pcguru1:
Zzor I suspect you stay outside Lagos, but you act like you know men, maybe you're used to docile calibre of men. Trust me when I tell you that correct men have no issues changing women. You women think emotionally but not us. The guys here don't marry for love alone but for identity in the society and respect, some men might not be like that, but alot of men with resources will not condone such attitude from a woman. Imagine such embarrassment your woman collecting money from an older guy, maybe you're a village babe used to such ideas over here , once found out, you're on your way out of the relationship that's degrading and disgraceful , any man that allows it has no shame, not bragging but a man takes care of his babe. Me and you will keep butting heads because you have a silly mentality way of thinking.

Have you resumed bullying me? I'm not in any way supporting her infact I hate anything cheating,I'll rather take a bow. Its good to be fully into someone before dating them so as not to make you have longer throat,but most times men are the unfaithful one in relationships,its never a hard thing for ladies to stay faithful

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Zzor:
Have you resumed bullying me? I'm not in any way supporting her infact I hate anything cheating,I'll rather take a bow. Its good to be fully into someone before dating them so as not to make you have longer throat,but most times men are the unfaithful one in relationships,its never a hard thing for ladies to stay faithful

Madam if you condone a cheating man that's on you. There are so much women out there who don't do this , this is classless and just a lady being hungry. What the hell ? You are not a man, so you don't have any right saying is it easy to walk out like that, it is, when self respect is on the line. You are a woman so you can't understand my dear. I can't do certain things because of the embarssement it will bring to my madam and the same thing too for the woman if not, a man should walk out.

pcguru1:


Madam if you condone a cheating man that's on you. There are so much women out there who don't do this , this is classless and just a lady being hungry. What the hell ? You are not a man, so you don't have any right saying is it easy to walk out like that, it is, when self respect is on the line. You are a woman so you can't understand my dear. I can't do certain things because of the embarssement it will bring to my madam and the same thing too for the woman if not, a man should walk out.

The same you that was looking at the chief bridesmaid boot abi hehehe be forming discipline here, I hope your woman doesn't fall for this your trick.When are you getting married too?

Zzor:
The same you that was looking at the chief bridesmaid boot abi hehehe be forming discipline here, I hope your woman doesn't fall for this your trick.When are you getting married too?

Lol sorry o pls collect money from grown men while in a relationship. Dont say I didn't explain. I should even checkout Destiny etiko butt sef

femi4:
Zzor is in her twenties, what does she knows about relationship

I just turned 40 on December 14th so where is the 20 coming from. Please I'm desperately looking for husband so don't come and pour sand in my garri

pcguru1:


Lol sorry o pls collect money from grown men while in a relationship. Dont say I didn't explain. I should even checkout Destiny etiko butt sef

Last time I checked you were in a relationship and it's wrong to still be looking at another lady's boot,that's cheating

Zzor:
Last time I checked you were in a relationship and it's wrong to still be looking at another lady's boot,that's cheating

*butt

pcguru1:


*butt

the important thing is for you to get my message. Stop looking at boots or butt that's cheating

Zzor:
the important thing is for you to get my message. Stop looking at boots or butt that's cheating

Boots makes me sound like I have a foot fetish.

pcguru1:


Boots makes me sound like I have a foot fetish.

OK butt but stop that habit, cheating starts from the eyes,when you are in a relationship you turn blind eye to every other woman no matter how attractive she might be

Zzor:
OK butt but stop that habit, cheating starts from the eyes,when you are in a relationship you turn blind eye to every other woman no matter how attractive she might be

Lol life is not that serious women gush over sexy model doesn't mean they want to sleep with them. Maybe some might. Don't worry 2021 pcguru1 will be more spiritual. Lol you be funny person

pcguru1:


Lol life is not that serious women gush over sexy model doesn't mean they want to sleep with them. Maybe some might. Don't worry 2021 pcguru1 will be more spiritual. Lol you be funny person

If you wish to be more spiritual start attending our church(Christ embassy).So will you reject sleeping with them if they show interest in you?

Zzor:
If you wish to be more spiritual start attending our church(Christ embassy).So will you reject sleeping with them if they show interest in you?

I'm not willing to add hair relaxer to my hair , you'd be shocked how much women I ignore. But the dairy paints a different picture. 2021 omo na more spiritual stuffs o, we all need God because bigger plans and all. We go all dey alright

pcguru1:


I'm not willing to add hair relaxer to my hair , you'd be shocked how much women I ignore. But the dairy paints a different picture. 2021 omo na more spiritual stuffs o, we all need God because bigger plans and all. We go all dey alright

I pray you also do the needful by 2021 (forgiveness) its very important. I don't think you reject women but the ones you ain't attracted to.I've read most of your comments, let me not expose you

Zzor:
I pray you also do the needful by 2021 (forgiveness) its very important. I don't think you reject women but the ones you ain't attracted to.I've read most of your comments, let me not expose you

Clown you want to expose me with my public comment that I wrote willingly and openly. Lol happy Sunday

Zzor:
I just turned 40 on December 14th so where is the 20 coming from. Please I'm desperately looking for husband so don't come and pour sand in my garri

Mowaconfused:
I've been dating this girl for close to 2 years now, she's everything i prayed for in a woman. Everything is going on fine between us until early this year I noticed she has changed, she said i complain too much, i nag etc I thought i'm the one with the problem i work on myself but the problem still persist, we had issues almost every week and i said to myself that something is wrong somewhere and I promise i'm going to check her phone when next she come over to my place so when she came i went through her WhatsApp and i see that she's being having an affair with an older man (over 50 years and he's not based in Nigeria) I confronted my girlfriend about what i saw and she said she's just playing games with the man that they met online and she can't marry an old man, i didn't believe her but she cried and cried that day i forgive her and we continue the relationship. She used to tell me that she's going to port to recieve some stuffs and i always ask her who is sending the stuffs and she said her brother I believe her because one of her brothers is based in South Africa and I noticed that anytime it remain a day to go to port to recieve those stuffs we always have issues, it has happened thrice and I know that something is not right, I don't know know maybe I'm the one over reacting so I call the shipping company that because she always send me the shipping company's message when they ask her to come receive the stuffs and when i call the company and i asked if they do ship from South Africa they said No that they only ship from USA and Canada, i know for sure that the old man is the only one she has in USA I ended the call with the shipping company and i confronted her again about who do send her stuffs she said her brother and i told her that the shipping company is not shipping from South Africa then how come her brother is sending stuffs using that company she said she didn't know about that all she know is that her brother is sending stuffs and she go to Port to clear it, since then I've started doubting her and I didn't trust her anymore, I act as if everything is right between us and i told her we must find a way to see this week, she came over to my place yesterday she didn't act strange everything is going well until she's dragging something with me and she mistakenly use that man's name to call my name, I told her to start talking now and she said she didn't have anything in mind to say that mistakenly calling someone's else name doesn't mean she's dating the man that she already told me. She showed me the man's chat and i saw that the man has been the one sending all those stuffs, she apologised and she said she doesn't want to hurt me that's why she hide everything from me. I called her younger sister and she told me everything about the man, they've never seen each other physically, the man has been sending money to her, sending her alot of stuffs, dress, hair, TV, phone, he got her sister a laptop too and their mom also know about it. Where i'm confused now is that my girlfriend still insist she can't marry this man and her sister also testify to it that it's only the money and the gifts he do send to her that's why she's with him, she's having feelings for this man i know that for sure. We talked last night when she get home and i told her that I've known everything about the man so no more lies again and i asked her to choose between the man and i, she chose me 3 times and he asked me what i want her to do, I told her to tell that man she's done and she said she will just block him and delete his contact, I said no she must tell the man the reason she's blocking him she agree and she screen record and sent it to me. My question now is that can I still go ahead in this relationship, Have you ever been in this situation before, if you are in my shoes what will you do? I just need people's view.
Cc:

pocohantas
Ishilove
Baddiefreaky
Zzor
Seanwilliam
Bukatayne
CalliDora1

sorry man but love is not for me you don enter naija girls are always hungry

Mowaconfused:
I've been dating this girl for close to 2 years now, she's everything i prayed for in a woman. Everything is going on fine between us until early this year I noticed she has changed, she said i complain too much, i nag etc I thought i'm the one with the problem i work on myself but the problem still persist, we had issues almost every week and i said to myself that something is wrong somewhere and I promise i'm going to check her phone when next she come over to my place so when she came i went through her WhatsApp and i see that she's being having an affair with an older man (over 50 years and he's not based in Nigeria) I confronted my girlfriend about what i saw and she said she's just playing games with the man that they met online and she can't marry an old man, i didn't believe her but she cried and cried that day i forgive her and we continue the relationship. She used to tell me that she's going to port to recieve some stuffs and i always ask her who is sending the stuffs and she said her brother I believe her because one of her brothers is based in South Africa and I noticed that anytime it remain a day to go to port to recieve those stuffs we always have issues, it has happened thrice and I know that something is not right, I don't know know maybe I'm the one over reacting so I call the shipping company that because she always send me the shipping company's message when they ask her to come receive the stuffs and when i call the company and i asked if they do ship from South Africa they said No that they only ship from USA and Canada, i know for sure that the old man is the only one she has in USA I ended the call with the shipping company and i confronted her again about who do send her stuffs she said her brother and i told her that the shipping company is not shipping from South Africa then how come her brother is sending stuffs using that company she said she didn't know about that all she know is that her brother is sending stuffs and she go to Port to clear it, since then I've started doubting her and I didn't trust her anymore, I act as if everything is right between us and i told her we must find a way to see this week, she came over to my place yesterday she didn't act strange everything is going well until she's dragging something with me and she mistakenly use that man's name to call my name, I told her to start talking now and she said she didn't have anything in mind to say that mistakenly calling someone's else name doesn't mean she's dating the man that she already told me. She showed me the man's chat and i saw that the man has been the one sending all those stuffs, she apologised and she said she doesn't want to hurt me that's why she hide everything from me. I called her younger sister and she told me everything about the man, they've never seen each other physically, the man has been sending money to her, sending her alot of stuffs, dress, hair, TV, phone, he got her sister a laptop too and their mom also know about it. Where i'm confused now is that my girlfriend still insist she can't marry this man and her sister also testify to it that it's only the money and the gifts he do send to her that's why she's with him, she's having feelings for this man i know that for sure. We talked last night when she get home and i told her that I've known everything about the man so no more lies again and i asked her to choose between the man and i, she chose me 3 times and he asked me what i want her to do, I told her to tell that man she's done and she said she will just block him and delete his contact, I said no she must tell the man the reason she's blocking him she agree and she screen record and sent it to me. My question now is that can I still go ahead in this relationship, Have you ever been in this situation before, if you are in my shoes what will you do? I just need people's view.
Cc:

pocohantas
Ishilove
Baddiefreaky
Zzor
Seanwilliam
Bukatayne
CalliDora1

Advice.... You'll never marry this girl nor reach her expectations... Because from now on she'll be expecting you to cover up the man's space in her life... Be ready to double everything the man got for her or you face big time trouble or likely break up...
Secondly... The girl loves you but also fell in love with the man... From experience.. A mere screenshot or video cannot end that relationship... I'm telling u from experience. They'll still be talking, with time it'll end and that is if you follow her up closely.. But if you relax... Be ready to go through the second Phase...
Abi you go fit buy am TV, phone, foreign clothes, shoes...

boxer022:
I have some questions to ask before concluding on what to tell you. The said old man of above 50, is he a Nigerian based overseas or an American? Another question is that before you started your relationship with her, how sure are you that they have not been communicating? Thirdly since the family of the lady in question knows about the said discussion or communication, how sure are you that they have not promised the man of marrying her? Fourthly what are your intentions towards the girl in question.

The man is a Nigerian based in abroad

She met the man after we started dating and i asked her why she kept everything from, she said her friends advised her to do so because men are unpredictable that if she tell me about the man I might be playing along with her and when I'm about to settle down I will jilt her and start having trust issues with her so that's why she kept everything from me.

I'm not really sure of the third question

Before all these happened, I really love and trust her so much because she's always contented with anything i gave her, she never for once change her attitude, you know when a girl started having feelings for someone else, she will start to distant herself from her previous boyfriend and start acting strange non of these happened infact she always over care and play alot with me anytime she came over to my place so I'm just confused. She still call me this morning to apologise.

Mowaconfused:

Relationship matter tire me these days bro

Bro Na people wey carry relationship matter for head dey face this kind problem oo.

prinzstiles:
I hope you won't come here to complain when she starts asking you for money. Just allow her do her thing besides the man is not in the country

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prinzstiles:
I hope you won't come here to complain when she starts asking you for money. Just allow her do her thing besides the man is not in the country

The bitter truth is that this lady must have sent the man her nudes, have numerous sex chats and I can assure you that the man will surely Bleep her once he is in the country. Story will change when the man comes down to Naija and proposes to marry her, promising to take her to the state after wedding, she will dump you asap.. Op the ball is in your court, I will advise you to play along. Don't put your mind too much in the relationship, if you have it in mind to wife her, I suggest you pause that for now. Don't forget, you said her mummy is also aware of it, had it been she is a good mum,
she would have cautioned her daughter from the inception but she didn't meaning that she is fully in support of it. See, if eventually your babe dump you and the big man offered you some cash, please accept it without giving it a second thought. Remember, Ned nwoko gave Regina Daniel's ex boyfriend 50 milla. The guy is enjoying is life now. Life goes on..........

Soleye24:


The bitter truth is that this lady must have sent the man her nudes, have numerous sex chats and I can assure you that the man will surely Bleep her once he is in the country. Story will change when the man comes down to Naija and proposes to marry her, promising to take her to the state after wedding, she will dump you asap.. Op the ball is in your court, I will advise you to play along. Don't put your mind too much in the relationship, if you have it in mind to wife her, I suggest you pause that for now. Don't forget, you said her mummy is also aware of it, had it been she is a good mum,
she would have cautioned her daughter from the inception but she didn't meaning that she is fully in support of it. See, if eventually your babe dump you and the big man offered you some cash, please accept it without giving it a second thought. Remember, Ned nwoko gave Regina Daniel's ex boyfriend 50 milla. The guy is enjoying is life now. Life goes on..........

Bro 50M as dash? That's a lot of money for taking someone's girlfriend.

Please is this confirmed? Because I know people who have worked for 20 years and they haven't made 50M

Mowaconfused:

The man is a Nigerian based in abroad

She met the man after we started dating and i asked her why she kept everything from, she said her friends advised her to do so because men are unpredictable that if she tell me about the man I might be playing along with her and when I'm about to settle down I will jilt her and start having trust issues with her so that's why she kept everything from me.

I'm not really sure of the third question

Before all these happened, I really love and trust her so much because she's always contented with anything i gave her, she never for once change her attitude, you know when a girl started having feelings for someone else, she will start to distant herself from her previous boyfriend and start acting strange non of these happened infact she always over care and play alot with me anytime she came over to my place so I'm just confused. She still call me this morning to apologise.

I have this fear that since he is a Nigerian based overseas, when he comes back for visitation he may likely want to see her physically and looking at how their communication is, you may not like the outcome. I can also see that she has started to fall in love with him which led to your complaints in your initial thread. I know she is saying otherwise, but the heart doesn't lie. You didn't answer my final question, what are your intentions towards her, is she the kind or type of girl you pray or hope for as a wife and then mother of your children? If yes insist on her quitting the communication and assistance from the man if she refuses let her choose again who she loves and who she wants to spend the rest of her life with. If on the other hand she is not the kind or type of girl you pray or hope for as a wife, then for the sake of love decide for yourself if to continue or quit the relationship. I want you to give this two options a good thought before making your final decision.

Me, as someone who resides outside the country, the oversea man is not having a peaceful marriage, hence, the reason for sticking to your babe.

The most dangerous part of it is the involvement and consent of your babe's mum. That's poisonous to the stability of your union. Such a 'mayeeialistic' in-law won't give you peace if you eventually marry her daughter.

The oversea man has also gained the heart of your babe's sister which means something sinister is being cooked. You must realise that most in-laws are easily moved by what you (prospective) can give. Majority don't care about how bright your future is but by the answer you can provide to their present needs.

I can also conclude that the US based man might have introduced your babe to his families in Nigeria, who may be seeing her as a good wife material to replace the troublesome wife the man is currently having.

I've seen people here advising their friends/families to go home (Africa) and marry a wife and later file for her to migrate here. I'm sure your babe wouldn't have totally fall for that man if her mum had kicked against it.

Be wise o, this is festive period. You may suddenly see the pics of their introduction or court wedding.

Let me shock you, the US based man is keeping records of all their conversations and those stuffs he's sending to her. Those are strong evidence that they're indeed into a true relationship. Most foreign based guys do it to build a strong defence before the US immigration, to convince them that their union is for real. I must also tell you that he's intentionally sending those stuff to her mum as an evidence for parental consent.

I won't be surprised if he send all the receipts, shipping receipts and all necessary receipt relating to those shipments to the US immigration service before/during interview. Also, the screenshots of their conversation will further convince the USCIS that their courtship is long, therefore, the marriage is real.

The babe will soon be calling you from the US.......

Mowaconfused:
I've been dating this girl for close to 2 years now, she's everything i prayed for in a woman.

first you are not the only one fhucking that girl. Secondly that girl is gone!! If you have any self esteem left in you, it is better you dump her before she does that ..

Or better still turn her to your sex object and find yourself another ever ready girl ..


Next time don’t love .. love is a scam. . You know why ? If she loved you she would not have done something of such ..

My brotherly advice to you is that next time always seek ‘respect and loyalty ‘ from ladies in relationship rather than love .. sorry , you will get over it .. and if you do strong head and still stay in that relationship , your end will be brutal than the beginning.. my 2cents

Mowaconfused:
I've been dating this girl for close to 2 years now, she's everything i prayed for in a woman.

Since she has chosen, why not? The man is in his 50s and it is highly unlikely she will want to marry him. What she was doing is the age old love scam, but I suspect she may have been catching feelings along the line. However, your ultimatum may have woken her up.

Be that as it may, watch her for a month and see where it goes from there.

When I told timebomb02 that all women like money, he was yapping about negative energy

tosinhtml:


Bro 50M as dash? That's a lot of money for taking someone's girlfriend.

Please is this confirmed? Because I know people who have worked for 20 years and they haven't made 50M

lol, yes bro. You can confirm, google will definitely help you.

Praxis758:
Me, as someone who resides outside the country, the oversea man is not having a peaceful marriage, hence, the reason for sticking to your babe.

The most dangerous part of it is the involvement and consent of your babe's mum. That's poisonous to the stability of your union. Such a 'mayeeialistic' in-law won't give you peace if you eventually marry her daughter.

The oversea man has also gained the heart of your babe's sister which means something sinister is being cooked. You must realise that most in-laws are easily moved by what you (prospective) can give. Majority don't care about how bright your future is but by the answer you can provide to their present needs.

I can also conclude that the US based man might have introduced your babe to his families in Nigeria, who may be seeing her as a good wife material to replace the troublesome wife the man is currently having.

I've seen people here advising their friends/families to go home (Africa) and marry a wife and later file for her to migrate here. I'm sure your babe wouldn't have totally fall for that man if her mum had kicked against it.

Be wise o, this is festive period. You may suddenly see the pics of their introduction or court wedding.

Let me shock you, the US based man is keeping records of all their conversations and those stuffs he's sending to her. Those are strong evidence that they're indeed into a true relationship. Most foreign based guys do it to build a strong defence before the US immigration, to convince them that their union is for real. I must also tell you that he's intentionally sending those stuff to her mum as an evidence for parental consent.

I won't be surprised if he send all the receipts, shipping receipts and all necessary receipt relating to those shipments to the US immigration service before/during interview. Also, the screenshots of their conversation will further convince the USCIS that their courtship is long, therefore, the marriage is real.

The babe will soon be calling you from the US.......

Thank you so much for your advice. I've also think it through and i don't think i can continue with the relationship. She insist she's still in love with me and he has blocked that man, but as you also pointed out about her mom 's consent on this issue, she later confessed to me that the man paid for 3 years house rent and she and her mom used sleep there once in a while. I told her this is no longer between she and i but her families inclusive, I insist on meeting her mom before i can give her any second chance. I'm just hoping for the worst now. Its either her mom chose the man over me or she asked me if I will be able to take up their responsibilities. I've lost interest in the relationship already, The man sent her some clothes to sell and when i asked her she told me the clothes is from her aunt that she's helping her to sell it so she can get some percentage, could you believe my babe intend to sell the clothes for me, i later got to know the clothes is from the man is USA,this is the girl I want to set up a business for next year.

Ishilove:

Since she has chosen, why not? The man is in his 50s and it is highly unlikely she will want to marry him. What she was doing is the age old love scam, but I suspect she may have been catching feelings along the line. However, your ultimatum may have woken her up.

Be that as it may, watch her for a month and see where it goes from there.

She can marry that man aswear. I provoked her this afternoon and she said after she has done everything i told her to do I'm still complaining, I asked her if she can really marry that man or how will she feel if that man climb on her and she said why not that the man is actually not old. She's just confused and don't know what she want.