill a man's ego and ask for his love when he's sorted.

You can't kill a man's ego and ask for his love when he's sorted.

It is the men that put pressure on themselves. This habit is mostly existent between slay queens and people from poor backgrounds.

The elites do not behave this way. Let the men stop searching for love where it can not exist and stop allowing women who their families are not doing better than you put pressure on you.

There is no way a man would approach a lady from a decent family and she would ask you to buy her burger before she can reply your chats. How would she ask you to buy her a phone ? She would be too ashamed to even ask. The ones asking are the ones whose family are beggars in general.

Why would you want to approach a lady when you're not financially stable? I mean... eventualities occur and if it happens to be something that requires financial assistance how do you go about it?

I remember something a lady told the brother I was dating then and it really struck me hard as she made a valid point.

I was still very young then but was working with a Guiness distribution firm. Was also pursuing a part time program then. This guy too was still struggling then. He was a hotel manger but he bore most of the financial responsibilities of his family. So I wasn't really demanding from him.

So one day I followed this guy home. ( His personal property) and the sister called him aside to talk with him. I later asked what it was and he said, the sister told him that it was risky to bring me home to sleep over. That what if there was an emergency, what will he do? Knowing he's not financially capable to pay hospital bills going by his financial status... And we both reasoned that it was true.

Las Las I left him because he has so much responsibilities and it really put a strain on our relationship and as the sister was always thinking I'm collecting from the brother which was not the case. Even though he tried to make me stay that all will soon be well.
Since then, I find it difficult dating a struggling guy. Even though I've given a couple of them a chance but still same old story.

May we not struggle for ever.

From what I learned, it used to be easier for young men (to marry wives) back in the days.

Whenever fathers of that time felt it was time for their sons settle down, they found and married wives for their sons (dowry and all). (Igbo culture)
Young men of that time had the support/help/backings of their fathers to manage their young families until they found their feet.
These days, they have to go into/do everything all by themselves which I imagine can quite scary.
Times have changed.

There was a thread about what men look out for in women.
Majority of the responses were...Big Nyash, big boobs, thick thighs....
All of these were put before intelligence, character, self-sufficiency, ambition.
So, what do you use to pursue Nyash & big boobs? MONEY!!
You want a smart. ambitious, self sufficient and well mannered lady, you match those characters. This lady will partner with you for growth.
But No! You will be running after Nyash and Boobs you cannot afford.

Winneygirl:
There was a thread about what men look out for in women.
Majority of the responses were...Big Nyash, big boobs, thick thighs....
All of these were put before intelligence, character, self-sufficiency, ambition.
So, what do you use to pursue Nyash & big boobs? MONEY!!
You want a smart. ambitious, self sufficient and well mannered lady, you match those characters. This lady will partner with you for growth.
But No! You will be running after Nyash and Boobs you cannot afford.

Very well said,


The reason for their constant complaints is cos they want ladies above their pay grade, lol.