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Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by BRATISLAVA: 4:58pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
jajeri3216: You sound ridiculous, because you think women are dogs that need to follow a lead. This is part of the damaged mentality most young men have been brainwashed into. When you discover that you can't control another human you would've made peace with reality. Imagine an adult man talking about grooming another adult, as if a person must be moulded to his taste, while he is free to be himself. Who have you been groomed for? 3 Likes |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by Scout60(m): 4:58pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
JovialJune: It is never equal but rather it favours women especially during divorce. A man can lose his house just by shouting at his wife but a woman can shout at a man over there still walk him out from his house or even call cops on him. Z it equality? The woman dictate who the man gives money but the woman can give anyone she likes money or gifts, equal? I am not praying for but pray that such things doesn't befell your brother. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by Annitakome(f): 4:58pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
Op, u said u all forget some nice ladies u dated just to come home to pick a lady to marry and take to the abroad right? So the nice ladies u dated over there are not women enough to marry right? Or u just come home pick any lady u feel will be subservient to ur rules and regulations as if u were in Nigeria? U don't think those past ladies can pray for u not to have a peaceful marriage since u find them not worthy of ur love but just for the knacking? If u men can try to be less selfish and egomaniacal, u will enjoy more of ur life, becos, u have decided to see the nice ladies as desperados hence, u fall into ur own created misfortunes. Be good and good will come to u, these things have a way of relocating u. Stay watchful, stay blessed. Marriage is a good thing when u find the right partner. 3 Likes |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by jornwhite: 4:58pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
JovialJune: definitely your opinion buh certainly differs from the fact everyone can relate to. its glaring no need to shalaye |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by BRATISLAVA: 5:00pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
juman: Thank you. Most of them feel they've done so much for the woman and become domineering, as if it's a dog they bought to live with them. They want servitude, and when she becomes wise to her human rights and wants to be treated like a human being with a brain and choices, the man will label her a devil and she will be forced to report him to authorities 5 Likes |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by annyz: 5:01pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
ziondaughter247: Someone (Male folk) must have treated this Ziondaughter bad in the past. Can this woman be appointed chairman of a customary court on marital issues |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by BRATISLAVA: 5:02pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
Mitsurugi: Rearing kids, you sound like she's an animal in a pen. No matter how much you keep her away, she will still cheat on you and eat your money. You are free to cheat on her abroad, too. You aren't hers and she isn't yours. Everyone is happy with the illusion. Next. 4 Likes |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by Mitsurugi(m): 5:02pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
luminouz: Bros you sure? You know see say I say 'e get as she be' |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by LOVELYSKINZNEW(f): 5:02pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
one sided story no be story |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by Korllami007: 5:03pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
generationz: There is no big deal in it. There are so many men in abroad that their wives are in Nigeria. It's not a new thing. It's better than taking her over there, collect his properties, and deport the man back to his village to start from square 1. The risk is far outweigh the gain. 2 Likes |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by Mitsurugi(m): 5:05pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
BRATISLAVA: I don't have any other term to define it except rearing, which is what it really is. It's not marriage. But I think the guy is probably just cautious based on stories and cases. Worst case scenario if he returns to Nigeria and finds out she's cheating, he just takes his kids and leaves her. This is how it rolls in Nigeria. However most of the ladies just enjoy foreign currency. |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by BRATISLAVA: 5:07pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
Mitsurugi: Sounds like a master slave relationship. He does what he wants, she does too. But he has more rights than her, to the extent he can take the children for her. No wonder westerners had to even such rights out with their laws Good luck to him and his wife and their open relationship. If she's wise, she should get divorced and get another man who aligns with her ideal of marriage. One sided marriage is never good. |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by BRATISLAVA: 5:10pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
Hathor5: Even if you tell them, they won't stop thinking they hold the keys to another person's life and destiny. When denied that degree of control abroad they begin to cry. All these abroad marriage issues stem from the man unable to accept that the woman is a person with a functional brain, her own separate desires, and her own self-sufficiency. 7 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by joxxy01(m): 5:10pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
UwaMmebii:Lol to avoid stories that touch |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by Nobody: 5:12pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
BRATISLAVA:I would be going into estate business abroad soon, its not about me not being faithful, infact i am one guy that doesn't get freaked by sex let alone cheating because of it. I want a one that can love me for me, i don't go for her financial status, but the reality here is that so many women here see no big deal with a man that brings a woman abroad only for the woman to frustrate him because the law can bend to her. I don't mind giving my woman my wealth but is she loyal? Is she married to you because she can bring up any flimsy excuse and cash out on your sweat with one other guy? |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by MadeMan01(m): 5:12pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
afroxyz: Our values are eroded. Everything is for sale 1 Like |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by generationz(f): 5:13pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
Princedapace: Some want to cheat in peace. A woman who contributes equally must also have a say in how things are run compared to a woman who is dependent on you for even the breath she breaths. Some men can't take that. They feel it emasculates them. They want to go as they please and so what they like so they marry liabilities and provide everything not to feel guilt. 3 Likes |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by Sarita01(f): 5:13pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
Ishilove: I don't understand the rationale behind it but apparently most men hate it,my dad's friend wife built a very big house in her father's compound without informing her husband,he found out and I can tell you in the last 4yrs,him and his wife are less than room mates,he's even considering marrying another woman,he doesn't touch his woman and doesn't care about anything she does. This man was the one who put his wife in school,found her the government work she's presently doing and still buys everything in the house,foot all the bills regarding his children and siblings but his wife built a house without telling him and still lied about it. He just gave up on her,I really don't understand the big deal about it but apparently it hurts the man's ego |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by BRATISLAVA: 5:13pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
afroxyz: Did the Asian women upholding culture tell you that they were happy in that subjugation? Imagine if women were heads of homes, and men had to owe loyalty and everything to them. Would you still see it as good and fine and culture and freedom? Exactly, you wouldn't. 1 Like |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by BRATISLAVA: 5:16pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
JovialJune: Are you sure they're really women? Maybe they're the ones that love to be put under another person. 2 Likes |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by Princedapace(m): 5:17pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
generationz: Well, glad u said some men. If a man wants that, has the money for it and a lady is willing to accept that. I don't blame him then. Who I will blame is the person who pretends to accept such only to turn to demon after getting the upliftment she needed. Also, personally, I hate one way communication. If I'm dating u, you must contribute in everything including vital decisions. If I'm the one to make all the decisions, I lose interest in u as a lady. If it is about cheating, if I cheat, divorce me. If u cheat, I divorce u. |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by BRATISLAVA: 5:21pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
Mikehot: You want love, but you are actually there for a transaction. It won't work. In Nigeria, the laws are designed to frustrate women, so why does it pain when you finally are at the receiving end abroad? Most Nigerian men are only married to have a child rearer,a person who will follow their dreams (forget if she has her own personal one, it doesn't matter, you bought her like cattle) and roll over for them. That is what a good wife is. Nobody knows what a good husband should be, it's never discussed. We should all simply respect each other and treat ourselves right. Nobody is superior or dominant over another one. It will always lead to rebellion if we feel more entitled to things. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by Nobody: 5:21pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
BRATISLAVA: Thank goodness I'm not with a black woman(original preference is black) , my oyinbo partner is home doing the laundry and cooking as we speak, she doesn't see herself a slave but a trad,(Type trad Western women into twitter.) , I'll gladly do the same for her. Bills are equal, everything is based on reciprocity not abuse of power. Like other couples, we argue but no violence or police troubles. Gifts fly both ways and lastly the relationship isn't based on our rich or poor status. Compare the aforementioned attributes to an egotistical maniac from one village in Nigeria, wastes all the household funds on useless thing's, hates house choirs, love's collecting without giving, irresponsible child like baboon behaviour , who will call the police on you at the slightest provocation. All these equality fights is only going to damage the black family as we see in black American. Now tell me how I'm mentally damaged? 11 Likes |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by Nobody: 5:24pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
BRATISLAVA:somebody asked why the basic stuff a woman does in her father's house becomes slavery in her husband house? Even in Naija you have cohabiting relationship it is even the girl that is eager to come to the guy place to do chores (in anticipation of been iyawo) Is cooking for the family, dishes if no helper not the responsibility that we Africans have gracefully embraced for centuries? Where then are these slavery activities (is it wife beating that is already outlawed). African men so care for their wives they didn't allow them extra burden beyond house. How exactly is the man controlling his wife life, can there be two captains in a family ship? You want the woman to be making decisions on behalf of the family or what. Alot of the time decisions are actually deliberated on by both sides, it is abnormal if the man perspective happens to be better Middle East women are thriving in their marriages abroad because they don't think like African women who loose their culture because of a white man culture 3 Likes |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by ndindiatu: 5:27pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
If u ar a Nigerian man and cant cope with equality remain in Nigeria oh. 2 Likes |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by RedPanthar: 5:29pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
Scout60: How will a woman dictate whom a man gives money to? |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by ndindiatu: 5:31pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
jajeri3216: Nigerian men too lie. All is rosy. Make I hear word. After come carry pikin fo Niger. All una dey do na to donate sperm. Go listen to white women .go check their discussions A black man devalues them. If u no know no. Na ones wey their fellow men ;o dey razzle una dey carry. Keep deceiving una selves. At old age una go cry 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by BRATISLAVA: 5:34pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
Mikehot: |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by luminouz(m): 5:34pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by luminouz(m): 5:35pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
Toks2008: Damn. |
Re: Abroad Sisters, Stop Shaming Us by jornwhite: 5:37pm On Dec 17, 2020 |
RedPanthar: Naa man wey wan suffer go suffer, the access point most women are using to subjugate men is westernization, they use words like gentleman & real men to manipulate men. be a gentleman n open the door for your queen, carry her bag naw or you don't love her. real men give there wife whatever she ask for, money, luxury & gift spend it like Ned romantic men take breakfast to there wife on bed mmm! Buh till date we still don't know what a gentlewoman, a real woman and a romantic woman should do ... love naa scam 12 Likes 1 Share
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