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Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by TemiBami2020: 3:34pm On Dec 26, 2020
Pls help me people. My world is collapsing. It's a marriage of 10years and blessed with 3kids (2 boys and a girl). Like every other marriages, we've had our own shares of ups and downs. No marriage is perfect.

Last month i went to work. By the time I came back the children were no where to be found, including my husband. Initially, I thought they went out or something. Around 11pm I got worried and called my brother in-law who is a police to track my husband numbers

He contacted other family members and he found out my husband left for UK with our children forever.

I don't know what to do. I'm running mad. Pls is there any authority I can contact in the UK? Or can I go to the UK/ British Commission in Nigeria to lay a formal complaint? Is there any NGO I can contact?


Modified For those saying I'm a bad wife, I'm not. I've been very supportive in a every way a wife can be. I've lived in both physical and verbal abusive marriage within the last 10years of my life. He's a violent man, adulterous, alcoholic and a fervent smoker. He gets drunk and get home and beat me up Infront of the children unprovoked. I have evidences and witnesses

I often threaten him I would take my children and go away cause I can't watch and allow them to grow in such a toxic home.

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by thesicilian: 3:35pm On Dec 26, 2020
Sorry for your predicament. But a man does not just suddenly wake up and run away with 3 children to the UK because of the regular "shares of ups and downs in marriage". And how was he even able to process his and the kids travel documents without you knowing?
Start the story from the beginning.

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by Perfectsouth(m): 3:44pm On Dec 26, 2020
This man just used my masterplan..
I need to device other means to go about mine without her even having a say at all.

Shares of ups and down my left yansh..
Only God knows the hell that man has been through, now he is free...
Smart man, he would have been planning this for a while and believe while he was planning this, he will be in his best behavior and even be the best husband to his wife just to make his plans a success

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by Draslo(m): 3:51pm On Dec 26, 2020
A secret you thought would never be exposed had been exposed to him for a while now. He meticulously planned this without you knowing.


You need to sit in front of a mirror and ask yourself a ton of questions.

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by Nobody: 3:52pm On Dec 26, 2020
For the man to have done that, you must be a bad wife and him taking the children along means he's a good and responsible man who loves his family, I hate women who treats Good men badly.

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by Harrykn: 3:53pm On Dec 26, 2020
Mad oh
Mad oh
Who get US Embassy customer service number help a sister.

But sister oh, what's this thing that made your hubby [del]absconded [/del] Travelled w_o_you?

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by Righteousness2(m): 3:53pm On Dec 26, 2020
TemiBami2020:
Pls help me people. My world is collapsing. It's a marriage of 10years and blessed with 3kids (2 boys and a girl). Like every other marriages, we've had our own shares of ups and downs. No marriage is perfect.

Last month i went to work. By the time I came back the children were no where to be found, including my husband. Initially, I thought they went out or something. Around 11pm I got worried and called my brother in-law who is a police to track my husband numbers

He contacted other family members and he found out my husband left for UK with our children forever.

I don't know what to do. I'm running mad. Pls is there any authority I can contact in the UK? Or can I go to the UK/ British Commission in Nigeria to lay a formal complaint? Is there any NGO I can contact?

Is this a movie or For Real?

If it is For Real, Don't run mad.
Calm yourself down. Try all the Possible contacts you can to get Him on phone to know What really is on Ground.

Possibly make a Complaint to His Parents, the Nigerian police and the British Embassy.

Prayers will be your Main key in these times..

Prayers can control him and bring him back with your kids the same way he left.

Be Calm! Stay Calm!
Don't create tension for yourself..

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by Bola146(f): 3:55pm On Dec 26, 2020
angry Madam, calm down. There is more to this seriously, a man can't just wake up one day and disappeared with the kids embarassed
It might be a wrong information given to you, he might be somewhere in Nigeria. Or you should go to the police, socal media or radio stations, tell them they are all missing.
If it's true that he is in UK, get a human rights lawyer to help you out. God be with you madam

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by AltCtrlDel: 3:56pm On Dec 26, 2020
I'm a man but men are scum


You guys should stop criticising the OP. Be sensitive and consider her mental health.

If y'all can't render any meaningful advice or directions then read and move on

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by Tools4sale: 3:57pm On Dec 26, 2020
Zzor:
For the man to have done that, you must be a bad wife and him taking the children along means he's a good and responsible man who love his family, I hate women who treats good men badly

For once in ur life... U talk something reasonable...

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by Draslo(m): 3:59pm On Dec 26, 2020
Zzor:
For the man to have done that, you must be a bad wife and him taking the children along means he's a good and responsible man who love his family, I hate women who treats good men badly
Please release the account back to the owner. Zzor would never type this.

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by Harrykn: 4:00pm On Dec 26, 2020
Zzor:
For the man to have done that, you must be a bad wife and him taking the children along means he's a good and responsible man who love his family, I hate women who treats good men badly
Can I send an internet kiss for the first time?
Merry Christmas Zzor-Nla

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by FanOfMyself: 4:00pm On Dec 26, 2020
Zzor:
For the man to have done that, you must be a bad wife and him taking the children along means he's a good and responsible man who love his family, I hate women who treats good men badly
shocked shocked 2021 will be a better year oo

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by IKBARUTEN11(m): 4:01pm On Dec 26, 2020
D man is a master planner

Ma'am dnt go against the gd plans of ur husband 4 d kids

Sometin u shld be planning a thanksgiving 4 that ur children r out of dz shithole dt u want 2 report so dt it will be truncated.

May God 4gve u 4 being d household enemy

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by DoubleEngine007: 4:05pm On Dec 26, 2020
AltCtrlDel:
I'm a man but men are scum


You guys should stop criticising the OP. Be sensitive and consider her mental health.

If y'all can't render any meaningful advice or directions then read and move on
Having a rod in BTW ur legs doesn't make you a man.. Your comment makes me doubt if you're truly a man. From the woman's write up,it shows she hasn't been a good wife.. I will wait for the man's own side of the story. Cux me I sabi say man wen no nice ,would have left the kids with their mother, then move to UK with another woman.

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by tidalstorm(m): 4:09pm On Dec 26, 2020
Zzor:
For the man to have done that, you must be a bad wife and him taking the children along means he's a good and responsible man who love his family, I hate women who treats good men badly

I smell sarcasm.
It still shows one thing though, the marriage had been over for a long time.
The kind of marriage where the couples sleep back to back and give each other the silent treatment.

The guy just took ghosting to a whole new level.

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by DarkOrange: 4:10pm On Dec 26, 2020
Zzor:
For the man to have done that, you must be a bad wife and him taking the children along means he's a good and responsible man who love his family, I hate women who treats good men badly


Careful about hasty judgement o Zzor. Afterall you're a woman

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by Nobody: 4:27pm On Dec 26, 2020
DarkOrange:



Careful about hasty judgement o Zzor. Afterall you're a woman
That man is a good man,I can see through her post

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by Nobody: 4:28pm On Dec 26, 2020
FanOfMyself:

shocked shocked 2021 will be a better year oo
I'm not a wicked person, I just have problems with the new generation of men.lol

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by DarkOrange: 4:30pm On Dec 26, 2020
Zzor:
That man is a good man,I can see through her post


Zzor.

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by Nobody: 4:34pm On Dec 26, 2020
Well I believe you both are not divorced that is a good sign, that he abscond with your children is also a good sign that he loves them. Just calm down since you and his brother are still communicating use him as a line for mediation perhaps he wants to introduce his kids to native food unfortunately this is not the time to be traveling to Nigeria anyhow since he is a coded person that he could get all the arrangement set without you knowing shows he can handle himself here. So before you make anything official get someone to arbitrate between you both.Let hope they didn't use touch and follow for him.

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by debbydams(f): 4:35pm On Dec 26, 2020
Hummm..something is not right here ma'am, just calm down for now, give it two days before taking any actions.. No man will do that if the wife is good to him, if u are a good wife as u claim to be your hubby is Nigeria �� probably wants to give u April Fool in dec nd if u are bad wife pls leave those kids let them enjoy abroad abeg.. Nd find a way to reconcile with your hubby..

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by Kingsasian(m): 4:45pm On Dec 26, 2020
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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by TemiBami2020: 4:46pm On Dec 26, 2020
debbydams:
Hummm..something is not right here ma'am, just calm down for now, give it two days before taking any actions.. No man will do that if the wife is good to him, if u are a good wife as u claim to be your hubby is Nigeria �� probably wants to give u April Fool in dec nd if u are bad wife pls leave those kids let them enjoy abroad abeg.. Nd find a way to reconcile with your hubby..

This happened since November.

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by WoundedLamb: 4:48pm On Dec 26, 2020
Lol... I want to believe the comments above are sarcastic. If your husband cheats, you're an irresponsible wife; if he's wayward, you're a shameless woman; if he beats you, you must be a destiny killer, if he leaves with your children, just accept it's your fault.

Being a woman in Africa is probably worse than being black in America.

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by OYENIYIJK: 4:48pm On Dec 26, 2020
This one loud øøø embarassed
God will help you sister.
Check that link wink

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by slawormiir: 4:48pm On Dec 26, 2020
Damnnnnn niggarrr
Am not going to accept this bulshit story


Like my grandfather will always say to me son....
Don't be fast to judge and take side
Because there are three side to a story..
1) the complainant own version
2) the accused own version
3) and the true story

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by GboyegaD(m): 4:48pm On Dec 26, 2020
I will advice you like a family member. Contact the British High Commission to let them know he never sought your consent. Once you can justify the consent letter he submitted was falsified, his records are shattered and he might be deported. You can find a way to get his number and have that discussion with him before doing that to bring him back to his senses

Have you contacted his HR to be sure he resigned? They should be able to give you that information as his next of kin of he has you listed.

Lastly, to the clowns saying she must have been a bad wife, you don't have enough information to judge any of the parties in this marriage. That said, I know situations where the bad ones are the ones trying to run away with the kids.

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by yesloaded: 4:49pm On Dec 26, 2020
I find it difficult to believe this story but if it's real then I can tell you that your husband & children must be in Nigeria but not UK

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by OzziOhinoyi(m): 4:49pm On Dec 26, 2020

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Re: Help!!!! My Husband Absconded With Our Children by lagusboyyy(m): 4:49pm On Dec 26, 2020
This issue is a complicated one, since you confirmed that he's already in UK, the only easy way you can get access to him, is now through his family members.

Try to diplomatically talk to them, i pray this works.

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