Charleys:


I can't imagine you are saying this. If the woman wasn't satisfied with a sexless marriage, she should have requested for a divorce rather than cheat on him.

So, you don't know that one of the man's major responsibility is to sexually satisfy his wife or at least have sex with her?

Do you expect her to just sit around like a log of wood? If he wasn't ready to play his role as the man and husband he shouldn't have gotten married.

Do you know what adultery even means?

I'm sorry but this is very silly take because you expect the woman to just be looking while he doesn't have sex with her for months and years abi?He abandoned his responsibility of having sex with the wife. If he wasn't interested in sex in his marriage, then he should have married a log of wood.

Her womb has been adulterated that's what it means, and you are here saying it's not the woman's fault. Like seriously, she chooses the path, it would be hard to trust her again.

Another silly statement. Who is the reason she slept with another man? If he was doing his role and having sex with her, it would have been a different talk, but he married her and left her alone for months/years without even touching her and you expect her to siddon look abi?

It's obvious you and the op don't know what you want. Well, at least the OP even acknowledged that he abandoned his sexual responsibility he owed his wife. You on the other hand will still be blaming her for something you directly/indirectly caused

a hoe will still remain a hoe

Now let's reverse roles and see what people will say.

do a DNA test for ur son

chegbe1104:


Igala bride price generally never highland their ladies are not generally adulterous too.

I knew their ladies are not adulterous but my concern is pride Price

Jazzafizzy:
Igala Woman doing this ?

Infidelity is in every tribe dear.......

Jst pray to marry a faithful partner irrespective of the tribe....

Sebastine1994:
i came back from work on Friday to discover that my wife has ran away with our son and some properties in the house, my neighbor said she is a bad woman that I should let her go, they caught her in adultery and she ran away because of shame.

for the first time in my life I discovered that I have not played my role as a husband. I was just focused on bringing back money home for the family and forgot the sexual responsibility, I agree I am at fault too. but if I calculate all the bride price I spent and wedding cost, I feel like going to bring her back. if not for her sake but for the baby, please advice is needed now

she is an igala while I am igbo,

You are Igbo but you seem not to have sense.
Even Kogi people run away from Igala women, yet you ran into the lions den?

Jazzafizzy:



E shock me oo Dem get better culture for marriage oo

That’s what I used to think o. E shock me sha

GodWrites:
An adulterous wife will send you to your grave earlier than a bullet from an SKS.

In some traditions, her people will be mandated to pay back every dime you spent marrying her.

Adultery is not something you take lightly, not in Igbo land or Igala.

Get in touch with your people, so they will accompany you to see her people so they can do the necessary things.

Never accept her back, no matter the magnitude of tears and begging. If you give her a chance, she will poison you or probably kill you in your sleep.

Traditionally, the boy is yours. If she's to seek a legal divorce, you'll win custody on the ground that your wife is a hoe, irresponsible, and a bad influence on your son.

My advice to young folks: If you want peace of mind, never marry, get a baby mama instead. There are some good women, they are few and not worth the gamble.

Shalom!

You guys are evil.... But she should accept you back when you go out to cheat and come back with HIV abi... SMH

SweetCunt97:
If it were d guy that committed adultery, you wouldn't post this.

A lady can leave an abusive relationship too... My take.

Sebastine1994:
i came back from work on Friday to discover that my wife has ran away with our son and some properties in the house, my neighbor said she is a bad woman that I should let her go, they caught her in adultery and she ran away because of shame.

for the first time in my life I discovered that I have not played my role as a husband. I was just focused on bringing back money home for the family and forgot the sexual responsibility, I agree I am at fault too. but if I calculate all the bride price I spent and wedding cost, I feel like going to bring her back. if not for her sake but for the baby, please advice is needed now

she is an igala while I am igbo,

Igala i no does not demand much for bride price, I don't no how u did urs, I'm I'm Igbo too. And come to ur issue, the igala people as we called them does not take cheating as anything it's part of them. The same thing applicable to thier men, they like to sleep with married women. If u cannot bear it let her go but if u can then bring her back. Next time seek for advice before getting married to particular tribe. And lastly, if it's around Egume, Idah, Ayingba, Dekina, ankpa or Abocho make sure u prepare ur self B4 u go there to avoid story that touch.

sammirano:
Lolz. Ipob woman

Too many stupid people around here.

Quality20:
Oga just forgive am. who knows, it may have been that u strafed ppls daughters as an unmarried man previously? If that's d case, then this could just be payback time. Anyway, just forgive her n overlook it, try n b more romantic with her

Just "forgive am" like that?

Na so it's easy to just "forgive am"?

I no think u don't marry before.

And if you marry before, how many adulterous women (or girlfriends) u don forgive before?

Bro, it is easy to say " just forgive am" if it never happen to u before.

It is only he that feels it that knows it.

bestman09:

Take her back if you really love her and if she is sincerely remorseful for what she did, not because of the money you spent marrying her.

The devil you know is better than the angel you don't know and the grass is not greener at the other side

If she was remorseful, would she have absconded first with her husband’s properties even before getting a chance to speak with him?

GodWrites:

My advice to young folks: If you want peace of mind, never marry, get a baby mama instead. There are some good women, they are few and not worth the gamble.

Shalom!

This ur advice carry weight..oooh

Sebastine1994:
i came back from work on Friday to discover that my wife has ran away with our son and some properties in the house, my neighbor said she is a bad woman that I should let her go, they caught her in adultery and she ran away because of shame.

for the first time in my life I discovered that I have not played my role as a husband. I was just focused on bringing back money home for the family and forgot the sexual responsibility, I agree I am at fault too. but if I calculate all the bride price I spent and wedding cost, I feel like going to bring her back. if not for her sake but for the baby, please advice is needed now

she is an igala while I am igbo,

If you have never cheated on ur wife.... Throw her out... If you accept the many advice's of some idiots on this forum, you will die of hypertension.... Bro forgive ur wife, put the past behind you.... Move the Bleep on.... Learn from ur mistakes and ask her to choose between you and the place she is putting her leg.... If she is promiscuous, then let her go.... But if it's a mistake, forgive and reconcile.... A broken home ain't worth it nigga

Peace

TheKingIsHere:

So, you don't know that one of the man's major responsibility is to sexually satisfy his wife or at least have sex with her?

Do you expect her to just sit around like a log of wood? If he wasn't ready to play his role as the man and husband he shouldn't have gotten married.



I'm sorry but this is very silly take because you expect the woman to just be looking while he doesn't have sex with her for months and years abi?He abandoned his responsibility of having sex with the wife. If he wasn't interested in sex in his marriage, then he should have married a log of wood.



Another silly statement. Who is the reason she slept with another man? If he was doing his role and having sex with her, it would have been a different talk, but he married her and left her alone for months/years without even touching her and you expect her to siddon look abi?

It's obvious you and the op don't know what you want. Well, at least the OP even acknowledged that he abandoned his sexual responsibility he owed his wife. You on the other hand will still be blaming her for something you directly/indirectly caused

Nawa ooooooo.......


From ur quotes and comments e come be like say na you the woman cheat with....

Sebastine1994:
i came back from work on Friday to discover that my wife has ran away with our son and some properties in the house, my neighbor said she is a bad woman that I should let her go, they caught her in adultery and she ran away because of shame.

for the first time in my life I discovered that I have not played my role as a husband. I was just focused on bringing back money home for the family and forgot the sexual responsibility, I agree I am at fault too. but if I calculate all the bride price I spent and wedding cost, I feel like going to bring her back. if not for her sake but for the baby, please advice is needed now

she is an igala while I am igbo,

So if buy an expensive car and along the line you discover the car has a factory faulty braking system that cannot be fixed, you will continue driving the car and risk your life just because you bought the car at a very expensive cost

Pidginwhisper:
Dont you think of getting married to that girl, it’s better you run now.

my brother, I'm in a very state of confusion!

this girl has sacrifice a lot for me during our four years of dating, monetary wise, I'm an unemployed graduate and she is managing in a betting shop and she has been doing d spending and paying of her bills including mine during d course of our relationship. she wouldn't mind sacrificing her last cash just to make me happy.
I know we are both in love with each other. but this her promiscuous behavior is what I can't comprehend. whenever I catch her, she cries, beg and show remorse and promise never to go back. but on a long run I would catch her again maybe with another person.

as I type this, she has hand over 200k from her savings to me, she wants me to add up some amount and start up a business.

To be honest she really wants me to grow financially. but this her cheating habit is what I don't understand.

you need to see this girl whenever I caught her cheating.. very sober, teary, the other day she even attempted suicide when I told her it was over between us

If you love her and she's ready to repent. You can consider things... but if she's not showing any remorse just end everything

TheKingIsHere:

So, you don't know that one of the man's major responsibility is to sexually satisfy his wife or at least have sex with her?

Do you expect her to just sit around like a log of wood? If he wasn't ready to play his role as the man and husband he shouldn't have gotten married.


I'm sorry but this is very silly take because you expect the woman to just be looking while he doesn't have sex with her for months and years abi?He abandoned his responsibility of having sex with the wife. If he wasn't interested in sex in his marriage, then he should have married a log of wood.



Another silly statement. Who is the reason she slept with another man? If he was doing his role and having sex with her, it would have been a different talk, but he married her and left her alone for months/years without even touching her and you expect her to siddon look abi?

It's obvious you and the op don't know what you want. Well, at least the OP even acknowledged that he abandoned his sexual responsibility he owed his wife. You on the other hand will still be blaming her for something you directly/indirectly caused

Stop trying to make sense out of nonsense! If the man doesn’t provide, she will still get banged for money. As long as the OP didn’t state anywhere she complained of sexlessness, she has no damn excuse. The OP is free to make peace with her but you justifying her action is damn unpleasant. Peace

princefrank76:

my brother, I'm in a very state of confusion!

this girl has sacrifice a lot for me during our four years of dating, monetary wise, I'm an unemployed graduate and she is managing in a betting shop and she has been doing d spending and paying of her bills including mine during d course of our relationship. she wouldn't mind sacrificing her last cash just to make me happy.
I know we are both in love with each other. but this her promiscuous behavior is what I can't comprehend. whenever I catch her, she cries, beg and show remorse and promise never to go back. but on a long run I would catch her again maybe with another person.

as I type this, she has hand over 200k from her savings to me, she wants me to add up some amount and start up a business.

To be honest she really wants me to grow financially. but this her cheating habit is what I don't understand.

you need to see this girl whenever I caught her cheating.. very sober, teary, the other day she even attempted suicide when I told her it was over between us

You are in for a very long thing! I’m sorry but how old are you sir?

Sebastine1994:
i came back from work on Friday to discover that my wife has ran away with our son and some properties in the house, my neighbor said she is a bad woman that I should let her go, they caught her in adultery and she ran away because of shame.

for the first time in my life I discovered that I have not played my role as a husband. I was just focused on bringing back money home for the family and forgot the sexual responsibility, I agree I am at fault too. but if I calculate all the bride price I spent and wedding cost, I feel like going to bring her back. if not for her sake but for the baby, please advice is needed now

she is an igala while I am igbo,

If you can make amends just because of your child please do.
A broken home is not good for a child but your happiness matters as well....think well before you decide

Even God will not be happy if you take her back. Biblical speaking divorce is now valid.

0taPiaPia:


A lady can leave an abusive relationship too... My take.

Definitely. Personally he should reach out to her, if she's repentant and willing to change, fine and good.

Sebastine1994:
i came back from work on Friday to discover that my wife has ran away with our son and some properties in the house, my neighbor said she is a bad woman that I should let her go, they caught her in adultery and she ran away because of shame.

for the first time in my life I discovered that I have not played my role as a husband. I was just focused on bringing back money home for the family and forgot the sexual responsibility, I agree I am at fault too. but if I calculate all the bride price I spent and wedding cost, I feel like going to bring her back. if not for her sake but for the baby, please advice is needed now

she is an igala while I am igbo,

Watch this videos.

If a woman cheat on you >
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V9Rjlr1RCqM

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do (The Sunk Cost Fallacy) >
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G-YnB9QjZAQ


Don't forget to do DNA test on the child.

Bestinstinct:

You are in for a very long thing! I’m sorry but how old are you sir?

serious long thing o!
I'm 28yrs

she sure want to spend the rest of her life with me. I actually want the same thing if not for this her promiscuity.

bencarson007:


If you have never cheated on ur wife.... Throw her out... If you accept the many advice's of some idiots on this forum, you will die of hypertension.... Bro forgive ur wife, put the past behind you.... Move the Bleep on.... Learn from ur mistakes and ask her to choose between you and the place she is putting her leg.... If she is promiscuous, then let her go.... But if it's a mistake, forgive and reconcile.... A broken home ain't worth it nigga

Peace

A broken home is better than a knife in the jugular in the middle of a night sleep.

Never condone an adulterous woman, or you are inviting an early death into your life.

The woman is bad: a kid-napper, and a thief and a burglar in addition.

If he wants to live long, let him just rescue his baby, and wave a final goodbye to the evil lady.

Oizee:
first of all I'm surprised that OP claimed he spent huge sum on bride price, their bride price is highly affordable by any ready husband to be, secondly igala people I know have got plenty tradition, according to them, if a man toast their wife and and d woman kept silent about it, without mentioning it to her husband, the repercussion is deadly not to talk of sleeping with the man.
Well, maybe na only ogugu get that one.


As for OP don't blame urself at all, u were doing the right thing only that she's loose.

Superstition. Those things don't work. It's just fear tactics to make people behave but if you have the mind to try it, you'll see it's nothing.

SweetCunt97:
Definitely. Personally he should reach out to her, if she's repentant and willing to change, fine and good.

You are on track.. like you said "if", which in most cases doesn't come to play. This buttress my earlier stance. I cum in Peace.

Op I'm still asking the kind of advice you need. It's just like you're seeing fire and you still wanna put your hand to see if it's gonna burn.
Motivational speakers where una dey? Just give this man something lite

Sebastine1994:
i came back from work on Friday to discover that my wife has ran away with our son and some properties in the house, my neighbor said she is a bad woman that I should let her go, they caught her in adultery and she ran away because of shame.

for the first time in my life I discovered that I have not played my role as a husband. I was just focused on bringing back money home for the family and forgot the sexual responsibility, I agree I am at fault too. but if I calculate all the bride price I spent and wedding cost, I feel like going to bring her back. if not for her sake but for the baby, please advice is needed now

she is an igala while I am igbo,

Move out of town, bring back your wife and perform your duty!