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Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by DukeJoe17: 3:22pm On Dec 21, 2020 |
Dijita: Bola146: obi4eze: don't allow any of these comments above to blackmail you into doing something you are not eager to do, since you had made a resolution from your young age, i beseech you to stick to it, Your happiness should be the Paramount, you are a real guy and I love how you are making her sweat over you simps should learn from the op. 20 Likes |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by mariahAngel(f): 3:23pm On Dec 21, 2020 |
pocohantas: You wonder why the decision is so hard for him to make.... The truth is either they don't know what they want or they're too afraid to go for what they want. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by wisdomiskey(m): 3:26pm On Dec 21, 2020 |
Dijita: On top of his money o His own money that he worked for. 16 Likes |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by mariahAngel(f): 3:26pm On Dec 21, 2020 |
canttedra: Stop wasting her time! Be upfront with her so that she can decide whether to stay with you or move on like the others before her. You'll keep losing them. 7 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by Dayoebe(m): 3:32pm On Dec 21, 2020 |
OP You are doing the right thing 7 Likes |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by lkillbrokehoes: 3:44pm On Dec 21, 2020 |
longetivity:That was what I was about to say too, trust these hoes at your own peril 5 Likes |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by chrisj2(m): 3:45pm On Dec 21, 2020 |
Dating a college sweetheart for 3 years is nothing... He also said he had studied abroad At what stage? However, 3 years dating does not mean automatic marriage situation and if they were still in Nja at maybe 25/26, they might not get married yet... The money involved is a lot and the dependency will stress you if you are not a high high earner. Most folk end up finishing their Nja especially college relationships when they move abroad. It is just the way. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by Nobody: 3:45pm On Dec 21, 2020 |
Dijita:wahala for who help Nigerian women 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by 400billionman: 5:33pm On Dec 21, 2020 |
TransAtlanticEx: Lol. Poverty is dealing with you. That was my opinion. Give yours. You are just a hater. I have sponsored people and don't expect anything from them. You have a slow mentality. 12 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by TransAtlanticEx(m): 5:36pm On Dec 21, 2020 |
400billionman:Poverty is dealing with who?lol dreamer. Keep dreaming,sponsorship indeed. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by 400billionman: 5:42pm On Dec 21, 2020 |
TransAtlanticEx: What I do with my money doesn't concern you. Bleep you. You go kill yourself on top another man philanthropy. 5 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by TransAtlanticEx(m): 5:48pm On Dec 21, 2020 |
400billionman:What you do with your monopoly money you mean? Have they introduced philantropy to that game?Last time I played it(like 15years ago),all you could purchase was some square boxes in the board we use to call house. Sweet childhood memories Ode dreamer,ndi philantropy 5 Likes |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by 400billionman: 6:01pm On Dec 21, 2020 |
TransAtlanticEx: I will give you palliatives this Christmas for making me laugh. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by chinonyinye: 6:01pm On Dec 21, 2020 |
canttedra: So, you have been 'dating' someone for 3 years now and you're still not sure if it will lead to marriage ehn? And you're still using 'could'. Nawaa o. Pls break up and stop wasting her time nna. Ask yourself, if the roles were reversed, how would you feel? 15 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by TransAtlanticEx(m): 6:05pm On Dec 21, 2020 |
400billionman:Nah mate,keep it. I think you need it more than I do. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by chrisj2(m): 6:42pm On Dec 21, 2020 |
Funny people around here... Yes, if you give away your money, it affects your own development and ability to do several things. And for someone young, it is debarring yourself... You date someone and see them from time to time as young people and students - it does not mean you know them well enough for marriage. And why tie yourself up so early. As for oga philanthropist; do you know how much it will cost him? 7 Likes |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by Nobody: 7:35pm On Dec 21, 2020 |
Bola146: If the was a she will you give the same advice. All you be screaming don't help him, he will end up cheating on you. Ladies wants guys to do ladies favour but a tag a fool if she does the same. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by mrssomebody(f): 7:36pm On Dec 21, 2020 |
cooooooks:Maybe I'm just bothered that he doesn't want to marry her and he is just disguising with that resolution thing. breaking certain rule for people you care about shouldn't be that hard. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by Nobody: 7:58pm On Dec 21, 2020 |
Bola146:When love and logic move together, expect a masterpiece. The fact that he turned her down doesn't mean he doesn't love her. It is not everything a man should say yes to unless he seeks severve heartbreak. 7 Likes |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by cooooooks(m): 12:30am On Dec 22, 2020 |
I think the many negative stories are making him modify but not break his rule. I also think the rule is sensible. However, he should consider that they met before he went back to the US. mrssomebody: 1 Like |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by Curiouscity(m): 12:50am On Dec 22, 2020 |
I did this about 7 years ago. I live in deep regrets everyday. My marriage may likely end soonest! 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by Nobody: 1:23am On Dec 22, 2020 |
Curiouscity: Reading this in the middle of the night & screaming ~~ Omo 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by alphaNomega: 5:55am On Dec 22, 2020 |
canttedra: This is the only option for YOU as her plan B. She has another person in the corner and don't even expect her to tell you. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by Dijita: 6:52am On Dec 22, 2020 |
chrisj2:It will cost him at most $3000. To go by student visa will cost upward of $10000. He isn't complaining that he cannot afford the money. He has a rule as to the type of help he can give to the person he want to marry. And I am calling that as bull. If you love somebody you should be able to go all the way out for him or her. It does not matter whether they appreciate it in the future or not. Doing what is good always have a reward. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by Dijita: 6:58am On Dec 22, 2020 |
Curiouscity:I pray God will restore peace into your marriage . Please don't regret helping someone you love. The trouble you are having now is not because you help. It is just part of the trouble of life |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by mrssomebody(f): 7:29am On Dec 22, 2020 |
cooooooks:Well, I hope he makes the best decision...three years of dating is a very big deal to me because Some marriages don't even go this long before they Break 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by FanOfMyself: 7:42am On Dec 22, 2020 |
Dijita:Most women betray their husband when the man takes them abroad! My brother is suffering same in the UK!!! Stop trying to dissuade this, maybe it will happen to your brother for you to know how deceitful and wicked a woman can be in this regard 12 Likes |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by Chrisbella24(f): 9:01am On Dec 22, 2020 |
FanOfMyself: Wait, how do they betray their husbands abroad? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by Sixfeetbelle: 11:13am On Dec 22, 2020 |
cooooooks: I think the best thing for all parties involved at this point in time is for him to cut all ties with the lady. If he won't help her migrate abroad and he isn't sure about marrying her, why in heaven's name is he still in communication with her? She may not get her visa by herself that easily and fast were she to try the normal way. Would he be able to wait till then? Would she? Also, I feel the visa issue would be easily achieved if the two were in Nigeria and planning for it at the same time (couple goals). Now, as a principled guy, he won't bend his rules to accommodate her ideas, so he should leave this lady and find someone else. If in Nigeria, the new lady should have her visa already, if in the abroad, better. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by Dijita: 11:33am On Dec 22, 2020 |
FanOfMyself:I pray god almighty will settle your brother home. I however disagree with you on your conclusion about most women. Majority of women who followed their men overseas are living in harmony with their husband and making a good home for their children. Majority of Nigerians I know in UK, London and Canada are living with the wife they brought from Nigeria. I know a man that brought his own brother to the US and they are not in good term today. This cut across Yoruba, Igbo and other minority groups. My brother in Canada is married to Igbo lady she took her to Canada they are living in harmony. I am living in harmony with my wife we are both Yoruba, We many of our very close family friends have another very friends are living in harmony with their children. I have friends in their 60s and 70s who have been here for years they are living in harmony. In fact one of them returned to Nigeria to established a pharmaceutical company. he left the wife here for almost 10 yrs just visiting once a year or their about. The company collapse and he returned back to the US. One of my friend left her wife at home and she decided to part way with him because she felt she is taking too long to come for her. I have another friend that left his wife home and decided to marry another woman in UK without telling the woman. I know women who brought their husband here and vice versa. I sympathize with those who have fall victim but we can't say because people drown we will not bath. There is high divorce rate in the western world and that is going to affect us as well 12 Likes |
Re: Should I Bring Her Over To The US? by Nobody: 5:23pm On Dec 22, 2020 |
hmmm |
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