mmsen:


You Africans who spend much of your spare time in church, pleading with a dead Jew. Or mimicking the words of a dead Arab.

Send your children abroad to be used as chattel.

But having a 'traditional' wedding in a city is where you draw the line?

joyandfaith:


Na fear fear dey worry u not love for any tradition . Social construct!

Anaerobi:
all this children that grew in the city .. in igbo culture it's not done so...
if she don't want to be an object of mockry in future by her own friends... "you that your traditional marriage was done in a strange land" let her change that notion of hers.
if she don't want her children to feel the pain. "children whose mother's traditional marriage was not properly done"
court marriage is done in court. not in the market.
white wedding in church not in Stadium.
traditional marriage in the woman's home town village...
let's respect and value our culture.

Athemisia:

Doing it in the city has nothing to do with bastardizing the culture... As long as the rites are carried out...

SeriouslySense:
if it was not stressful and safe for instance and its connecting people together, not about competition, i would do it in the village.

Someone made a good point, that it connects people together, that i would reason is good, also, i would not want people from different locations to use unsafe roads, just to attend my wedding, we hear of stories of people dying on the roads, to attend weddings and funeral.

NwaforIgbo:


And you are part of the people basterdizing Igbo culture.. I believe u used cake and juice to do the wedding too.

Buliwyf:


Nonsense superstitions. So all those children of Igbo extraction whose parents marry abroad all feel pain and their mothers are object of mockery.

Some of you just come online and spout ridiculous positions without even pausing to consider it deeply.

IkpuMmadu:


How can people even get married without knowing the spouses home of origin apart from connecting people, you don't see a girl in the city and marry her... You must know her very well and her village

It's funny how people are supporting such a travesty of traditional wedding in Lagos

mrblessed:
It is not normal. Such practice is anti-Igbo culture and shouldn't be condoned. Traditional marriage should rightly take place at the village of the girl, because it has huge relevance to the family, kindred, village, and community/town. Do you mean that the Ancestors won't be informed that their daughter is tying the knot? Their participation in the process is very necessary.

Most people today seem confused because religion/Christianity has displaced culture from its prime position in marital issues. Part of the problem is that we are trying to become Europeans, a wild goose chase we can never achieve. If marriage is cultural, and yes, it is, why celebrate traditional marriage in a place that has zero cultural relevance and significance?

Anaerobi:

Is this the perspective u understand my point?
lol.... U can never compare a black man reasoning and a white man.

Sebastine1994:
I brought this issue to nairaland to straighten out some things, as the first son of the family, I am under immense pressure to defend the tradition of igbo.

my sister wants her Traditional Wedding to happen in the City, I have never seen a city traditional marriage, it sound abnormal to the ear, it seems I am the only stumbling block to this marriage. white wedding can happen in the city but not traditional abi?

truth is that most of our families reside in the city, they grew up in the city, and the cost of logistics is their excuse. please is it right that I should allow this to happen?

IkpuMmadu:


How can people even get married without knowing the spouses home of origin apart from connecting people, you don't see a girl in the city and marry her... You must know her very well and her village

It's funny how people are supporting such a travesty of traditional wedding in Lagos

Mynd44:

Culture is dynamic and never cast in stone as long as Tradition is followed.

You know she can actually give herself away in marriage right?

IkpuMmadu:


How can people even get married without knowing the spouses home of origin apart from connecting people, you don't see a girl in the city and marry her... You must know her very well and her village

It's funny how people are supporting such a travesty of traditional wedding in Lagos

pocohantas:
Majority of the people saying it is fine are not Igbos. The only people I know that will live, marry and be buried in Lagos without knowing their hometowns are Yorubas, no offense, but Igbos do not do that.

Your sister is not woke than I am, but one thing I will never do is my trad in the city or even marry without knowing the village of my partner.

All these woke Igbo people running away from the village saying “village people”, yes they could be a handful and I hate that- but a day will come when you’ll need those village people. I have an aunty that did Lagos marriage when I was a teenager, today she regrets it.

As woke as I am, even if you wake me from deep sleep, I will show you the way to my parents house IN THE VILLAGE. I can even show you their own parents houses as jara, that is my ROOT.

Buliwyf:


Which is why black men are backwards. Anyway why would anyone take such reasoning seriously? Any couple is allowed to choose wherever they want to hold their weddings. It is their right.

The day Africans stop foisting their beliefs and superstitions on others the better Africa will become.

Anaerobi:

u are right.but close relative can't come for ur traditional marriage in the city and come for wedding in city. u go to village for traditional marriage, they come to city for ur wedding... believe me u, an igbo man will say u did ur traditional marriage with ur friends and forgot them... am Igbo, but grew in North. though I don't travel frequently to east, but the little I have do. I can predict their behavior.

Realhommie:
Yes, it doesn't have to be in the village. It is done anywhere the girl calls home. What's most important is that both families are ably represented and the necessaries done.

I'm from Delta central.

Realhommie:
Lol.. Forget the wedding bros, that one no count really. What's most important is the trad.

But i get you clearly sha. My person is anything that could be resolved with good reason no need to even stress it. I no like stress.

Mynd44:

Culture is dynamic and never cast in stone as long as Tradition is followed.

You know she can actually give herself away in marriage right?

NwaforIgbo:


It depends on how much you know on Igbo culture and how you value it..

Let me ask you then, will you replace the palm wine for a fruit juce in your TM?
Will you introduce cakes to your TM?
Will you wear Agbada to your TM?

How you answer this question willgo along way to actually tell how you value and respect the Igbo culture.

pocohantas:
Majority of the people saying it is fine are not Igbos. The only people I know that will live, marry and be buried in Lagos without knowing their hometowns are Yorubas, no offense, but Igbos do not do that.

As woke as I am, one thing I will never do is my trad in the city or even marry without knowing the village of my partner.

All these woke Igbo people running away from the village saying “village people”, yes they could be a handful and I hate that- but a day will come when you’ll need those village people. I have an aunty that did Lagos marriage when I was a teenager, today she regrets it.


Even if you wake me from deep sleep, I will show you the way to my parents house IN THE VILLAGE. I can also show you their own parents houses as jara, that is my ROOT.

pocohantas:


How do they do it?!!!!

Even if you want to do trad in the city, at least show him your hometown. Ahnahn!

kraftysprouts:


I am not igbo

SeriouslySense:
Okay, that's a good point, you have given a good reason, although i am not fan of village marriage, especially if i am far, but this is a good point, you are right there.

NwaforIgbo:


You see!!! So what gave you the moral right to advise an Igbo on how to observe his tradition??

You should have kept your opinion to yourself and wait till when you have to advice your keen

I sound angry right... Yes I usually do not take it lightly when people bastardize the Igbo culture.

Anaerobi:

lemme screenshot this and show ur woman that u will forget wedding ...lol... hahahaha.
and see how she will react towards u... ladies don't joke with such thing oh...