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Re: . by extol1(m): 7:43pm On Dec 27, 2020
Cutehector:
Some people will not make heaven in this life.
hahaha
Re: . by Rayfield: 7:45pm On Dec 27, 2020
MEGA4BILLION:


Finally, work down the nearest pharmacy, buy vitamin D and zinc. Take one each a day, then come back and thank me
Please what is the exact work of Vitamin D and Zinc?
Re: . by sotall(m): 7:47pm On Dec 27, 2020
DelilahMakinde:


I really wouldn't know...
From experience people only do that stuff through self motivation...no man can force me to attend a gym if I don't feel the need

I think a woman who loves her marriage and husband wouldn't hesitate to hit the gym with her husband's motivation if she really needs it.

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Re: . by Nobody: 7:48pm On Dec 27, 2020
drexx:
I am a 29 year old man. I got married January this year. My wife is 25 years old. We have a pretty 8 months old daughter

The issues is that I never discovered my sexuality. We dated for about 9 months and she got pregnant. I just decided to marry her. As time went on, I discovered that my fetish is on slightly tall ladies with considerable thickness.
.
My wife is petite. We no longer have sex as I find it very hard to muster an erection with her. But I effortlessly get erection with other women. Short and simple she is not my spec. I know I should have fixed this before marriage. Trust me I just thought every woman is a woman. It's about now I just discovered the physical features that rock me.

I want a separation. The marriage is sexless
Long hisss. Next undecided

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Re: . by DelilahMakinde(f): 7:49pm On Dec 27, 2020
sotall:


I think a woman who loves her marriage and husband wouldn't hesitate to hit the gym with her husband's motivation if she really needs it.

Personalities differ... Besides once we Nigerian women are in our husbands house....why stress ourselves again... ? tongue

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Re: . by murphyrichy(m): 7:50pm On Dec 27, 2020
SimpDetector:
You are not alone. Many men have lost attraction for their wives but they are still enduring the marriage. The ones that cannot endure go on to cheat.

This is why I'm not a fan of marriage. It puts people in uncomfortable situations in the long run, especially men. As a man you aren't naturally designed to be monogamous. Don't mind what any of these man made institutions tell you about marriage, it's all bullshit.

OP you fuçked up by getting this girl pregnant in the first place. Always use protection when fuçking these bitches. You took your fuçk up to the next level by marrying her. Now you are stuck. My advice is that you should file for a divorce and rid yourself of this problem. You'll gain your freedom back and life will be better for you. As a man your needs should come first. It's not your fault that she isn't attractive enough for you. And it will be unfair to her to keep pretending that you are attracted to her. There are lots of men that will find her attractive, let her go and meet them. Marriage no be by force.

My only issue is your child. Most kids from divorced homes don't usually turn out right, but with proper individual parenting from each of you despite not being together, the kid could turn out right.



so you expect another man to start marrying OPs wife...OP has already eaten the food, let him continue.
Re: . by Donspicey: 7:55pm On Dec 27, 2020
drexx:
See for all those insulting me, you are free. I shouldn't have gone ahead to marry her. I accept my mistake. But am I going to stay in a sexless marriage all because of my mistake? I have taken responsibility, given her everything and I am even ready to pay her for life. The mere sight of her kills my erection.


Mega4billion hv said u should go and pack vitamins D and zink.....


Dey swallow one every morning u go see say ur chairman go dey salute anytin wey wear skirt pass including ur wife......


Hurry up bfr all dos guys wey dey up go buy am finish......


Las Las u sef see say condom dey importanter...
Re: . by Nobody: 7:56pm On Dec 27, 2020
MISSCONGENIALITY:
Don't mind the dickhead. Disgracing men up and down and making women see men as dickheads. He got erect and bleeped her hard enough to deposit a seed inside her even before they got married and now that they've given her to him as whole sale, to Bleep till death do them part, he suddenly can't get and erection.
my guy see Toto finish na him prick weak like dodo grin grin grin

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Re: . by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 8:03pm On Dec 27, 2020
positivevibez:
my guy see Toto finish na him prick weak like dodo grin grin grin
He must marry her by fire by force
Re: . by scottyoloye(m): 8:07pm On Dec 27, 2020
Na thunder go fire you if you break that girl’s heart.
Does she make you happy in most areas apart from sex? If yes, stick with her. Trust me, the sex drive will come back naturally if you begin to make yourself see how wonderful she is.
It’s difficult to find a good girl these days, trust me.

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Re: . by Biglugard(m): 8:18pm On Dec 27, 2020
drexx:
I am a 29 year old man. I got married January this year. My wife is 25 years old. We have a pretty 8 months old daughter

The issues is that I never discovered my sexuality. We dated for about 9 months and she got pregnant. I just decided to marry her. As time went on, I discovered that my fetish is on slightly tall ladies with considerable thickness.
.
My wife is petite. We no longer have sex as I find it very hard to muster an erection with her. But I effortlessly get erection with other women. Short and simple she is not my spec. I know I should have fixed this before marriage. Trust me I just thought every woman is a woman. It's about now I just discovered the physical features that rock me.

I want a separation. The marriage is sexless



I understand how you feel bro.. you allow ur penis control u and den got a petite pregnant..now who wan come marry am 4 u after u don scatter the pussy ... you're a compound fool

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Re: . by scottyoloye(m): 8:26pm On Dec 27, 2020
Eleribu
Re: . by silibaba: 8:37pm On Dec 27, 2020
drexx:
I am a 29 year old man. I got married January this year. My wife is 25 years old. We have a pretty 8 months old daughter

The issues is that I never discovered my sexuality. We dated for about 9 months and she got pregnant. I just decided to marry her. As time went on, I discovered that my fetish is on slightly tall ladies with considerable thickness.
.
My wife is petite. We no longer have sex as I find it very hard to muster an erection with her. But I effortlessly get erection with other women. Short and simple she is not my spec. I know I should have fixed this before marriage. Trust me I just thought every woman is a woman. It's about now I just discovered the physical features that rock me.

I want a separation. The marriage is sexless

Give me her number.

Then submit all marriage documents for transfer of ownership. I will pay back the bride price.

Thanks

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Re: . by Smony: 8:40pm On Dec 27, 2020
Just try and create a little distance. May be u should travel fr a while.

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Re: . by fati2001(m): 8:41pm On Dec 27, 2020
drexx:
I am a 29 year old man. I got married January this year. My wife is 25 years old. We have a pretty 8 months old daughter

The issues is that I never discovered my sexuality. We dated for about 9 months and she got pregnant. I just decided to marry her. As time went on, I discovered that my fetish is on slightly tall ladies with considerable thickness.
.
My wife is petite. We no longer have sex as I find it very hard to muster an erection with her. But I effortlessly get erection with other women. Short and simple she is not my spec. I know I should have fixed this before marriage. Trust me I just thought every woman is a woman. It's about now I just discovered the physical features that rock me.

I want a separation. The marriage is sexless

CHEAP JOKE! NEXT PLEASE!

Re: . by Angelacruz: 8:45pm On Dec 27, 2020
Blessing time
ojun50:
Offering time........?
Re: . by ojun50(m): 8:52pm On Dec 27, 2020
Angelacruz:
Blessing time

This is the last Sunday of the month
Package good offering oh
Re: . by Nobody: 8:59pm On Dec 27, 2020
Sex is mostly hormonal but fundamentally emotional - you need to fix your emotions and let the konji do its work
Re: . by gregyboy(m): 9:18pm On Dec 27, 2020
hashtagged:
Divorce and marry another wife, why stay in a marriage you don't like, marriages were meant for happiness.
The mistake you made was marrying her, so if she get Belle only the child is your responsibility not her.
Tell her you want to marry another wife and you don't find her attractive or if she would allow you have a side chick that you can bring home for constant fvcking


. No useless evening newspaper should quote me


Who do you guy
Re: . by gregyboy(m): 9:21pm On Dec 27, 2020
SimpDetector:
You are not alone. Many men have lost attraction for their wives but they are still enduring the marriage. The ones that cannot endure go on to cheat.

This is why I'm not a fan of marriage. It puts people in uncomfortable situations in the long run, especially men. As a man you aren't naturally designed to be monogamous. Don't mind what any of these man made institutions tell you about marriage, it's all bullshit.

OP you fuçked up by getting this girl pregnant in the first place. Always use protection when fuçking these bitches. You took your fuçk up to the next level by marrying her. Now you are stuck. My advice is that you should file for a divorce and rid yourself of this problem. You'll gain your freedom back and life will be better for you. As a man your needs should come first. It's not your fault that she isn't attractive enough for you. And it will be unfair to her to keep pretending that you are attracted to her. There are lots of men that will find her attractive, let her go and meet them. Marriage no be by force.

My only issue is your child. Most kids from divorced homes don't usually turn out right, but with proper individual parenting from each of you despite not being together, the kid could turn out right.




Can you imagine someone giving your father this advice against your mother

Ha, chaii you nor get brain

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Re: . by Heloct(f): 9:22pm On Dec 27, 2020
Lol. You should have impregnated your spec in the first place.


She's not troubling you so just find a way to bring back the spark that got you in bed with her.

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Re: . by ukaface(f): 9:25pm On Dec 27, 2020
And prick People will be shouting ' vagina people' upandan.

Just negodu

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Re: . by MEGA4BILLION(m): 9:27pm On Dec 27, 2020
Rayfield:
Please what is the exact work of Vitamin D and Zinc?
I answered this already. No go give person daughter belle o
Re: . by Angelacruz: 9:35pm On Dec 27, 2020
ojun50:

This is the last Sunday of the month Package good offering oh
I will
Re: . by Skengman: 9:36pm On Dec 27, 2020
Biglugard:




I understand how you feel bro.. you allow ur penis control u and den got a petite pregnant..now who wan come marry am 4 u after u don scatter the pussy ... you're a compound fool
cheesy cheesy
Re: . by generationz(f): 10:35pm On Dec 27, 2020
Saintmary:


There is a charm that works exactly the way you are feeling. I suspect that one of your sidechicks is using it on you.

I only pity your wife. She married a public property.

Lol, he's just not serious. How can you impregnate a totally different women then say you like the opposite body type? What sort of confusion is that?

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Re: . by generationz(f): 10:40pm On Dec 27, 2020
sotall:

Damn! Seriously?

Marriage isnt only about sex. You really need to be delivered from this sex thing. No woman is perfect.

Even the one u wish you have now will definitely have one or two things that turns u off.

Is it only sex that makes you happy? Is it only sex you need from her?

What about companionship? What about shared goals?

Sometimes I wonder how these men will feel if they got into an accident and couldn't function sexually for a year. There will be no question about their wife's fidelity.

Well, men cheat, women cheat. Sometimes I wish there was no internet to reveal how shallow people really are. cry
Re: . by Queenslander(f): 11:12pm On Dec 27, 2020
Zzor:
It has finished with Nigerian men
lmao grin cheesy

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Re: . by Heineken(m): 11:33pm On Dec 27, 2020
DelilahMakinde:


Personalities differ... Besides once we Nigerian women are in our husbands house....why stress ourselves again... ? tongue
lol see you. It's not bad to look nice and fit for one's hubby na.
Re: . by Patriarchy001(m): 11:34pm On Dec 27, 2020
Bola146:
grin Men.....grin grin You want separation Age is just a number, maturity is the key in a good relationship. You sounded like you are not matured seriously. Why not look for the solution? Sit your wife down and look for way forward! Or are you a gigolo ni undecided you are attracted to every hoe you see sad

Kindly seek for help, above all go on your knees and cry to Almighty God for help.

What has maturity got to do with anything? Someone's priicck refuses to rise for his wife, you're talking maturity. Na maturity him go use take fuckkk? angry

Listen OP, once attraction is lost, there's little to nothing you can do about it.
It's either you:
- Resign to a sexless marriage for life of which both of you will be miserable and may end up cheating.
- Take a second wife (if your religion permits it).
- Get a divorce and move on with your life. She's also still young and can find someone else she's more compatible with.

I pray you make a wise decision.

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Re: . by Heineken(m): 11:35pm On Dec 27, 2020
Smony:
Just try and create a little distance. May be u should travel fr a while.
boss op no suppose travel anything. He go love her by force. That hyn talk no just make sense at all...

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Re: . by cooooooks(m): 1:19am On Dec 28, 2020
If it only erection, my friend go and buy blue chew.

This lack of erection could be negatively affecting your wife.

drexx:
I am a 29 year old man. I got married January this year. My wife is 25 years old. We have a pretty 8 months old daughter

The issues is that I never discovered my sexuality. We dated for about 9 months and she got pregnant. I just decided to marry her. As time went on, I discovered that my fetish is on slightly tall ladies with considerable thickness.
.
My wife is petite. We no longer have sex as I find it very hard to muster an erection with her. But I effortlessly get erection with other women. Short and simple she is not my spec. I know I should have fixed this before marriage. Trust me I just thought every woman is a woman. It's about now I just discovered the physical features that rock me.

I want a separation. The marriage is sexless

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