tobechi74:


When one truly loves a flower, he does not pluck the flower from its stem. He does not transplant it to his own backyard. The soil condition may be different.The plant may die. Rather, he goes out of his way to water the plants and apply fertilizer. He derives joy by watching its beauty. He desires to improve its beauty. He is not threatened if others admires the flower. He has no interest of purchasing the flower.

When we genuinely love a person, we do not think of how to take advantage of the person for our own benefit. We do not intend to possess the person. Rather we think of how we can improve the other person’s life without depleting ourselves. . We give our partner freedom to be Authentic.

If you truely love her ,there is nothing wrong in assisting her. But when you demand gratitude from her in terms of sex or marriage. It is no longer done out of love.

If she decides not to get married to you
After receiving assistance from you, you have no reason to get angry. This is true love.

If you get angry that she did not marry you afterwards, then you were not really helping her. You were helping yourself. You were investing in her. It is a buisness transaction. Not all Investment blossom.

cooooooks:
This one has chopped someone's money with a cake promise of marriage and is coming here to bleat.

Guys, never expect anything from people without prior honest discussion.

jumper524:
dude this are different scenario and different explanation.
if a man loves a woman, I don't think there's anything wrong in trying to make her better.
it's more like a husband going to buy his wife a special cloth for his promotion event.
he did it for himself "yes" but the wife also benefited.
she could have bluntly told him shes no going if she's not interested so the nigga can save his money..

you liked her and wanted to get her better, if she wasn't an adult, it's an excuse but in the case of an adult bro however you package it, the lady is no different from a yahoo boy.

Pierocash:
In other words what this implies is that you should help the one you love to attain her dreams by educating her?.

So it is now a crime to try to better her life,instead marry her as an illiterate and both of you should die as illiterates.

I think I agree with you at the bolded.

Joseph08:
Only MUGU does that

If you want to help someone do it without expecting anything in return and always remember you can't please everyone.

tobechi74:


Help anyone achieve her dream . But she does not owe you anything in return. I have heard cases of men insisting their wife paid them half of her salary because she sponsored her education. That mindset should be abolished. She does not owe a guy marriage because he sponsored her education.
If she no longer finds him suitable for marital commitment, she can bail out at any time. She must not marry you the guy as payment for debt owed.

If you want to invest in her, draft a contract first and state the terms and conditions. Then enforce them in a law court. Then, this is a contract and not done out of love.

EVILFOREST:

Honestly.
Instead of investing in such LADIES, Please use your hard earned money to establish a POULTRY, where birds can be raised for their meaty purposes.
At least, you are sure of where your energy is going.

odinson1:



False Equivocal Fallacy

seanwilliam:
u

jimmychang:


What the hell did I just read....... ....She is not a flower .How can you love someone without wanting the person

What you just wrote is not pragmatic

tobechi74:


Exactly. It becomes a transaction. It is no longer generosity, or kindness or true love. There is nothing wrong in either but we should not confuse the two.
Prostitutes openly discuss their terms before hand.
But in relationship of this days, we make so many assumption under the disguise of love.
Relationship of today is ls domestic partnership. You fulfil my want , I fulfill yours.

The girl has gotten what she wanted. She leaves and society calls her an ingrate .

God proved his love for humanity by sacrificing for the benefit of humanity. True love is in giving a part of oneself for the benefit of that which he loves. False love seeks to own the object of love. False love uses the object of love to satisfy his own need.

Relationshipe of today is based on false love. Women use men to satisfy her desire for a child, financial security etc. Men use women to satisfy his sexual urge and render domestic service. We ban prostitution.

tobechi74:


When one truly loves a flower, he does not pluck the flower from its stem. He does not transplant it to his own backyard. The soil condition may be different.The plant may die. Rather, he goes out of his way to water the plants and apply fertilizer. He derives joy by watching its beauty. He desires to improve its beauty. He is not threatened if others admires the flower. He has no interest of purchasing the flower.

When we genuinely love a person, we do not think of how to take advantage of the person for our own benefit. We do not intend to possess the person. Rather we think of how we can improve the other person’s life without depleting ourselves. . We give our partner freedom to be Authentic.

If you truely love her ,there is nothing wrong in assisting her. But when you demand gratitude from her in terms of sex or marriage. It is no longer done out of love.

If she decides not to get married to you
After receiving assistance from you, you have no reason to get angry. This is true love.

If you get angry that she did not marry you afterwards, then you were not really helping her. You were helping yourself. You were investing in her. It is a buisness transaction. Not all Investment blossom.

CSTRR:

True.

God gives us life and expects us to Give him our lives in return.

If I use my hard earned resources to better a girl's future and she gives that future to another man, I won't take it lightly.

She is going to pay me back every kobo plus inflation.

prologue:
Wait oo, if love was the basis for the sacrifice, training her in school, why can't the lady show same love and ignore shortcomings, after graduating?
In Nigeria, do not invest your savings in training a GF. If you have spare cash, fine. From what I have seen and experienced, it will Surely, Most likely, More Time than often end in Grand premium tears. Men, invest in Yourselves. Get online courses, attend programs ,double your hustles, look good and be confident. Be at peace with yourself and let no lady blackmail you.
Wait, the one wen Dem done train go come meet you. Men need peace and love too.

Pierocash:
in other words ,what you mean is that she can be married as illiterate, and keep her like that is the best right?

But loving her,and support her to fulfill her dream with the intention of settling down with her is a business transaction abi? So marriage is business if it involves supporting her dreams right? But marriage isn't a business if you can marry her as an illiterate and keep her like that is the real thing.

We need to check your brain.

Even God doesn't bless people he knows won't be useful to His kingdom.

Fahdiga:
Only fools does that with the intention of marrying the girl. if you want to help someone do it without expecting anything in return

seanwilliam:
I Dey try keep my cool for the op write up ,, because if I talk wetin Dey my mind to her this morning,they might ban me.. if you see the rage in me reading that post ehn

tobechi74:


The uneducated man who sponsors a girl throughout school to marry her should examine his conscience.

tobechi74:


Help anyone achieve her dream . But she does not owe you anything in return. I have heard cases of men insisting their wife paid them half of her salary because she sponsored her education. That mindset should be abolished. She does not owe a guy marriage because he sponsored her education.
If she no longer finds him suitable for marital commitment, she can bail out at any time. She must not marry you the guy as payment for debt owed.

If you want to invest in her, draft a contract first and state the terms and conditions. Then enforce them in a law court. Then, this is a contract and not done out of love.

emmaodet:


Please please please, stop this Love Love Love of a thing, it s kinda annoying.
How come it is only when a man is about to get cheated or manipulated doing a woman's bid that the Love card is always played.
How come this Love of a thing is one directional? always from man to woman in gifts, money, sponsoring etc.
If a woman doesn't want a man to complain about what he has done for the woman, then a woman should not collect anything from the man Because to whom much is given to, Much is expected.
Nothing is free in life, even in freetown.
That is why we do say it that do go out with a man you won't date or bang, don't eat is free food all in the name of date or take the phone gift. By doing all these, you have committed your self.
I understand that free things like food, phones, money are very hard to resist and easy to spend.
If we are talking about love, then how come tons upon tons of nigerian single ladies in US, canada, UK are not coming home to pick and thereby empowering the average nigerian man to abroad? why is it always men?
Why is it that a large percentage of working class women in nigeria can't pick and date struggling guys, sponsor them to school too and put them on monthly allowance just the way the male counterpart will gladly do? Abi dem forbid dem? i guess the Scam called Love always stops at the foot mat of gullible Men.
How come the so called working class women are not raising capital to give to struggling guys to start-up their live so that they can marry? I guess Love is not blind afterall