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Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by jamalnation(m): 7:00am On Dec 14, 2020 |
That place you call city is someones village. to me location does not really matter nothing is new under the sun |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by TOPCRUISE(m): 7:00am On Dec 14, 2020 |
Your sister is high in sharwama weed ![]() |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by KIDfurniture(m): 7:00am On Dec 14, 2020 |
Your village people must be very wicked..plz you can have it anywhere. She is afraid of wicked uncles from both sides plus aunties Sebastine1994: |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by Casper21: 7:01am On Dec 14, 2020 |
Every practise and traditions were created by man so the same man can unpractice the tradition. Let her do as she please, tradition won't take U to heaven 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by SGANIVA(m): 7:01am On Dec 14, 2020 |
in Igbo culture,a girl child is the child of the community not your family alone ,in igbo marriage a girl is given out by your family,umunna ,umuada and ndi youth, so any marriage you done outside this people is null and void ,and your marriage is only recognize by you and your family.and your supposed in-law can never be recognized by tradition.in some cases if anything happens tomorrow , you have your self to blaim . in some communities if the lady dies , sorry for that your in-law . that is why even if you are in America ,if you want Igbo lady according to tradition . you most visit his people , I mean the people I mentioned above not you 3 Likes |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by Anaerobi(m): 7:02am On Dec 14, 2020 |
Amarisco:Aunty it's culture. stop bending this issue. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by evuna: 7:02am On Dec 14, 2020 |
Most of those people saying that it's normal are not igbos or some of those woke people. My aunt met her husband in germany but they did their traditional marriage in the village. someone stood for them. I have watched some British events and they always praise their tradition. Don't let anyone deceive you, stand your ground. Not everyone should go home. Besides, colleagues can attend the white wedding in the city. I am sorry to as, which state are you from. Enugu or anambra person will never conceive such. Marriage is not between two people in igboland. it is between two communities. That's why we value the concept of "ogo". Once allowed, always allowed. Except your sister isn't getting married to an igbo person. Think about when her children atttends a kindred meeting, someone will remind him that her mother wasn't properly married. No matter how polished you are, respect traditional institution unless it goes against your Faith. People even travel from abroad to do igba nkwu in igboland, let alone those in Nigeria. Go to the North, they respect their tradition, same with the south West, but they are here telling you that it doesn't matter. Can your sister's children sit in an igbo gathering, that issue will come up. what about August meetings, can your sister fully participate? She is very young and might feel she doesn't need village people but time will tell. Those highly read people in my community finally succumbed and are even spreading traditional views. You are the Okpara, if you allow it. You have not done well. Act like an Okpara. 10 Likes |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by Tundex911: 7:02am On Dec 14, 2020 |
Even before you start your story... I already know it's Igbo Amaka 1 Like |
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Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by OhiOfIhima: 7:03am On Dec 14, 2020 |
Where I come from, we have community here in Lagos and many couples who have their parents base here did their traditional marriage right there. Nothing bad as far as both parents reside in the City. Just put the logistics cost n security challenge as another set back. Speaking my mind as an individual not culturally wise! |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by Flyemmyrate(m): 7:03am On Dec 14, 2020 |
It is called traditional marriage not village marriage. so location doesn't matter. Thank God you said it, that all your family members reside in the city. So who are you going to meet in the village again? 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by Anaerobi(m): 7:04am On Dec 14, 2020 |
Mynd44:Ya... That's the issue... I have live and stayed in North for years, there are things about marriage they are careful about. because they want to protect their culture.... every being have a root he or she comes from.... |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by cloud(m): 7:04am On Dec 14, 2020 |
These are some of the issues that lay a foundation for marital crisis even before the marriage Kick-starts. You prayed for your sister to get married, now you are trying to be a stumbling block to the same marriage in the name of marriage. What if your sister decides to do a court wedding and cohabit with her husband without family involvement, will she cease to be your sister? Or will tradition banish her from the village? It's their wedding bro, it's their marriage. We no longer live in the stone age, Times have changed. If it was dangote's son getting married to your sister, I believe tradition will be bent so your sister doesn't lose out. Be logical, times are hard. Allow your sis and her husband plan their wedding 4 Likes |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by Favourchris(f): 7:04am On Dec 14, 2020 |
Mynd44: That's the point... since culture is dynamic.. let her give her self away in marriage... Inferiority complex keep eating us while we keep working over night to copy the Western culture. When I visited China, I was hit so hard... I saw how this people are protecting their culture with every thing. When u keep modifying every thing... we will loss we are over time all on the name of dynamics Sometimes u ask why marriage have no value anymore u think the answer is far fetched is right in our face.... because we can do what ever we like 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by Chudivictor(m): 7:06am On Dec 14, 2020 |
starbuck:umunna should dictate where the wedding should take place? Omo!! |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by Chudivictor(m): 7:09am On Dec 14, 2020 |
filleSouriante:they don't need to be fine with it, what most of these elders are after is just the food and drinks, nothing else! if you can send theirs across to them, I see no reason why they won't be fine with the location |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by joyandfaith: 7:10am On Dec 14, 2020 |
Sebastine1994: Who created the tradition ? |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by juman(m): 7:11am On Dec 14, 2020 |
Do it in the city. Nigeria roads are dangerous. We read regularly how people that travel to do marriage had accident and many died. |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by kemmy196(m): 7:12am On Dec 14, 2020 |
we tend to neglect our traditional ways nowadays,which is a major problem in our generation,I DNT kwn the Igbo tradition buh if is where I come from I will advise ur sis nt to do outside her ancestral home 3 Likes |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by Favourchris(f): 7:12am On Dec 14, 2020 |
evuna: U have spoken well my brother... don't mind this social media generation The reason parents need to teach their kids the meaning of culture becos very soon we have no culture left 3 Likes |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by Anigreat: 7:15am On Dec 14, 2020 |
![]() It is not normal at all, the husband to be and your parents should know better. This thing at times do result in time death. Give Caeser what belongs to Caeser. |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by Dreament(m): 7:15am On Dec 14, 2020 |
Mynd44:saying she is an adult and is her day is not applicable when it comes to tradition. she doesn't have power to decides where the traditional wedding will take place. what if their tradition demands it must be done in the village. who is she to change it. can she marry herself off without her kinsmen since she is an adult and is her choice, answer that 3 Likes |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by Nobody: 7:18am On Dec 14, 2020 |
chinavs9ja:Which God? |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by Debra911(f): 7:19am On Dec 14, 2020 |
DonFreshmoney:For me,His comment was d best. Whether straight or not |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by joyandfaith: 7:20am On Dec 14, 2020 |
Anaerobi: What if she wants court marriage ?Will still go to village for any tradition ? |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by Queenlovely(f): 7:21am On Dec 14, 2020 |
evuna: |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by joyandfaith: 7:21am On Dec 14, 2020 |
Mynd44: Fixed!! |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by Anaerobi(m): 7:22am On Dec 14, 2020 |
joyandfaith:court is English. tradition is culture. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by edoairways: 7:22am On Dec 14, 2020 |
kemmy196:The roads are bad and the country is not totally secured. Would you want the couple to experience such? 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by AuroraB(f): 7:22am On Dec 14, 2020 |
Mynd44:Only an irresponsible man will agree to pay bride price outside the wifet-to-be's birthplace. If he's from a responsible home, his family will forbid such. Stop turning things upside down. It's not right. I do know some people do it. 5 Likes |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by TomMary(f): 7:23am On Dec 14, 2020 |
Sebastine1994:Three of my friends had theirs in the city, it's her marriage, just let her be for the sake of peace |
Re: My Sister Wants Traditional Marriage In The City: Is It Normal? by joyandfaith: 7:24am On Dec 14, 2020 |
Anaerobi:Either of the marriage is accepted by the law.it is not necessary to do both tradition and court marriage. |
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